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- Commitment: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Commit? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to achieving something, developing a skill or having an intimate relationship, for instance, it will be essential for someone to make a commitment. Through making a decision to stick with something, they will be able to make progress and to reap the benefits of doing so. If this ...
Views: 31 - Critical Thinking: Is A Lack Of Individuation One Of The Biggest Problems In Today's World? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a lot has been said about the number of people who are suffering from mental and emotional problems. This is something that the mainstream media regularly cover. After the inner part of people’s beings was largely overlooked by mainstream society for so long, this can be seen ...
Views: 31 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Who Is Against Hate Become Hateful? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, a lot has been said in the mainstream media about ‘hate’ and what needs to be done about it. There have also been a number of different things that have taken place to try to deal with it. Along with what is said by this source and the government, there is what ...
Views: 37 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Out Of Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, it could seem as though someone has a good connection with themselves and that what is taking place inside them is defining how they behave. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that there is any truth to it. One could generally be out ...
Views: 36 - Sense Of Self: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense of Self? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone may come across as a strong and as though they have a good connection to themselves. Additionally, they could typically appear to be happy and full of life. But, although they can generally create the impression that they are a well-adjusted adult, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 51 - Individuation: Can Someone Be Reactive When They Haven’t Individuated? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperUndoubtedly, if someone has the ability to not be caught up in what is going on around them, their life will be far better than it would be otherwise. They will be able to stay centred and to be the ‘calm in the storm’ so to speak. This will allow them to stay focused on what matters and to ...
Views: 48 - Critical Thinking: Does The Illusion of Separation Make It Harder For Humanity To Change The World? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the ways that a lot of people find out about what is taking place where they live and the world as a whole is via the mainstream media. So, by watching a screen and/or reading a paper, someone will be informed. Along with this, there will be those that primarily look towards the ...
Views: 73 - Sense Of Safety: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Safety? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an inner sense of safety, it will be possible for them to be in their body and to express themselves. What this comes down to is that in order for someone to inhabit their body, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. As this component is in place, they will comfortable ...
Views: 75 - Critical Thinking: Is There A Lot Of Rage Held In The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what has been taking place in America and other parts of the world, it is clear to see that a lot of people are enraged. To use an analogy; it is as though a number of small volcanoes have erupted and have continued to erupt as the weeks and months have gone by. Still, in the ...
Views: 75 - Emotionally Reactive: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s mind and emotions were settled and they felt at peace, they may wonder what it would be like to experience life in this way more often. Then again, thanks to how rarely they experience life in this way, they could be totally consumed by what is taking place. Perhaps they have ...
Views: 83 - Child Abuse: Why Can It Be Hard For Someone To Open Up About Being Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they could be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. What they experienced will have taken place many, many years ago, but they won’t have truly put the past behind them. There is a strong chance that what they went through during this time left a mark ...
Views: 84 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Fight Instinct If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to assert himself and to stand his ground, he will need to have a strong connection to his fight instinct/aggression. Ultimately, this part of his being will provide him with the vitality and the power that he needs to truly embrace life. Having this connection doesn’t ...
Views: 91 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone’s True-Self To Go Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and what their life is like, there is the chance that these two things are a reflection of what is taking place internally. In other words, there will be a connection between their inner world and their outer world. This is not to say that their behaviour ...
Views: 106 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Disconnect From His Masculinity If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he may see that he has been passive, easy-going, and found it hard to assert himself. Consequently, he will have most likely spent a lot of time around people who are the complete opposite. He may find that he has spent a lot of time around both men and ...
Views: 89 - Father Wounds: What Can A Man Believe If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about his early years, he might end up thinking about some of the good moments that he shared with his father. Then again, this could be a time when he will remember moments that were far from good. What this may illustrate is that, during this phase of his life, he had ...
Views: 81 - Self-Image: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what someone went through as a child and even before they were born, they can believe that they don’t deserve to be on this earth. However, while this core belief, along with others, will be defining their life, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of it. Like a fish in water, how ...
Views: 85 - Child Abuse: Is It Normal For Someone To Idealise One Parent And To Demonise The Other? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Due to how much time has passed and the defences that they have in place, they might not be able to remember what took place at this stage of their life. Then again, they might ...
Views: 86 - Critical Thinking: Does Someone Need To 'Be The Change' That They Want To See In The World? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperUnless someone has been living under a rock or in the middle of nowhere and had no connection with the outside world for a number of years, they will have probably noticed that there are a lot of people that want to change the world. Or to be more exact, they will be aware that there are a lot ...
Views: 71 - Negative Mindset: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop A Negative Mindset? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they see themselves and their life, they may come to the conclusion that they have a ‘negative mindset’. If they were to open about to someone else, this person could also say the same thing. If they were to make a note of how they ...
Views: 84 - Critical Thinking: How Can Someone Change The World By 'Healing Their Inner Wounds'? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperCritical Thinking: How Can Someone Change The World By 'Healing Their Inner Wounds'? 29/8/20200 Comments According to Robert Johnson, a Jungian analyst and author, Carl Jung was often asked if humanity would survive. This is what Robert said in relation to this question, "People often ...
Views: 91 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanities Existence Under Threat From The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOnce something has been pushed out of someone’s conscious mind, it can seem as though it has disappeared. This could be something that takes place in a very short period of time or it could take a little while longer. At one moment in time, then, it will have been there and in the next, it ...
Views: 100 - Childhood Wounds: Can Someone’s Adult Life Be A Manifestation Of Their Childhood Wounds? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that once someone is an adult, their childhood years will be well and truly behind them. It could be said that this is to be expected, considering that they will look like an adult. That phase of their life will be over and it simply won’t be possible for them to ...
Views: 94 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have An External Focus? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the internal world, and on the other, there is the external world. The ideal will be for someone to be aware of what is going on within and to be aware of what is going on without. Through being this way, they will be able to tune with their needs and feelings, and they ...
Views: 108 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they are able to mentally detach from how they experience life, is that they don’t feel good about themselves. If they were to take an even closer look, they may see that they feel like a bad person. Even so, this doesn’t mean that they have the ...
Views: 97 - Father Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Physically Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who grew up with a father who did what he could to protect them and to provide them with a sense of safety and security, there are others who had a radically different father. As a result, this would have been someone who they didn’t feel safe around and perhaps did ...
Views: 103 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Mobilize Collective Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about the main thing that the mainstream media was focusing on at the turn of the century, they could think about terrorism. What could also come to mind is how much of a focus there was on the Middle East. Further, it could occur to them that thanks to what this ...
Views: 94 - Critical Thinking: Is A Lack Of Self-Awareness One Of The Biggest Problems In Today's World? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about some of the biggest global challenges, they could mention the things that most people are aware of. For example, they could talk about climate change, poverty, inequality, and terrorism. These are the challenges that are often highlighted by the mainstream ...
Views: 85 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Have To Earn The Right To Exist? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf instead of doing what they usually do, someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may see that it has been one big struggle. Nonetheless, this is not to say that they won’t have ever experienced good things or have good things in their life. There is the chance that ...
Views: 106 - Terror: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Carry A Lot Of Terror? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s early years will have left a big impact on their whole being, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. In fact, they might not even think about what took place at this stage of their life. Still, their body, their inner world and their view of the world could all ...
Views: 88 - Self-Assertion: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to assert themselves. This won’t just relate to standing their ground and saying no, though; the usual things that are associated with this expression. No, it will relate to ...
Views: 89 - False Self: Is The Need To Rescue Others Part Of The False-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor as far back as one can remember, they may see that they have had the inclination to save or rescue others. As a result of this, they will be used to being there for others and doing what they can to ‘help’ them. For so long, it would have seemed as though they were doing the right thing, ...
Views: 103 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperBy taking a step back and thinking about how some of the people in their life behave, one could come to the conclusion that they are very different. The reason for this is that one could see these people as being very emotional. If they were to describe themselves, they could say that they ...
Views: 100 - Individuation: Is It Hard For Someone To Individuate If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to look at their life, they may see that they have the tendency to please others. Therefore, instead of paying attention to their own needs and acting as an individual, they will act as though they are merely an extension of others. After having behaved ...
Views: 95 - Powerless: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a pretty miserable existence for many, many years, someone may come to see that feeling powerless is a normal part of their life. This means that they are unlikely to feel this way from time to time, they can more or less always feel this way. If they don’t feel this way, based ...
Views: 101 - Critical Thinking: Is The World A Manifestation Of Our Unresolved Fears? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to something that someone fears, there are at least two things that they can do. One option is for them to face what they fear and resolve it; another option is for them to avoid what they fear and to try to make sure that what they fear doesn’t take place. Not only can someone ...
Views: 89 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Them To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter many, many years of pain, one could find that they have the need to keep people at a distance. At this point, it will be clear that it is not other people; it will be the person who they see whenever they look in the mirror. But, although they will now understand that they are the ones ...
Views: 121 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been out of touch with their needs for as long as they can remember, one could now be in a position where they have decided that enough is enough. Perhaps the pain of living in this way has got too much for them to handle. Now, this doesn’t mean that they will be out of touch ...
Views: 124 - Childhood Trauma: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When Their Life Has No Structure? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water. To be clearer, their emotional self will be all over the place and ...
Views: 128 - Fear: Do We Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone fears as an adult, it might not seem as though it has got anything to do with their early years. In fact, one might struggle to remember most of what took place during their early years. Consequently, when it comes to what they fear, it could seem as though these ...
Views: 115 - Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Have The Tendency To Demonise Others? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch an old black and white film, they could describe it as being a bit one-dimensional. There will be two colours, black and white, and there will even be some grey, but that will be it. After this, they could end up watching a film that has recently been released, with it ...
Views: 132 - Receiving: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty When They Receive? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is receiving, and, on the other, there is giving. Now, although it would be easy to say that each of these elements is as important as each other, this is not the case. One of these things is more important than the other and this is because if one of them doesn’t take ...
Views: 123 - Healing Journey: What Are The Signs Of Growth On The Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, their early years were a time when they received what they needed to receive in order to become a resilient, integrated and secure adult. Thanks to what took place during this stage of their life, their adult years may be pretty ‘normal’. So, they could have gone through the ...
Views: 124 - Toxic Shame: What Are The Different Levels Of Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to shame, it could be said that there is normal, or healthy, shame, and then there is abnormal, or unhealthy, shame. Another way of looking at this would be to say there is shame and there is toxic shame. What this means is that shame is not bad per se; it is simply part of the ...
Views: 129 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need To Protect Their Parents Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a harrowing experience as a child, the best thing will be for them to reach out for support now that they are adult. At the same time, it could seem as though what they went through as a child is all in the past, so there is no need for them to worry about what ...
Views: 230 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Will Die If They Reveal Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, that’s if they were able to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that they are typically out of touch with most of their needs and feelings. Thus, instead of paying attention to what is taking place within them and allowing this information to play a big ...
Views: 248 - Individuation: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Individuating? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be physically separate from others, it doesn’t mean that they will be emotionally separate from them. What this means is that they may find that their emotional state is typically defined by what is going on around them. Therefore, if they are in a relationship and their ...
Views: 133 - Being Seen: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they behave around others, they could find that they have the tendency to lose themselves and to be who other people want them to be. It could be as though a button has been pressed, causing their behaviour to completely change. As a ...
Views: 146 - Critical Thinking: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Drawn To Conspiracy Theories? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that more or less believe everything they hear from the mainstream media and the authority figures that are in the public eye, and then there are those that are the complete opposite. The former can view the latter as being ‘conspiracy theorists’, while the latter can view the ...
Views: 147 - Child Abuse: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was physically abused as a child, there is the chance that this is not something that will ever cross their mind now that they are an adult. They may remember certain parts of their childhood, or it could be one big blur. It could seem strange as to how something so traumatic could ...
Views: 144 - Relationships: Are There Four People In Every Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people out there that are in an open relationship and then there are people out there that aren’t. When it comes to a relationship that is monogamous, it could be said that there will only be two people involved. Unlike the other type of relationship, each person will only need to ...
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