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- Self-Awareness: Is This Year A New Beginning? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a year ends and another year begins, it is often seen as being a new beginning. What took place for someone in the previous year will be behind them and they will have the chance to create a very different life. To be reminded of this, they will only have to look at down at their watch ...
Views: 12 - Coronavirus: Is It Harder For Someone Handle What Is Going On If They Are Carrying Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is currently taking place in the world, it has meant that a large part of the population hasn’t been able to carry on as normal. Right now, a lot of people are in isolation and are only allowed to leave their home to do certain things. When it comes to those who are not ...
Views: 17 - Critical Thinking: Is There A War On Consciousness? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, most people live in countries that provide around the clock news coverage. Thanks to this, there is no reason why any of the citizenries who live in a country like this need to miss out on what is going on. When someone pays attention to the mainstream news source, or even an ...
Views: 28 - Repetition Compulsion: Why Would Someone Repeat The Past? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, I watched a video of a brown bear that kept walking around in circles. This bear was not in a cage, though, it was outside and was thus, free to go anywhere that it wanted. Apparently, it wasn’t that long ago that this bear was in a cage and didn’t have the freedom that it ...
Views: 41 - Needs: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Hide Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their own behaviour, they may see that they have the inclination to hide their own needs. They may see that, in general, this is something that just happens. It is then not going to be something that they always think about doing; it will ...
Views: 41 - Critical Thinking: Is A Large Part Of Humanity Estranged From Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn most, if not all, societies around the world, it is normal for a large part of the citizenry to look towards others for answers and to guide them. In a lot of cases, these people don’t just look towards anyone, though; they look towards the experts and the authorities. Nonetheless, this ...
Views: 43 - Critical Thinking: Is Everything “Fake News”? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, the mainstream media spent a lot of time talking about “fake news”. This was seen as something that was “undermining democracy” and had led to a “post-truth world.” As time passed, different social media platforms cracked down on the “fake news” and fact-checking sites ...
Views: 62 - Critical Thinking: Is A Large Part Of Humanity Stuck In The Drama Triangle? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media routinely gives exposure to stories where one person, or a group of people, is the victim and another person, or a group of people, is the perpetrator. One person will then have been randomly harmed in some way by another person. The former will have been powerless to do ...
Views: 78 - Critical Thinking: Has A Large Part Of Humanity Outsourced Their Perception Of Reality To The Media? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a lot of people who looks towards the mainstream media to inform them about what is taking place in the world. In fact, this will be the main source that they look towards to keep them up to date about what is happening ‘out there’. When someone is in this ...
Views: 55 - Emotional Pain: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Emotional Pain If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough experiencing emotional pain from time to time is simply part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everything can relate to this experience. For some people, this is something that they will experience after a breakup, a loss, the end of a job, or when something doesn’t go as they had ...
Views: 78 - Healing Journey: Can Black And White Thinking Hold Someone Back On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be a number of reasons as to why someone would be in a bad way and unable to simply ‘get on with life’ or to ‘put the past behind them.’ Perhaps their early years were very abusive or maybe they experienced a lot of neglect during this time. It could go back even further than this ...
Views: 76 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may want to form deeper connections with others and to even have an intimate relationship, this might not have been possible. When it comes to the former, they may have only been able to get so close to people, and, when it comes to the latter, it might not be any better. If ...
Views: 64 - Negative Feelings: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Attached To ‘Negative’ Feelings? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take the time to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel good. Along with how they feel, there is going to be what takes place. At this point in time, they could believe that what takes place causes them to feel as they do. ...
Views: 71 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity In A Battle Between Good And Evil? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is currently taking place in America and around the world, a number of people believe that now is a time when it is good vs. evil or light against darkness. Some of these people are religious and some are spiritual, but they will more or less have the same ...
Views: 75 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear People? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be consciously aware of the fact that they fear their fellow human beings, they can still be aware of the consequences of having this fear. So, if someone in this position was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, what could instantly stand out is how ...
Views: 113 - Critical Thinking: Who Are People Going To Project Their Issues Into When Trump Is No Longer President? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn a very short period of time, America will have a new president, and this president is likely to be in the white house for at least four years. For a lot of people in America and around the world, this moment can’t come soon enough. They will be pleased that the current president will be ...
Views: 119 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Create A New Story? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what is taking place in the world, the mainstream media is at hand to inform people. This source generally creates the impression that what they have to say is the truth. Most, if not all, of what this source focuses on is negative and so, if someone spends a lot of time ...
Views: 84 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need A Saviour? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDuring certain points in history, some people have looked for someone to save them from a challenging situation. Along with this, there have been individuals who have had the same need. Fast forward to the present day and it is clear that not a lot has changed in this regard. There are still ...
Views: 89 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise That They Are Co-Creators Of Their Reality? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, it can seem as though the world is in a mess and that it will only get worse. As a result of what appears to be taking place, it can be normal for someone to feel helpless and hopeless. When it comes to how they currently perceive the world, what can play a big part is ...
Views: 91 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Emotionally Shut Down Around Others? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their emotional self around others, it will allow them to feel connected to them and to fully embrace the moment. Being this way will also allow them to develop deeper relationships with others. So, whether it relates to a friend or an intimate partner, one will ...
Views: 97 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they are able to step back and to reflect on their life, is that they rarely feel emotionally strong and secure. In general, they could feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, fearful and scared. On the outside, then, they will look like an adult but they feel like one ...
Views: 84 - “You Suffer From Survivors Guilt” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the final episode of season five of Arrow, Slade says to Oliver that he “suffers from survivor’s guilt”. After this, Slade says that he can’t get over the death of his father and that he needs to forgive himself. Confused, Oliver asks what he needs to forgive himself for, to which Slade ...
Views: 69 - Critical Thinking: Has Humanity Been Traumatised Into Outsourcing Their Own Health? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the western world, a large part of the population looks towards health professionals to take care of their health. This is something that has taken place for many, many generations and is likely to continue for many generations to come. When someone has this approach, there is a chance ...
Views: 89 - Critical Thinking: Will The World Only Change If People Become Aware Of What ‘The Elites’ Are Doing? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years now, it has been said that the world is ruled by a small group of people. Some of the people who have been talking about this for decades have even become household names. This can be seen as largely the result of the platforms that are now available online and how easy ...
Views: 88 - Critical Thinking: Is Someone Deluded If They See Themselves As Being ‘Awake’? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who see themselves as being ‘awake' and even ‘high vibration’ and, in their eyes, it can be essential for other people to ‘wake up’ and to even ‘raise their vibration’. This can be seen as a key part of what will change what is taking place on this earth. Someone like this ...
Views: 112 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Leave Their Body? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that someone can do when they feel overwhelmed and are unable to handle what is going on. They can get away from what is taking place or they can get away from themselves. If the former takes place, it can show that what is going on externally is the problem. ...
Views: 107 - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, while someone’s early years may have been a time when they received what they needed in order to grow and develop, there is also the chance that this wasn’t the case. As a result of this, they would have been deeply traumatised at this stage of their life. However, even though this took ...
Views: 84 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To ‘Stop Blaming Their Parents’ If They Were Abused? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, one could be in a position where they believe that their parents are to blame for what they are going through. This could show that their life is in a mess and they may have mental and emotional problems. Perhaps they have only had this outlook for a short while, or ...
Views: 109 - Survival: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that although they want to experience life in a certain way, it is not possible for them to do so. If they were to think about how long their life has been this way for, they may find that it has been this way for as long as they can remember. Consequently, they may ...
Views: 111 - Receiving: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, it might occur to them that they have a problem receiving. They may see that although they give a lot, not a lot comes back to them. It is then not that they sit around all day waiting for things to just drop into their lap, ...
Views: 123 - False-Self: Can ‘Spirituality’ Cause Someone To Develop A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is spiritual, it can mean that they are ‘in this world but not of this world’ and have a deeper connection to themselves and nature. They will know that there is more to life than what their five senses would have them believe. So, while their mind, along with their eyes, will ...
Views: 96 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone’s Childhood Trauma Be Triggered During Their Adult Life? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt one point in time, someone could be able to handle life, and, at another, they could be in a very bad way. This could show that they have just experienced a breakup or a loss, or perhaps they have just lost their job. Irrespective of what has taken place, they are not going to be the ...
Views: 112 - Victim Mentality: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to reach out for external support, is that they have what is classed as a ‘victim mentality’. This is what they could be told if they were to open up about what is going on for them and how they experience life. When it comes to what is going on for ...
Views: 116 - Powerless: Can Someone Feel Deeply Powerless If They Have Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and to reflect on how they generally feel, they may find that they often feel powerless. This might not just be something that they feel, though, as it could be an experience that consumes them. There is then going to how they see life and themselves, ...
Views: 133 - Relationships: Are Some People Here To Save/Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who typically come across as weak, powerless and incapable, and then there are those who typically come across as strong, powerful and capable. The former can look towards the latter to save them, and the latter can do what they can to save the former. This dynamic is ...
Views: 117 - Unconscious Mind: What Can Happen If Someone Doesn’t Realise That They Have An Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone’s life is like, there are at least two things that will play a part. Firstly, there will be what is taking place in their mind, and secondly, there will be their behaviour. Nonetheless, what is taking place in their mind will be the most important part, as what ...
Views: 117 - Decisions: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Make Decisions? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is not aware of the fact that they experienced trauma during their early years, what they may be aware of is the fact that they find it hard to make decisions. It might not matter if it is a big or a small decision as it could still be a challenge. As a result of this, they ...
Views: 114 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Destroy Their Life? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that there are a number of areas of their life that are not how they want them to be. For example, they may find that most of their relationships are not very functional and they might not have been able to make much ...
Views: 111 - Critical Thinking: Why Is A Large Part Of Humanity Over-Reliant On Experts? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the current pandemic, a lot of people have been looking towards the mainstream media and the government for guidance. For a lot of these people, the aforementioned sources are seen as having all the answers. Therefore, as long as they stay up-to-date with what these two sources say, ...
Views: 92 - “We’re In Some Sort Of Shared Hallucination” – Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote about the Arrow crossover episode titled “Invasion!” Shortly after this, it occurred to me that there was something that I had missed that I had to write about it. So, if you haven’t read the first part, it will be a good idea for you to read this article first, and ...
Views: 105 - “We’re In Some Sort Of Shared Hallucination” – Part One - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had watched what I would describe as a normal Arrow episode, the next episode ended up being another crossover episode titled “Invasion!” I thought this was well-made and shook things up a bit. Since that time, I have thought about what happened in this episode, and I think it is ...
Views: 129 - Emotional Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are at least three types of people; those who are connected to their mental and emotional self, those who have a weak connection to their mental self and those who have a weak connection to their emotional self. Naturally, the ideal will be for someone to be connected ...
Views: 127 - We Are Made Up Of Different Parts - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look in the mirror, it would be clear that there is only one of them, and this is something that every other person on the planet would say. The only time that this wouldn’t take place is if they have at least one identical twin. However, although they will only have one ...
Views: 118 - Rejection: Can Someone Feel Rejected Before They Are Even Born? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to strike up a conversation with someone who they are attracted to, they may end up being rejected by them. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this person didn’t reject them, they just rejected the version of them that showed up and there can be a number of reasons ...
Views: 132 - "You Should Know What My Needs Are!" - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when it is possible for someone to know what another person’s needs are and times when it won’t be. That is, of course, unless someone has the ability to read minds; if they do, they will always know. But, if this ability is put to one side, another person will need to ...
Views: 150 - “I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I read a book called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.” This is an old book, originally published in 1989, but I thought it was still excellent. I would say that even if someone doesn’t have a borderline personality or even know ...
Views: 182 - “The Only Way Out Is Through” - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things. Something that caught my attention was when the main ...
Views: 146 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need For Approval If He Grew Up With An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s father was rarely, if ever, emotionally available during his formative years, this is likely to have been a time when he didn’t receive what he needed in order to develop in the right way. This would have caused him to experience a lot of pain. However, he wouldn’t have had any ...
Views: 248 - Critical Thinking: Are Human Beings Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone lives in the western world, or in a country that has been heavily influenced by it, they will probably see themselves as just an observer of their reality. So, in the same way that they will just view what is on a screen, they will also just view what is taking place around ...
Views: 123 - “I Have To Become Someone Else. I Have To Become Something Else” - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAround five years ago, whilst I was visiting a friend, I ended up watching a series called ‘Arrow’. I hadn’t heard of it before but I was happy to give it a go and after watching the first episode, there was one thing that was on my mind – to watch the next one. I thought that it was very ...
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