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One difficult aspect of life is mastering our emotions. The concept of remaining calm in spite of what happens is easy … to agree with. Doing it is a much different thing.
What happens when we allow ourselves to panic? We instantly lose sight of the obvious, forget everything we have learned, ... Views: 1499
The other day a friend asked me how I help people. I told her, very simply, that I teach people how to crack their world open to reveal thrilling new possibilities and opportunities that they couldn't see before. She laughed and said I encourage people to become Crack Addicts.
HA!
In that ... Views: 2338
“Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit.”
– Norman Vincent Peale
What is it about hope that inspires us to keep on forging ahead? To keep trying – even when we feel like we are falling down? Hope is powerful. Hope is sometimes all that is ... Views: 3051
So the poop has hit the twirly thing and you're feeling kind of narked about life and all.
Who do you turn to for advice? Better question, who is worth turning to for advice?
If you've got a sage and sober wizened old soul in to ring up, then kudos to you. Maybe you've got a wise old dad ... Views: 2257
If you are alive and breathing, you have probably noticed that a lot of folks seem to think it is okay to criticize other people for their actions. They criticize them behind their backs and they criticize them in public. The boldest people criticize other people to their faces in an effort to ... Views: 1242
Have you ever had the experience of employing someone who you “just loved” when you interviewed them, only to face future disappointment when they turned out not to be the person you thought they were
This is what I call “interview infatuation” and I coined the term because I’ve seen it ... Views: 853
We all know what it’s like to feel bad about doing something thoughtlessly. We wake when it’s too late, after the damage is done. And then there are the things we do over and over again, hating ourselves for it every time. Seemingly unable to stop.
But what about the joyfulness of doing ... Views: 2867
It’s far too easy to let the world seem to do it’s dirty job on our creation and descend into a spiral of out of control hopelessness where our ‘destiny’ and ‘fate’ lie in the hands of everyone and everything beyond our own ability to provide our own redemption as we escape the bleak misery of a ... Views: 2098
As companies claw their way out of the doldrums of The Great Recession the time is rapidly approaching to prepare for the next wave of growth. Traditionally, this means ramping up the hiring process, investing in new technology, or a combination of both. As we attempt to catch the upswing out ... Views: 2618
We have all developed patterns of limitation but we can make the choice to change in an instant. Sometimes the results of this choice for change will be apparent very quickly and sometimes nothing seems to be happening. The key is to be patient – with our selves and with the process - at all ... Views: 1471
The past is only the past when we become present to it.
A new client arrived for her Core Wound Release session last week. She'd recently heard how powerfully healing and liberating the process was. I recall how excited and eager she was to schedule her session just a few weeks earlier. Yet, ... Views: 4304
One of the phrases that helped define the 1990s is "As if!" Immortalized by actor Alicia Silverstone's character, Cher Horowitz, in the movie "Clueless", the term connotes a derisive assertion that whatever is being talked about is impossible or very unlikely. It is another way of ... Views: 2390
1. You cannot control every thought you have but you can control the flow of your thoughts.
The most important thing to understand is the difference between initial and reactive or response or thoughts. An initial thought is one that either just pops into your mind for no apparent ... Views: 3349
One thing middle age has done for me is make me more aware of who I really am and how I respond to life. I can wish I was wired differently, I can somewhat adapt my personality to my environment, and I can’t use my personality as an excuse for bad behavior, but I am coming to terms with how God ... Views: 3311
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.” - Albert Einstein
Over the years it has become apparent to me that for many people on a journey of personal development or spiritual path, the subject of science often doesn't sit very well. ... Views: 2353
Let me tell you what frustrates me. The frustration comes from my own limitation to help people in a certain position, I simply do not know how to get this type of person past the point they are stuck at. This is not to say I do not know how to fix the problem, because I have a pretty good ... Views: 2492
One of the greatest inspirational writers of the 19th century was a man named Henry Drummond who wrote a best-selling little book called The Greatest Thing In the World. In it, he said,
“The world is not a playground; it is a schoolroom. Life is not a holiday but an education. And the one ... Views: 1611
The Dance of Guilt
What is guilt? Have you ever realized how you react to guilt? Most of us do what I call the dance of guilt. Life is so much about moving towards or moving away from anything and everything. When we feel guilty we often retreat into the moving away from stance. We withdraw ... Views: 2679
Karen is a 23 year old woman who felt extremely uncomfortable around people. She originally contacted ADD Insights for coaching services, because she felt she had nothing to offer. By her own admission, she felt she was unattractive and had nothing interesting to say. Karen did not attend ... Views: 3502
I was busy in the kitchen this weekend. I had a yen to cook something that would slow-cook in a crock pot. I love how a house smells when there is something yummy getting ready for my tummy.
A friend called. She was complaining about her exhausting weekend. Relatives were staying with her. ... Views: 2816
“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive peace and happiness.” Robert Muller
Often when we are wronged we hold on to the hurt. We own it – it is our hurt and we do everything we can to keep it. In the early stages, we use this as a coping mechanism ... Views: 4078
As you know, you have approximately 60,000 thoughts a day, but a single one can pull the plug on your productivity for the whole day (or week).
For example, I had a client who who sold insurance. He got a referral to meet with the person who heads a big union. Can you imagine, get to ... Views: 1212
Sometimes it feels like we are speaking a completely different language... even when we think we understand each other!
A woman asked me to help her with her horse the other day. She was new to horses and so excited to be learning about her own energy and how she and her horse could have a ... Views: 2108
I am a huge fan of Tudor England. Who knew a bunch of stinky, violent, and paranoid 500 year old wanna-be royals could be so compelling? And yet they hold a secret for manifestation and leadership.
It's in the rawness of the stories we find some fundamental truths.
King Henry VIII ... Views: 1505
And for me taking that first step is the easiest thing in the world to. It is taking the second step, and the third step and the fourth step, step after step, day after day, even year after year, that is the hard part.
I have taken so many first steps that I’ve probably completed 1,000 “1,000 ... Views: 1050
Let me get right to it: There is no failure, only an unwanted result.
That being said, at times I know that unwanted results can feel like failure. To make matters worse, if you continue to try the same method you will risk getting the same result again and again.
Examples of an unwanted ... Views: 3663
My garden is my pride and joy and it broke my heart to see the beautiful plants being cooked in place in the extreme heat over summer. Combined with the drought conditions, many of these plants appeared to die completely. Then the miracle happened. The inner Resilience of these plants refused to ... Views: 1614
If you put yourself ahead of me, I might not follow; If you ignore me, I will have no one to follow; If you put yourself above me, I will not look up while you are looking down; If you put yourself beside me, we will walk as one with the strength of two.
Wayne Kehl
This quote is a ... Views: 2568
“Wow! I didn't know it was possible to feel this good!,” said a client the other day after a Vivation session. This article briefly explains what Vivation is.
Originated by Jim Leonard, Vivation is the skill of experiencing the core feeling process within your body that is the true source of ... Views: 2484
We all face difficult conversations in the workplace: criticism from our boss, a conflict with a client, a co-worker we find irritating, a subordinate who submits incomplete work -- all might entail a conversation we do not look forward to having. When we anticipate that an interaction might be ... Views: 1751
We bought country property a few years back and as with many rural acreages; ours came with a whole bunch of out-buildings that served a variety of purposes at one time – but no longer functioned at that state. In a word – they were hazards and we began the process of tearing them down, ... Views: 1309
“Do not fear. Only believe. All things are possible to him who believes.”
The above noted quote is for every human being on earth. Do you find yourself hesitating while on verge of making a decision or before doing something wonderful? Do you put things off because you are afraid to take a ... Views: 2141
We all see the world through our normal eyes, but we are aware that there is much more that exists that we can only see through microscopes and telescopes.
Similarly, we see the world through our normal perspectives, paradigms, and beliefs, but there is much that exists that we may not be ... Views: 2888
Last Saturday my family served at our church’s annual Easter egg hunt. This annual event generally brings children and families peacefully from both the congregation and nearby neighborhoods. Fun and games are on the menu for the children who will be putting their expectations and appetites on ... Views: 1836
Here is one of my favourite quotes:
“That best portion of a good man’s life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love”
...William Wordsworth
This quote was written in 1798 by Wordsworth as part of his work, “Lines composed a few miles above Tintern Abbey.” ... Views: 1442
To explain why leading and learning are synonymous, reflect on the words of Eric Hoffer:
In times of change, learners inherit the Earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.
In other words, learning is the key to remaining ... Views: 1364
Wow…the Winter Olympics are gone but the idea of how many good lessons we could learn from them keeps gravitating in my head. The most important is the idea of persistence and trying again vs the typical win or loose model, not only when pursuing an Olympic medal but in life. Stop for a second ... Views: 5443
From the time we're small children, we are not taught a lot about how we work: how our mind works, our thoughts, our bodies, our brains, etc. The reason we're not taught this is because the loving, well meaning parents who gave birth to us didn't know either, not to mention the rest of society. ... Views: 3010
For most of us, the subconscious mind is a curious and untameable beast. It lurks in the shadows, awaiting an opportunity to seize control of our willpower and force us to abandon our goals for the temptation of the moment. Dozens of techniques and disciplines such as positive affirmations, ... Views: 1883
According to Webster, "sin" is a transgression (or violation) of?the law of God. It is also described?as a vitated state of human nature?in which the self is estranged from?God. This can manifest in different?forms - lying, cheating, stealing,?hurting, etc. etc.
Stepping back from sin's ... Views: 1313
In one of my personal development workshops I get my students to close their eyes and imagine, in vivid detail, one of their happiest memories, and to fully re-living it in that moment. It is amazing to witness the instant transformation in their facial expressions and body language as their ... Views: 1929
Several years ago Michael Gerber published a book called the E-Myth.
The fundamental premise of this book was that an entrepreneur is someone who works on their business, not just in it.
The person who only works in their business, who effectively IS the business, is called a ... Views: 2081
“I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” - Jimmy Dean
When I was a kid I would imagine that I could make things happen just by thinking about them. For example, if my best friend was coming over to play I’d look out for him from ... Views: 1673
What is Your Definition of Love?
Love is probably the most written and talked about subject of all time. I have had a few long-term, intimate relationships and have met many thousands of people over the course of my lifetime.
I am a company director and personal-development specialist. ... Views: 2616
An organization is about the products it creates or the services it provides, but an organization is also about people: customers, consumers and employees. Without these an organization simply doesn’t exist. As an employee in an organization, building positive relationships with people is as ... Views: 1477
When you have a problem or a question that you are working through or asking yourself, use your inner knowledge to find the answers.
We each have our own inner wisdom and guidance system. The key is understanding how to listen.
The first step is to set aside time to quiet your mind. With ... Views: 1670
Everything we see around us is nothing but energy and everything vibrates at a certain frequency. Frequency is everything. All frequencies co-exist to make up the entire Universe.
Everything that happens in your life happens for a reason & you & only you are responsible for all of it. You ... Views: 1921
Know-how is no use at all when your heart chooses a different direction to your head. It has nothing to do with falling in love and everything to do with unconscious programming and neural chemical response.
Stop reading now if you are one of the mythical people who have never found ... Views: 3757
In Groundhog Day Bill Murray keeps playing out the same situation, over and over, never finding a way to make the outcome different. Do you ever keep making the same mistake?
I sometimes have to make a mistake many times before I begin to change my behaviour and react differently. Traumatic ... Views: 1776
"I am the captain of my fate, I am the master of my destiny" wrote Henry Ford. You may not hanker after his fame or even his fortune, but to have made a difference? Wouldn't we all like to leave a wake behind us?
To steer our ship we must have a destination and an idea of how to get there. ... Views: 2651