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- When You Decide To Be Codependent No More, You Won't Want Emotionally Unhealthy People In Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2007 from Diane England,Could your codependency or another emotional issue be the reason you want someone back who left you? When you are codependent, you are typically looking outside yourself for definition or a sense of self. It might be through material things or the roles you play in life, for example. You might ...
Views: 23196(5 votes) - Codependent No More-So You're Not Covering Up for Your Alcoholic Spouse this Holiday Season, Isn't that Right? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2007 from Diane England,How does having an alcoholic spouse affect your holiday season? Is this a time of year you dread because you have to attend parties with a partner whom you fear will get drunk and then behave badly? In fact, do you turn down invitations when you’d prefer to be socializing and celebrating ...
Views: 3338 - Have A Pleasant Family Holiday Season In Spite Of Your Narcissistic Husband's Behavior - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2007 from Diane England,Are you dreading the holiday season, believing you can not have a pleasant family holiday, because your narcissistic husband has a way of making you feel nothing you have done is good enough? Or, perhaps he despises this time of year and wants you and the kids to join him in his misery? Well, I ...
Views: 5198 - Is Codependency Turning You Into Someone You Never Intended To Become? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2007 from Diane England,Who is the author most identified with the concept of codependency and the codependent? I suspect it is Melody Beattie. She herself was a recovering alcoholic and drug addict when, while working in a treatment facility in Minnesota, she was asked to hold groups for spouses of their alcoholic and ...
Views: 5817 - Establishing Boundaries - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2007 from Lori KlauserCodependents sometimes seem almost misplaced. You seem to have a hard time relating to whom you truly are and for that reason you have a hard time setting boundaries. You have a hard time saying no to people and you let people cross the line of what should be your boundaries and hurt you. You ...
Views: 3766 - How loved one can help in a Medical Crisis… - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2007 from Steve HefferonWhat you are about to read is directed to those who suffer from back pain and those who love them. Much of what I'm going to tell you can be useful in all aspects of your life and for any difficult situation you may face. When dealing with serious back pain, you have to realize that your ...
Views: 1269 - Don't Block the Flow - by It is a child-like state that results in having one’s self-worth dependent on external validation. It’s about living from the outside in, molding oneself to fit around others’ lives instead of directing the course of one’s life from internal clues, hopes, dreams, wisdom, and power. . . The ...
Views: 1344 - Hot and Cold Love Addicts: A Lethal Combination - by A lot has been written about love addiction and yet it is still a misunderstood disorder. For instance, many people believe that love addicts only run hot —passionately pursue someone who is unavailable like in the movie Fatal Attraction. However, many love addicts also run cold ? appear aloof ...
Views: 25325(3 votes) - SUPER WOMAN - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert NajemyKaterina is very conscientious, a hard worker and reliable in all cases. At work and at home, she can be depended on to get things done. She often stays overtime, usually alone at the office, in order to get her work done. When she gets home, she immediately immerses herself in cooking, ...
Views: 1479 - Life After Betrayal: A Practical Guide - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2007 from Lynda BevanSTEP 1 BETRAYAL Betrayal comes in different guises. Different types of betrayal: • When a partner deceives you • When people lie to you • When someone cheats and robs you • When people gossip behind your back • When children trust their parents not to hurt them • When you are let down by ...
Views: 10100 - Do You Need Others' Approval? - by Submitted on May 23, 2007 from Margaret Paul"At work, every time I have to speak at meetings, I get so stressed." "I’m taking a class and I'm always afraid to raise my hand and ask a question." "I'm fine one to one, but as soon as I get into a group, I'm so tense I can hardly stand it." "I'm totally relaxed with my women friends, but ...
Views: 4229(1 vote) - Energy Vampires - by Submitted on May 22, 2007 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes wonder why you feel so drained after being with some people, while you feel energized when being with others? Some people are energy vampires, and actually drain energy from you. How do they do this? What can you do to avoid this? WAYS PEOPLE DRAIN ENERGY Sometimes the ways ...
Views: 7778(2 votes) - 10 Steps to Detect and Stop Secret Self-Sabotage - by It's a little known - yet much denied fact - that people treat you the way you secretly ask to be treated. Your unspoken request that determines how others behave toward you is extended to -and received by - everyone you meet.
What is your invisible inner life? It's the way you actually feel - ...
Views: 3747(1 vote) - 4 Signs of Spiritually Sick People (and how to keep them from infecting you!) - by Those with whom we assemble we will soon resemble, so the simple old saying goes. Yet it tells of a deep Truth. It says that who we are the stuff of our soul at present is being transformed continuously by the nature of the company we keep; so that, in (our) essence we are always moving and ...
Views: 11337(1 vote) - How to Stop Being a Captive of Your Own Unawakened Consciousness - by Whenever you discuss matters of a spiritual nature with people you will invariably run into two distinct groups. There are those who claim to know the Truth, but who express their great certainty by attacking anyone who doesn’t see God as they do. And then there is the other group that comprises ...
Views: 1690 - Increasing Awareness - by The ability to shift consciousness has numerous benefits and can be taught. Our learning is integrated when we can shift our own consciousness. We achieve a level of self mastery ?recovery of our own attention. These are the tools taught on the avatar course. Some students integrate the tools ...
Views: 7504 - THANKFULLY CODEPENDENT - by My unofficial definition of the term codependent is an individual who is affected by the actions of others. How do I know if I’m participating in codependent behavior? I start by examining my discomfort. Where does it come from? Is my discomfort caused by the action of another? When I can put my ...
Views: 3376 - Are You Love Addicted? - by Submitted on May 01, 2007 from Margaret PaulImagine that you have a little child - a son or daughter, but that you are only 15 years old. How are you going to feel about this child? There is a good possibility that you will feel that this child is a burden, limiting your freedom. You will likely feel that the child is too demanding, ...
Views: 3358(1 vote) - T'ai Chi Ch'uan - Relaxation is the Key! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Harvey Kurland MSc, MFS, CSCST’ai-chi ch’uan, also spelled taijiquan and tai chi chuan, is a martial art that many people practice for promoting good health, balance and for stress reduction. The interest in it as a martial art has resurrected in recent years, as has t’ai-chi competition. Some ...
Views: 2571(2 votes) - Nurturing Self in the New Age - by “By the way, the hardest part of unconditional Love is accepting wherever we are at in the moment no matter how uncomfortable. The hardest part of acceptance is not the difficulty of allowing others their process (although Lord knows that can be very hard); it is allowing ourselves our own ...
Views: 1271 - A List of the Top 20 do's & Don'ts of a functional relationship - by HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE
1. Who you think you are is important. Like attracts like. Think about it. Do you like who you are?
2. What you want in a relationship is important, and when you are willing to ask for it, you will be able to create it. But only ask for what you want ...
Views: 1464(1 vote) - Addiction to Venting - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2007 from Margaret Paul"I was up too late with my friend Peg last night," Abigail told me in our phone session. "She was needing to vent. Then I had a problem falling asleep, but at least I was there for her." "How often does this happen?" I asked her. "Oh, fairly often. At least every couple of weeks." "Why do you ...
Views: 3635(1 vote) - Selfishness is a Virtue? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2007 from Doug SawinWhen I was young, they told me that being selfish was bad. They said that I should think of others first. I didn’t understand. What did they mean and why did they say that? I felt the terrible burn of shame when they said I was being selfish and self-centered. I couldn’t figure out what I had ...
Views: 5210 - Put an End to Emotional Terrorism in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2006 from Ineke Van LintFirst let me explain what I mean by “emotional terrorism.” When you have a relationship, at home or at work, with a person who’s constantly humiliating you, harassing you, pressuring on you, taking pleasure in your pain, saying negative things about you or making you feel worthless, then you ...
Views: 11113(1 vote) - Finding True Love Through Intimacy - by Submitted on May 30, 2006 from Daniel LinderA lot of people have been asking about true love; is there such a thing; if so, what is it? Is it attainable; if so, how attainable is it? If it were just love, I wouldn’t have so much difficulty. But, true love? Talking about true love is risky business. I can imagine taking a poll, going ...
Views: 2284(1 vote) - It's Never Too Late to Begin Life Anew - by Submitted on May 13, 2005 from Mary-Glen ScotIT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN LIFE ANEW by Mary-Glen Scot. (Unpublished as of 4-13-05) 1496 words) Perhaps you may have recently suffered the tragedy of a sudden death of a loved one or you may have lost your home and all of your material possessions. Possibly even a combination of ...
Views: 1436 - My First Signs of Codependence - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2005 from Kay KopitThe pink slip read, “Kay, come to the principal’s office.” I was sixteen, a senior in high school and had never before been asked to see Mr. Ober. With the glass doors straight ahead, I was visibly shaking as I walked down the rambling corridor. When I entered the room three faces were ...
Views: 2107(1 vote) - Top 10: How to Use The 12 Steps for Management Conflict and Resolution - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2004 from Elizabeth TullOne of the reasons for the success of the 12 Step programs is that they are based on solid principles that can be applied to many areas of life, and that includes business. A successful company takes stock regularly and turns liabilities into assets. Here are some guidelines for applying ...
Views: 2100(1 vote) - Finding the Power Greater Than Ourselves - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2004 from L.G. Parkhurst, Jr.Thoughts for Growing through Prayer Steps to Serenity Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. — The Second Step “But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds.” declares the LORD, “because you are called an outcast.” — Jeremiah 30:17 In the ...
Views: 6441 - The Art of Visualization - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2004 from Kay KopitWhat is it in one’s spirit that enables them to break the cycle of a dysfunctional pattern of living and choose to live a healthy life? Recently I was asked that question by a gentleman in my community. Each time I visited his vitamin store he insisted I talk about my healing. “What is it ...
Views: 4642 - What does Forgiveness mean - by Submitted on May 16, 2004 from Bob GrantYears ago I sat in a supervision group with a group of collages in which we discussed various cases. We were all new at this counseling thing, and frequently brought our “worst” cases to the group for any sort of help we could get. One particular day someone brought up a couple they were ...
Views: 7782 - What does Forgiveness mean - by Submitted on May 16, 2004 from Bob GrantYears ago I sat in a supervision group with a group of collages in which we discussed various cases. We were all new at this counseling thing, and frequently brought our “worst” cases to the group for any sort of help we could get. One particular day someone brought up a couple they were ...
Views: 1690 - That Christmas Letter - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2003 from Michael RawlsThis is the time of year that we may get That Christmas Letter from someone who is so successful or seemingly perfect that you think they must have reached celebrity status by now. Do they ever tire of telling you how perfect their life is, how their absolutely perfect children are excelling in ...
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