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- Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone might want to do something, it doesn’t mean that they will take the next step. Instead, they can continually put it off; with them wondering what it would be like if they do do it. There might not just be one thing that they continually put off - there could be a number of ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Outsource Their Assertiveness? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they may find that it is hard for them to stand up for themselves and take action. Consequently, it can be normal for them to keep their views to themselves, do things that they don’t want to do and be walked over, among other ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Lose Touch With Their Survival Instincts? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Lose Touch With Their Survival Instincts? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have An Outer-Directed False Self If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to focus on others and do what they can to please them. This can be something that just takes place without them having to think about it. So, when they are around another person, they ...
Views: 1 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Environment Where They Had To Appease Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s childhood, what they needed was an environment where they felt safe and secure and were loved. However, they might have grown up in an environment that wasn’t anything like this. If so, if both of their parents were around, one of them might have been abusive, while the other ...
Views: 1 - Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis cover all aspects of human transformation; including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child, t - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can want to freely express himself and live his own life, he can find that he is unable to do so. Instead, he can have the need to focus on his mother and meet her needs. As a result of this, he will act more like an extension of her than a separate human being who has his ...
Views: 1 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Identity Crisis When He Breaks Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is behaving as if he is an extension of his mother and is ignoring a number of his own needs, he can feel a strong need to do less for her and do more for himself. Then again, it might go further than this, as he might not want to do a great deal for ...
Views: 7 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Desirable If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been attracted to a number of women who were not interested in him. Along with this, he might have dated a number of women who lost interest in him before long. Also, he may have been in at least one relationship that came to an end because the woman was no ...
Views: 7 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Emotionally Dependent On A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man doesn’t have a woman in his life that he is seeing or in a relationship with, he may feel as though he is missing something. As a result of this, he can feel a strong need to be with a woman. He can believe, for instance, that he is meant to be with a woman, and this is why he ...
Views: 7 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Couldn’t Mirror Back His Value? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels low. Along with this, he might also have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As to how long his life has been this way, he may find that it has been this way for as long as he can remember. ...
Views: 9 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Grieve The Mother He Never Had? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around meeting his mother’s needs, he is going to be neglecting himself. However, although this is so, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Instead, if he does think about how he behaves, he can believe that he is doing the right thing and even ...
Views: 10 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Had A Mother Who Couldn’t Mirror Back Their Value? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone needed a mother who was able to see and reflect their worth back to them, it doesn’t mean that they had a mother who did this. However, if this were the case, they might not realise this now that they are an adult. Yet, if they are not aware of what this stage of their ...
Views: 9 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As An Object? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not at work, it doesn’t mean that he will focus on his own needs. Instead, he can typically be doing things for his mother and overlooking his own needs. So, he could be taking her somewhere, buying things for her, doing a job for her, or listening to her problems, for instance. ...
Views: 10 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Would Be Abandoning His Mother If He Broke Away? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will just be able to change his life. The reason for this is that part of him can have the need to behave in the same way. This part of him can be far stronger than the part of him that wants to experience ...
Views: 10 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Instead, they can typically feel as though they are an incapable child who is unable to handle life. The outcome of this is that they can have the tendency to look to others to make decisions for them and guide ...
Views: 9 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Feeling Supported? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has a physical body and will, thus, have the physical support that they need, it doesn’t mean they will feel supported. Now, this can mean that they rarely exercise and their muscles are not very strong, but this might not be the case. Regardless of how physically strong ...
Views: 11 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has Mother Enmeshed-Mans Conscience Been Outsourced To His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man can find is that when he does what his mother wants, he feels good about himself. Or, at the very least, he notices that he feels settled and is able to focus on what he is doing. However, when he doesn’t do what his mother wants, he can find that he doesn’t feel good about ...
Views: 10 - Sense Of Safety: Can Someone’s Sense Of Safety Be Associated With Pleasing Others If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they can find that they have the tendency to feel anxious when they don’t please others. This is going to make it difficult for them to freely express themselves. They could see that they rarely, if ever, do what is right for them and ...
Views: 12 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Individuating? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will generally act like one. What can be normal is for them to do what they can to please others and what they think will please others. But, as this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of how out of balance they are. ...
Views: 10 - Early Deprivation: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Freely Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they are typically focused on other people's needs and do what they can to please them. Therefore, they typically won’t be connected to their own needs and do what is right for them. They might see that ...
Views: 12 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone See Themselves As An Object If Their Parent Treated Them Like One? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being, and has needs, feelings and inherent worth, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can typically act as though they are an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. The outcome of this is that they will typically ignore a number of ...
Views: 10 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Projecting The Mother He Needed Into His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything ...
Views: 12 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Like A Chameleon If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they more or less always adapt to others. So, when it comes to how they behave, it can depend on who they are with. For example, what can enter their mind is how they play the role of someone who is happy when ...
Views: 14 - OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors. So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance ...
Views: 14 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Been Used By His Mother From A Young Age? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, there is a big difference between a man being there for his mother from time to time and more or less always being there for her. The former will allow him to have his own life, while the latter won’t. But, although there is a big difference between these two scenarios, if a man is ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Life? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have seen a number of her female friends move forward in their careers and form loving and supportive relationships. However, she might not have moved forward in their career nor had a loving and supportive relationship, let alone be in one. Thanks to her inability ...
Views: 14 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
Views: 15 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Noble By Putting His Mother First? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and overlooks his own life, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is what will go through his head. No, what it is likely to mean is that, deep down, he has ...
Views: 17 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Punish Men If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that she is often mean and even cruel toward men. She might see that she has been this way for quite some time. What could enter her mind is that part of her believes that this is how men deserve to be treated. This ...
Views: 17 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Move On From Early Deprivation By ‘Rewiring Their Brain’? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a less than nurturing childhood, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. For example, they could often experience anxiety and fear and feel low. As a result of this, it can be hard for them to function. Due to this, they are likely to want to find a way to ...
Views: 18 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed-Man Used By His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is in a position where he is overlooking a number of his own needs, due to how focused he is on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. But if someone pointed out that he does far more for her than he needs to, it doesn’t mean that it would go in. ...
Views: 19 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trapped In His Mothers Mirror? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man is a separate human being, who has his own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. Instead, it can be as though he is merely an extension of his mother. Therefore, he will meet his basic needs, or he might typically meet them, but that will ...
Views: 17 - Father-Enmeshed Women: Why Would A Father-Enmeshed Woman Find It Hard To Implement Boundaries With Her Father? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, she may find that she spends a lot of time being there for her father and offering her support. She might see that she has been there for him for as long as she can remember. However, what might now stand out is that although she loves her ...
Views: 25 - Father-Enmeshed Women: Can A Father-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship, it might not be long before it comes to an end. Now, this might not be because she is with a man who is not right for her or is treating her badly; no, it can be because of what her father thinks of the man that she is with. So, when she is with her father, he ...
Views: 21 - Father-Enmeshed Women: What Is A Father-Enmeshed Woman? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIt might not matter if a woman is at work, has finished work or is on holiday, as her father might often contact her. Now, if he does ask her how she is doing, he could soon talk about his own problems. Then again, he might rarely ask her how she is doing and could typically talk about his ...
Views: 21 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Self-Image Need To Die? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he acts like an extension of his mother, it is going to be normal for him to neglect himself. So, to say that he will live a life that is not very fulfilling will be an understatement. Naturally, for this to change, he will need to be less focused on his ...
Views: 20 - Early Deprivation: Will Someone Need To Experience An Emotional Birth If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were a time when they were greatly deprived and deeply wounded, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. If they were to think about this stage of their life, they could think about how it wasn’t that bad. They might even have a fairly ...
Views: 25 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Tendency To Cheat? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship, they might have recently shared their body with another or had an affair. Now, this might not be the first time that this has taken place. Not too long ago, they might have behaved in the same way. However, even if this is the first time that this has taken ...
Views: 23 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s Emotional Self To Go Into Exile? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has an emotional self, in addition to a mental self, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that they could typically be out of touch with how they feel. What this is likely to mean is that they will spend most of their life in their head and be ...
Views: 22 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Be Attracted To People Who Will Cheat On Them? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, someone may have found out that their partner has cheated on them. Then again, they might have found out that this has taken place more than once, and that this has been going on for a little while. Either way, thanks to what has happened, they can be in a bad way, both mentally and ...
Views: 25 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Develop A Needless False Self? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being, they could typically act as though they are independent. They are then going to have a number of needs, but, in general, they will create the impression that they don’t. Apart from their basic needs then, such as their need to eat and ...
Views: 22 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Growing Into A Man? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is going to be more like an extension of her as opposed to an autonomous human being who has his own life to lead. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he might not be consciously aware of this. Assuming that this is the case, there will ...
Views: 19 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Fear If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might enter their mind is that they have a number of fears. Due to this, it is likely to make it difficult for them to embrace life. In general, they could live in a way that causes them to be on the outside and unable ...
Views: 21 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Brought Up In An Enmeshed Family? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone acts as though they are merely an extension of their family, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The reason for this is that this can just be what is normal. As a result of this, their main focus will be on doing what they can to please the people ...
Views: 21 - Early Deprivation: Can A Goal Be Another Way For Someone To Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is feeling low and is even depressed, they might believe that they need a goal to work toward. Then again, they could talk to a trusted friend or family member about how they feel, and this is what they could be told. Assuming that the latter takes place, this can be seen as a way ...
Views: 22 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Struggle To Make Unresponsive Women Responsive If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be dating a woman who rarely has time for him, and when she is around, she could typically be somewhere else mentally and emotionally. This might have been going on for a few weeks or months. Either way, thanks to what is going on, he is likely to spend a lot of time ...
Views: 24 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman A Powerless Victim If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman might be with a man who is emotionally unavailable and is often physically out of reach. If so, when she is with him, she won’t be able to connect to him emotionally, and she will rarely, if ever, see him. The reason for this is that he can be focused on his mother’s needs ...
Views: 28 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Try To Make Unresponsive People Responsive If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they continually end up with people who are emotionally unavailable. As a result of this, they are going to be used to being deprived in this area of their life. Additionally, they may have had a very similar ...
Views: 33 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That There Is Not Enough If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that it’s as though they live in a desert. The reason for this is that they could seldom, if ever, receive what they need. So, they might generally be able to meet the needs that allow them to survive, but that ...
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