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Are you aware of your awareness? I call it room awareness. I sold Time Share for years and we would train our Sales People about room awareness. If you ever been to a Time Share Presentation you know that everyone sits in the same room at different tables and each table is close to every other ... Views: 682
Isn't it time to launch your dream?
We all have dreams of what our lives, our relationships, our careers, and our futures look like. Yet, how often are we steered away from them? We made choices required of us, based on life circumstances which was and is fine. NOW you have the ability to ... Views: 763
Whether you are looking for a significant other or wanting to improve your existing relationship, the answer lies near and dear in our very own selves. Years ago when I was working on improving my relationship with my hubby, I realized that I wanted him to be and do certain things. I made a ... Views: 567
WHAT IS THE SPIRITUAL LIFE? PART ONE.
Today you hear the statement, "I'm not religious, I am spiritual."
And I seriously doubt that few people have any idea what they mean by 'spiritual' other than they are not into the conventional religious orders of today.
Most people believe in some ... Views: 594
There are times in our life that we try to change things in our life. This may be earning more money, gaining a promotion, living a healthier life or having a happier relationship with others. Whatever it is what we are really trying to do is creating a new reality for ourselves. How do we do ... Views: 1192
We all have issues - including demands upon us, stresses, illnesses, losses, vulnerabilities, and pain. (As Alan Watts put it: "Life is wiggly.") Of course, many of our issues - in the broad sense I'm using the word here - are related to important sources of fulfillment, such as starting a ... Views: 535
Ever since the 1950’s when Albert Ellis, Ph.D., my teacher and mentor, developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy/Coaching, the mental health field has not been the same. Instead of spending months and years gazing inward and backward with no real behavior change, folks experiencing emotional ... Views: 746
By developing three simple habits, you can improve your mental and physical health:
1. Sleep 30 minutes more each day
Increase your sleep about 30 minutes more tonight than you did last night. Stress levels are affected by sleep. Studies show that 90% of people do not get enough sleep. ... Views: 626
Welcome back to Week 5: Let’s Get Active – I will introduce you to some examples of how to get Active
Some of them being Passive & Relaxing to Support your Nervous System
Whilst Others being stimulating to Support Your Heart and Circulation
Implementing Daily Exercise is Vital for a ... Views: 704
In my early 20's, I went through Rolfing, a form of deep-tissue bodywork, and I nervously anticipated the 5th session, the one that goes deep into the belly. But instead of gobs of repressed emotional pain, what poured out was love - waves and waves of love that I'd pushed down due to ... Views: 538
When I look back on mistakes I've made - like dumping my anger on someone, making assumptions in haste, partying too much, losing my nerve, being afraid to speak from my heart - in all cases a part of me had taken over. You know what I mean. The parts of us that have a partial view, are driven ... Views: 701
The other day I was relaxing at the local pool when I witnessed a really special event that unfolded in front of me.
A young man was sitting in the hot tub with his 5 year old son. It was obvious they had a really special relationship as they chatted in the warm water.
While they chatted, ... Views: 664
It's kind of amazing: right now, what you think and feel, enjoy and suffer, is changing your brain. The brain is the organ that learns, designed by evolution to be changed by our experiences: what scientists call experience-dependent neuroplasticity.
Neurons that fire together, wire together. ... Views: 497
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“There is a crack, a crack in everything.
That's how the light gets in.” Leonard Cohen
Dear ONE,
Just as ever increasing earthquakes and volcanic eruptions are creating bigger cracks in ... Views: 859
Last night, stressing about undone tasks, I glanced in a mirror and saw my t-shirt, with its picture of a galaxy and a little sign sticking up out of its outer swirls, saying "you are here." A joke gift from my wife, I've worn this shirt many times - yet for once it stopped me in my tracks. In ... Views: 578
Dr. Romance writes:
Extreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. ... Views: 887
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Do you feel overworked, tired, unfocused, burned out, stressed, overwhelmed, defeated, strained, and depressed? Maybe you just need to take a break and recharge your batteries.
Unfortunately, if you live in America, ... Views: 960
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The hardest part about starting a new fitness regimen is finding motivation to continue, especially in the beginning. Once you start seeing, or at the very least feeling, results your motivation tends to naturally ... Views: 672
Humans are an empathic, compassionate, and loving species, so it is natural to feel sad, worried, or fiery about the troubles and pain of other people. (And about those of cats and dogs and other animals, but I'll focus on human beings here.)
Long ago, the Buddha spoke of the "first dart" of ... Views: 625
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am 48 years of age, never married but would definitely like to. I am doing the online dating thing for a while now and so far no success. I am currently speaking to a gentleman who lives in another state; but given he is currently a pilot he ... Views: 798
Talk therapy has been found to be an effective form of treatment for mental health as well as treating mental disorders such as schizophrenia. A recent study revealed that over two million people in America have a diagnosis of schizophrenia and primary treatment involves the use of medications. ... Views: 541
Moment to moment, the flows of thoughts and feelings, sensations and desires, and conscious and unconscious processes sculpt your nervous system like water gradually carving furrows and eventually gullies on a hillside. Your brain is continually changing its structure. The only question is: Is ... Views: 651
How many times have you been in a public place that you have witnessed a child screaming its head off for no apparent reason?
How many of those times that you witnessed the child screaming did you also witness the parent or caregiver screaming as well?
I think it is sad to realize that this ... Views: 770
Have you ever watched two people quarrel, or otherwise be stuck in a conflict with each other? Usually, if either or both of them simply acknowledged one or more things, that would end the fight.
Recall a time someone mistreated you, let you down, dropped the ball, made an error, spoke ... Views: 526
When you are doing your best to succeed at work, it is easy to place less of a focus on your personal or home life. People are working more hours than ever, limiting the time that is left available for life outside of the office.
With these increasing demands, it becomes harder for the brain ... Views: 943
There I was recently, standing in the shower, my mind darting in different directions about projects in process, frazzled about little tasks backing up, uneasy about a tax record from 2010 we couldn't find, feeling irritated about being irritable, hurrying to get to work, body keyed up, internal ... Views: 632
Benevolence is a fancy word that means something simple: good intentions toward living beings, including oneself.
This goodwill is present in warmth, friendliness, compassion, ordinary decency, fair play, kindness, altruism, generosity, and love. The benevolent heart leans toward others; it ... Views: 596
The Train Ticket
I gave my grandson, upon his graduation from High School, a battered old train ticket, dated June of 1961. He was always to keep it with him, and refer to it whenever his life went awry.
Background
I was a young soldier stationed in Metz, France. I was sent to a ... Views: 646
Life can be so Emotionally disturbing on so many levels at times:
I would like to share with your these Simple, Yet Effective Steps so you can Rise Above these Feelings of sheer Fear at times to Absolute Trauma.
Without making a Fool of yourself, Allowing it to interfering or block your ... Views: 729
For many of us, perhaps the hardest thing of all is to believe that "I am a good person." We can climb mountains, work hard, acquire many skills, act ethically - but truly feel that one is good deep down? Nah!
We end up not feeling like a good person in a number of ways. For example, I once ... Views: 540
Becoming Open Minded and A Growing Individual - The Journey
What is the difference between being open minded and close minded? Taking you back to that time you were in that seminar or in that class, focusing only on what you already know. At times just standing by waiting to hear knowledge ... Views: 1015
What could you offer?
The Practice:
Make the offering.
Why?
One of the strangest and most meaningful experiences of my life occurred when I going through Rolfing (ten brilliant sessions of deep-tissue bodywork) in my early 20's. The fifth session works on the stomach area, and I was ... Views: 518
Blaming ourselves leads to feeling guilty, and feeling guilty can trigger an expectation of punishment. When self-blame becomes a habit, we carry a heavy burden throughout our lives. The feeling that we are being punished for some wrong doing or not being good enough plagues us. Before we ... Views: 809
Imagine this: you've just interviewed hundreds of applicants after sifting through thousands of résumés and have hired the best of those with all the skills and right attitude. Your training staff spends hours orienting them to their job responsibilities and the new employees are eager to get ... Views: 1611
When we encounter someone, usually the mind automatically slots the person into a category: man, woman, your friend Tom, the kid next door, etc. Watch this happen in your own mind as you meet or talk with a co-worker, salesclerk, or family member.
In effect, the mind summarizes and simplifies ... Views: 570
“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.
When actions come from another section, the feeling disappears.” Rumi
Dear ONE,
If you think that all your external actions have no karmic consequences, think again! This is exponentially true now, with ... Views: 960
As a kid, I was really out of touch with my body. I hardly noticed it most of the time, and when I did, I prodded it like a mule to do a better job of hauling "me" - the head - around.
This approach helped me soldier through some tough times. But there were costs. Many pleasures were numbed, ... Views: 568
In middle school, I thought it would be cool to play a musical instrument, and picked the clarinet. My wise parents rented one rather than buying it, and I started practicing. (In the garage because it sounded pretty screechy.) After a week or two of doing scales, I got bored and picked my way ... Views: 604
Yes, I'm the same Michael Mantell who promotes “the link is what you think” and who believes, OK, thinks, that every emotion we ever have, ever, is first conceived and then anchored in the way we think. It's ALL in your head. Simply put, you not only won’t - but actually can’t- ever have an ... Views: 878
Your brain evolved in three stages (to simplify a complex process):
Reptile - Brainstem, focused on avoiding harm
Mammal - Limbic system, focused on approaching rewards
Primate - Cortex, focused on attaching to "us"
The first JOT in this series - pet the lizard - was about how to ... Views: 572
Each person gets their karmuppance. We get everything we want—sooner or later, if not in this incarnation, then in another. And often when we finally get it, we don't want it. As the process of karmic fruition speeds up, our lives get freer and freer from attachment and we create less and ... Views: 1025
I once heard a Native American teaching story in which an elder, a grandmother, was asked what she had done to become so happy, so wise, so loved and respected. She replied: "It's because I know that there are two wolves in my heart, a wolf of love and a wolf of hate. And I know that everything ... Views: 558
Tone matters.
I remember times I felt frazzled or aggravated and then said something with an edge to it that just wasn't necessary or useful. Sometimes it was the words themselves: such as absolutes like "never" or always," or over-the-top phrases like "you're such a flake" or "that was ... Views: 663
Things come at us with so much urgency and demand these days. Phones ring, texts buzz, emails pile up, new balls have to be juggled, work days lengthen and move into evenings and weekends, traffic gets denser, financial demands feel like a knife at the neck, ads and news clamor for attention, ... Views: 592
As the nervous system evolved, your brain developed in three stages:
Reptile - Brainstem, focused on avoiding harm
Mammal - Limbic system, focused on approaching rewards
Primate - Cortex, focused on attaching to "us"
Since the brain is integrated, avoiding, approaching, and attaching ... Views: 630
I've always liked lizards.
Growing up in the outskirts of Los Angeles, I played in the foothills near our home. Sometimes I'd catch a lizard and stroke its belly, so it would relax in my hands, seeming to feel at ease.
In my early 20's, I found a lizard one chilly morning in the mountains. ... Views: 749
I had a lightbulb moment recently: I was feeling stressed about all the stuff I had to do (you probably know the feeling). After this went on for a while, I stepped back and kind of watched my mind, and could see that I was thinking of these various tasks as things, like big rocks that were ... Views: 625
We all lead encounter some form of stress. Many times we
clients go to psychics they are
hoping for ways to cultivate decompressing from stress. For most people, a
certain level of everyday stress is inevitable in these modern times. The
structure of our lives seems to ... Views: 731
Ever just go through the day and feel as if you can’t change your life for the better? Everything has been decided for you and you have no choices in what you do, wear or say? Some days can feel like that, but have too many in a row and you just might be drifting aimlessly through life.
Then ... Views: 944
In every life, reminders arrive about what's really important.
I've recently received one myself, in a form that's already come to countless people and will come to countless more: news of a potentially serious health problem. My semi-annual dermatology mole check turned up a localized ... Views: 596