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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Self Worth: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress Others? - by Submitted on May 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings, it is normal to want to look good, to give things, and to experience success for example. And yet, it is also possible for one to engage in each of these things just to impress others. To do this from time to time could be described as normal, but if one was to do this as a ...
Views: 28207 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the term walls may bring up associations to do with the physical walls of a house or walls that divide one garden from another. However, the walls that this article will look into are not physical walls. They are not visible to the eye and yet this doesn’t mean that the impact ...
Views: 27718 - 40 Questions To Improve Your Self Awareness - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2008 from Derik MockeSelf awareness is truly the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. It underlies all the other aspects of self motivation and emotional intelligence. Self awareness is about knowing one’s own emotions. It's about understanding your thinking patterns and knowing what thinking pattern you ...
Views: 27192(1 vote) - Selfless: Why Do Some People Always Put Others First? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperPeople who put others first are often revered and are seen as an example of how to live. The fact that they appear to always put others first, is what makes them different to people who appear to always put themselves first. This could be to do with helping a friend, partner or colleague at a ...
Views: 25814 - Improve Your Relationship Management Skills with These 5 Tips - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Maurine PattenRelationship management becomes more important as you assume more professional responsibility. You need skills to build bonds, inspire, influence and develop others. All the while you need to be open to change, manage conflict and establish teamwork. Emotional Intelligence author Daniel ...
Views: 21953(4 votes) - Whats Your Aim In Life - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2008 from Deepak LodhiaHave you ever been asked the question, “What’s your aim in life?” Have you ever understood what the person asking the question meant? It’s quite a powerful question because it is a pretty direct and incisive way to ascertain what your purpose in life is and what you aim to achieve as a goal. ...
Views: 20337(1 vote) - Top 3 Reasons for Fail Background Check - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Pamela MedinaTop 3 Reasons Why Applicants Fail Their Background Check and what you can do to prevent it from happening to you. Finding a job in this economy can be a daunting and difficult task. In a competitive job market employers become more stringent and will disqualify applicants that provide ...
Views: 20167(5 votes) - Attention Seeking Behaviour: What Causes it? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be acknowledged, mirrored and validated are psychological needs that we all have. This is a perfectly normal and natural part of being human and something that is vital for mental and emotionally stability. And like most things in life, there can be extremes and when this healthy requirement ...
Views: 17248 - Invisible: Why Do Some People Feel Invisible? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feelings, there can often be a disparity between how one feels and how something actually is. And feeling invisible is the perfect example of this. Part of being human is to have a physical body and yet at an emotional level, one can feel that this is not the case. One can ...
Views: 16703 - Fame: Why Do Some People Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world fame is not merely seen as a by-product or as a consequence of achieving something; fame is pursued directly and as a goal in and of itself. With there being numerous examples of people who place fame as the ultimate achievement in life and above anything else; it might seem ...
Views: 16226 - The 7 Criteria of Emotional Maturity - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Krystal KuehnWhat does it mean to be mature? According to Merriam-Webster, mature is defined as having completed natural growth and development. That is, being fully grown, complete, ready. I do not believe that we arrive at a state of complete emotional maturity with no further need for growth and ...
Views: 14747 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Always Need To Be Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperBehind the desire to achieve and to have more can be the need for someone to fulfil their own wants and needs. And other people are also going to provide inspiration. No one is their own island and it is only natural that other people are going to play a part in what one does or doesn’t do ...
Views: 14332(1 vote) - Abuse: Why Do Some People Always Put Others Down? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs a human being, one has the ability to lift others up and make their life easier, or they can pull others down and make their life harder. There are going to be some people who generally fit into the first category and then there will be others who generally fit into to the second ...
Views: 14275 - Celebrities: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some time I have been reflecting on and thinking about what causes the obsession with celebrities. So here is my current outlook on what I believe is going on. Today's Society In today's society celebrities are often worshiped and are objects of obsession for many people. And it ...
Views: 13570 - Entitlement Mentality: What Created It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s society there is a common mentality and this mentality is often called - The Entitlement Mentality. On the dictionary.com website this is described as: The fact of having a right to something and the amount to which a person has a right. So what this means is that one has the right ...
Views: 13177 - How to Make a Really Difficult Decision - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Claudia LuizPatients often contact me for therapy in the throes of a difficult decision. They want to know if they should get a new job or change their child's school, move to another city or leave their spouse. When they can’t make a decision, it is usually not for lack of relevant information and advice ...
Views: 12598(3 votes) - Compliments: Why Can’t Some People Accept Compliments? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to compliments there are some people who can accept them gracefully and others who completely reject them. It may be that one rejects all compliments or only compliments that come from certain people. This can relate to men who reject all compliments from women or women who ...
Views: 12495 - Definition: Emotional Balance - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie MolisMost people experience life as a roller-coaster of different emotional states, accepting without question that emotions are something that just happen in response to life events. In any given day, you may experience a range of states, some positive and some that are negative or distressing. The ...
Views: 11821 - Brands: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Brands? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time where brands are everywhere and there is more or less a brand for everything. From branded water; to branded clothes and anything else that one could imagine. Part of the brand experience is that it creates sense of trust for people; that they can rely on the brand to ...
Views: 11562(1 vote) - Emotional Masks: What Is An Emotional Mask? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word mask is described as: an object normally worn on the face, typically for protection, disguise, performance or entertainment. Emotional Mask However, the mask that I am talking about here is an emotional mask. This can effect: how one sees themselves in the mirror; how one believes ...
Views: 11263 - Get out of Debt in 5 days! – Emergency Loopholes and Tricks - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2011 from Andrew SellarThis is to be used if your caught in a debt cycle. Every month paying off more than you earn. It is not for everyone, but it will change your life, in as much as the calls, letters, sleepless nights and depression will end. If you are at this point, then you have to drastic steps, there ...
Views: 10843 - Self Image: Why Do Some People Take Things Personally? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who take just about everything personally and this doesn’t have to be the words that other people say. It could relate to how another person looks at them and what one experiences in the world around them. This can also relate to specific situations where one is being given ...
Views: 10828(1 vote) - Emotions: Why Do Some People Hide Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women show how they feel and men keep their feelings to themselves. And this is surely going to apply to some men and women, but not all of them. It is simply a generalisation and one that allows people to navigate their world more easily. One reason why it is this way ...
Views: 10614 - Anger: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Angry? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be people who feel comfortable expressing every emotion on the spectrum and then there are going to be others who are not in the same position. When someone does feel comfortable with their emotions, they are not going to deny how they feel. This will allow them to not ...
Views: 10513 - Definition: Managing Emotions - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie Molis1. Change the cause of emotion. Fix the thoughts, fix the emotions. Circumstances do not cause emotions – rather, your thoughts and attitudes about those circumstances do. the only exception is when emotion is driven by a physical chemical imbalance in the brain, which can be identified and ...
Views: 10358 - I Hate You!-- How To Let Go Of Animosity Towards Others And Be Happier With Yourself - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Heather TaskovicsHow often have we come across people in our lives who have, in our minds, done something so terrible to us that we feel the utmost loathing and hatred towards them? Unfortunately, we all can admit to this on more than one occasion. When we are faced with situations such as these, we basically ...
Views: 10345(2 votes) - Feelings Aren't Facts - Emotional Reasoning - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardIdentifying our automatic thinking usually changes the way we feel and puts us in a much more empowered position to make wise and meaningful decisions. Learning to observe your thoughts gives you the opportunity to recognize the emotional responses you are creating with your interpretation of ...
Views: 10243(1 vote) - How To Transform Anger Into Will Power! - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Michaiel BovenesAnger is energy, an emotion, and it is part of the experience of life. Anger can become your greatest enemy toward developing good health and well being or it can become your greatest ally toward healing and finding personal peace. It all hinges upon how you relate to your emotions. Before we ...
Views: 9744 - Emotionally Expressive: How Can Someone Become More Emotionally Expressive? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how human beings communicate with each other, there are many different aspects involved. During those moments where one is face to face with another, it is not just what comes out of their mouth that matters. If one was talking to someone through text, email or via social ...
Views: 9571 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Feel Uncomfortable With Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to human development, emotions are generally ignored and have been exceeded by other areas. In recent years there has been an intense focus on ones physical side and this has lead to people joining gyms or going for runs for example. And when it comes to ones intellectual side; ...
Views: 9351 - Reactive Behaviour: What Causes Reactive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have our own style of behaviour and this can change when one is around different people and based on how one feels. As one grows and changes as person; this can also lead to ones behaviour altering. And there will be times when ones behaviour is a response to situations and other times ...
Views: 9186 - How To Excel In Life - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2007 from Amy ShermanPeople who excel in life are said to be emotionally intelligent. This means you have greater self-control, compassion and awareness for other people’s feelings in relation to your own. There are several parameters to determine your EI Quotient. The following are the guidelines to ...
Views: 9048 - Drama: Why Are Some People Addicted To Drama? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word 'Drama' is commonly heard and used in today's world. This could be to describe something on TV or in a film. It can also describe what is going on in one's life or the life of another person. Dictionary Meaning And on the dictionary.com website drama is described as: 1. a ...
Views: 8857 - How to Become Socially Calibrated - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2012 from Eduard EzeanuThe results you get with people and the awesomeness of your social life are to a large extent a result of your ability to calibrate socially. This is why developing your social calibration is one of the most beneficial personal development steps you could ever make. Social calibration is ...
Views: 8764 - Success: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Successful? - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people are asked what they want in life they will often say success. And while this can be the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone has the same meaning of what that actually means. There are going to be other people who are already successful and they are probably going to say that they ...
Views: 8662 - Emotionally Needy Parents: What Are Emotionally Needy Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the psychological development of a child, the needs of the child are of the upmost importance. And not only are they important in the child's journey to becoming a functional adult; as extreme as this sounds, they can also be the difference between whether a child lives or ...
Views: 8657(1 vote) - Digging up Unresolved Emotions and Feelings - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2007 from Kathleen HoweI speak to people everyday about the importance of emotions and feelings in our daily life. Most of them are completely numbed and all they can do is nod their head while reading my words or simply sigh when I’m finished speaking. They’re knee deep in symptoms of mental illness; depression or an ...
Views: 8634(1 vote) - Seven Essential Skills of Emotion Management - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Janie BehrYour emotions and feelings protect us, and give our lives richness. If emotions become overwhelming they can also be the cause of undue stress, and erratic behavior. Journaling can help balance and regulate your emotions and feel more comfortable and directed in your emotional life. Every day ...
Views: 8588(2 votes) - Crying Spells - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreI had a good crying spell yesterday. Actually, I felt pretty okay about it. Because it showed me where my boundaries of pain were, and it showed me I was going into those boundaries. As a way to expand myself. In other words, the crying spell was a signal, or a manifestation, of the process ...
Views: 8499(4 votes) - Understanding That Change Begins With Me - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Caroline Nettle"Be the change that you wish to see in the world". Ghandi. There is much talk in the spiritual communities about how the world that I see outside of myself is a reflection of the world that is inside me. Part of the journey to peace, love, and happiness, is understanding that I am not always ...
Views: 8354 - Consumerism: What Causes Consumerism? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need much awareness to see that consumerism is a big part of the modern day world. And depending on one’s point of view or position, it can be described as either positive of negative. A small company or large business for example, that’s main focus is on selling physical items, ...
Views: 8336 - *** White Space Issues - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Reldan NadlerThe word intelligence comes from a Latin derivation meaning “entering through the lines.” People are always using their intelligence to enter or read into the lines of what you are saying or not saying. They fill in the white spaces between your words almost automatically, because it gives them ...
Views: 8307(2 votes) - Emotionally Unavailable Mother: What Are The Consequences Of Having An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some women want to be mothers and go onto fulfil this need, there are others who have no interest in being a mother. They might end up channelling their nurturing abilities into another area of life instead. However, just because a woman decides to be a mother, it doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 8240 - Loyalty: Is Being Loyal Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why people have dogs is because they are loyal companions. And while this is one of their strengths, it can also cause them to be taken advantage of. Yet, even though this can set them up to be treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will simply run away. Instead, a dog is ...
Views: 8144 - Emotional Vulnerability: Creating a Safe Space in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2012 from Veronica BurgessWhat is emotional vulnerability? Emotional vulnerability is when an individual surrenders fully to the joys and sorrows of giving and receiving love. It is when you break open locks and tear down walls—being open and transparent. The fear of the unknown is what blocks us from giving ourselves ...
Views: 7913(1 vote) - How To Change Your Mood Fast - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from Hollis PolkHave you ever been unfocused before an exam, when you really needed to concentrate instead? Or have you ever been really nervous before giving a lecture, when instead you needed to be confident? Or perhaps you’ve been down in the dumps when you needed to be ‘on’ and positive ...
Views: 7867 - Superiority Complex: Why Do Some People Think They Are Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch athletics on TV or at a stadium, they would soon see that not everyone is on the same level. Within each race, there will be some athletes who are at the front and there will be others who nowhere near the front. In this instance, it is clear that some of the athletes are ...
Views: 7838 - People-pleasers and Pathological Charmers - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2013 from Sam VakninPeople-pleasers dread conflicts and wish to avoid them (they are conflict-averse) - hence their need to believe that they are universally liked. Always pleasant, well-mannered, and civil, the conflict-averse people-pleaser is also evasive and vague, hard to pin down, sometimes obsequious and, ...
Views: 7810(1 vote) - Emotional Insecurity: What Are The Signs? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotional security is something that few individuals have and what many would like to have; for the latter, it often seems elusive and hard to come by. And that’s if one has even challenged their instability; for these people it may appear to be how life is and this means that it is often ...
Views: 7768(1 vote) - ***Leadership Keys for Success - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2011 from Reldan NadlerFinally, an iPhone app that supports your rise to star performance as a leader. True North Leadership just introduced the FREE Leadership Keys app.Click the link or use your phone to scan this QR code to get your download. It’s usual for leaders not to realize that Leadership is like a ...
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