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- Do The Things That Empower You - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as someone can need to eat certain things to function at their best, they can also need to do certain things to be able to feel empowered. As a result of this, if they don’t do certain things, they won’t be able to feel strong and alive. However, if someone has felt disempowered for a ...
Views: 8 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet that have a sense of their own value and then there are those that don’t. It can be as though some people were born with this in place, while others weren’t. Still, even though it might seem as though this is something that someone is born with, there is far ...
Views: 26 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Existence If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it may have stopped them from realising that they deserve to be here. As a result of what took place, it can be as if they have no right to be on this planet. What took place at this stage of their life will then define how they experience ...
Views: 36 - Victim Mentality: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Let Go Of A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the tendency to believe that the world is against them and that they play no part in what takes place in their life, it is likely to show that they have a victim mentality. Through having this outlook, one is going to be nothing more than an observer of their life. Their life ...
Views: 37 - Your Wounds Are Your Gifts - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that one may have heard, if they are into self-development or on the healing path, is that their wounds are their gifts. Now, if one is in a lot of pain, it can be hard for them to get their head around this. This could be a time when they are struggling with the fear of ...
Views: 40 - Your Wounds Are Your Gifts - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that one may have heard, if they are into self-development or on the healing path, is that their wounds are their gifts. Now, if one is in a lot of pain, it can be hard for them to get their head around this. This could be a time when they are struggling with the fear of ...
Views: 34 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Dissociate As An Adult? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the importance of being present and living in the moment. Numerous books have been written about it and there have even been programs on TV that go into this. This surely shows that this is something that is a challenge for a lot of people; if this ...
Views: 49 - Reach Out For Support If You Need It - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many books and films that talk about how important it is for someone to keep going and to keep getting back up, no matter what happens. This is something that is often mentioned when it comes to being successful and being able to overcome challenges. Another ability that is often ...
Views: 43 - You Are More Than Your Circumstances - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has had a certain challenge for a long time, they can believe that there is nothing that they can do. Therefore, due to how long something has been in their life, it can be seen as something that is permanent. As a result of this, they are just going to have to tolerate what is ...
Views: 44 - Neglect: What Can Happen If Someone Was Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it might be possible for them to see that their childhood was anything but nurturing. However, if they were neglected during this stage of their life, this might not be possible. The reason for this is that when it comes to abuse, someone might be able to see ...
Views: 59 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Different Survival Modes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune. Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ...
Views: 60 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Live In Fight Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in an area that is relatively safe, they could behave as though their life is constantly under threat. What this means is that they could have the tendency to be aggressive. As a result of this, they could routinely get into heated arguments and even fights. So no ...
Views: 55 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone to Live in Freeze Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves. However, while this could be the case, ...
Views: 52 - “Without A Body, I Am Nobody” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body. One then had a physical ...
Views: 48 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers: Can A Man Have A Lot of Unmet Needs To Grieve If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man’s early years are behind him, it doesn’t mean that what took place during this time in his life is no longer affecting him. This may have been a time when his father was physically there, but emotionally absent. What this means is that even though his father was around at ...
Views: 47 - Child Abuse: Can Affirmations Help Someone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone. For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ...
Views: 52 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That It Is Not Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a body and live on planet earth, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being in their body and living on the earth. This can be due to what took place when they younger. If this is so, thanks to what they went through as a child, they won’t be able to ...
Views: 51 - When The Student Is Ready, The Teacher Will Appear - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is going through a tough time or is unable to handle a certain obstacle, they can have the need to find a way through what is taking place. Regardless of what it is, their life might not have been this way for very long or it may have been this way for quite some time. Either way, ...
Views: 49 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can seem as though being seen is a normal part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. So, just because someone’s being can be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with being seen for who they are. There is then going to be a big ...
Views: 40 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go. Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, ...
Views: 45 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers: What Can Happen If A Man Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who grew up with a father, there are others that grew up without one. However, just because some men had their father around, it doesn’t mean that he was actually available. In this case, a man’s early years may have been a time when his father was generally around ...
Views: 53 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 55 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 51 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, if someone was abused as a child, they would end up getting the assistance that they need now that they are an adult. At this point in their life, they will most likely be able to do something about what they went through. The years will have passed, that much is clear, but what they ...
Views: 48 - Are You Carrying Emotional Pain From Your Adult Life? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child can disconnect from their feelings when they are too painful to handle, an adult can also do the same thing. In both cases, it can seem as though the feelings have disappeared. Even so, in both cases the feelings will have most likely been pushed down into their ...
Views: 70 - Emotional Wounds: How Can Someone Heal Their Childhood Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. The time in their life that should have built them up would ...
Views: 64 - There Is Nothing Wrong With You! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would get into self-development or try to change themselves. One reason that this can take place is because they believe that there is something wrong with them. Now, this is not to say that one will be aware of this belief, as is it can be a ...
Views: 63 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If Another Person Is Triggered? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhether one is at university, reading a self-development book, or talking to a friend about what has been taking place in their life, there is a phrase that they could end up hearing. The words that come before or after it could be different but there will be one word that is the same. This ...
Views: 76 - Healing Toxic Shame Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that shame is the hardest feeling to tolerate and it is not hard to see why. This is because when someone experiences shame, they will feel bad and as though there is something wrong with them. One can then experience guilt, with this being a sign that they have done ...
Views: 70 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Saying ‘No’ If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, one thing that they may struggle with as an adult is saying no. Thanks to this, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather not do something. This is going to mean that they will go along with things that they don’t really ...
Views: 57 - Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to engage in the grieving process, it could show that they have lost someone in their adult life. Then again, what it could illustrate is that their childhood was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met. Consequently, one is going to be grieving a time in their life when ...
Views: 77 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Assertive If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ...
Views: 66 - Are You Letting Society Define Whether You Are Successful Or Not? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I was reading a story about someone in the public eye who felt a lot of pressure now that they had reached a certain age. This person said that there were a number of things that they should have achieved at their age. These were things that society told them that they needed ...
Views: 61 - What Can Someone Do To Understand Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having emotions is a normal part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that someone is born with the ability to understand them. In the same way that someone will need to be taught how to speak, they will also need to be taught how to understand their own emotions. Therefore, ...
Views: 64 - Being Present: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often spoken about in self-development is the importance of being present. In some cases, this is seen as the answer to every problem and, in others, it is just seen as something that will allow someone to function better. So when someone is present, they won’t be caught up ...
Views: 76 - Meditation Can Help You To Develop Self-Control - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at the current age would be to describe it as the age of impulsivity. Unlike the past, there is less pressure on people to keep things in and to control their thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, people are often encouraged to express how they feel and to allow their inner ...
Views: 92 - Are You Buying Into Someone Else's Narrative? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch the news on TV or to read a paper, they are likely to hear about what is taking place in the world. It can seem as though the channel or paper is simply passing onto them what is taking place; nothing more, nothing less. This whole process will then be very similar to ...
Views: 83 - Jealousy: Why Do Dome People Have The Tendency To Feel Jealous Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they feel bitter about what someone else has or what they have achieved, there can be others that have a very different experience. For someone like this, this can be something that they experience on a regular basis. It might not ...
Views: 85(1 vote) - Letting Go Of The Fear Of Being Seen Won’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, after being on the path of self-discovery for a little while, is that they have a fear of being seen. This is not to say that they will isolate themselves from others and never leave their home. No, what it is likely to mean is that they will spend time around others ...
Views: 108(1 vote) - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Will Only Be Loved If They Need Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to support themselves as an adult, it is likely to cause them to experience a fair amount of frustration, to say the least. This could mean that they don’t have a job or that the job that they have doesn’t pay them enough. If this is how their life has been for a ...
Views: 104 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Needs If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for ...
Views: 82 - Is Social Media Making You Do Things That You Wouldn't Usually Do? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was reading a paper, I came across a story about someone who said that they became a sex addict thanks to social media. This person said that they had got sucked into a social media site and this caused them to go down a path that they wouldn’t have gone down ...
Views: 100 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Intimacy If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it could be hard for them to get close to others. Their early years would have been a time when the people that were supposed to love and protect them crossed their boundaries on a daily basis and violated them in a number of other ...
Views: 87 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Control People By Keeping Them In A State Of Confusion? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a very long time, the establishment was able to control what most people could or couldn’t find out about. There were many ways that this took place, with some being more obvious than others. One way was via the creation of a school curriculum that only taught certain things. Two other ...
Views: 82 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Seen If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected when they were a child, it may be hard for them to reveal who they are now that they are an adult. What could feel comfortable is hiding from others and hiding when they are around others. However, even though this is what can take place, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 130 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About The Opposite Sex If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that early abuse and/or neglect can do is set someone up to have serious relationships problems as an adult. They could be used to having relationships that are dysfunctional. Then again, it could be far worse, with them having had a number of relationships that were abusive. They ...
Views: 117 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go. Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ...
Views: 89 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, there is the chance that their life is far harder than it would be otherwise. They can have mental and emotional problems, health problems, and their relationships could be in a complete mess. However, while what took place ...
Views: 114 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can see the opposite sex as being one way, or they can see them as being another way. A very black and white way of looking at this would be to say that they can see them in a positive light or they can see them in a negative light. However, regardless of what view they ...
Views: 129 - Self-Worth Is Not Something That Is Developed Overnight - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, they can look for a way to change how they feel. They could be in a very desperate place, which may mean that they will try just about anything if it promises to change their life. So if they were to come across a book that said that their life ...
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