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The Power of Awareness
By
Bill Cottringer
“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow.
Focusing on one thing in life being more important than any other is a common mistake we often make. This usually results in over-embracing a ... Views: 967
You know how in every comment section online there’s always that one guy who’s bitchy and moany about whatever the subject matter? Yeah, don't be that guy.
Often, there’s more than one. (Lookin’ at you, YouTube!) And of course, girls do it too, but they tend to be more passive-aggressive, ... Views: 663
Do you understand the power of words? Words can be terribly effective weapons when used with malice.
I have a friend who was verbally abused while growing up. Today – at 47 – he still suffers the wounds from the words used on him by his mother. “You’re no good,” she told him. “You’ll never ... Views: 806
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” – Pablo Picasso
A few days after working with an energy worker, I had a revelation: I understood that as a young child, I was captivated by people. I observed and empathized with them. It was natural for me to ... Views: 836
Last week, Barry and I found ourselves at 10pm sitting at a special reserved table at “The Stud,” the 50-year-old first gay bar in San Francisco. First of all, there are a few things you should know about us. We are quiet country people who like to go to bed early. We never drive the ninety ... Views: 864
We often see people running like crazy, putting all their efforts in getting into the best jobs they can, when all of their energy is inclined towards earning more and more grands. They think they will achieve their ultimate happiness once they are successful in attaining financial stability, ... Views: 656
In response to a previous JOT - Find Stillness - a wise therapist, Betsy Sansby, reminded me that sometimes a person just can't find any stillness anywhere. Maybe you have epilepsy or chronic pain, or are wildly worried about a child or other loved one, or have been rejected in love or had the ... Views: 544
Life on this planet is influenced by many factors. Human beings are primarily driven by their habitual neurology but they remain unaware of how they are captured by it. A release from that neurology can move us a great deal towards living vibrantly.
Releasing oneself from the conventional ... Views: 919
Things keep changing. The clock ticks, the day unfolds, trees grow, leaves turn brown, hair turns gray, children grow up and leave home, attention skitters from this to that, the cookie is delicious but then it's all gone, you're mad about something for awhile and then get over it, consciousness ... Views: 505
didn’t understand why it always felt as though this debilitating mantle was restricting me. There was always something inside of me that looked at the way I would express myself to the world and compare and see others doing it naturally. If you have shyness you have most likely observed how some ... Views: 792
The way you react to a situation affects the outcome. Repeat this reaction again and again and eventually this creates a pattern for your whole life. Many people find themselves thinking about the worst case scenario for any situation they are in. As children we are taught to “expect the worst”. ... Views: 861
Having a weak will is often considered “normal”. Strong-willed individuals are admired for their success. While those with little to no will power just assume willpower is something some people get and some don’t. This belief deters them from ever attempting to change, or find the source of ... Views: 812
Do you spend your days feeling like you aren’t really living up to your potential? Are you frustrated by the feeling that the way you are today isn’t who you really are? Many people don’t realise it, but your Authentic Self can, and probably has, become buried over the years under old emotional ... Views: 645
Did you know that low self-esteem leaves you feeling like a second class citizen who must regularly submit their wishes to the whims of others? Can you relate to this? More importantly, did you know that low self-esteem is something that is actually programmed into you by negative memories of ... Views: 723
Do you ever feel like there is something, or perhaps ‘someone’ inside you that doesn’t have your best interests at heart? Do you ever get the feeling that this inner force is always two steps ahead of you trying to sabotage any attempts you try to make to improve your life? Do you feel like you ... Views: 741
Did you know the only reason most people live in scarcity is because they have been hypnotised into accepting a host of limiting beliefs around their ability to create the abundance they rightfully deserve? Did you know most of those beliefs are held outside of conscious awareness stored deep in ... Views: 780
Does procrastination rule your life? Does it feel like you sit helplessly on the sidelines of your life as you watch this uncontrollable force run it into the ground? Do you realise that means you:
a) have totally lost control over your life and therefore;
b) have no life?
Do you feel ... Views: 821
Did you know that the main reason one continues to feel like a failure after having endured a negative event is that they harbour the negative memory of that event within themselves? Did you know that memory serves as the solid evidence for the belief that they are a failure? Finally, did you ... Views: 661
Learning from your past experiences is great, but I’m sure you’ll agree that being stuck in the memories really isn’t. Are you constantly living in your past, and do you want to break out? If so, read on!
Do you continually find yourself rehashing past events, all the while wishing they could ... Views: 642
Did you know that procrastination is directed by negative beliefs and feelings such as the fear of disappointment, fear of failure, fear of taking responsibility for one’s own life, the need to remain dependent of one’s friends, parents, and loved ones, the fear of facing the world and becoming ... Views: 632
Did you know that it is not a coincidence that you attract situations that make you question if you should accept them? The man with kids, or the job with less pay, the unsavoury housemate, the woman who isn’t fully committed when you truly desire to be with someone who is.
Many people live ... Views: 679
Do you ever experience feelings of not being good enough? Do you feel that it’s normal to actually have the belief of not being good enough inside you, creating self-doubt? Do you feel like it’s normal that you have to be and do things in order to feel good within yourself? Do you find yourself ... Views: 644
Anxiety is largely the result of what I call ‘emotional landmines’ i.e. negatively charged memories stored in your unconscious mind and body that keep getting re-triggered by daily events. The triggering of these ‘landmines’ leads to anxiety and other painful emotional and physical experiences ... Views: 582
As you move through your life do you ever find yourself repeating or recreating situations that are less than desirable? For instance, do you find yourself caught in certain self-sabotaging or self-destructive habits that have taken control over your mind and life?
Do you feel sufficiently ... Views: 603
Self-esteem is a value that you unconsciously place upon yourself. It is based upon choices that you make throughout your life and you will find that it fluctuates. The main reason why psychology experts have failed to increase self-esteem through many different approaches is because self-esteem ... Views: 564
6 Ways to Be Happy At Home
“To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition, the end to which every enterprise and labour tends.” – Samuel Johnson.
Home isn’t a place, it’s a feeling. It’s our comfortable refuge, the place we feel relieved when we walk through the door, it’s where ... Views: 792
If you are someone who is haunted by the fear of stepping up, or are unsure as to why fear motivates you to avoid doing the one thing you know you want to do – you are likely feeling helpless to understand why its hold on you is so strong. You may also be wondering why so called “experts” have ... Views: 531
Making someone happy isn’t really hard to do, and the payoff is that you boost your own mood by spreading happiness all around. You cause a ripple effect that affects the happiness of people you don’t even know and you may even become healthier through your random acts of kindness. So, what is ... Views: 756
People who seem overconfident or too interested in themselves are often called narcissistic. Narcissism is a thought and behaviour pattern that involves many negative elements including:
• Overconfidence
• Fascination with the self
• Excess ... Views: 1095
Are you one of the millions of people in the world who suffer from shyness? Would you like to develop confidence, and become the attractive and carefree person you really are inside? If so, this article is for you!
First, I want to address some of the most common myths about shyness. Many ... Views: 681
Do you know many people compulsively find themselves seeing the worst scenarios in situations they find themselves in? Do you know this leads to unnecessary amount of stress, anxiety, panic attacks, despair, depression, energy depletion, unhappiness, failed relationships, health concerns and ... Views: 614
Liking feels good, plus it encourages us to approach and engage the world rather than withdraw from it.
Your brain continually tracks whether something is pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. In essence, is it a carrot, a stick, or safely ignored? Naturally, we like - we enjoy - what's pleasant, ... Views: 583
Want to try a little experiment?
Stop breathing. Really. For a few seconds, maybe a few dozen seconds, and see how it feels.
For me, this experiment is an intimate way to experience a deep truth, that we live dependently, relying on 10,000 things for physical survival, happiness, love, and ... Views: 512
Throughout history, people have wondered about human nature. Deep down, are we basically good or bad?
Recently, science is beginning to offer a persuasive answer. When the body is not disturbed by hunger, thirst, pain, or illness, and when the mind is not disturbed by threat, frustration, or ... Views: 719
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“The Whole Universe Is My True Personality.”
Anonymous Zen Master
Dear One,
On April 15, pleasure-loving Venus stationed direct conjunct wounded healer Chiron in sensitive ... Views: 1229
Major depressive disorder is the leading cause of disability in the US, affecting around 15 million adults a year, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Add the current controversial political and social climate to general everyday woes, and now, perhaps more than ever, ... Views: 818
Do you even know if you’re numb? Think about the experience of our foot falling asleep and the pins and needles and aching we feel when it awakens. We sit on our foot for a while and temporarily compress the nerves in it and don’t feel the discomfort until we move our foot.
Suddenly our body ... Views: 626
Cleaning out the cobwebs, dust-balls, and poorly fitting beliefs is not always easy. But it is a liberating process and the work of a lifetime. As we lighten our load we feel enlivened and amazingly fresh and free, leaving us wondering why we didn’t do this a long time ago. Imagine this ... Views: 741
Lies are like weeds. They start out small, and then grow until they're out of control. And like weeds, they keep popping up again and again. Once they take root, they grab a firm hold, and won't let go.
In James 3:8 the Bible says, "But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless ... Views: 921
It's only a two-letter word. It's small and simple. Tiny, even. Microscopic. Yet it's sometimes one of the hardest words to say in the English language. It's the word "no." But there are times when saying "yes" to the word "no" can be profoundly liberating, and can assist you in staying true to ... Views: 1115
Research shows that relationships are built from interactions, and interactions are built from moments. A critical moment in an interaction is when one person wants something from the other one. ("Wants" include wishes, needs, desires, hopes, and longings.) The want could be simple and concrete, ... Views: 515
Over the years, I’ve found that there are some questions that I’ve asked time and again about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and how it works. Thought I’d share them with you- please comment if there are others you’d like me to address in future blogs!
WHAT IS COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY ... Views: 640
Over the years, I’ve found that there are some questions that I’ve asked time and again about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and how it works. Thought I’d share them with you- please comment if there are others you’d like me to address in future blogs!
WHAT IS COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY ... Views: 629
Plenty of parents call me this time of year, exhausted and tell me, “my teen needs therapy stat!” or “I was fine raising my child but now that he/she’s an adolescent I’m at a loss”. Parenting a teenager is a new and scary experience for most, and to shift how you interact with your children can ... Views: 855
Can you remember a time when you offered a gift to someone? Perhaps a holiday present, or a treat to a child, or taking time for a friend – or anything at all. How did this feel? Researchers have found that giving stimulates the same neural networks that light up when we feel physical pleasure, ... Views: 487
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Breathing - by Mary Fitzpatrick, LCSW-R, CHT Limitless Horizons www.limitesshorizons.org
We all want to feel comfortable in our bodies, and in our lives.
The simple act of breathing, or focused relaxation can have surprising physical and mental health benefits.
Research shows us that meditation or focused relaxation helps ward off disease by strengthening our immune systems, ... Views: 914
The traditional saying that's this week's practice has been sinking in for me lately. Thoughts have been swirling around like a sandstorm about work, things I've been reading, household tasks, finances, concerns about people, a yard that needs mowing, loose ends, projects, etc. etc. The other ... Views: 602
There’s a profound and miraculous mystery right under our noses: this instant of now has no duration at all, yet somehow it contains all the causes from the past that are creating the future. Everything arising to become this moment vanishes beneath our feet as the next moment wells up. Since ... Views: 555
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“We have the wrong perception that we are separate from the other. So, in a way, Trump is a product of a certain way of being in this world so it is very easy to have him as ... Views: 1124
FIND YOUR JOY....
Part 1 (the Edge of negativity)
Truth be told, sadness, grieve, hardship, and negativity is the order of the day.
From the very moment you wake up on a new day, to the close of the day, there is a likelihood that you would be bombarded with all forms of negativity, from ... Views: 895