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- Critical Thinking: Does Someone Need To Be Mindful If They Pay Attention To The Mainstream Media? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor many people around the world, paying attention to the mainstream media is part of life. It is then not something that they need to think about doing; it is merely something that they do. Most, if not all, of these people, will have probably been this way since they were very small. Their ...
Views: 5 - Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Want Or What You Don't Want? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of last month, I wrote an article title ‘Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Don’t Want?’ Since that time I have been thinking more about this topic and, as a result of this, I decided that I had more to share. This article could be seen as a follow-up or it could be seen ...
Views: 9 - Critical Thinking: Why Is It Hard For Some People To Accept That Their Government Lies To Them? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that not only believe that their government, along with other governments around the world, would lie to them but who also have the evidence to back it up. This is then not going to be something that has just happened once; it will be something that takes place on a regular ...
Views: 28 - Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Don’t Want? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to take a step back and to reflect on your life, you may find that there are a number of things that you are not too happy about. In addition to this, you could find that you spend a fair amount of time thinking about these areas. What this is then going to mean is that a fair ...
Views: 23 - Emotionally Frozen: Can Someone Become Emotionally Frozen If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone will have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they will find it easy to connect to what is taking place in their body. This doesn’t mean that they won’t be able to connect to the sensations in their body; no, what it means is that it can be hard for them to connect to ...
Views: 41 - Intimacy: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Have A Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for the term ‘fear of intimacy’ to be thrown around. In general, it is more likely that someone will use this term to describe another person than to describe themselves. One reason for this is that it is usually easier for someone to spot this in other than it is ...
Views: 47 - What Challenges Can Someone Encounter On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I look back on my life, I can see that my healing journey began in 2003 when I met my first mentor. This was a woman who I would go on to study with for a number of years. During our time together, I would go on study Reiki healing and NLP. It wasn’t just the qualifications that I picked ...
Views: 55 - Controlling: Can Someone Become Controlling If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet that have no interest in controlling anyone or anything, while there are those that want to control everyone and everything. Thus, some people will be at one end of the spectrum and some will be at the other end. At the same time, it is likely that just about ...
Views: 64 - Coronavirus: Will It Be Harder For Someone To Handle What Is Going On If Their Emotions Are Out Of Control? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the contagion, there is what is taking place externally and then, there is what is taking place internally. Also, in the same way that there will be people that are more affected by what is taking place externally than others; there will also be people that are more affected by what is ...
Views: 53 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Forcing Some People To Face Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor a long time now, the world has been moving forward and it seemed as though nothing could stop it. Now, though, due to the coronavirus, the world is rapidly coming to a standstill. Of course, the world was moving before and it is still moving now; what has changed is that a lot of the ...
Views: 55 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel As Though Death Is Imminent If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that everyone on this planet is going to die at one point or another. Thus, to say this is not being ‘negative’, it is simply stating something that is part of the human experience. This doesn’t mean that someone should endlessly think about the fact that they will ...
Views: 66 - Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the more in control someone feels, the better their mental and emotional health will be. This is not to say that someone needs to be a total control freak and to control everyone and everything in order to be in a good place. What it comes down to is that when one has a ...
Views: 60 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Being Emotionally Disconnected If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they are typically out of touch with how they feel. During the moments when this isn’t the case, that’s if they have these moments, it could be because something dramatic has taken ...
Views: 59 - Do You Need A Healing Mentor? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of my healing journey, in 2003, it was like I was walking around in the dark. I had no idea about what was going on and I also had no idea about how I was going to change my life. One of the first things that I did, in order to try to understand what was going on, was to ...
Views: 66 - Repressed Emotions: Can Times Like These Bring Up Someone’s Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although there have been certain events that have had a big effect on a lot of people in recent years, it could be said that there hasn’t been anything for a while that is quite like what is currently taking place. If there are people that haven’t heard about what is going on, it could show ...
Views: 64 - You Are That Which You Seek - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I was out of touch with what I would class as my true essence. I felt disconnected, powerless and I didn’t know why my life was the way that it was. The pain that I was in made me look for answers; I needed to find a way to change my life. I didn’t know ...
Views: 90 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Do Some People Disconnect From Their Emotions When They Are Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone will be in tune with how they feel when they are around others; the reason being that it will allow them to function as a whole human being. Through being aware of how they feel, they will be able to connect to how other people feel and to connect to their own emotional ...
Views: 133 - Self-Knowledge: Can Someone End Up Being Addicted To 'Negative’ Feelings If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked if they would rather feel good or bad, they would probably choose the former. This would make complete sense as it is far better to feel good than it is to feel bad. Nonetheless, although this is what they are likely to say, it doesn’t mean that this is what typically ...
Views: 122 - Is Your Story Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I was reading something that went into how our story can allow us to lead a fulfilling life or it can do the opposite. This was something that I had heard about a number of years before, but after hearing it again, it reminded me of how powerful our story is and it made me ...
Views: 106 - Do You Feel Stuck? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps, after not being in a good way for a little while or quite some time, you ended up reaching out for external support. Yet, although your intention was to change your life, you may find that this hasn’t really taken place. You may have read a number of books and even had a few ...
Views: 88 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Someone Disconnect From Their Emotions If They Have Experienced Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to a physical and mental self, someone also has an emotional self. Nonetheless, just because they will have at least three parts to their being, it doesn’t mean that they will always be in touch with each of these parts. What one may find, that’s if they were to reflect on how ...
Views: 156 - Therapy: Can Someone Become More Attached To Their Story If They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not how they want it to be, they could end up reaching out for external support. Naturally, this is going to be far better than simply tolerating what is going on and suffering in silence. This could be a time when they reach out for the support of a therapist or healer. ...
Views: 128 - Critical Thinking: Why Would Someone Believe That Another Person Has All The Answers? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone that had a deeper understanding of something, it doesn’t mean that they would end up putting this person on a pedestal. As a result of this, the other person will be seen as knowledgeable but one won’t perceive them as being better than they themselves ...
Views: 143 - Focus On What You Want, Not On What You Don’t Want - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine called Wain Gordon. This was a time when he spoke about how important it was for us to put our energy into what we want to experience. He said that it is easy to focus on what we don’t want and to completely ...
Views: 140 - Self-Worth: Do Some People Have To Develop Their Self-Worth Even Though They Were Born With It? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are born with inherent worth, meaning that this is not something that they need to develop or even earn. At the same time, what is often spoken about is what someone can do to develop their own self-worth. Upon hearing both of these views, one could end ...
Views: 142 - Healing Journey: Can Someone End Up Feeling Worse When They Start To Heal Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to get to the point in their life where they can no longer carry on living in the same way, they could end up buying a book on self-development or they could find a therapist to work with. What this could show is that their inner world is not as they would like it to be. As a ...
Views: 105 - Narcissists: Do These Types Of People Deserve As Much Attention As Narcissists Receive? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to talk about how they are with or were with someone who is a narcissist. Conversely, they could say that social media is full of people that are like this. Furthermore, are also numerous videos and books that go into how to handle someone who is like ...
Views: 163 - Inner Child: Can Someone Feel Powerless When They Merge With Their Wounded Inner Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are people that generally feel strong and as though they have control over their life, there are others that don’t. Consequently, these people are likely to have a very different experience on this earth. Not only will their inner world be different, their outer world is also ...
Views: 135 - I Believe In You - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps you are going through a challenging time right now or maybe your life has been tough for a while. Either way, a big part of you may wonder if you have what it takes to move forward. So even if a small part of you believes that you do have what it takes, this part of you won’t exert ...
Views: 118 - Emotional Flashback: What Is An Emotional Flashback? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that there are moments when they end up feeling completely overwhelmed by how they feel. When this takes place, it could seem as though they have absolutely no reason to feel as they do. However, ...
Views: 123 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have Trouble Moving Forward If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the human body, it could be said that it is designed to take someone forward. Of course, they can walk back but it is not as easy as it is for them to walk forward. Now, although going forward, not backwards is what is supposed to take place, it doesn’t mean that someone will ...
Views: 107 - Trauma: Can Someone Project Their Past Onto Their Present If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would reach out for the support of a therapist or a counsellor. Still, if someone was to take this step, it could show that they are going through tough a time and can no longer handle what is going on. Perhaps they are experiencing a fair ...
Views: 101 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to fully show up in life. What could be normal is for them to hide when they are around others or to hide away from others. Still, regardless of what takes place, the outcome will be the same. If they do hide ...
Views: 104 - Trauma: Can Mind-Based Trauma Approaches Do More Harm Than Good? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has experienced trauma, either as an adult or as a child, they may end up suffering in silence. This is not to say that they will consciously choose to suffer as this is something that can just take place. What took place will have had a big effect on them and it will be a ...
Views: 108 - How To Stay Humble - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out shopping, I saw an image of a famous athlete with the words “stay humble” written on it. This is someone who is at the top of their game and is known all over the world. It is clear that this person realises how important it is for them to keep their feet on the ...
Views: 111 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, one may find that it is a challenge for them to feel good about themselves. Their time on this planet is then going to be anything but fulfilling. In fact, it could seem as though they are in hell as opposed to hell being somewhere ...
Views: 116 - Communication: Can Someone Use Their Imagination To Improve Their Communication Skills? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to improve their communication skills and to make it easier for them to talk to others, a number of ideas could enter their mind. Firstly, they could think about getting a book on communication, and secondly, they could decide to go to places where they can talk to ...
Views: 112 - Healing Journey: Do We Repeat The Past Until We Heal It? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of self-development, it has been said that there is no such thing as a new problem; it is just an old problem that is being played out again. Upon hearing this, someone could find it hard to understand how this is so. One could have a number of challenges in their life and these ...
Views: 132 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Verbally Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it could be something that they are only too aware of. Many years will have passed since they were a small child, but it could seem as though very little has actually changed. They would have gone through hell during this part of their life and they could ...
Views: 155 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Only Need To Repeat Something For People To Believe It? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are so many different media sources, and so many of these sources come out with the same thing. There have even been videos made where different newsreaders from different news stations are saying exactly the same thing. After watching a video like this, it will be perfectly ...
Views: 88 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Always Need To Be On Guard If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to let go and to relax now that they are an adult. Thanks to this, they can have the need to always be in control and on the go. Now, there could be moments when one thinks about how their early years are still ...
Views: 269 - Neglect: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Emotional Pain If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was a neglected as a child, there will have been the pain that they went through for many years while they were younger and, now that they are an adult, there can be all the pain that they experience. What took place will have happened a long time go, that much is clear, but time ...
Views: 144 - Depression: Why Do Some People Get Depressed When They Give Up Extreme Sports? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about mental and emotional health and how so many people are not in a good way. Largely, the focus has been on the inner challenges that the average person is trying to deal with. Along with this, there have been times when different celebrities have come ...
Views: 147 - Neglect: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not realise that they were neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be firmly behind them. Their physical appearance will have changed and they might even live in a totally different environment, but their adult life could have a lot in common with ...
Views: 148 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone might not have much motivation in life. This is, of course, will be in addition to all of the other challenges that they may have. So instead of having the need to embrace life and to make the most of the life that they have ...
Views: 129 - Healing Journey: How Can Someone Know If They Are Making Progress On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes the first step on their healing journey and looks into what they can do to experience life differently, they may have suffered for many years. As a result of this, they may want their life to change more or less overnight. If the pain that they are in is unbearable, it is ...
Views: 153 - Child Abuse: Was Someone Being Punished If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they might not realise that this is what actually took place. They can then have a number of different problems, but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. One can have mental and emotional problems and their relationships can be anything but ...
Views: 132 - Why Do You Want To Achieve Something? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a New Year has just begun, there is a lot being said about goals and making this a year that is unlike any other. This is something that you may have heard online and/or something that the people in your life have spoken about. When I hear anything like this, it makes me think about ...
Views: 209 - Anxiety: Does The Modern-Day World Make People Anxious? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with depression, anxiety is one of the most common mental, as well as emotional and physical, problems in today’s world. Emotional and physical was used above as both depression and anxiety is not always just a mental problem. Like depression, anxiety is often something that affects ...
Views: 181 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Can Someone Spend Their Adult Life Trying To Receive What They Didn’t Receive As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that their childhood is firmly behind them. Along with looking different, they won’t have the same needs as they had when they were younger. That doesn’t mean that some of their needs won’t be the same, but a lot of them will be different. With this ...
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