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- Do Your Emotions Control You Or Are You Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it is a challenge for them to handle how they feel. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to be overwhelmed by their emotional self and to lose their ability to think clearly. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. If this is ...
Views: 12 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Traumatise People? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where in the world someone is or what time it is, the mainstream media will be there to inform them about what is taking place. This source of information will tell them about what is going on around them and that is going on further afield. The main reason for this is that one no ...
Views: 16 - Love Bombing: Are Some People Easy Targets For 'Love Bombers'? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was single and they were to meet someone who showed a lot of interest in them, they could find that they end up being drawn to them. And what might also play a part here is that one may be physically attracted to them. Through being in this person’s presence, one could start to ...
Views: 38 - Survival: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Survival To Others? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a lot of what one needs to survive, and even thrive, will come from others, it doesn’t mean that their survival is dependent on one person or a group of people. What this then means, is that one is not going to need to please one person or a group of people in order to survive. One ...
Views: 28 - Your Inner Child Is Waiting For You To Listen - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could find that they often feel down or angry and/or that they have the tendency to overreact. Regardless of what is going on for them, they may look into what they can do to experience life differently. Before long, they could try to change what is going on in their mind - with what is ...
Views: 31 - Masculinity: Why Do Some Men Have A Strong Need To Be Desired By Women? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is straight, it could be said that it will be normal for him to have the need to be seen as desirable to the opposite sex. And while this could apply to women in general, it could have far more to do with the type of women that he finds attractive. Through being seen as desirable, a ...
Views: 46 - How Deep Do You Want To Go? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets into self-development, it could be because they have mental and emotional challenges. As a result of this, they can look for a way to change how they experience life. One thing that they can end up being told is that their thoughts create their feelings, which can give them ...
Views: 224 - Relationships: Can Someone Look Towards Others To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that they won’t need the same things that they needed when they were a child. This comes down to the fact that they will have grown out of a number of these needs. As a result of this, what they look for from others is going to be different to what ...
Views: 56 - Emotionally Weak: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Weak? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that someone’s life would be a lot easier if they were unable to experience emotions. The primary reason for this is that they would no longer experience emotional pain. As a result of this, they would never feel sad, powerless, helpless, or hopeless, and fear and anxiety ...
Views: 51 - We All Judge Others - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a strong chance that someone will have heard, at least once, that they shouldn’t judge others. If they are into self-development/spirituality, they may have heard this more times than they can remember. One way to look at this would be to say that this is sage advice. For one thing, ...
Views: 38 - Self-Worth: Can Someone’s Inner Child Cause Them To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people that are in touch with their inner value and then there are people that aren’t. If someone is in touch with their inherent worth, they are going to know that they deserve to receive things and to be treated well. As a result of this, their life is going to be far more ...
Views: 53 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Drawn To Politics? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy for someone to come to the conclusion that more people are into politics than ever before. One reason for this is that so much of what is spoken about on social media relates to this area. If someone was to engage in black and white thinking, they could even believe that ...
Views: 58 - Inner Child: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self In Order To Heal Their Inner Child? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be aware of their inner child, it doesn’t mean that it won’t be having an effect on their life. Their inner child, or their inner children to be more precise as there is more than one child, can be causing them all kinds of problems. And if one is aware of the term ...
Views: 58 - Authority Figures: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Trouble With Authority Figures? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on how they behave when they are in the presence of an authority figure, they may find that they are typically able to hold their own. This will mean that, in general, they won’t retract and neither will they have the need to take up too much space. In other words, ...
Views: 55 - Emotionally Shut Down: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause To Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to go through a challenging time, is that they end up losing touch with their emotional self. Perhaps they have just experienced a break up or lost a loved one. This wouldn’t have been something that one chose to do; it would have been something that ...
Views: 52 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Who They Are? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat allows one to have their own life on this planet is not just their physical body; it is also the fact that they have their own needs and feelings. If they didn’t have their own needs and feelings, it wouldn’t matter if they had their own body – or vehicle. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 59 - Meditation Will Help You To Become More Aware - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is so much going on in today’s world that it can be easy for someone to lose touch with what is taking place within them. Regardless of whether they are around others or by themselves, there can be at least one thing that will consume their attention. One can then be drawn this way or ...
Views: 58 - Relationships: Can A Past Life Connection Cause Someone To Stay In A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that they are in a relationship that is not very healthy, they could look into what they could do to change it. Through taking this approach, it will give them the chance to see if anything can be done. There will most likely be what they will need to ...
Views: 77 - Are Your Dreams Trying To Tell You Something? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets out of bed in the morning, their mind can end up being consumed by a dream that they had whilst they were asleep. There is also the chance that they woke up in the middle of the night due to a dream that they were having. One could think about what took place and then, ...
Views: 50 - Boundaries: Why Would Someone See Other People As An Extension Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they act as though another person is an extension of themselves, there are some people that act in this way practically all of the time. This could be seen as the difference between not having a disorder and having one. The ...
Views: 58 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there will be how one will behave when they are in touch with their true-self and then there will be how they will behave when they are not. When it comes to the former, one will be aware of their needs and feelings. These elements will have a big effect on what they do ...
Views: 65 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Hot And Cold Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where their romantic relationships have not been very fulfilling, what they may find is that it’s because they have the inclination to end up with people who are anything but reliable and consistent. If so, this will mean that they have been with a number of people who ...
Views: 60(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone Push Other People Away When If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a key part of someone being able to function at their best is for them to have fulfilling relationships. And, as they are an interdependent human being, this is not exactly a shock. Taking this into account, it will be vital for one to have strong bonds with ...
Views: 71 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has just gone through a break up, they may find that it is hard for them to focus on other areas of their life. Due to how much pain they are in, everything else could fade into the background. Perhaps they were with someone for a long time and they may have even had a strong ...
Views: 101(1 vote) - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their own behaviour, they may see that they generally act in an authentic manner. Therefore, irrespective of whether they are with their friends or are around people they don’t know very well, they won’t put on an act. What this is going to show is that one will ...
Views: 81 - Self-Sabotage: Is Your Inner Child Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find is that even though they want to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to make any progress. It could seem as though what they want to achieve is out of their reach. Perhaps they have been trying to achieve something for months or maybe ...
Views: 92 - Social Media: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Compare Their Life With Others Online? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhenever someone spends time on social media, they could end up looking through what their friends have been doing. Furthermore, they could look into what certain celebrities have been doing. When this takes place, there could be times when they end up feeling happy and times when they end ...
Views: 65 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Have An External Locus Of Control? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that the mainstream media likes to do is to give exposure to the bad things that happen in the world. It can seem as though the events that they cover are chosen randomly, but they are generally events that play into a certain narrative. Anyway, a lot of what they cover relates to ...
Views: 78 - Child Abuse: Did Your Parents Make Out That You Were Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about what takes place when a child is abused, they could say that they will be physically harmed or verbally put down. Alternatively, they could say that they will be neglected. Then again, one could mention all of these things, meaning that it won’t just relate ...
Views: 73 - Locus Of Control: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Develop An External Locus Of Control? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people that believe that they have control over their life and then there are people that don’t. Due to this, these people are likely to have two very different experiences on this earth. When it comes to the people that fit into the first category, it could be said that they are ...
Views: 70 - Are You Sabotaging Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the desire to achieve something it doesn’t mean that they won’t also do things to hold themselves back. The trouble is that they might not be aware of the things that they are doing to undermine themselves. As a result of this, they can end up blaming other people for ...
Views: 82 - Are You Victimising Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperQuite some time ago I came across a post on social media where someone was basically lamenting the fact that although they were there for their friends during tough times, their friends were not there for them when they were going through a tough time. From what they said, it would be easy to ...
Views: 73 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Become More Integrated? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone first starts to spend time with another person, they may find that they only experience good feelings. If there are moments when they don’t, these moments may soon pass. The same could also apply when they are not in the other persons company, with this being a time when they ...
Views: 73(1 vote) - Emptiness: Why Do Some People Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone looks whole on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they feel whole on the inside. How they look is then going to have very little to do with how they actually experience life. Based on how they experience life, it will be as though they are missing something. As a result ...
Views: 79 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Lose Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether someone does or doesn’t do something, it could typically depend on if it is right for them. In others words, they won’t have the inclination to do along with what other people are doing. What this is likely to show is that they have a good connection with their needs ...
Views: 76 - “I’m Being Ignored!” - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on I was waiting in line for something and the person in front of me asked the cashier a question. They didn’t receive an answer, though, and this made them turn to me and say that they were being ignored. A few seconds later, this person asked the cashier the same question and once ...
Views: 97 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Emotions That Were Frozen? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a relationship, they may find that they are generally settled. What this can mean is that they are rarely emotionally flat and are rarely overwhelmed by their emotions. Being this way is naturally going to make it easier for them to function at their best and to enjoy ...
Views: 128 - You Need To Learn How To Receive! - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is given a gift, it might be hard for them to accept what has been given to them. Instead of feeling happy about what they have received, they could end up feeling guilty. Consequently, they may tell the other person that they can’t accept what has been given to them and offer it ...
Views: 80 - Emotional Problems: Would You Know What To Do If You Had Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what they would do if their car started playing up, it is unlikely that it would take long for their mind to come up with an answer. In this case, it would be pretty obvious what they would need to do. It would be clear that they would need to take their car to a ...
Views: 65 - Psychic Protection Is A Load Of Rubbish! - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst I was reading a book about psychic protection, someone basically turned their nose up when they saw the cover. It was clear that this person believed that what I wasn’t reading anything worthwhile. I didn’t think much of what they said and carried on reading the book. After a while, ...
Views: 70 - Offended: What Can Someone Do If They Have The Tendency To Be Offended? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether one is online or offline, they may find that it is not uncommon for them to get worked up about something. They could read or hear something and, before they know it, they could experience a strong emotional reaction. When this takes place, it could take a little while ...
Views: 65 - Self-Absorbed: Can Someone Suffer If They Only Focus On Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that social media has done is made it easy for someone to focus on themselves. So regardless of if it relates to how their pictures look, how people respond to what they share or how many friends they have, it is all going to be about them. In the past someone would have only have ...
Views: 65 - You Are Depressed Because Your Life Lacks Meaning! - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years I have heard a number of people say that the only reason someone would be depressed is because their life lacks meaning. I even heard a yoga teacher come out with the same view. But before I go into what my thoughts are on this, I will go along with what these people ...
Views: 171 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For A Man To Only Confide In His Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is single, he may find that there is no one is his life that he can share certain things with. This can relate to how he feels, the challenges that he is going through and the things that he has done that he is not too happy about, for instance. He can then have a big family and ...
Views: 117 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Be Controlling? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts to spend time with another person, they might not even think about trying to control what they can or can’t do. In fact, this could be the last thing that is on their mind. What could primarily interest them is getting to know the other person and enjoying the time that ...
Views: 129(1 vote) - Success: Why Do Some People Get Anxious When Their Life Is Going Well? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has spent a lot of time and effort building up their own life, it can be hard for them to understand why they would feel uncomfortable now that their life is going in the right direction. Yet, even if only one area of their life is going as they would like it to go, they could still ...
Views: 85 - Belonging: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Don’t Belong? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when someone feels as though they belong to something else, it will have a positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical health. When it comes to what they belong to, this could involve being part of a family, a group of friends or to a religious group. This ...
Views: 97(1 vote) - Don’t Waste Your Time Tearing People Down! - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that social media has given people is somewhere where they can share their thoughts on just about anything. For some people, this is somewhere where they can tear other people down. Someone like this can pull another person down and they won’t need to worry about getting into ...
Views: 107 - Relationships: Is It Important To Be Able To Hold Space For Others? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a friend who is going through a tough time, they could end up telling them what they need to do to get through it. This is then going to be a time when they will try to fix or rescue this person. Simply being there for this person is not going to be enough; they will need to ...
Views: 73 - I Can’t Live Without You! - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago, I heard someone say that they couldn’t live without their partner. Now, this wasn’t because this person was disabled and therefore, needed this person in order to be able to handle life. No, this was someone who was perfectly capable of handling life by themselves. ...
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