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- Codependent or Loving? Part I - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownHow do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? This is an excellent question and often confusing for many for different reasons. Let’s look at the definitions of codependent and loving and see what we find. Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we ...
Views: 741 - Codependent or Loving? Part II - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownRemember our question from Part One: How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? Also, let’s review our definitions of “codependent” and “loving”: Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some more distinctions of ...
Views: 687 - Guidelines for Determining Toxic Relationships! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownShould I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can ...
Views: 989 - Codependency And #MeToo — A Brief History Of Abuse! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownOur History When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This ...
Views: 930 - Codependency And #MeToo — A New Way Forward! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownRecap So, to recap Part One, we discussed our history as women as it relates to our relationship with men and how up until the middle to late 20th century we didn’t have laws to protect us from abuses. Women, along with children, were the property of men. Men could abuse us with no ...
Views: 955 - How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game! - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownRemember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes time in pain and sorrow. ...
Views: 684(1 vote) - Who Is A Sociopath? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownWho is a Sociopath? "Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy, AND unfortunately, individuals diagnosed with an anti-social personality disorder." — Dr. Anne Brown What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, then you ...
Views: 713(1 vote) - The “Craziness” of People Pleasing and How Did We Get Here? - by Dr. Anne Brown - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownWhat is this phenomenon “I need to make everyone in the world like me or people-pleasing?” This is a tough concept because in one-way people-pleasers are nice to be around. If we look deeper we have to ask at what cost? People pleasing can affect both men and women. The history of women, ...
Views: 819 - NO is a Complete Sentence! - by Dr. Anne Brown - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2020 from Dr. Anne Brownwe introduced the importance of being able to say No. For the purpose of our discussion this week we are talking about people with equal status in the relationship. This does not include parent-child, teacher-student, or employer-employee. These relationships have different guidelines for ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - Etiquette For Divorced Parents Attending Their Child’s Events! - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownA child’s letter to his divorced parents. Dear Mom and Dad, The operative word here Mom and Dad is My events. You are a guest here and I ask you to act accordingly. My events include but are not limited to: 1. My teacher’s conferences. 2. My athletic events. 3. My musical recitals. 4. ...
Views: 718 - How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game! - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownRemember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes time in pain and sorrow. ...
Views: 861 - Who Is A Sociopath? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownWho is a Sociopath? Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy, AND unfortunately, individuals diagnosed with an anti-social personality disorder. Dr. Anne Brown What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, then you are going ...
Views: 711 - Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownBackbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignity If you grew up in a family with lots of dysfunction e.g. alcohol, anger, illness physical or mental, Borderline/narcissistic (it is all about me), or any other phenomena other than adult people being normal loving parents to their children you may ...
Views: 813 - 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne Brown1. Physical Abuse In theory, in this country, no one can touch you as adults in any way (physically or sexually) without your permission. At the horrendous end of the spectrum of physical abuse are the stories we hear about the beating, burning, rape, mutilation, sex slaves, etc. and at the ...
Views: 1100 - 2020 WNAAD Survivor Empowerment Telesummit Free Event - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownTake Your Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse To The Next Level! From the safety of your home learn trauma-transforming steps to not only empower you but also make notable reductions in the vast array of trauma symptoms. What would it be like to have an action-oriented roadmap for recovery ...
Views: 752 - Backbone Power The Science of Saying No Books on Integrity |Books on Making Decisions |Books on decision making |Books on Co-Dependency - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownA No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term, and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes? Ask ...
Views: 1038(1 vote) - The Tools for Having Holidays that Nourishes Your Soul - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownIn Part One: https://www.recovery.org/pro/articles/challenges-to-having-a-holiday-in-recovery, we discussed many breakdowns reported to me by clients which can ruin the holidays. Now we will look at some tools to deal with those breakdowns. As I said in Part One having a strong mind is an ...
Views: 855(1 vote) - How To Have A Holiday that Nourishes Your Soul - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownThe Challenges to Having a Holiday in Recovery One of my twitter followers suggested I write about designing a holiday that nourishes our soul. Not a holiday designed to get others approve of us. These are simple powerful words. These words include everything I write and teach in order to ...
Views: 810(1 vote) - Honoring Our Veterans! - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownWe Are All One! We are living during a time where we have forgotten we are all one. We all have muscles, bones, organs, tissues, blood and we come in different colored packages. We also have different ideas. We have to find ways to connect through our similar beliefs and learn through our ...
Views: 922(1 vote) - A Voice For Our Veterans - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownA Voice For Our Veterans In honor of Veterans Day, we are going to begin to give a voice to our veterans in Part One. In Part Two we are going to offer insights on how we can be better friends, countrymen/women when our veterans return and actually when they are away as well. For the purpose ...
Views: 980(1 vote) - How To Heal From A Borderline Spouse - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownStay or Leave? When I wrote about healing from the Narcissist, I used the paradigm that the spouse had physically left the marriage. Today we are going to address physically staying or leaving but always with the goal of emotionally leaving the emotional abuse of the spouse with borderline ...
Views: 1247(1 vote) - My Spouse has Borderline Personality Disorder! by Anne Brown, Author Backbone Power - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownWhen your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BP), whether it’s a sudden realization or a long-known fact, it can be challenging. Those in relationships with BP individuals may be subject to unique forms of manipulation or toxicity. Recognizing these habits of the BP is the first step to ...
Views: 1333(1 vote) - How To Set Boundaries | Backbone Power - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownHow To Set Healthy Boundaries and Live Life with Authenticity | Get Backbone Power Audiobook by Dr. Anne Brown -a psychotherapist, speaker, author, coach. https://backbonepower.com/backbonepower-audiobook/ A No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and ...
Views: 1032(1 vote) - Codependency and Narcissists: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? (Part I) - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownFor this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of ...
Views: 1330(1 vote) - How to Heal from a Relationship with a Narcissist! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne Brown“Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself.” In our article about Leaving a Narcissist, I spoke about knowledge being your best weapon. Only with knowledge about what is happening, how it is happening, and how to counter ...
Views: 1517(2 votes) - Get 20% Off Backbone Power - A Self-Help Audiobook With Code JULY4 - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownBackbone Power, an easy to understand book, tackles the question of whether being a “people pleaser” is a virtue or a curse. Backbone Power takes the reader on a self-guided tour of their deepest thought processes to arrive at an understanding of the true “Self”. As they gain a better ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - Guest Author Interview – Dr. Anne Brown - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownTitle: Backbone Power: The Science of Saying No Genre: Co-dependency/Stress Management Synopsis: A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To ...
Views: 1102(1 vote) - How to Leave A Narcissist! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne Brown“Stop Asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.” ~Charles J. Orlando Today we are going to address leaving a narcissist emotionally and physically. Many people feel they cannot leave physically because of logistical concerns (e.g. money, no support system, ...
Views: 1225(1 vote) - Guidelines for Determining a Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownShould I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can ...
Views: 1409(2 votes) - Codependency and #MeToo: A New Way Forward - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownRecap So, to recap Part One, we discussed our history as women as it relates to our relationship with men and how up until the middle to late 20th century we didn’t have laws to protect us from abuses. Women, along with children, were property of men. Men could abuse us with no consequences. We ...
Views: 1293(1 vote) - Codependency and #MeToo: A Brief History of Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownOur History When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This ...
Views: 1271(1 vote) - Warriors say No With Dignity, NOT With Excuses! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 1065(1 vote) - Have The Backbone To Say NO! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 1071(2 votes) - Stop Your Obsession With Being Nice! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 958(2 votes) - All Of Us Need To Say YES to OURSELVES - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 982(1 vote) - Say NO To People Who Want To Sabotage Your Success! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our ...
Views: 947(1 vote) - Bullying and The Codependent Part IV: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownI assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not really gain traction until the 1970’s. These laws addressed physical and sexual abuse, not emotional abuse. Church and State enabled abuse and the paradigm that women and children were ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - Bullying and the Codependent Part III: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownEven though it is interesting to note that recent reports state female workplace bullying is on the increase, causing more people to say they would rather work for a man, we are going to stay focused on the female family serial bully. I believe bullies know they are bullying. I believe you ...
Views: 1481(1 vote) - Anne Brown: Backbone Power The Science of Saying No | Books on Integrity |Books on Making Decisions |Books on decision making |Books on Codependency. Kindle Edition - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownA No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask ...
Views: 1802(1 vote) - Backbone Power | Newsletter Sign Up - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownSUBSCRIBE TO GET THE LATEST BLOG POSTS, NEWS, & MORE UPDATES FROM DR. ANNE BROWN. http://backbonepower.com/newsletter-signup Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, RN of Sausalito, California, formerly from Aspen, Colorado in her private practice has served as the trusted advocate and advisor to Influential ...
Views: 1565(1 vote) - The Female Bully and the Codependent Part II: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIn Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part ...
Views: 1745(1 vote) - The Female Bully and the Codependent: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 09, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownPhysical/aggressive bullying is easy to identify. We can all see the broken bones, blood, and bruises. This type of bullying is most often chosen by men. As a therapist, it is usually pretty easy for me to ask certain questions to get the information that physical abuse is indeed happening. ...
Views: 1889(1 vote) - Narcissistic Abuse | Betrayal | Divorce | Codependency | People Pleasing | Authenticity | Backbone - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownHave you been a victim or do you know someone who's a victim of Narcissistic Abuse and Betrayal? Are you getting a Divorce? Do you want to learn more about Codependency and People Pleasing? Learn why havingAuthenticity and Backbone will help you. Be among the first to see my newest blog ...
Views: 1646(1 vote) - Healing From Betrayal - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownLet’s look at the definition of betrayal so we can understand why it hurts so much. Webster’s definition: To hurt (someone who trusts you, such as a friend or relative) by not giving help or by doing something morally wrong. “The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from ...
Views: 1853(1 vote) - Codependency - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownA No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask ...
Views: 1645(1 vote) - How Saying NO, Having a Backbone, and Being Your Authentic Self Can Help You Become Successful? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIs this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for? Backbone Power was written to help everyone from mothers, to college grads, to people that have ...
Views: 1844(1 vote) - What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Join Us For A *FREE LIVE* Telephone Interview | 8/16/2017 at 8PM CST - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownJoin Us For A Queen Adventures Signature Ladies Night ! Topic: A Date With Danger Are you single and dating? Do you think you could be in a relationship with a narcissist or married to one? Do you have a daughter or young woman in your life that you want to love and protect? If the ...
Views: 4087 - DivorceForce : Survival Guide - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownIf you have been affected by divorce or separation or are considering ending your marriage you're going to want to tune in to DivorceForce Survival Guide. In each episode, DivorceForce CEO Gregory Frank tackles various aspects of divorce through candid discussions with leading industry experts ...
Views: 1222(1 vote) - Surviving Your Divorce when the Courts are New to Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownPrepare to Fight When one person only wants to control and sabotage during the divorce, mediation is usually not an option and a waste of money. I have seen victims of emotional abuse in their marriage be victims of mediation because they are the only person bringing adult behavior to the ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - Preparing for Divorce in the Face of Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownThe History For years women and children have been considered to be property of men. There were laws enabling men to punish their wives physically. By the 1920’s all states had made “wife beating” illegal, however it has only been since the 1970’s the courts have treated it as a serious crime ...
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