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- Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk On Eggshells Around Women? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man may typically feel comfortable enough to be himself when he is around another man, this might rarely be the case when he is around a woman. When he is around a woman, he could have the tendency to become someone else entirely. During this time, then, he is not going to behave how ...
Views: 12 - Therapy: Why Don’t Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they want them to go and/or they may have only been ...
Views: 18 - Overwhelmed: Is It Easy For Someone To Be Overwhelmed If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they can handle a fair amount of stimulation without feeling washed out. So, one could wake up and check their phone, spend most of their day around others, and even go out in the evening, and everything could be fine. Along with this, there can be all the time ...
Views: 26 - Mental Health: Are Mental And Emotional Problems Part Of Life? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, mental and emotional problems receive a lot of coverage in the media and there are plenty of people that talk about them on social media. Therefore, what is taking place is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, mental and emotional problems were rarely spoken about and, ...
Views: 23 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Good Idea To Tell Another Person That They Are ‘Unlucky’? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to find out that a friend or a family member was going through a challenging time, they could end up reaching out to them. This could be a time when they will ask them about what has been going on. The other person could tell them that their partner is not treating them very ...
Views: 24 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Be Disconnected From Themselves So That They Can Play God? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the answers are within and that ‘who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes’ (Carl Jung). Based on this, it could be said that there is a lot going on internally. Therefore, if someone is connected to their inner world, they will have access to their truth and ...
Views: 22 - Does The Film ‘Joker’ Show What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I had the chance to watch ‘Joker’ and I must say that this was an intense film. I thought the story was solid, the acting was stupendous, and the score worked nicely too. Unlike so many of the other superhero films, this was very lifelike. I would even go as far as to say that ...
Views: 27 - Drama: Are Some People Addicted To Drama? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in the world that almost always have something taking place that prevents them from living a peaceful and harmonious existence. For these people, their life can have a lot in common with a soap opera. Now, unlike soap operas, these people might not have people in their life ...
Views: 32 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse One Of The Reasons Why So Many People Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward. One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ...
Views: 57 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Are Triggered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has only just started to spend time with someone, they can find that just about everything runs smoothly. So whenever they are with the other person, they can feel good and even relaxed. During this stage, they could believe that this is how it will always be and that they won’t ever ...
Views: 51 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Did A Man’s Father Play A Part In Why He Is Enmeshed To His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR Cooper. If a man’s life basically revolves around his mother and, therefore, he has the tendency to neglect his own needs, there is a good chance that he is a mother enmeshed man. He is then not going to act like an individual; he will act as though he is an extension of his mother. If he has the ...
Views: 49 - Child Abuse: Is It Clear To See That Abusive Parents Were Also Abused By Their Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused as a child, they can struggle with two questions. Firstly, they can wonder why their own parents treated them so badly, and secondly, they can wonder why their parents would repeat what was done to them. These two questions can consume their mind a ...
Views: 39 - Healing: Can Someone’s Adult-Self Heal Their Wounded Child-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone is likely to find is that there are times in their life when they react. When this takes place, something inside them will have been triggered and they will do something that they wouldn’t usually do. Therefore, instead of responding to something; it will have been as though they ...
Views: 38 - Being Seen: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Live In Other People's Shadow? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings have their own needs and feelings and, therefore, have their own life to lead, it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet will have their own life. Instead, some people will have the tendency to fade into the background. When someone experiences life in this way, they ...
Views: 38 - Child Abuse: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they can be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Like a car that has been in a massive accident, they won’t just have a few scratches; every part of them can be messed up. So, their thoughts and emotions can be all over the place, their brain might ...
Views: 45 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that play a part in someone being able to live a life that is worth living, and having a sense of self worth is one of them. When one has this in place, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. Through having the ability to feel good about ...
Views: 45 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that everyone on this planet has a part of them that provides them with aggression. This part of someone will provide them with energy, drive, enthusiasm and the ability to stand their ground. Of course, it can also be something that can cause them to cause destruction, not ...
Views: 43 - Child Abuse: Is It Normal For Someone To Feel Guilty After Their Abusive Parent Passes On? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had parent who was abusive during their early years, it can be hard for them to get on with them now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that this parent could be in denial when it comes to what took place all those years ago. Or, this parent could make out that one ...
Views: 46 - Support: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To Support Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone’s early years would have been a time when they were supported and given what they needed to grow and develop. Providing this took place, one should be able to support themselves now that they are an adult. One will then be classed as someone who is self-sufficient or ...
Views: 49 - Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Stay In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in their body and feels connected to it, they will experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will be aware of what their feelings and needs are, and this will mean that they will be in touch with their true-self. Along with this, they will probably find that they ...
Views: 57 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Lose Themselves When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to get into a relationship, is that they start to lose touch with who they are. So as the weeks and months go by, they will be nothing like they were in the beginning. Or to be more precise, they will be nothing like the person they were when they ...
Views: 83 - Trauma: Can ‘Staying Present’ Be Another Way For Someone To Avoid Their Trauma? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they need to ‘stay in the moment’, ‘be present’ or to ‘live in the now’. Experiencing life in this way is often seen as the answer to most of life’s challenges. Now, there is no denying that life is going to be a lot harder for ...
Views: 70 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Move On If They Have An Emotionally Unavailable Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may have come to see is that their parent wasn’t emotionally available during early years and, now that they are adult, this parent is no different. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced as a child could continue to this day. It then won’t be a case of what took place ...
Views: 59 - Intimacy: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings have a strong need to form deep and meaningful connections. These are then not the type of connections where only surface level things are spoken about and an emotional distance is kept. With this type of connection, someone will share what is taking place ...
Views: 63 - Is Ancestral Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn some people’s eyes, it is someone’s formative years that will have had the biggest effect on what they are like. For others, someone’s DNA that will have had the biggest effect on how they turned out. There are then those that believe that it is not one or the other, it is actually both. ...
Views: 60 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Their Truth? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s truth, this could be seen as their thoughts, beliefs, feelings and what they sense, among other things. It is then something that relates to what is actually taking place inside them. In other words, this will include the things that are part of their own experience ...
Views: 56 - Survival Mode: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Live In Survival Mode? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone heard a loud bang, they could end up experiencing a strong reaction. Their whole body could end up freezing and they could stop breathing, that’s if their breathing doesn’t become very shallow. Before long, they could end up getting out of this state and going to see what exactly ...
Views: 85 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Raise Her Son To Be A Surrogate Spouse? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some men are able to form healthy relationships with women, there are others that are unable to do so. There are, of course, a numbers of reasons as to why this is. For those that are unable to do so, it can be because they lack confidence or are emotionally disconnected. Then again, ...
Views: 88 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a strong need to please others, it is going to be difficult for them to express themselves. Their main priority will be to do what they can to do what other people want and what they think they want. Therefore, instead of being aware of what their needs are and doing what ...
Views: 55 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To ‘Move On’? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the loss of a loved one is one of the hardest things to experience on this earth. This can relate to a family member, a partner, a friend, and even a pet. When this takes place, someone can end up being mentally, emotionally and physically floored. It can be as if their ...
Views: 65 - Self-Neglect: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People’s Needs First? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone focuses on other people’s needs and does what they can to make sure that they are taken care of, they can end up being seen as a ‘good’ or ‘selfless’ person. One can behave in this way when they are at work and when they are around their friends and family, for instance. By ...
Views: 84(1 vote) - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Traumatised So That They Will Accept Their Own Enslavement? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about mental health and how so many people are not in a good way. Now, although some people are not in a good way due to something that they have personally been through, it could be said that there are others are not in a good way due to what the modern day ...
Views: 81 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Sense Of Safety To Others? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of safety, it will be possible for them to pay attention to what is taking place inside them and to utilise this information. In other words, one will be able to act like an individual. Ultimately, they will feel comfortable being in their body and safe to exist, ...
Views: 101 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Control People By Keeping Them In A State Of Ignorance? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to find out about if something is true or not, it will most likely be vital for them to have access to a wide range of information. When this takes place, it will be possible for them to come to an accurate conclusion. Simply having access to a lot of information won’t be ...
Views: 76(1 vote) - The Media: Is It Important For Someone To Be Sceptical When It Comes To The Mainstream Media? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to read a newspaper or to watch a news station, they might keep a mental distance (psychological distance) from what they are exposed to. Said another way, they won’t let what they hear to go straight into their mind. Through being this way, they will be able to take a deeper ...
Views: 70(1 vote) - Emotional Development: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Put People On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might appreciate what another person does, it doesn’t mean that they will end up elevating them to a high position. One might realise that no matter what they can do, they are still a human being. Therefore, this person might be able to do something that they themselves can’t ...
Views: 68 - “The World Is Designed To Depress Us!” - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA Few days ago I came across a post that had been shared on a social media site that went into how ‘the world is increasingly designed to depress us’. This was something that had been written in a book and the page that this had been written on had been shared. It went on to say that ...
Views: 76 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a problem to be solved, two things need to take place. Firstly, it needs to be clear that there is a problem, and secondly, it needs to be clear what the problem actually is. For example, ones car might not be running properly but, until they become aware of this absolutely ...
Views: 102 - Therapy: Can Someone Look Towards A Therapist To Fulfil The Needs That Their Friends/Family Should Fulfil? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to reach out to a therapist if they have inner problems. This can be seen as a good thing as it is far better for someone to ask for help than it is for them to suffer in silence. If they have a relatively minor problem, they may find that they only ...
Views: 71 - Reiki Healing Can Ease Your Pain - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperI was looking through a newspaper the other day and one thing that caught my eye was an article about the opioid crises. In this article, addiction specialist Dr Robert Lefever, spoke about how so many people are hooked on drugs that are designed to take pain away. When this happens, someone ...
Views: 75 - What Can Someone Do To Be Highly Stressed? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt might seem as strange as to why I used the title above as it is not as though anyone would consciously look for a way to become highly stressed. Even so, this doesn’t mean this won’t take place unconsciously. Without realising it, someone can do just about everything that they can to ...
Views: 72 - People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they have a strong need to please others, making it hard for them to live their own life. Or to be more accurate – this can stop them from being able to live their own life. So by having the need to do what other people want as opposed to what they themselves ...
Views: 65 - Feeling Safe: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Stay In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their body, they will be aware of how they feel and what their needs are. Through having this connection, they will be able to make use of the information that is inside them. So, if they feel tired or as though they are not at their best, they will be able to ...
Views: 63 - Worry Is A Misuse Of Imagination - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I looked through a booked called ‘The Art Of Peace’ by Philip Dunn. This book was full of great advice, and there were two things that I ended up noting down. The first thing I made a note of was what he said in regards to the education system. He said that, ‘we ...
Views: 73 - Success: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Associate Being Uncomfortable With Death? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may find, if they are into self-development, is that they have been told on a number of occasions how important it is to get out of their comfort zone. Still, even if this is not something that they are into, they may have still heard it. Perhaps they have heard that their comfort ...
Views: 82 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Unsafe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a house or a tall building to stay in place, it will need to have firm foundations. Through having firm foundations, the support that the structure needs to exist will be provided. Not only will the building stay in place, but the people that go into the building will also feel ...
Views: 62 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Develop An Adult Self In Order To Move On From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their early years, they may find that it is not possible for them to put the past behind them. A number of decades may have passed since that time in their life, but it could be as if very little time has passed. And although their caregivers didn’t treat them ...
Views: 80 - "People Haven't Got Time To Have Years Of Therapy!" - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, when I was online, I read something that really stood out. The general gist was that due to how busy people are in today’s world, they haven’t got the time to have years of therapy. As a result of this, they need to be able to transform their life in a much shorter period ...
Views: 69 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse A Form Of Indirect Revenge? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by one or both of their caregivers during their early years, it can be hard for them to understand why this was. One question that can enter their mind is: why would the people who were supposed to love and care for me treat me so badly? This can be a question that they ...
Views: 66 - Critical Thinking: Why Would A Woman Want To Put Fillers In Her Face? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, dermal fillers were only used by a small amount of women but, as time has passed, this has changed. Far more women use them than ever before and there are undoubtedly a number of reasons as to why this is. One important distinction that needs to be made here is the difference ...
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