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- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Intimacy If He Had A Controlling Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find is that even though he wants to have a relationship with a woman, he pulls away from a woman as soon as things get serious. Or, perhaps to be more accurate, this happens as soon as he starts to become emotionally attached to a woman. He could then think about all the ...
Views: 1 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have A Dysfunctional View Of Relationships If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone could be in a relationship that is anything but nourishing and life-affirming. What can be normal is for them to ignore their own needs and do what they can to please their partner. They can then typically go along with what they want and not speak up if they don’t agree ...
Views: 1 - Self-Rejection: Can A Man Reject Himself If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if were to step back and reflect on his life is that he is his own worst enemy. So, he could see that he often talks about doing things but seldom takes the next step. Moreover, he could see that he is full of doubt and has the tendency to put up with bad behaviour. As a ...
Views: 3 - Stay Well - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Rick Hanson[Note: This JOT is adapted from Mother Nurture, a book written for mothers - focusing on typical parenting situations and gender differences that are experienced by many, though not all, mothers and fathers, and by parents in same-sex relationships. Parenting is a complex subject, plus it ...
Views: 3 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Very Driven? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is practically always on the go and spends a lot of time working on different goals, they could believe that this is just what they are like. Therefore, they will have been born this way. Then again, they could also believe that this shows that they value themselves. If this is the ...
Views: 3 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Be Attracted To Abusive Men If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may find, if she were to reflect on her life is that she has been with a number of men who didn’t treat her very well. She might see that this area of her life has been this way for as long as she can remember. Thanks to this, she could come to the conclusion that this is just ...
Views: 3 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Be Attracted To Emotionally Unstable Women? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what might stand out is that he has been with a number of women who were not very stable. These women would then have often been all at sea emotionally. As a result, when he was with a woman like this, he would have probably spent a lot of ...
Views: 3 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give A Woman The Need To Be Worshipped? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, if a woman wants to be adored and elevated by men, it might not take much effort for her to achieve this goal. For example, she only needs to create a social media profile. By creating a profile or a number of them and uploading pictures of herself, she can end up with hundreds, ...
Views: 3 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Are Worthless If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, someone can have the sense that they are worthless. However, even if this is something that is outside of their couscous awareness, it doesn’t mean that it won’t have a big impact on their life. So, there can be the impact that this has on their inner world and on their outer ...
Views: 3 - Lower Your Stress - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2024 from Rick Hanson[Note: This JOT is adapted from Mother Nurture – a book written for mothers – focusing on typical situations that are experienced by many, though not all, mothers during the years before their children enter grade school. These are most commonly the years when mothers (biological and ...
Views: 8 - Self-Doubt: Can Someone To Suffer From Self-Doubt If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone can be good at something, but that doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. When it comes to what this relates to, it can be what they do for a living. Thanks to this, instead of being able to move forward, they can end up staying in the same position. If so, they will have ...
Views: 8 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Brain Stopping Him From Being Able To See Clearly? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is caught up in his mother’s world, she might struggle to understand why he is this way. Not only this but if she has tried to talk to him about this, she might not have gotten very far. At this point, she could believe that he is simply in denial and is, ...
Views: 8 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Attach To A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has been dating a woman for a little while, he can become emotionally attached to her. However, while part of him can feel comfortable with this, another part of him can feel very uncomfortable. If this other part of him is not as strong, it might not stop him from being able to ...
Views: 11 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who have let him down and even betrayed him. Thanks to this, he might be very cautious when it comes to women. So, he might keep them at a distance both emotionally and physically or just emotionally. When it comes to the former, he ...
Views: 11 - From Lockdowns to Leaderboards: The Unstoppable Growth of Gaming - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2024 from Braden LoweIf you're not gaming, chances are high that you will join that trend soon. Gaming is the industry that keeps showing up with a very healthy growth pattern, and this trend is to continue. The Global Entertainment and Media Outlook, put together by PwC for 2022-26, expects the sector to amount to ...
Views: 12 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His True Self If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is around others, it can be normal for him to play a role and do what he can to please them. As a result of this, he won’t freely express himself and his own needs will be overlooked. This can be something that just happens without him consciously choosing to behave in this way. If ...
Views: 13 - Life Is Meant For Joy - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2024 from Noelle NelsonWith bills to pay, rent to cover, kids to corral, too much to do in too little time, especially with the Holidays upon us and all the extra stuff that needs tending, doing, paying for? Joy? Give it a rest. Well, I would, except joy is our basic nature. It’s what everything else we do is ...
Views: 13 - Feel Whole - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2024 from Rick HansonWhen I look back on mistakes I've made - like dumping my anger on someone, making assumptions in haste, partying too much, losing my nerve, being afraid to speak from my heart - in all cases, a part of me had taken over. You know what I mean. The parts of us that have a partial view are driven ...
Views: 13 - Shilajit for Men's and Women's Health: A Detailed Guide - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2024 from Zafar YaqoobShilajit, an ancient mineral-rich substance found in the mountains, is widely known for its health benefits. Its numerous positive effects on the body have made it a staple in Ayurvedic medicine for thousands of years. Known for its rejuvenating and healing properties, shilajit contains ...
Views: 14 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Feeling Safe Enough To Be In Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to live upstairs, in their head. As a result of this, they won’t realise that they are typically out of touch with a big part of them. This can be how they have been for most, if not all, of their life. However, as they don’t have a good connection with their ...
Views: 14 - Therapy: Is Therapy A Waste Of Time? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, therapy is seen as something that is essential when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional issues. For others, it is seen as a waste of time and money. When it comes to the former, it is not uncommon for a woman to have this view and when it comes to the latter, it is ...
Views: 13 - Programming and Reprogramming of the Being Through Application of Will - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2024 from santosh krinskyEverything we do represents an action of will. Even inaction winds up being a ‘willed’ action. We are provided a choice at each moment as to how to respond to circumstances, pressures, events, opportunities that lie before us. In many cases, however, we do not recognise the power of choice as we ...
Views: 15 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Fear That They Will Be Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often fear that they will be left and end up alone. It could go further than this, though, as they may have the sense that they will die. This can show that they have a number of close friends and are in a ...
Views: 16 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Hyper-Independent? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone where to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they try to do just about everything by themselves. They could see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. But, while living in this way will make their life harder than it ...
Views: 16 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Women If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what might enter his mind is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could then think about how this is because he has had many experiences with them that haven’t been very positive. So, when it comes to the experiences that ...
Views: 17 - Love Freely - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2024 from Rick HansonIn my early 20's, I went through Rolfing, a form of deep-tissue bodywork, and I nervously anticipated the 5th session, the one that goes deep into the belly. But instead of gobs of repressed emotional pain, what poured out was love - waves, and waves of love that I'd pushed down due to ...
Views: 17 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Being Able To Face Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one or a number of areas of someone’s life might not be serving them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Instead, they can block out what is going on and continue to behave in the same way. And, if this is what takes place, it is unlikely to matter if there are ...
Views: 20 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Comfortable Being Treated Badly By Women If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has been with a number of women who didn’t treat him very well. This could show that he has been in a number of abusive relationships. Now, if he were to think about one of these relationships, he might end up feeling angry and very ...
Views: 18 - Healing: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Needs Stop Them From Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is suffering both mentally and emotionally, and certain areas of their life are not going in the right direction, they can end up reaching out for support. Assuming that this takes place, they can find a therapist or healer to work with. What this will show is that they no longer ...
Views: 20 - Unleashing The Future Of Wellness: How White Label CBD Is Empowering Entrepreneurs To Build Profitable Health Brands - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2024 from Angulena BobesThe wellness industry is booming like never before, with consumers increasingly seeking natural, effective solutions for health and well-being. At the forefront of this trend is CBD (cannabidiol), a compound derived from the hemp plant, known for its potential health benefits, ranging from ...
Views: 21 - Self-Sabotage: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved Cause Them To Sabotage Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not going in the direction that they want, they might believe that there is very little that they can do. The reason for this is that they may have done a number of things over the years to try to change it. But, no matter what they have done, they won’t have been able to ...
Views: 20 - Do Freely - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2024 from Rick HansonMost people spend most minutes of most days doing one thing after another. I sure do. Typing these words is a kind of doing, as is driving to work, making dinner, brushing one's teeth, or putting the kids to bed. For all the "labor-saving" devices of the past 50 years - dishwashers, phone ...
Views: 21 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Impress Others If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have achieved a lot, but, no matter how much he has achieved, he can have the need to achieve more. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this is just part of being human. Being driven and having the need to grow and expand is then normal and not ...
Views: 25 - Self-Ownership: Can Someone See Themselves As An Object If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what might stand out is that they don’t act like an individual who has their own needs and feelings. Instead, they act like an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. So, what can be normal is for them to be focused ...
Views: 23 - Healing In Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2024 from Darlene LancerEven before we enter the world, our brains and hormones are wired for connection. Our first relationship begins in our mother’s womb, where we recognize her voice and respond to her moods through hormones and stress responses. Later, her smell and touch become familiar. Affection and responsive ...
Views: 27(1 vote) - Critical Thinking: Has The American Election Result Unlocked Some Peoples Unresolved Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that it is clear who the next president of America will be, some people are pleased with what has happened and some are not. This can be seen as a natural outcome as only one candidate can win and not everyone will have voted for the same candidate. When it comes to the people who are ...
Views: 27 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Unconsciously Create A Depriving Life If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be the life that someone wants to live and then, there can be the life they have. So, they can want to have a life where they are surrounded by people who value and love them, be in an intimate relationship with someone who also values and loves them, and have a career that is deeply ...
Views: 31 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Turn Into An Enabler If She Stays With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a woman can be with a man who is overly focused on his mother. She may have been with him for a few weeks, months or even years. Either way, she can believe that if she stays with him, he will change sooner or later. If she has been with him for a few weeks, there is a ...
Views: 24 - Rest in Center - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2024 from Rick HansonGravity and entropy are powerful processes in the natural world. Gravity draws things together, toward a center, while entropy scatters them into disorder. In much the same way, in our own lives, some things bring us to the center, while others disturb and disperse us. In terms of ...
Views: 26 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Realise That He Is Sacrificing Himself? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, if a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs, it is going to take a lot of his time and energy. This will then mean that he will have less time and energy for himself. Now, if he did things for his mother from time to time, whilst primarily focusing on ...
Views: 30 - Tapping into Calm: An Introduction to EFT for Stress Relief - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2024 from Paul JenkinIn the hustle and bustle of our modern lives, it’s no surprise that stress, anxiety, and overwhelm often knock on our door uninvited. But what if I told you there’s a simple, yet powerful technique that can help you kick these unwanted guests to the curb? Enter Emotional Freedom Techniques ...
Views: 32 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like His Mother’s Possession? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man’s life revolves around his mother and meeting her needs, is that he is more like an extension for her than a separate being. Consequently, he will be turning his back on himself. But, although he will be depriving himself by living in this way, this can just be ...
Views: 32 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unable To See His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself in the process, he might be aware of what is going on. As a result of this, he can do what he can to gradually change his life. This will allow him to live a life that is worth living, as opposed to a life where he has turned ...
Views: 28 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Drawn To Women Who Are Unavailable If He Had A Depriving Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his behaviour, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be attracted to women who are not available. So, this can mean that he has dated and been in a number of relationships with women who were out of reach emotionally. Along with this, he may ...
Views: 34 - The Big Three Gap Closers - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2024 from William CottringerThe Big Three Gap Closers by Bill Cottringer Building on what we have in common always seems to be more productive than over-focusing on the sometimes annoying, noisy and irritating differences we have between us. Two early psychologists gave us some important clues about what we all ...
Views: 32 - Choose to Love - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2024 from Rick HansonMany years ago, I was in a significant relationship in which the other person started doing things that surprised and hurt me. I'll preserve the privacy here so I won't be concrete, but it was pretty intense. After going through the first wave of reactions - What?! How could you? Are you kidding ...
Views: 33 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Man Become A Mother-Enmeshed Man Because His Father Wasn’t Around? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is caught up in his mother’s world and is neglecting himself in the process, he can end up looking back on his early years. During this time, he can see that his father was rarely around and even when he was, he was rarely emotionally available. He can ...
Views: 35 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Lose Herself In A Mother-Enmeshed Man If She Has Too Much Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is currently with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could spend a lot of time feeling frustrated, angry, and drained. But, if she has given a lot to him and received very little, this is to be expected. He will be directing most of his time and energy toward his mother ...
Views: 33 - Sense Of Safety: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the need to please others. Thus, when they are around others, it will be normal for them to be who they want them to be. Or, perhaps to be more precise, who they think they want them to be. ...
Views: 32 - Critical Thinking: Can Humanity Change The Outer World By Changing Their Inner World? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to all of the bad things that are taking place in the world, it can seem as though there is very little that the average person can do. Thanks to this, the only way anything will really change is if the people in power do something about what is going on. Someone can then want ...
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