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- Why Do We Behave In Ways That Harm Us? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that you often behave in ways that don’t benefit you and even harm you. Further, you may find that you there are people in your life who behave in the same way, holding themselves back in the process. After you have behaved in a way that doesn’t benefit you, you may ...
Views: 21 - Ceremonial Grade Cacao Is Powerful - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAround ten years ago, I would add something called cacao to some of the drinks that I would make. This was a time when I would usually have an oat and milk smoothie for my breakfast and adding cacao would give me a break from the usual taste. The years went by and I stopped having this ...
Views: 23 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe very fact that someone is on this planet – has incarnated – could be put forward as evidence that they deserve to exist. But, although this is so, someone could still believe that they don’t deserve to be here. Through having this belief, it won’t be possible for them to see that they ...
Views: 34 - Developing Self-Belief Doesn't Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they lack self-belief, they may look into what they can do to develop it. Then again, they could merely put up with what is taking place and do their best to carry on as normal. The reason for this is that they may believe that there is nothing that they can ...
Views: 23 - Individuation: Is Individuation A Lifelong Process? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self. This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two ...
Views: 22 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Those Who Are Against Hate Are Often Full Of Hate? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of feelings that can cause someone to engage in behaviour that is destructive. Rage is one of those feelings as is hate, with these being feelings that can be completely overpowering. Therefore, due to what can take place when someone is experiencing one of these feelings, ...
Views: 28 - Nihilism: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Nihilistic? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what someone would be like if they are nihilistic, the main thing that could come to mind is that this person will believe that life has no meaning and nothing matters. They are then not going to be full of life and they might be happy to destroy things. Through ...
Views: 39 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Have A Victim/Perpetrator Consciousness? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous ways in which someone can perceive life and while some of these ways will be empowering, others will be disempowering. Ergo, if someone believes that the world is a safe place overall and that people are generally kind, they are likely to experience life in a certain ...
Views: 38 - Toxic Shame: What Can Happen If Someone Disconnects From Their Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are feelings that can be seen as being ‘positive’ and then there are feelings that can be seen as being ‘negative’. When it comes to how a feeling is perceived, it is likely to depend on the impact that it has on someone’s mood. If a feeling causes one to feel good, it can be seen in a ...
Views: 43 - Happiness: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have the need to be happy, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being happy. Consequently, they can end up doing just about everything that they can to make sure that they are never happy. Still, while they will be sabotaging their own happiness, it doesn’t ...
Views: 43 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in touch with and is able to express their personal power, there will be no need for them to control others. They will have control over themselves and their own life, which will take away their desire to infringe on another person’s boundaries. Through being this way, they ...
Views: 60 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easier For 'Intelligent' People To Avoid Their Own Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to having a physical body, human beings also have a number of other bodies. There is what could be classed as an emotional body, mental body and at least one other body that can’t be perceived by the five senses. Now, although each person on this planet has a number of different ...
Views: 66 - Self-Sabotage: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, even though someone can want to achieve something or to improve their life in general, it doesn’t mean that they won’t hold themselves back. But, while they can hold themselves back, this can be something that they are not even aware of. Consequently, what is going on externally will be ...
Views: 39 - “What You Resist, Persists” - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I heard the saying, ‘what you resist, persists’. When I first heard it stood out but it didn’t really mean much, but as time has gone by and my understanding of it has changed, it has gradually come to mean a lot. Anyway, a few days ago I came across this quote whilst I ...
Views: 62 - "The Reason For Evil In The World Is That People Are Not Able To Tell Their Stories" - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard the quote above by Carl Jung, I had a clear idea about what he was talking about. My interpretation of what he said is that unless someone is able to talk about what they have been through, they will end up harming others. This is not to say that they will end up killing millions ...
Views: 63 - “Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion” - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was looking through some of Carl Jung quotes, one that stood out was ‘“Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion”. When I saw this, it reminded me of something that I said about toxic shame a number of years ago. In at least two articles, I said that in the same way that acid destroys things, ...
Views: 42 - “Neurosis Is Always A Substitute For Legitimate Suffering” - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the term ‘legitimate suffering’, it might not make any sense to them. But, if they were to hear the word ‘neurosis’, they might have a rough idea about what it means. This could be seen as a normal part of living in a society that encourages the avoidance of pain and ...
Views: 66 - “People Will Do Anything, No Matter How Absurd, To Avoid Facing Their Own Souls” - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago I watched “A Dangerous Method” and this was about a stage of Carl Jung’s life. Watching this film gave me the urge to find out more about him and since that time, a number of his quotes have caught my attention. One that has stood out is, “People will do anything, no ...
Views: 68 - Fight Instinct: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf the word ‘aggression’ is mentioned, it is usually an indication that someone has behaved in an aggressive manner. It could also show that someone is an aggressive person, with them having the tendency to behave in a destructive way. But, although it would be easy to see aggression as ...
Views: 66 - Disembodied: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Live On The Surface Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can look whole, but that doesn’t mean that they are actually whole on the inside. This is not to say that they will be missing certain organs; it means that they might not be an integrated human being. If another person was to get to know them, they may soon realise ...
Views: 70 - Critical Thinking: Is The George Floyd Situation An Example Of How The Elite Manipulate The Masses? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone doesn’t pay much attention to what is taking place in the mainstream media, they are likely to have a heard that a black man in America was killed by a white policeman and be aware of the protests that have ensued. These are protests have taken place throughout America and in ...
Views: 77 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone was as abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. This can primarily be the result of the defences that their mind has in place. To handle what took place during their early years, so that their life didn’t come to an end, ...
Views: 63 - Child Abuse: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them. Many years ...
Views: 69 - Needs: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Reveal Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. If someone does, their life is likely to be far more fulfilling than it would be otherwise. Through being this way, it will be possible for all of them to show ...
Views: 75 - Do You Find It Hard to Handle Setbacks? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to look back on your life, you may find that it hasn’t been easy for you to handle setbacks. It might not matter if it has related to a big or a small setback, as you could have a very similar experience. At the same time, perhaps you have just experienced a setback and don’t need ...
Views: 75 - Critical Thinking: Does The Western World Have Borderline Personality Disorder? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to spend a certain amount of time in the company of people who have a borderline personality disorder, they are likely to end up with a fairly good understanding of what this disorder is all about. But, while this is likely to be a time in their life that is extremely informative, it ...
Views: 87 - Critical Thinking: Has Childhood Trauma Played A Part In The Riots That Are Taking Place? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of weeks now, a lot of coverage has been given to what is taking place in America. This is somewhere where some people have been protesting, whilst others have been destroying property. But, although both of these things have been taking place, it doesn’t mean that every media ...
Views: 93 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Forgive Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may see that they were abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that this is something they have realised for very long. If they have been aware of this for a little while, it doesn’t mean that they were very young when this became clear. The main reason as to why it would have ...
Views: 69 - Is Inspired Action An Important Part Of The Manifestation Process? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter becoming clear about what it is that they want to attain, or experience, someone may believe that the next step will be for them to have the right thoughts. Through ‘thinking positive’, what they desire will show up. If they have this outlook, it is likely to show that they have been ...
Views: 78 - Why Is Fear A Powerful Manifestor? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to experience/attain something, it won’t just be a case of them having the right thoughts; they will also need to have the right feelings and to behave in a certain way. What this comes down to is that their thoughts are just one part of the equation. This might be hard ...
Views: 80 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media The Puppet Master Of The Masses? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked if they could remember a time when the mainstream media has lied, it might not take them long to think of something. In fact, a number of examples of when this has taken place could enter their mind. As a result of this, they might not simply accept what this source comes ...
Views: 86 - Critical Thinking: Has The Collective Unconsciousness Erupted In America? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the impact that the Coronavirus has been having, it seemed as though it would be the main news story for quite some time. However, as a result of what has been taking place in America, it has started to receive less attention. If someone lives in America, they may have started to ...
Views: 81 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to reflect on what has been taking place in the western world for a number of years now, what they may come to conclude is that there appears to be a lot of people that have a highly developed victim mentality. Irrespective of whether they have come across ...
Views: 100 - Personal Power: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing Personal Power? - by Submitted on May 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of personal power, they are likely to experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will feel powerful and know that they have an effect on their life. As a result of this, they are not going to have a problem with saying no and asserting themselves. If they ...
Views: 91 - Repetition Compulsion: Why Do We Repeat The Past? - by Submitted on May 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may realise that they are experiencing the same scenarios over and over again, there is also the chance that they won’t. If they are, it could seem strange as to why this keeps happening. What they may conclude, after reflecting on what is taking place, is that they have no ...
Views: 97 - “The Individual Has Always Had To Struggle To Keep From Being Overwhelmed By The Tribe” - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, I heard the following quote from Friedrich Nietzsche, “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning ...
Views: 119 - Are You An Old Soul? - by Submitted on May 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have heard a number of people use the term ‘old soul’. Whenever this term has been used, it has been used to describe someone who is seemingly wise beyond their years, aware, a healer and/or someone who is ‘spiritual’, for instance. It hasn’t mattered if this person was at ...
Views: 121 - Forgiveness: Does Someone Need To Forgive Themselves In Order To Let Go Of The Past? - by Submitted on May 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been harmed by another person, they could end up being told that they need to forgive them. This could be put forward as the only way for them to truly move on from what has happened. For this to take place, they will need to let go of the ‘negative’ feelings that they have ...
Views: 117 - Do Our Feelings Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on May 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you feel good, you could believe that it is due to what is taking place externally. Likewise, if you feel bad, you could also believe that it is due to what is taking place externally. In both cases, you won’t have played a part in how you feel, and you will be nothing more than a passive ...
Views: 120 - Critical Thinking: Is The Purpose Of The Coronavirus To Terrorise People? - by Submitted on May 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that Covid-19 first started to have an impact at the start of December 2019, hence why there is a 19 in the name. This was in China and, for a number of weeks after this, most countries around the world carried on as normal. However, as the weeks went by and it became clear ...
Views: 120 - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Bad For People’s Health? - by Submitted on May 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what is currently taking place in the world, it has meant that a lot of people have paid more attention to the mainstream media than usual. Additionally, there are those that have started to pay attention to this source again after having ignored it for so long. As far as this source ...
Views: 131 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Create The Impression That We Are Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on May 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has ever been exposed to the mainstream media, which they most likely will have been if they are on this planet, they may realise that this source generally focuses on the same things. So, irrespective of whether they were to pay attention to this source now or if they were to think ...
Views: 120 - Critical Thinking: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop Extreme Views? - by Submitted on May 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term ‘extreme views’ is mentioned, all kinds of things could enter someone’s mind. They could think about what they last heard from the mainstream media, or what they last heard from the alternative media. Then again, their mind could give them clear examples of extreme views without ...
Views: 134 - ‘Men have a Strong Aversion To Shame’ - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the book ‘Manhood’ by Steve Biddulph, there is a section where he says that “a deep aversion to shame has become wired in to male biology.” The reason that is put forward for is that “throughout history, women are most sexually attracted to high-status males”. What this means is that if a ...
Views: 152 - Healing Journey: What Can Happen If Someone Believes That Their Thoughts Create Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s inner world is not in a good way, they could simply tolerate what is going on and not do anything about it. Then again, they could end up looking for a way to change their life. When it comes to what is taking place inside them, they could find that their thoughts and feelings ...
Views: 143 - If You Have Fallen, You Will Rise Again - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, I was thinking about the moments in my life when I have had setbacks and what has often gone through my head when this has taken place. When I think about what happens, it’s a bit like I’m in one season. During this time, and irrespective of what season it is, part of me ...
Views: 168 - Critical Thinking: Has Trauma Had An Effect On How The Physical Body Is Viewed In Today’s World? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a lot has changed over the years, it is not uncommon for the physical body to be seen as nothing more than a lump of meat. It is then an area that is not affected by what is taking place in someone’s internal world (their thoughts, emotions, feelings or beliefs) or what is taking place ...
Views: 134 - Do You Believe That You Need To Hide Your True-Self In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperYou may find that when you are around others, you don’t always show up. In fact, this could be something that more or less always takes place when you spend time with others. This could be how you have been for as long as you can remember. If you have only just started to become aware of ...
Views: 166 - Your Beliefs Are Creating Your Life - by Submitted on May 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I had no idea what beliefs were, let alone the impact that my beliefs were having on my own life. At this stage of my life, I didn’t think that I had much of an effect on my life and that I was nothing more than an observer of it. This all changed in ...
Views: 118 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child When Their Childhood Trauma Is Triggered? - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be moments in every adult’s life when they will feel like a child. When this takes place, it could be said that they will have regressed to an earlier stage of their life. During this time, someone may feel scared, powerless or helpless, with it being irrelevant that they ...
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