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- Fear Of Death: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Fear That They Will Die? - by Submitted on May 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have a strong fear that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Now, of course, everyone on this planet is going to die at some point. But, there is a big difference between this simply being a part of life and it being ...
Views: 2 - Early Deprivation: Can A Parents Inability To Love Go Back Many Generations? - by Submitted on May 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of someone’s life, they need love in order to grow and develop in the right way. This, of course, is something that they will need for many, many years after this stage for their development to continue to go in the right direction. When it comes to what is meant by ‘love’, ...
Views: 3 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that it is often a case of one step forward, two steps back. In other words, it will be difficult for them to make much progress. This could be the case when it comes to all areas of their life, or this might ...
Views: 4 - Child Abuse: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Find Out About Their Parents Childhood If They Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the ability that someone’s brain has to block out pain and then for their conscious mind to forget about the past, it can take a while for them to realise that they were abused. As a result of this, their life can be one big challenge but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to ...
Views: 4 - If You Were Rescued, You Wouldn’t Develop Your Strength - by Submitted on May 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to handle life or a certain area of their life is a challenge, they can have a strong need for another person to come and make it better. They could spend a fair amount of time thinking about what their life would be like if this was to take place. When this ...
Views: 6 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Comfortable Being There For His Mother? - by Submitted on May 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal for a man is for practically his whole life to revolve around his mother. This means that a number of his needs, along with his feelings, will be overlooked, with him putting a number of his mother’s needs first. This will then just be what happens and he won’t need to ...
Views: 8 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear Being Seen By His Mother? - by Submitted on May 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting into a relationship, a man may have started to see that he is not truly living his own life. What could have entered his conscious awareness is that his life is secondary to his mother’s. This will mean that a number of his needs will be overlooked and it won’t matter how he ...
Views: 9 - Abandoned: Can Someone Have A Deeply Repressed Feeling Of Being Abandoned If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could do is create the impression that they are not very emotional and even that they don’t have an emotional self. The reason for this is that they can typically come across as calm and detached. Another part of this is that they might not have a strong desire to be around ...
Views: 12 - Negative Feelings: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Attached To ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on May 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they usually feel, is that they have the tendency to experience ‘negative’ feelings. So, they could often feel rejected, worthless, unloved, hopeless, helpless and abandoned. That’s not to say that these feelings will ...
Views: 11 - Being Seen: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on May 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, one could feel as though they don’t exist, and this is not going to be because they won’t have a pulse. No, it will be due to the fact that they will rarely feel seen and heard and what they do in life might not have much of an impact. So, when they are around others, they could ...
Views: 13 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Give Someone The Need To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on May 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that their inner self will typically be seen by others. In general, this part of them could be hidden and this will mean that what is truly going on for them will be a mystery to others. Along with this, what is taking ...
Views: 13 - Hopeless: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on May 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn life, there will be hurdles that are both big and small that need to be overcome but that doesn’t mean that someone will believe that they have what it takes to handle these. Before they even come into contact with a hurdle, they could feel hopeless and helpless. Therefore, before they ...
Views: 12 - True Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That Only Parts Of Them Are Acceptable? - by Submitted on May 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be a multi-faceted being who has many different aspects, they could typically come across as though this is not the case. They are then going to be like a TV that has many different channels but only one channel is ever selected. What this can mean is that they will ...
Views: 12 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Put A Woman On Pedestal If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on May 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find is that he has the inclination to elevate certain women. He might see that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember and that being this way is not serving him. When he is drawn to a woman, then, he could see her as being a goddess and as being on a ...
Views: 12 - Self-Hate: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they struggle to feel good about themselves, their life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be. For one thing, they are seldom going to experience positive feelings. As a result of this, they are likely to spend a lot of time feeling low and they ...
Views: 13 - True-Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self To Survive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to get to the point where they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they have the tendency to hide who they are. They could see that this is something that typically takes place automatically. When this does take ...
Views: 18 - Repressed Pain: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Repress Their Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ...
Views: 18 - Repressed Pain: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Repress Their Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ...
Views: 17 - Hopeless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has recently gone through a breakup, they could find that they feel deeply hopeless and helpless. They are then going to be in a state of despair and it will be as though their life is over. This may have been a relationship that lasted for a number of months or it might have been ...
Views: 13 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Father Was Humiliated During His Early Years? - by Submitted on May 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may have the tendency to feel low and bad about himself. When this is so, he could end up doing one of two things; he could either isolate himself from others or he could be around others and do what he can to please them. Therefore, it won’t be necessary for him to isolate ...
Views: 19 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel As Though They Are Betraying Their Parents If They Talk About Their Abuse? - by Submitted on May 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after coming to see that they were abused and/or neglected during their early years, someone might feel the need to talk about what they went through. At this stage, they might not feel comfortable speaking to one or both of their parents about it. Still, although they can have this ...
Views: 19 - Relationships: Are Someone’s Adult Relationships A Replay Of Their Early Relationships? - by Submitted on May 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the chance that someone has been in a number of relationships that were not very fulfilling. Thanks to this, they could question if they want to be in another relationship or if they just want to stay single forever. Then again, they could currently be in yet another relationship ...
Views: 15 - Child Abuse: Is Someone Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If They Are Looking For Their Parents To Acknowledge They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on May 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, someone could spend a fair amount of time trying to get through to their parent/parents. This could be something that hasn’t been going on for very long. Then again, this could be something that has been taking place for ...
Views: 21 - Sense Of Deserving: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving? - by Submitted on May 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. So, even if they were to go on holiday, they could spend a lot of time thinking about what they should have done before they left and what they will do when they get back. This will ...
Views: 13 - Hopeless: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have very little motivation or desire to do anything. They might simply not see the point in doing much. This can be how they typically experience life and they might rarely if ever feel a strong need ...
Views: 15 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Toxic shame If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to detach from how they experience life, is that they have the tendency to feel low. This can mean that they will often feel depressed and they may even have moments when they think about ending their life. They may find that this is how they have been ...
Views: 15 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Try To Rescue Women? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be drawn to women who are not in a good way and want someone to look after them. This can mean that if he is not in a relationship with a woman who is like this, he is likely to have a number of female friends who are. At the same time, even if he is in a ...
Views: 18 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Self-Ownership If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be easy-going and ‘nice’, with him having the tendency to do what other people want. In general, he could act as though he is nothing more than an extension of others. By being this way, he is likely to often do things that he would rather not do and be ...
Views: 18 - Disconnected: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Become Even More Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone ends up getting into self-development, they could already be in a pretty shut-down state. However, if they have been this way for most of their life, they might not even realise it. But, although they might not have a good connection with their body and thus, their feelings and a ...
Views: 19 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Realise Their Abusive Parents Were Deeply Wounded In Order To Move Forward? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were abused during their formative years, a number of things could be on their mind. They could want to know why their parent/parents harmed them, for them to validate what they went through and to apologise. However, although they will want to progress ...
Views: 27 - Repressed Pain: Can The Mind Cause Problems When Someone Is Carrying Repressed Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a lot is said about physical and mental problems, and this is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, a lot used to be said about the former whilst very little was said about the latter. Taking this into account, it could be said that this shows how far society ...
Views: 21 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Badness If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, that’s if he was able to step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the inclination to feel bad. When this is the case, he is likely to feel very low and worthless and he might, at times, even contemplate ending his life. Therefore, even if he doesn’t feel this ...
Views: 21 - Relationships: Why Can’t Someone Just Leave An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear about someone who is in an abusive relationship, they could wonder why they haven’t walked away from their partner. This could be seen as not just what is right but also what is logical. Now, this could be someone they know, or it could be someone who they have heard about ...
Views: 24 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Shadow If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, what they may find is that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. They could have the tendency to feel worthless and as though they have no value. As a result of this, they are likely to often feel low and depressed and they may even think about ...
Views: 26 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can be happy spending time by themselves and rarely if ever be or reach out to others. If they are around others, it could be a sign that they are at work or out shopping. ...
Views: 30 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may often feel invisible and as though he doesn’t exist. If he doesn’t feel this way, it could be because a woman who he finds desirable has looked at him or he is seeing a woman or is in a relationship. Thanks to this, he is likely to have a strong need to be seen by a woman and to be ...
Views: 19 - Deprivation: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Deprive Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like it. When it comes to how they live, it could be as though they only have a few needs. There will be their survival needs and then there can be the other needs that they take care of. When it comes ...
Views: 26 - External Focus: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Focused On The External World? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to tune into what is taking place internally and externally. The reason for this is that when it comes to the former, this will allow them to know what their needs are and then go about fulfilling them. As for the ...
Views: 22 - True Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Self Expression With Being Isolated? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual that has their own needs, feelings, thoughts and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. Consequently, it will be normal for them to hide ...
Views: 25 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone’s True Self To Withdraw? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their true self, it is going to mean that they are rarely going to be aware of how they feel and a number of their needs will typically be a mystery. In general, then, they are going to live in their head and be out of touch with their ...
Views: 21 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Lifeless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperLike a car without an engine, a man could spend a lot of his time sitting around and doing very little. For the car to move it will probably need to be pushed, that is unless, of course, there is an earthquake, for instance. For him to move, it might generally take an external force. That can ...
Views: 29 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life is that they are rarely connected to how they feel or their needs. When this takes place, it could be as though part of themselves has disappeared. Therefore, they are not going to be able to operate ...
Views: 28 - Relationships: Can Someone Need To Learn To Be Interdependent If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in a relationship, it may occur to them that how they have behaved for so long is not serving them. The reason for this is that for as long as they can remember, they may have tried to do just about everything by themselves and rarely expressed their feelings. They will ...
Views: 24 - Disempowered: Can A Man Be In A Disempowered State If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal for a man is for him to feel powerless and helpless, and this can mean that he will often feel low and even depressed. What will be clear from this is that he will rarely if ever feel strong and powerful. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything ...
Views: 30 - Relationships: Is A Man Destined To Sabotage His Relationships If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may have recently been in a relationship, only for it to primarily end due to the fact that he kept pulling away. He would then have been available or somewhat available in the beginning but as time went by, he found it hard to emotionally and then physically show up. Now that it has ...
Views: 36 - Mother Wounds: Can It Be Hard For A Man To Speak Up In A Relationship If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is in a relationship, he may find that he has the tendency to swallow his words and not to express how he really feels when he is with his partner. In fact, he might not even be aware of how he feels a lot of the time. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for him ...
Views: 37 - Guidance: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Dependent On External Guidance? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find is that it is often difficult for them to know what to do. So, there will be how this affects them each day and the effect it has on their life as a whole. As a result of this, they are likely to have two ways of deciding what it is that they need to do. First, ...
Views: 29 - False Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Focus On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs to fulfil and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that this is what will typically take place. In general, they could overlook their own needs and lead a life that has very little to do with who they are. Still, this could just be what is normal, meaning ...
Views: 29 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have been given life and will have the rest of their life ahead of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to make the most of the life that they have been given or appreciate that they have more years to live. Instead, they could generally see life as a burden and be ...
Views: 29 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone may be in an intimate relationship and while this may be something that they have wanted to experience for quite some time, it doesn’t mean that they are finding it easy. Instead, they could find that they are finding it harder and harder to be present and to stay connected to ...
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