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- A Problem Shared Is A Problem Halved - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they have the inclination to keep their challenges to themselves, and perhaps they have been this way for as long as they can remember. They may believe that sharing what is going on for them would make them look weak or incapable, for instance. Therefore, even ...
Views: 15 - Vulnerability: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, but this doesn’t mean that a being from another planet would be able to see this if they came down to earth. This being may come to conclude that although there are some people that are, there are others that aren’t. This could be ...
Views: 29 - Boundaries: Do Other People Walk Over You? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that make up ones experience of reality, and these include what they see, hear and smell. What also play an important part are their feelings and thoughts. When it comes to what they see, hear and smell, these are going to be things that other people will also ...
Views: 38 - Your Body Is Not A Dustbin! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the body is a temple, but while this is the case, it could be said that there are plenty of people that don’t view their body in this way. For some people, their body is basically a dustbin. Now, this can mean that someone will put just about anything into their body - ...
Views: 25 - True-Self: Do Some People Use Labels As A Substitute For Finding Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, some people have used different labels to describe themselves. This is something that can be observed by looking at the profiles that some people have created on different social media sites. When it comes to the labels that someone might use on social media, it ...
Views: 26 - Emotional Self: Can It Be Too Painful For Someone To Embrace Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to place their attention on their own being, they could come to see that there are many different parts. What will be clear is that they have a physical self, and then there is going to be their mental and emotional self. This could be as far as they will go, or they could say ...
Views: 33 - Don’t Compare Yourself With Others - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to find out how well they are doing in life, they could end up looking around them. One is then going to compare themselves with the people they are close to, along with the people who they know. Alternatively, one could think about the people in their life who are around ...
Views: 37 - Social Media: Is Social Media Bad For People's Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a lot of people, social media is as much a part of their life as breathing is. When it is a big part of someone’s life, they can have a number of different accounts online. Through having these accounts, it will be possible for them to stay in touch with their friends and family. ...
Views: 31 - Mental Health: Is It Important For Someone To Be Curious If They Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a problem with their car, they would probably take it to a garage to be fixed. There is then no need for them to take a deeper look into what is going on, as another person will do that for them. However, if someone had mental and emotional problems, it is unlikely that ...
Views: 62 - Service: Are Some People Too Undeveloped To Be Of Service To Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s younger years are a time when their caregivers are there to serve them and their adult years are a time when it is down to them to serve others. This could be seen as something that makes sense. As a child, someone is in an undeveloped state and this is why ...
Views: 43 - Repressed Emotions: Can Someone Experience A Lot Of Pain If Their Repressed Emotions Are Triggered? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperPractically from the moment that someone is born, they can end pushing their emotions out of their awareness. After a little while, they can have very little, if any, connection with this part of their being. However, even though they will have lost touch with a big part of who they are, it ...
Views: 37 - How To Develop Self-Compassion - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that although it is relatively easy for you to be compassionate towards others, it is not as easy for you to be compassionate towards yourself. So if another person makes a mistake, you could offer words of support; but if you were to make a mistake, it could be a very ...
Views: 46 - Relationships: Can Someone's Need To Save Others Have A Negative Effect On Their Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear that their friend is going through a tough time, they could give them a call or go to see them. No matter what they do, this could still be a time when they will listen to what they have to say and offer their support. Conversely, if they are in a relationship and ...
Views: 44 - Manifestation: Can Someone's Early Years Define What Their Resonance/Vibration Is Like As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to the law of attraction, positive thoughts attract positive things and negative thoughts attract negative things. There are those that believe this and there are those that believe that this is load of rubbish. This doesn’t mean that there are only two type of people, though, as ...
Views: 55 - Just Be: Do Some People Need To Learn How To Just Be? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is hard for them to take action, with this being something that they need to work on. At the same time, they may find that they are able to take action when it comes to certain areas, yet struggle in others. Either way, it will be vital for them to do what ...
Views: 39 - What Is Inner Baby Work? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, I have been doing inner child work, and the term ‘inner child’ may have been something I first heard when I read one of John Bradshaw’s books. I think that his books are terrific. Anyway, when I first started doing this work I would get in touch with the parts of ...
Views: 59 - Receiving: Why Are Some People Unable To Receive? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there are people that are happy to receive but have trouble when it comes to giving, and, on the other side, there are people who are happy to give but have trouble when it comes to receiving. Nonetheless, although both of these types of people are going to experience difficulties, ...
Views: 49 - Emotional Expression: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a good place emotionally, they could end up talking to a friend about how they feel. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will want this person to do anything; simply sharing what is going on for them could be enough. Opening up about what is going on for them ...
Views: 69(1 vote) - Self-Image: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people feel safe in their body and as though they deserve to exist, there are others that don’t experience life in this way. However, regardless of whether someone fits into the first category or the second, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of it. Yet, even ...
Views: 70 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hide Their True-Self In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship, it could show that they are with someone who they share every part of their being with. What this means is that they will talk about what is taking place in their mind, reveal what is taking place in their heart and share their body. As a result of this, every ...
Views: 97(1 vote) - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Bad For People’s Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, the mainstream media has spoken a lot about mental health. What this has done is created greater awareness around this important topic; something that might not have occurred otherwise. There are at least two ways that this source has played a part. Firstly, it has spoken ...
Views: 74(1 vote) - Self-Image: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They’re Incapable? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one sees themselves as someone who is capable, it is naturally going to have a positive effect on their life. Through having this view, it will allow them to take the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals. Thanks to how they feel about themselves, they will believe that they ...
Views: 77(1 vote) - Speaking Up: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Some People From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to share their views on something, they might not have a problem speaking out. Also, if another person was to do something that they disagreed with, they could also be happy to speak up. What this can illustrate is that this is someone who doesn’t have any trouble ...
Views: 59(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Your Emotional State Controlled By Other People's Moods? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs to whether or not it is a good idea for someone to go along with another person’s emotional state can all depend on what state they are in. If this person is happy, embracing the same state is likely to have a positive effect on ones wellbeing. On the other hand, if this person is angry ...
Views: 79(1 vote) - Emotional Pain: Can Emotional Pain Build-Up If Someone Doesn't Have A Strong Connection With Their Body? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has experienced loss, they could end up experiencing emotional pain. When it comes to how severe this pain is, it can all depend on who has passed on. So, if a family member has passed on, the amount of pain that they are in could be unbearable. Through being in so much pain, ...
Views: 67(1 vote) - Disconnected: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on May 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be someone to spend most of their time living in their body. There will then be times when their awareness leaves their body and goes into their head, but this won’t be the norm. When this does happen, it could be because they are using some kind of ...
Views: 90(1 vote) - Emotionally Unstable: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Easily Triggered? - by Submitted on May 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf an ornament was put outside, it might be able to handle the elements. This doesn’t mean that its appearance won’t change as time goes by; what it means is that it won’t end up falling apart. However, there is also the chance that it won’t be long until it does start to fall apart. It will ...
Views: 63(1 vote) - Sarcasm: Why Are Some People Always Sarcastic? - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperSome people are sarcastic from time, while there are others who use sarcasm practically all of the time. What can define whether or not someone is described as being sarcastic can be how often they behave in this way. At times, another person may find it amusing when one behaves in this way, ...
Views: 124 - Intelligence: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They’re Stupid? - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can be good at something but not realise it; they can also be intelligent but not realise it. As a result of this, the view that they have of themselves is not going to match up with reality. One of the ways that this can affect their life is that they might not ...
Views: 74(1 vote) - Purpose: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Connect To Their Purpose? - by Submitted on May 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to feel lost and as though they have no reason for being on this planet. But while someone like this may find it hard to get out of bed each morning, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t have a job. Still, even if they do have a job, it is ...
Views: 53 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Crave Love? - by Submitted on May 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is likely that just about everyone on this planet enjoys receiving love and affection. Along with this, just as many people are likely to enjoy expressing love and affection. When this takes place, someone can give another person their full attention. Thus, this can also be a time when ...
Views: 65(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone End Up Being Dependent On Others If Their Adult Self Is Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up feeling upset, they may find that another part of them is there to soothe this part of them. Or, if they were to feel a bit deflated and low on motivation, another part of them may offer them support and encouragement. It might then sound as though they have multiple ...
Views: 73(1 vote) - Needs: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Revealing Their Needs? - by Submitted on May 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each person on this planet is an individual who has their own needs, it doesn’t mean that this is something that everyone embodies. Thus, there are going to be people who act like an individual, while there will be others who won’t. If someone does, they are going to be aware of ...
Views: 65 - External Support Will Allow You To Go Where You Wouldn’t Go By Yourself - by Submitted on May 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is carrying a lot of emotional pain, they may do just about everything that they can to keep it at bay. This could take place by taking things, doing things, and focusing on things. What this will typically do is stop them from having to come into contact with what is taking ...
Views: 93 - You Need To Forgive Your Parents! - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone who had a painful childhood was to talk about what took place to another person, they may end up being told that they need to forgive their parents. This could be something that they come out with more or less straight away or it may have taken a while. Furthermore, one could be ...
Views: 128 - Needs: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on May 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it would be easy to say that some people have needs and others are needless, everyone has needs. However, although some people are open about their needs, there are others who try to cover them up. This is one of the reasons why it can appear as though not everyone has needs. As for ...
Views: 79 - Critical Thinking: A Closer Look At The ‘I Speak My Truth in #MyCalvins’ Advert - by Submitted on May 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the latest ad campaign by Calvin Klein, so-called celebrities are talking about how they speak their truth in their Calvin’s. A number of the people in the video say “I speak my truth in my Calvin’s.” Now, if someone hadn’t heard of Calvin Klein underwear before, they might feel the need ...
Views: 80 - You Need To Leave The Past Behind! - by Submitted on May 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I came across a quote that went into how someone’s past needs to be left in the past; if it isn’t, it will destroy their future. The final point was that they need to live for today, not to be caught up in what happened yesterday. One way of looking at this quote would be to ...
Views: 105 - Denial Is Like A Parasite That Takes Over Someone's Mind - by Submitted on May 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperLike most defence mechanisms that can be utilised, denial can make it easier for someone to function on this planet. By denying something, it can stop them from having to feel bad about themselves, allowing them to avoid pain. Their view of themselves will then be protected and this will ...
Views: 74 - You Need To Stop Trying To Save/Rescue Others! - by Submitted on May 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because super heroes are not real people, it doesn’t mean that some people don’t try to mimic them in the real world. When this takes place, someone can have the tendency to try to save/rescue others. These are unlikely to be people who are stuck in a burning building or who are about ...
Views: 71 - You Need To Start Saying No! - by Submitted on May 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is hard for them to say no, having the tendency to do things that they would rather not do. If this is the case, there is the chance that they have behaved in this way for a little while. Maybe they have been this way for as long they can remember. As a ...
Views: 75 - You Need To Raise Your Self-Esteem! - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they have ‘low self-esteem’, that’s if their life is a certain way and/or if they behave in a certain way. The same thing could also be said if they experience a lot of ‘negative’ thoughts. So, someone may find that it is ...
Views: 67 - Emotional Self: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are made up of many different selves, such as an intellectual and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet is in touch with each of these selves. If someone is in touch with each part of themselves, it could be said that they will be operating as a ...
Views: 73 - Critical Thinking: Are Mental Health Problems Out Of Control Because People Are Talking About Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how important it is for people to open up about how they feel. This is often put forward as a way for someone to handle the pain that arises within them. In the past, however, it was radically different as people’s inner problems were generally ...
Views: 88 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Touch With Their True-Self If They Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be in touch with all of their feelings, they will need to be in touch with their body. The reason for this is that their feelings are primarily found in their body, not their head. Ergo, if someone has a good connection with their body, it will allow them to connect ...
Views: 108 - Self-Development: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Become Even More Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on May 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperBy the time that someone gets into self-development, there is the chance that they won’t have a very good connection with themselves. What this means is that they might not have a strong connection with their true essence or their feelings. But even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 78 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Emotionally Unstable? - by Submitted on May 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, being in a relationship with someone who is unreliable, unpredictable and who has the need to keep them on edge and in a place of uncertainty is not going to interest them. If they were in this position, it might only be a matter of time before they walk away. Being with ...
Views: 168 - Be Careful What You Consume! - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said over the years about how important it is for someone to make sure that they don’t just put anything into their mouth. A common phrase is ‘you are what you eat’. What these messages can do is cause someone to believe that is that the only thing they need to think about is ...
Views: 66 - Adrenalin: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Addicted To Adrenaline? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to get an idea of what it is like to experience adrenalin, they could imagine what it would be like if ten people were running after them. Not only will their body be in fight or flight mode, they will also experience a surge of energy and feel alive. What plays a part in ...
Views: 99 - You Need To Stop Caring About What Others Think! - by Submitted on May 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often said by people in the self-development world is that it is important not to care about what other people think. This is not the only area where this is said, though, as there are plenty of pages on social media where quotes are shared that have the same message. ...
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