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- The Anger Contract - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2011 from Dan L. HaysThis Anger Contract was my response to the events chronicled in my previous post, "The Betrayal." A bogus Intervention had been done to me, and had forced me to get in touch with deep anger that I had been trying to release for several years. I knew I needed to do something radical to handle ...
Views: 4185(2 votes) - The Betrayal - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysMy next several blog posts are all related to the same topic. They deal with something that happened to me in July of 1988. My Dad had died the previous Thanksgiving, and I was still in the grief process over that loss. As well, I was still involved with a 12 step program for people who had ...
Views: 1853(2 votes) - When What You Give is Squandered: Re-thinking identity as a giver when giving too much can hurt - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2010 from Fannie LeFloreIf you’ve been victimized often, chances are the positive qualities you possess were viewed as an opportunity to take advantage of you – often by someone who lacks caring and concern, consciousness or character, usually in combination. Being un-thoughtful and even callous in our stressed, ...
Views: 2069(1 vote) - War Buddies - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Stacey CurnowOne of my clients is haunted by the memory of a former lover. She wonders how she allowed such a "bad" relationship to go on for so long. Of course she did the best she could with the awareness she had at the time. But now she has 20/20 hindsight. We’ve all been in her shoes. We wish we ...
Views: 1488(1 vote) - The Problem With "Being Nice" (All The Time) - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2010 from Brandon WhitworthAt some point in my development (it's an ongoing process), I gained a fear of confrontation. As I went on, it became more and more prevalent and became a part of my personality. I was a "nice guy", which is fine and certainly carries redeeming qualities; however, I found myself with many ...
Views: 4322(1 vote) - Your Relationship is the Key to Your Success! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOur relationship is one of the biggest, most powerful asset and gift we have in our life! It is a true "treasure chest" worth a fortune. It can deliver unimaginable heights of satisfaction, peace, joy, love, happiness and success!! To cash-in on this fortune we have to polish the "gems on ...
Views: 1764(1 vote) - Are you Abandoned or Smothered in Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAre You Abandoned or Smothered in Your Relationship? Couples get stuck in how they relate in their relationship and no matter how they try to get unstuck, to meet their needs and to create a satisfying relationship, they just get more and more buried in dissatisfaction. The negative cycle ...
Views: 2428 - Stop Sabotaging Yourself! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciStop Sabotaging Yourself! Have you noticed that when you are really close to what you want or to the next level in your life, things seem to go wrong? You are close to having your car paid off and you total it, you are about to win a sports competition and you get injured, you are about ...
Views: 3676(3 votes) - Bring Your Self to Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBring Your Self to Your Relationship It is a phenomenon when we feel energized, connected, and alive past the infatuation stage of our relationship. At the beginning, we fall in love. We feel euphoric, on top of the world, passionate, sexy, wanted, lustful, etc. This stage lasts and can be ...
Views: 2002(12 votes) - Overcoming Codependency - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from BB BergCodependent behavior can definitely impact ones quality of life in a very negative fashion. In my own example it was very clear about the kind of men I attracted into my life before I "let go of my need to rescue." I attracted men who were distant or obsessed or addicted. I found men who ...
Views: 4404(2 votes) - A Typology of Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Sam VakninTypology of Codependents Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs. There are four categories of codependence, stemming from their respective aetiologies: (i) Codependence that aims to fend of anxieties related to ...
Views: 5757(3 votes) - IS YOUR EX BLOCKING YOU FROM FINDING NEW LOVE? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Katy AllgeyerTired of being solo when the whole world seems coupled up? Many of the people I work with want to improve their wealth area but I’d say finding a new relationship (or strengthening an existing one) is also the number one priority of most people. When I do an analysis of your home and interview ...
Views: 4620(3 votes) - Tips to Stop Enabling - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Beverley GlazerThere are very fuzzy boundaries between helping and enabling. If you’re enabling, you think that you’re helping, but what you’re doing is anything but helpful. Here's some information so that you don't confuse the two. Helping When you help someone you are doing something that they cannot ...
Views: 15544(4 votes) - Finding Personal Power Under Verbal Attack - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2009 from Pixie StevensonHave you ever been verbally attacked and found yourself at a loss for words? Or have you become defensive and found yourself drawn into a verbal volley that left you drained emotionally and energetically? Finding Personal Power Under Verbal Attack Every verbal attack is either an ...
Views: 4909 - The Harm of Enabling - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2009 from Camille StrateRegardless of our chosen field, or the manner in which we use your gifts, most of us have come across people in our lives who absolutely refuse to take responsibility for their actions, their situations, their own lives. It could be a family member, a dear friend, a co-worker, even a spouse. ...
Views: 1711(2 votes) - Children of Insanity - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Paul HoodI have been looking at a book by Claudia Black, “My Dad Loves Me, My Dad Has A Disease” (A Child’s View: Living With Addiction, full of pictures and writing by children), and remembering the children of addiction, and the mentally ill. I have seen five-year-olds acting like little adults, ...
Views: 1841(3 votes) - Codependency: The Dance - by Submitted on May 30, 2011 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCThe "dance" of codependency requires two people: the pleaser/fixer and the taker/controller. This inherently dysfunctional dance can only happen with one partner who is a codependent and another partner who is a narcissist (abuser or addict). Codependents do not know how to emotionally ...
Views: 8197 - HEALTHY OPPOSITES - Change Your Behavior, Change Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Donna TorbicoFor ACoAs- (Adult-Children of alcoholics, abusers, abandoners & other narcissists) ACoAs know how they would like their life to be: TO have a fulfilling career, loving relationships, less pressure, a little fun... and they try, struggle, obsess - but not much changes. They become more & more ...
Views: 2793(5 votes) - How To Know What Boundaries Are? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Mara FisherMany books have been written on the subject of boundaries. Is it possible to be an I and still be a We? Where do I end and my partner begin? Many of us have been pondering this notion. How do I get close without getting lost while in a committed relationship? Many believe that the lack of ...
Views: 2005(5 votes) - ***Personal Empowerment: A Path to Joyful Creation - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Karen Mehringer, MARecently, I joined a group of women to journal, meditate and share about our intentions for the New Year. It was suggested that we come up with one or two words to describe our deepest intention underlying all of our desired outcomes. The words that I chose were…“Joyful Creation.” More than ...
Views: 2935(4 votes) - Don’t Wait for Someone or Something to Make You Happy - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Kimberley CohenEarl Nightingale said, "Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and ...
Views: 8538(4 votes) - *** Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is Emotional Dependency?Lydia consulted with me because her relationship with her husband, Andrew, was falling apart. Andrew had moved out, stating that he could no longer tolerate Lydia's neediness and constant pull on him to make her feel loved and secure. Now that they were separated, ...
Views: 7414(6 votes) - Energy Therapy Healing: Does It Work On Relationships? - by Submitted on May 26, 2009 from Donna BurickRelationships are a part of life that never seem to go smoothly. Dealing with other people can be difficult, no matter how much you care about them. Energy therapy healing offers you a way to help you deal with relationships and even improve upon them. This type of therapy is often combined with ...
Views: 2048 - Stay Afloat with Healthy Boundaries - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Grace KerinaWhen folks around you make waves with their alien communication styles, fervent demands, or weird displays of power, you need healthy boundary skills that pop to the surface like a life preserver. Your imagination can roar to the rescue and save the day. To keep a grip on the real you when ...
Views: 1817(1 vote) - From Anger to Love - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Terri BrittAnger. No one likes the feeling. Your body tightens. Your blood pressure heightens. You feel out of control. Have you ever asked yourself why you get angry? The tendency in our world is to think that someone or something has made us mad. The truth, however, is that our anger comes from ...
Views: 1727(4 votes) - Being as Good to Yourself as You Are to Others - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Kari SamuelsIn the Intuitive Development class that I teach, I often ask people to close their eyes and listen to their hearts instead of listening to their thoughts. So often we get wrapped up in all of our responsibilities and worries that we don’t even know what our own needs are. We know what our ...
Views: 1714(1 vote) - Karma, Balance, and Why Being “Nice” Isn’t Always Good - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Kari SamuelsIf you ask most people about what karma is, they will most likely respond with references to “good” and “bad” deeds. Most people strive to be the best they can be for themselves and others. We want to be good. And yet, most of the clients who I see in my intuitive counseling sessions have to ...
Views: 6518(3 votes) - Signs of Codependency - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Claudine StruckWhat is codependent behavior? When you try to define codependent you may see many definitions that essentially refer to the same problem: an excessive caring for another person that borders on psychological obsession. Is there such a thing as a person being too caring? Don’t all people desire ...
Views: 5187(1 vote) - Looking for Codependent Help on the Web? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Claudine StruckBefore seeking help with conquering codependency, you must first understand the condition and identify if you really have a problem with it. Codependency is defined as a group of behaviors related to the idea of excessive care taking. While loving someone too much should not be reason for ...
Views: 2316 - Healing Codependency In and Outside the Home - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Claudine StruckUnderstanding codependency characteristics first involves understanding where this behavior comes from. Like any pattern of behavior, codependency is learned from family members. Codependency is a survival characteristic, one that is used as a coping mechanism with stressful situations. Much ...
Views: 3618 - Coping with Codependent Parents - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckParents want what is best for their children. If a mother and father do their best to raise their child, offering strong guidance and attentive parenting, then it is a job well done. However, letting go of that parental authority can be a challenge, particularly when the child grows into a ...
Views: 20452(2 votes) - Codependency: Don't Lose Yourself in Others - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckCodependency can often cause individuals to lose themselves in their relationships. They ignore their own feelings, needs and problems. Instead, they choose to obsess over the person that they "love." They are obsessed with the other person's feelings and needs. Although you would think that ...
Views: 5177 - Can Codependent Behavior be Treated with Medication? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckCodependent behavior is not actually classified as a disorder by most doctors or the medical association. It is listed as a group of behaviors that are maladaptive. This indicates that the codependent person ignores the problem, such as stressful thoughts and circumstances, and attempts to ...
Views: 6952 - Are Codependency Traits Negative? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckThis is an interesting question, because there are some mental health professionals, as well as family heads, that believe codependency is a myth and that there is nothing wrong with “excessive care.” The belief is that while some people may find overbearing family members or friends troubling, ...
Views: 4905 - Am I Codependent? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckIf you are looking for codependency information then you may have noticed that the definition of codependent can imply many different behaviors and symptoms. The essence of the codependent definition is that a person will demonstrate excessive caring, to the point that it is inappropriate or ...
Views: 4800 - Got Anger? Cut Cords of Attachment - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Rose RosetreeAnger kills. Usually it doesn't result in a homicide. It causes (or contributes to) illness, obesity, depression, and other health problems. What may help most is something you may never have heard of. I'm Rose Rosetree, author of "Cut Cords of Attachment," the first book in English on this ...
Views: 2672 - Co-dependency: Half a Loaf of Self - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Dr. Jane BoltonThe term 'co-dependency' was initially used to describe a person who was dependent on another person who was an alcoholic, or addicted to another substance. Over time, it has been discovered that co-dependents have common characteristics that have nothing to do with substance ...
Views: 2054(1 vote) - Adults Abused as Children - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Licia GinneDr. Jasquith says that tyranny is sometimes expression of the maternal instinct. If that's a mother's love, I want no part of it. -- Bette Davis as Charlotte Vale in "Now Voyager" The experience of having lived (or living) in trauma is probably the number one reason that brings people to ...
Views: 6069 - Changes in the World of Therapy Over the Last 30 Years - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Jason SafferIn my view, as I look back over the last 30 years of being a therapist, I notice how much more human and humane therapists have become and how much more personal the therapy process has become. The momentous impact of more humanistically and transpersonally-oriented therapies has actually ...
Views: 2189(1 vote) - Thanksgiving Tradition: Highlights Of An Alcoholic Home - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2008 from Kay Kopit“Will you stop it?” I nervously repeated to my brother John. “Stop it; I just want to get home before someone sees us.” We were schlepping a huge wire shopping cart filled with a big bird, a big dead bird, and all the accoutrements for the next day’s Thanksgiving dinner. The sign on the cart ...
Views: 2988 - Relationship Addiction and Co Dependency Counselling - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2008 from Rosemary Grace BrooksRelationship addiction is becoming recognised more and more as a serious problem requiring careful co-dependency counselling. Co-dependency in general terms means two parties in a relationship based on a mutual dependency. Most relationships have a mutual level of healthy dependency. However, ...
Views: 3141(2 votes) - Let Your Articles Go And Spread The Word (Of Your Website) - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2008 from Ankur BhardwajWhat if I showed you some simple ways and tactics that will help you to generate more traffic from your articles? These 3 simple steps when applied will help you to get all the free traffic you will ever need to promote your website from article marketing. Make sure you apply all these 3 steps ...
Views: 2380 - How To Live With A Compulsive Spender - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Gloria ArensonIs there someone in your life who is spending compulsively, and you feel frustrated and angry with him or her? You don’t understand why they do what they do, and you can’t understand why they can’t just use a little more willpower. Perhaps you have tried bribery, threats, punishment, rewards, ...
Views: 5043 - The Spark Remains - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeThroughout my childhood I received consistent messages that demonstrated the power of a dysfunctional family. The disease of my parents and abusers robbed me of my boundaries and individuality – the right to have a self. Remembering back now, through the years of oppression and sexual abuse, ...
Views: 1468(1 vote) - Codependency Symptoms - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2008 from Carla ValenciaI come from a family with a codependent mother. I am neither judging her nor blaming. But identifying codependency symptoms in her helped me a lot to overcome low self esteem. Codependency definition : Codependency is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioural condition that is learned ...
Views: 3879(3 votes) - The healing power of beauty, nature and orderliness - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2008 from Cathy RoysJesus was always drawing attention to nature...because he saw a power for restoration and healing in it that humans have lost touch with. “Consider how the lilies grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of ...
Views: 2447(1 vote) - What Are Boundaries And Why Are We So Messed Up If We Don't Have Them? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2008 from Cathy RoysFor those having been instilled with good Boundaries they may seem as natural as breathing, a way of being in the world that is consistent and makes sense. For those less fortunate poor boundary development can be crippling to ones whole life. In essence a boundary is a personal line in the ...
Views: 3216 - Is It Empathy Or Codependcy? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2008 from Deanna ReynoldsQuestion: “I’m very sensitive. I can easily feel other people emotions. But, often, it feels as though I’m just bombarded and sometimes I don’t know where my emotions stop and another’s begin. I just have strong empathy abilities, right?” Answer: Maybe. In ...
Views: 10049(2 votes) - How Living For Giving Is Unforgiving - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzUnconditional giving is a state that we all aspire to. We hope to be a giving person without any agendas from the perspective of why we give or what we want in return. Yet, frequently there are emotions at work that we are not aware of that motivate us to over-give to others, be it with our ...
Views: 1477 - 20 Do's & Don'ts Of A Functional Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2012 from Eve BernshawFrom TheTransitionProcessTM Interactive Lecture HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE The following is a list of The 20 Do's and Don'ts of A Functional Relationship. It has been an effective tool and starting point for individuals and couples who are serious about creating more joy, ...
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