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- ***It’s Time for Romance! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Emma ViglucciI think romance is underrated… I hear couples express they want romance and to be romanced, but they state it with a sense of shame, wishful thinking and as an unattainable outcome. They off-handedly claim their wish in the same sentence that dismisses it with the practicality of everyday life. ...
Views: 1062 - ***It’s Time for Passion! - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIn my recent reading I have come across a piece of writing that has made me think of sexuality and physical intimacy from a different angle. I love when that happens! Give me material that sparks my creative juices and that I can integrate into my work for greater impact, and I’m a very happy ...
Views: 1047 - Loving a Borderline - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerCaring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. Being a borderline (having BPD) is no picnic, either. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time on the border between reality and ...
Views: 1682 - What is Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerWhen shame becomes toxic, it can ruin our lives. Everyone experiences shame at one time another. It’s an emotion with physical symptoms like any other that comes and goes, but when it's severe, it can be extremely painful. Strong feelings of shame stimulate the sympathetic nervous system, ...
Views: 1806 - ***Detoxing for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Emma ViglucciThere is more to us than meets the eyes… We have an internal world operating at all times that we are vaguely aware of. Some people are totally out of touch with theirs… The more we become acquainted with our own Self and all it’s aspects, needs and desires the more we can be our Authentic Self ...
Views: 1144 - Ten Guidelines for Establishing Healthy Trust - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2015 from Telka Arend-RitterTen Guidelines for Establishing Healthy Trust “How do I know if someone is trustworthy?” “How can I become trustworthy?” “How can I ever trust again?” Healthy trust is hard work. Betrayal, neglect, abuse, addiction and abandonment damage healthy trust but it’s never too late to learn how ...
Views: 4340(2 votes) - ***Choose Intentions Over Resolutions… - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWe are what we think. We create what we think. What we resist persists. What we focus on expands. We are super powerful creating creatures… Our mind is a honing device for creating, a GPS for getting places… We create what we think whether intentionally or not. Left to its own untrained ...
Views: 1046 - The Situational Codependent: Codependence as Reaction to Life Crises - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Some patients develop codependent behaviors and traits in the wake of a life crisis, especially if it involves an abandonment and resulting solitude (e.g. divorce, or an empty nest: when one’s children embark on their own, ...
Views: 2893 - Deserving - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaOne of the most difficult layers for us to resolve is the one related to self-love. What is self-love? It is the ability to view who you are with unconditional compassion and acceptance. I’ve mentioned this before, and it is worth mentioning this again: anytime we are trying to “fix” something ...
Views: 1426 - The Goody Good Girl Syndrome - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellWomen of certain generations were brought up to please, aid, assist, and make life easier for everyone. They were trained to be the most excellent of handmaidens and helpmates. It was their raison d’être. They were not to stand out, stand above, or be noticed. They were to be the silent and ...
Views: 2476 - Symptoms of a Codependent: Here Are the Traits - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Mary DeYonI thought if I played by the rules and did everything the way THEY said I should like a good little Catholic girl, I’d feel safe. I’d grow up, get married and have lots of kids like my Mom and live happily ever after. Why would I even think that since Mom wasn’t living happily ever ...
Views: 1678 - Detachment for the Codependent is the Key to a Happiness! - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Mary DeYonThe idea of detachment mesmerized me when I heard about it in Al-Anon. To let go of the ones you love seemed unloving and uncaring and certainly not Christian. But it also seemed to be the NIRVANA you could reach even while living with an alcoholic. I detached from my alcoholic father by ...
Views: 1836 - Dealing with An Alcoholic? It's Time to Live Intuitively. - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Mary DeYonCould it be that all of our problems stem from not listening to God? If prayer is talking to God and intuition is God talking to us, maybe we need to listen more. When I was in the midst of my crazy life with alcoholics from my father to my husbands, I felt abandoned by God because I prayed and ...
Views: 1199 - Are You Chained to The Desk? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Joy ChudacoffAs I write this, I'm 690 miles from my office in Los Angeles. Actually, I'm in Park City, Utah enjoying a glass of Pinot and writing to you. I'm here on a family vacation getting some much needed rest and a modified digital detox. One of the benefits I've experienced since leaving the office ...
Views: 1270(1 vote) - Say No To The Weight Of Your Past! - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown" Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let's take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own ...
Views: 1233(1 vote) - Are You Divergent? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Joy ChudacoffWithin the last week, I've had the opportunity to see the movie "Divergent" not once but twice due to the fact that the movie (and book) is all the rage with girls and my daughter is no exception. It's your typical good versus evil plot but the twist is a young woman named "Tris" who's ...
Views: 1356(2 votes) - Strong Minds Accept No Graciously - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do." Tim Ferriss How did we become a society that cannot hear the word No? Why are we so sensitive to being told No? There is yes and there is No, there is night and day, dark and light, yin and yang, and on and on. So to be balanced ...
Views: 1385(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1704(1 vote) - ***Is Your Partner Your Life Partner? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Emma ViglucciHonor your Self. What does that mean? In my book, it means getting in touch with our Core, True, Authentic Self, our Soul, and operating from it in all we do. This means being in connection with our Self, knowing our Self. Most of the time we are in a fog and cacophony of daily minutiae, ...
Views: 1832 - Financial or Emotional Crisis? Get Security Today! - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMoney. Money is a hot topic in many relationships as there are intense emotions attached to money as well as a range of meaning around it. Partners have different ideas about the importance of money, what it means to them, its purpose, its role, how to manage it, and even how to earn it! Couples ...
Views: 1761 - ***From Desperate Anger to Blooming Passion - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThe season of renewal is finally here and with it comes an invitation to awaken to life. Note the blue skies, the sun shining, birds chirping, flowers blooming. What an enchanting time to be alive. The possibilities are countless. As we are coming out of hibernation, it is time to look around ...
Views: 1905 - Dependent: Why Are Some People Dependent? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about what it means to be an adult, being independent is never too far away. Here, one will be empowered to live their own life and to support themselves. So whereas a child is dependent on their caregivers to survive, an adult is not dependent on anyone in particular. And so ...
Views: 2157 - DRAMA - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends and it will get you the right ones.” We all have been there! Maybe you had a friend or you know someone now who is in a big DRAMA! The situation keeps getting worse and you can’t believe the stories… affairs, lying, addictions, bills not paid, ...
Views: 1466(1 vote) - The Trap of Perfectionism - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2014 from Darlene LancerPerfectionism is an addiction, meaning we’re repeatedly unable to stop our perfectionist behaviors. Like other addictions, perfectionism varies in severity and can have negative consequences. It harms our self-esteem, make us unable to accept other people’s differences and their mistakes and ...
Views: 1779 - It Should be All Fun & Games! - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2014 from Emma ViglucciFun is important in our relationship. Having fun releases different chemicals in the brain that engender good feelings which get then associated with our partner. This is a good thing. Having fun with our partner should be a priority in our relationship. We can get huge returns on this ...
Views: 1708 - How Much Do You Get Your Partner? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThe majority of the couples that want to improve their relationship identify that communication is an issue for them. They share how they can’t see eye-to-eye, convey their feelings and perspective, or understand each other. They report they end up fighting every time they try to address ...
Views: 1695(2 votes) - Fun and Pleasure… - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThere is a tendency towards passiveness in our relationship as time passes. Couples get comfortable in their routine, whether it is an efficient and satisfying routine or not, and lax in their relating, whether they are on the same page or not. They settle into whatever relating they have ...
Views: 1695 - Say No to Waffling!!! - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs Are you beginning to see where we need our tools, ability to say No, ability to make requests, ability to speak our truth in order be a good leader, and in order to be able ...
Views: 1294(2 votes) - ***Do You Know How to “Clean” Your Energy? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciShare Good Vibes With Your Partner We are energy. We look like solid entities in our human form only because of our limited human faculties. We are energetic beings with vibrational frequencies. Imagine us as energy waves, reaching further than apparent by the illusion of our human ...
Views: 1207 - Rituals – A Fantastic Couple Success Tool! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThere is no better way to create wonderful memories and meaning in one’s relationship than with rituals. Rituals are a special way to show love, appreciation and importance for the partners throughout time in the life of the relationship. Relationships are made up of interactions between two ...
Views: 1515 - Restructuring: Are You In Your Partner’s Circle…? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCouple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent ...
Views: 1741(2 votes) - Follow the Path to Passion and Synergy - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOne characteristic satisfied and successful couples have in common is that they are part of each other’s lives. Duh-ah! I’m sure this does not come as a surprise. The trick though is how the partners are part of each other’s lives. Partners have difficulties negotiating what this means to ...
Views: 1632 - How Badly Do You Want An Awesome Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBe Awesome With Your Partner! How badly do you want to have an awesome relationship with your partner?How committed are you to making the relationship work? Is failure an option? Do you have one foot out the door? I hear partners complain about how they want things to be different, but they ...
Views: 1157 - If You Can See It, You Can Create It… - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciYou might not have a chance if you keep this up: A tendency to look for weaknesses, gaps, holes, things to improve, deficiencies and the like, and miss the boat on capitalizing on strengths in your relationship. We bring this tendency to how we view our partner and how we relate with them. We ...
Views: 1621 - Connecting is Vital for Tapping Into Your Synergy - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOne would think that connecting with our partner is an easy feat. After all they are the one person we are supposed to be the most intimate with. This is most often not the case and we are actually not that intimate. I find that couples have a very difficult time connecting, feeling connected ...
Views: 1542 - Family Codependency part 3 - five more steps a couple can take to support rather than resuce each other - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondDespite the relief that Craig felt when his wife Sophie did his bookkeeping for his landscape business he was frequently choked with shame. The conflict made him snappy and uninterested in spending leisure time with her. He dreaded going to bed at night because he didn’t want to face his ...
Views: 1565 - Family co-dependency: the difference between supporting and rescuing a loved one - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondTrudy a twenty-nine year old local newspaper reporter and Max a thirty-three year old limousine company owner had endless fights about who was doing the lion’s share of parenting their two children. They argued about what to do, how to do it, when to do it and who should take the blame when ...
Views: 2803 - Family Co-dependence Stifles growth and development - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondDriving home from his last landscape design consult, thirty-three year old Craig’s stomach was in knots wondering if Sophie would have gotten over the row she had with her mother the other day. He felt bad for his wife who had tried and failed to arrange a family dinner, taking out her ...
Views: 1685 - Your Relationship is the Key to Your Success!! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOur relationship is one of the biggest, most powerful asset and gift we have in our life! It is a true treasure chest worth a fortune. It can deliver unimaginable heights of satisfaction, peace, joy, love, happiness and success!! To cash-in on this fortune we have to polish the gems on the ...
Views: 1667(2 votes) - Do You Support Each Other? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWe all have dreams, wishes and goals. There are things we want for ourselves, our partner, our family. Sometimes though we find that it is difficult, if not impossible, to make our wish a reality. We may want to start a new business, go back to school, learn a new trade, pick up a new hobby ...
Views: 1800 - ***Are You Tapping Into Your Partnership Synergy? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPeople usually marry for love. A new phenomenon, only a couple of centuries old, in the history of the institution of marriage and in this culture. I say “usually” because sometimes people just get married because that is the thing to do, again speaking from today’s and ...
Views: 1091 - Do You Have Dirty Thoughts About Your Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen was the last time you were physically intimate with your partner? If you say a long time, you are not alone! A lot of couples share their sexual life is in the toilet. They struggle getting along, among other things, to the point that being physically intimate is the furthest thing from ...
Views: 1745 - Regain Your Inner Core By Working On Core Issues - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Moreen DuFermontRegain Your Inner Core By Working On Core Issues The concept of family goes back to the beginning of time. It’s the traditional social system that shapes our inter-personal dynamics and provides the working model for the story we create about ourselves. Of course, we’ve all been children at ...
Views: 1427 - ***Are You Conniving in Your Relating? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPartners love telling each other what to do, how to behave, how to be, what to think, how to feel, and even things like what to eat and how to dress! They are on a mission to change their partner, consciously or not. This is a sign of lack of boundaries and personal ...
Views: 1249 - ***Do You Have the System to Meet Both of Your Needs Yet? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBeing seen and accepted for who we are is a basic need that specially plays out in our relationship. I find that the driver behind most conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships has to do with the partners feeling they can’t be themselves in one way or another. Partners ...
Views: 1122(1 vote) - FOR VALENTINE’S DAY: The Gift of Self Exploration & Expression - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOften times partners share their wondering about how exclusivity, monogamy, and fidelity is possible in a longterm relationship. It is usually the male partners who pose this question when their female counterpart is not present. I appreciate their honesty, risk and willingness to explore ...
Views: 1601(2 votes) - Evolving Through Healthy Detachment - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2014 from Moreen DuFermontEvolving Through Healthy Detachment Many Buddhist practitioners claim that the chief cause of suffering stems from any form of attachment; therefore, the converse would also be true, that to experience a sense of peace and well- being would emerge from a process of healthy detachment and ...
Views: 1289 - ***The Secret to Increasing Attraction and Loving… - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are “too close”, whether we are getting along or not … , we can’t see each other. If we can’t see each other, how can we possibly decide if we like each other and feel attraction? This concept is confusing to most, when we live in a society where relationships ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - ***Would You Like to Experience Greater Desire and Passion? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCouples usually end up accepting the lack of desire and passion in their relationship as a fact of life for a longterm relationship. They are not happy or satisfied with this, but their attempts at remedying their lack of (passionate) physical intimacy don’t usually succeed. The reason ...
Views: 1065 - ***What Gets You Super Excited … - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOften times couples get so hang up in the business of running their life, attending to their family and other responsibilities, and working that being together, enjoying each other and having fun falls to the way side. This creates a terrible state of affairs where after a while couples forget ...
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