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- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Anxious Around Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on May 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels edgy. And, if he was to look even closer, he may find that this is usually how he feels when he is around a woman or women. Furthermore, in order to handle what is going on for him and feel more ...
Views: 2 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Say No To His Mother? - by Submitted on May 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s yes will only mean something if they also have the ability to say no. The reason for this is if they are unable to say no, they will say yes out of their need to please another person. On the other hand, if they felt comfortable saying no, they would be able to ...
Views: 2 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Treated Badly By Women If He Had A Cruel Mother? - by Submitted on May 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have had a number of experiences with women that were anything but pleasant. This can mean that he has been in a number of relationships that greatly undermined him. Additionally, there can be all the interactions that he has had, both at work and in his everyday ...
Views: 3 - Self-Rejection: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Reject Themselves? - by Submitted on May 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be there for others and to ignore a number of their own needs and feelings. But, although they will have abandoned themselves, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. However, even if what is going on doesn’t stand out, living in this way is still going ...
Views: 4 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Underdeveloped To Realise That He Is Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on May 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, in order for a man to live a life that is worth living, he will need to do what is right for him. For this to take place, he will need to be in tune with his needs and feelings and allow his inner world to impact his outer world. This is not to say that he won’t be able to be there ...
Views: 7 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Idealise Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on May 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, they might have had at least one parent who didn’t treat them very well. If they did, this parent would have often been very cruel and, as a result, this would have deeply wounded them. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge how cruel this ...
Views: 8 - Relationships: Why Would A Man Only Be Attracted To Women That He Can Control? - by Submitted on May 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be with a woman who is anything but his equal, and this might be how it has been with a number of other women. Now, she might be the same age as him or very close to his age, or there could be a number of years between them. However, regardless of this, she ...
Views: 9 - Repression: Can Repression Cause Someone To Believe That What Is Going On ‘Out There’ Is Defining How They Feel? - by Submitted on May 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they feel powerless, they could end up coming to the conclusion that it’s because of what is taking place in their life. For example, they might have lost their job, been through a breakup, or have a friend that lacks boundaries and is controlling. Therefore, ...
Views: 10 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Dehumanise Their Ex? - by Submitted on May 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone’s relationship has come to an end, they could experience a number of different feelings. So, they could have moments when they feel angry and moments when they feel very sad. At other moments, they could feel very little, with them being in an emotionally shut down state. And, ...
Views: 8 - Child Abuse: Someone Be Emotionally Disconnected If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on May 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone may be in a position where they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. If this is the case, they are going to miss out on a lot of valuable information. The reason for this is that this part of them is there to provide them with feedback. This feedback will ...
Views: 10 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Their Early Years If They Were Abused And Neglected? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not very fulfilling and they were to take a step back and reflect, a number of things could enter their mind. So, they could see that their relationships are not very nurturing and that it is normal for them to be ignored, put down and treated badly. Due to this, they are ...
Views: 10 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Intimacy If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man fears getting close to a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. He is then going to unconsciously do what he can to keep women at a distance, but he won’t realise this. Thanks to this, he might often be in a position where it is as though someone or ...
Views: 11 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have The Need To Hide How They Feel If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s feelings are an important part of them, it doesn’t mean that they will typically express how they feel. Not only this, but they might rarely if ever be aware of how they feel. If this is the case, it will show that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings and ...
Views: 10 - Breakups: Can Early Deprivation Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just gone through a breakup and even if this took place a few weeks or a number of months ago, they could be in a bad way. This could show that they were with their ex for a number of years, or it might not have been this long. Additionally, this might have been a relationship ...
Views: 11 - Mother Wounds: Can Mothers Day Be Hard For Someone If They Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, Mother’s Day is a day when they can show gratitude towards their mother for all the things that she has done for them and continues to do for them. This day is then going to be a day of celebration and a special day. What this may illustrate is that their mother is loving and ...
Views: 12 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lose Himself When He Is In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he might be very different to how he was before. When he was single, he might have been aware of certain needs and done what he could to take care of them. However, although he will still have needs, he could typically act as though he doesn’t have any or ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Brought Up To Feel Comfortable With One-Sided Relationships? - by Submitted on May 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he does a lot for his mother and very little for himself, he is going to be more like his mother’s parent than her son. As with a parent-child relationship, he will be giving a lot but he won’t receive a great deal back. Now, of course, if he was her parent, ...
Views: 17 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Have Been Treated As Though They Were Nothing By Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on May 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on their early years, is that they were often treated as though they had no value and were worthless. So, they might have often been physically harmed and verbally put down and largely been deprived of the emotional nutrients that they ...
Views: 17 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Drawn To Women Who Are Abusive If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but loving. When he was with these women, he might have often been verbally put down, emotionally deprived and even physically harmed. Thanks to this, he might not have a strong desire to be in another relationship. ...
Views: 15 - Child Abuse: Is An Abusive Parents Inability To Acknowledge Their Abusive Behaviour A Sign Of How Damaged They Are? - by Submitted on May 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years. Therefore, it is not that they were born this way and/or simply can’t get it together. No, it is that they were deprived of the love that they needed in order to grow and ...
Views: 21 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Stay Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is likely to stand out, if a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, is that he has a strong need to please her. Due to how strong this need is, a number of his needs will end up being overlooked. From this, it will be clear that he needs to spend less time being there ...
Views: 19 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Who Has It All Together End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on May 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a good position in life and she has been with a number of men who are overly focused on their mother, she can be well and truly fed up. But, as she will be a woman who has continually ended up with men that are more like boys, this is to be expected. This area of her life is ...
Views: 19 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal As An Adult? - by Submitted on May 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. And, if they were to take a step back and relax, they could soon end up feeling tense and agitated. Thus, even if they were told that they need to slow down by a friend or a family ...
Views: 19 - Child Abuse: Is An Abusive Parents Lack Of Self-Awareness A Defence Against Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, if they were to speak to the parent who mistreated them during their formative years – assuming it was only one - is that they are unable to make much headway. Based on how this parent responds, it could be as if they are talking to someone who wasn’t actually there ...
Views: 21 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on May 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they may hope that what they went through will be validated by them. This could be seen as part of what will allow them to move on from what happened. However, even if this need is there, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 24 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Highly Motivated If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on May 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is highly driven, he could often be seen as someone that has high self-esteem. Along with all the things that he has achieved, then, can be all of the positive feedback that he receives from others. However, although he may have high self-esteem, it doesn’t mean that he is being ...
Views: 20 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Mother Unconsciously Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on May 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone doesn’t need to have read a book on psychology let alone be a psychologist to see that, if a man is overly focused on his mother, something is not right. What can be clear is that he is behaving more like his mother’s father or mother than her son. And, as he is this way, his own life ...
Views: 24 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Suspicious Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is seeing or is in a relationship with a woman, he might not feel at ease and be able to let his guard down. This might not be because she has done something to make him question whether or not he can trust her, though. No, he could just expect her to do something that will validate ...
Views: 23 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In A Family That Was Physically Close But Emotionally Distant? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on their early years, what could soon stand out is that they grew up in a family that was very close. Therefore, if it was put forward to them that they were neglected, they are likely to dismiss what is said. They could say that this is not true as their family ...
Views: 27 - False Self: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Themselves If They Had A Parent Who Didn’t Attune To Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what could stand out is that they spend a lot of time doing what other people want. Consequently, they are likely to find that they often feel drained and even exhausted. Additionally, they can experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 29 - Child Abuse: If Someone Wasting Their Time If They Are Trying To Be Seen By An Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was brought up by at least one parent who was unable to truly see them and is still unable to do so, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Due to this, now that they are an adult, they could spend a lot of their time and energy trying to be seen by this ...
Views: 25 - Self-Assertion: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Need To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an individual, with their own needs and feelings, it will be essential for them to be able to assert themselves. This will allow them to make it clear when something is not right for them and thus, protect themselves and their well-being and do the things that are right for ...
Views: 26 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Both Idolised And Demonised During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, someone generally needed to be treated as though they deserved to exist and were valuable and lovable, among other things. If this is what took place, now that they are an adult, there is a strong chance that they will have developed a strong sense of self and be able to feel good ...
Views: 26 - Aggression: Can A Man Reject His Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a car won’t go anywhere without power, a man is also not going to get very far without being connected to his own power. When it comes to what will provide him with the power that he needs, his aggression is going to play a big part. Now, this is something that will give ...
Views: 27 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Underdeveloped To Act Like An Individual? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to live a life that a worth living, he will need to be in tune with his own needs and feelings. Along with this, what is going on inside him will largely need to define how he behaves. Being this way will allow him to live in a way that is in alignment with who he is. This ...
Views: 27 - Attunement: Is Attunement A Key Part Of What Will Allow Someone To Heal From Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was brought up by at least one parent who was emotionally unavailable and lacked the ability to attune to their needs and feelings, they can be in a bad way now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that they wouldn’t have been born with a fully developed sense of self; they ...
Views: 27 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Super Independent? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt is part of the human experience to need others but, that doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept this. In general, they could act as though they don’t need others and this could be something that they feel quite proud of. They might often criticise those who do make it clear that they ...
Views: 25 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Become His Mothers Enabler? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man missed out on the love that he needed to grow and develop in the right way during his formative years, it is not going to be a surprise if he behaves like an extension of his mother now that he is an adult. He will no longer be a powerless and dependent child, but, as he was deprived, ...
Views: 26 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Look For Unconditional Love In A Conditional World? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone will have received the love that they needed during their formative years in order to experience an emotional birth. In other words, they will have been able to form a strong sense of self and develop a felt sense of enoughness, worthiness and being lovable. Thanks to this, ...
Views: 39 - Critical Thinking: Is The External Chaos A Reflection Of What Is Taking Place Inside The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, and for a little while now, there is a lot of upheaval in the world. A number of years ago, a virus, which was said to have first been identified in an outbreak in Wuhan, soon spread all over the world. And, just as things were starting to return to a ‘new normal’, ...
Views: 39 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That His Purpose Is To Please His Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some men who are able to put themselves first and live their own life, there are others who are unable to do so. When it comes to the former, a man will be making the most of the life that he has been given, but, when it comes to the latter, he won’t be. However, if a man ...
Views: 33 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to having a mental self, someone also has an emotional self. But, while this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be connected to both of these parts of their being. However, if they don’t have a strong connection with their emotional self, they might not be aware ...
Views: 30 - Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Having An Emotional Birth? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem as though there is only one type of birth – a physical birth. However, along with this type of birth, there is also another type of birth, and this is known as an emotional birth. The first type will allow someone to have their own vehicle, so to speak, and the second type will ...
Views: 32 - Imposter Syndrome: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Like An Imposter? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may have attained a certain level of success, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with it. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they have stolen this success from someone else. They could be doing well in their career and a number of other areas of ...
Views: 34 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Use Success To Try To Be Accepted If They Were Not Affirmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend most of their life doing things, and this can mean that they are fairly ‘successful’. So, they could have a well-paid job, an expensive car, and a big house and they could have a desirable partner. If this is the case, they will look as though they have it all ...
Views: 44 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay Small If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will freely express themselves. In general, they could be in the background and even spend a lot of time vicariously living their life through others. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they ...
Views: 34 - Early Deprivation: Is Feeling Depressed Part Of Healing From Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is depressed, it is often seen as a sign that they are not in a good way. As a result of this, they can end up going on medication or be encouraged to develop a number of goals. If the former takes place, they might not end up feeling great but they might be able ...
Views: 33 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Emotional Self If They Had Emotionally Unavailable Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with someone’s physical needs, they will also have emotional needs. However, even though this is the case, they can be out of touch with their emotional needs. If so, although these needs will be outside of their conscious awareness, they will still have an effect on how they behave. ...
Views: 48 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Repressed Feelings If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were anything but loving, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. However, thanks to their brain’s ability to block out both painful feelings and memories, they might not remember what took place. Due to this, they can be in a bad way and not understand ...
Views: 38 - Critical Thinking: Does Repression Allow Human Beings To Lose Touch With Their Own ‘Darkness?’ - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has watched many films over the years and even if they rarely watch films, they are likely to be familiar with the good vs. bad scenario. There will then be one person or a group of people that are good, against one person or a group of people that are ‘bad’. However, without even ...
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