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- Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone might not have much motivation in life. This is, of course, will be in addition to all of the other challenges that they may have. So instead of having the need to embrace life and to make the most of the life that they have ...
Views: 24 - Healing Journey: How Can Someone Know If They Are Making Progress On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes the first step on their healing journey and looks into what they can do to experience life differently, they may have suffered for many years. As a result of this, they may want their life to change more or less overnight. If the pain that they are in is unbearable, it is ...
Views: 40 - Child Abuse: Was Someone Being Punished If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they might not realise that this is what actually took place. They can then have a number of different problems, but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. One can have mental and emotional problems and their relationships can be anything but ...
Views: 39 - Why Do You Want To Achieve Something? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a New Year has just begun, there is a lot being said about goals and making this a year that is unlike any other. This is something that you may have heard online and/or something that the people in your life have spoken about. When I hear anything like this, it makes me think about ...
Views: 64 - Anxiety: Does The Modern-Day World Make People Anxious? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with depression, anxiety is one of the most common mental, as well as emotional and physical, problems in today’s world. Emotional and physical was used above as both depression and anxiety is not always just a mental problem. Like depression, anxiety is often something that affects ...
Views: 101 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Can Someone Spend Their Adult Life Trying To Receive What They Didn’t Receive As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that their childhood is firmly behind them. Along with looking different, they won’t have the same needs as they had when they were younger. That doesn’t mean that some of their needs won’t be the same, but a lot of them will be different. With this ...
Views: 105 - Anxiety: What Causes Anxiety? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has anxiety problems, they may have a strong need to find a way to change their life. Then again, they could simply tolerate what is taking place and do the best that they can to keep it together. Undoubtedly, it is going to be far better if someone has a strong need to change ...
Views: 210 - Being: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able To Just Be? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will be a human being, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to just be. As a result of this, they will be a human being in name only; they won’t actually be able to act like one. Ergo, instead of being able to do nothing and to feel comfortable doing nothing, they will ...
Views: 114 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their True-Self If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can happen, that’s if one was abused and/or neglected as a child, is that they may have disconnected from their true-self. Due to what took place, they can believe that they have to hide who they are. Therefore, while living in this way will stop them from being able to be an ...
Views: 104 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Other People If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, they might not have a favourable view of their fellow human beings. As a result of this, they will be part of the human race but they can feel the need to keep their distance from others. Through being this way, their life is likely to be far ...
Views: 109 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Worth If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the effects of early abuse and/or neglect is that one can have no sense of their own value as an adult. Deep down, they can feel as though they have absolutely no value whatsoever. As a result of this, it will probably be hard for them to feel comfortable in their own skin and they ...
Views: 99 - Victim Mentality: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is unable to see that they have an effect on their life, they can have what is often described as a ‘victim mentality’. Other people are then going to being in control of what does or doesn’t happen to them. Through experiencing life in this way, it is likely to mean that their ...
Views: 123 - Self-Sabotage: Can Someone’s Fear Of Overshadowing Their Parents Cause Them To Sabotage Their Life? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can have the desire to move forward in their life, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to get very far. Now, this could be because they simply haven’t taken action. Thus, their desire to change their life will be there, but they won’t have taken the time to do ...
Views: 117 - How To Take Action And Live Without Regrets - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that when they look back on their day or their week, there are a number of things that they wished they had done. They could spend hours wondering why they didn’t do something and beat themselves up in the process. The months are then going to go by and one is not ...
Views: 113 - Do The Things That Empower You - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as someone can need to eat certain things to function at their best, they can also need to do certain things to be able to feel empowered. As a result of this, if they don’t do certain things, they won’t be able to feel strong and alive. However, if someone has felt disempowered for a ...
Views: 107 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet that have a sense of their own value and then there are those that don’t. It can be as though some people were born with this in place, while others weren’t. Still, even though it might seem as though this is something that someone is born with, there is far ...
Views: 99 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Existence If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it may have stopped them from realising that they deserve to be here. As a result of what took place, it can be as if they have no right to be on this planet. What took place at this stage of their life will then define how they experience ...
Views: 101 - Victim Mentality: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Let Go Of A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the tendency to believe that the world is against them and that they play no part in what takes place in their life, it is likely to show that they have a victim mentality. Through having this outlook, one is going to be nothing more than an observer of their life. Their life ...
Views: 101 - Your Wounds Are Your Gifts - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that one may have heard, if they are into self-development or on the healing path, is that their wounds are their gifts. Now, if one is in a lot of pain, it can be hard for them to get their head around this. This could be a time when they are struggling with the fear of ...
Views: 110 - Your Wounds Are Your Gifts - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that one may have heard, if they are into self-development or on the healing path, is that their wounds are their gifts. Now, if one is in a lot of pain, it can be hard for them to get their head around this. This could be a time when they are struggling with the fear of ...
Views: 103 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Dissociate As An Adult? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the importance of being present and living in the moment. Numerous books have been written about it and there have even been programs on TV that go into this. This surely shows that this is something that is a challenge for a lot of people; if this ...
Views: 116 - Reach Out For Support If You Need It - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many books and films that talk about how important it is for someone to keep going and to keep getting back up, no matter what happens. This is something that is often mentioned when it comes to being successful and being able to overcome challenges. Another ability that is often ...
Views: 95 - You Are More Than Your Circumstances - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has had a certain challenge for a long time, they can believe that there is nothing that they can do. Therefore, due to how long something has been in their life, it can be seen as something that is permanent. As a result of this, they are just going to have to tolerate what is ...
Views: 99 - Neglect: What Can Happen If Someone Was Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it might be possible for them to see that their childhood was anything but nurturing. However, if they were neglected during this stage of their life, this might not be possible. The reason for this is that when it comes to abuse, someone might be able to see ...
Views: 161 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Different Survival Modes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune. Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ...
Views: 107 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Live In Fight Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in an area that is relatively safe, they could behave as though their life is constantly under threat. What this means is that they could have the tendency to be aggressive. As a result of this, they could routinely get into heated arguments and even fights. So no ...
Views: 97 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone to Live in Freeze Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves. However, while this could be the case, ...
Views: 99 - “Without A Body, I Am Nobody” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body. One then had a physical ...
Views: 89 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers: Can A Man Have A Lot of Unmet Needs To Grieve If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man’s early years are behind him, it doesn’t mean that what took place during this time in his life is no longer affecting him. This may have been a time when his father was physically there, but emotionally absent. What this means is that even though his father was around at ...
Views: 125 - Child Abuse: Can Affirmations Help Someone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone. For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ...
Views: 94 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That It Is Not Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a body and live on planet earth, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being in their body and living on the earth. This can be due to what took place when they younger. If this is so, thanks to what they went through as a child, they won’t be able to ...
Views: 90 - When The Student Is Ready, The Teacher Will Appear - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is going through a tough time or is unable to handle a certain obstacle, they can have the need to find a way through what is taking place. Regardless of what it is, their life might not have been this way for very long or it may have been this way for quite some time. Either way, ...
Views: 84 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can seem as though being seen is a normal part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. So, just because someone’s being can be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with being seen for who they are. There is then going to be a big ...
Views: 85 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go. Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, ...
Views: 91 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers: What Can Happen If A Man Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who grew up with a father, there are others that grew up without one. However, just because some men had their father around, it doesn’t mean that he was actually available. In this case, a man’s early years may have been a time when his father was generally around ...
Views: 149 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 100 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 89 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, if someone was abused as a child, they would end up getting the assistance that they need now that they are an adult. At this point in their life, they will most likely be able to do something about what they went through. The years will have passed, that much is clear, but what they ...
Views: 85 - Are You Carrying Emotional Pain From Your Adult Life? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child can disconnect from their feelings when they are too painful to handle, an adult can also do the same thing. In both cases, it can seem as though the feelings have disappeared. Even so, in both cases the feelings will have most likely been pushed down into their ...
Views: 125 - Emotional Wounds: How Can Someone Heal Their Childhood Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. The time in their life that should have built them up would ...
Views: 115 - There Is Nothing Wrong With You! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would get into self-development or try to change themselves. One reason that this can take place is because they believe that there is something wrong with them. Now, this is not to say that one will be aware of this belief, as is it can be a ...
Views: 152 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If Another Person Is Triggered? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhether one is at university, reading a self-development book, or talking to a friend about what has been taking place in their life, there is a phrase that they could end up hearing. The words that come before or after it could be different but there will be one word that is the same. This ...
Views: 133 - Healing Toxic Shame Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that shame is the hardest feeling to tolerate and it is not hard to see why. This is because when someone experiences shame, they will feel bad and as though there is something wrong with them. One can then experience guilt, with this being a sign that they have done ...
Views: 103 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Saying ‘No’ If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, one thing that they may struggle with as an adult is saying no. Thanks to this, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather not do something. This is going to mean that they will go along with things that they don’t really ...
Views: 109 - Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to engage in the grieving process, it could show that they have lost someone in their adult life. Then again, what it could illustrate is that their childhood was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met. Consequently, one is going to be grieving a time in their life when ...
Views: 123 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Assertive If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ...
Views: 112 - Are You Letting Society Define Whether You Are Successful Or Not? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I was reading a story about someone in the public eye who felt a lot of pressure now that they had reached a certain age. This person said that there were a number of things that they should have achieved at their age. These were things that society told them that they needed ...
Views: 103 - What Can Someone Do To Understand Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having emotions is a normal part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that someone is born with the ability to understand them. In the same way that someone will need to be taught how to speak, they will also need to be taught how to understand their own emotions. Therefore, ...
Views: 96 - Being Present: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often spoken about in self-development is the importance of being present. In some cases, this is seen as the answer to every problem and, in others, it is just seen as something that will allow someone to function better. So when someone is present, they won’t be caught up ...
Views: 125 - Meditation Can Help You To Develop Self-Control - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at the current age would be to describe it as the age of impulsivity. Unlike the past, there is less pressure on people to keep things in and to control their thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, people are often encouraged to express how they feel and to allow their inner ...
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