A Definition of the Word Abuse" is excerpted from The Spouse Abuse Tutorial located at .
We begin with a definition of the word abuse.
If you enter the word "abuse" in Google (the internet search engine) it brings up more than 20,000 references. What's interesting is that no two of the web ... Views: 4081
Stress: it’s what happens when you’re up against a critical deadline; when you’re preparing for an important presentation; when you’re negotiating prices with a tough but important customer. It’s the daily wear and tear on the mind and body throughout one’s entire lifespan and, surprise...it’s ... Views: 1399
Anxiety can be triggered by something specific like performance or intimacy, or it can be an unexplainably uncomfortable feeling that lasts all day. Positive thinking, task management techniques and a variety of medications have all become acceptable ways to manage anxiety. However, because they ... Views: 2062
A simple thesaurus-search on the word ‘Care’ reveals the following:
Mind,
Concerned,
Worry,
Think About,
Be Bothered
A quick look around the workplace, or anywhere else for that mater, reveals a world of Mindful, Concerned, Worried, Thinking and Bothered people. On the surface, it would appear ... Views: 1087
“You can’t always get what you want . . .” The Rolling Stones will soon be singing this refrain at venues around the world, as they embark on a year-long concert tour in August.
This song, now decades old, addresses a universal truth. Here’s the rest of the refrain:
You can't always get ... Views: 43658
IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BEGIN LIFE ANEW by Mary-Glen Scot. (Unpublished as of 4-13-05) 1496 words)
Perhaps you may have recently suffered the tragedy of a sudden death of a loved one or you may have lost your home and all of your material possessions. Possibly even a combination of ... Views: 1487
FALLING IN LOVE WITH AN UNAVAILABLE PERSON
Many love addicts find they have a history of falling in love with an unavailable person and they wonder why this keeps happening over and over again. The following is a list of the most common reasons love addicts keep falling into this ... Views: 10108
Ah, spring!
What a wonderful time of year. April showers, May flowers, cool breezes, singing birds. Everything about Spring encourages one to grow, to reach, to succeed.
It's a great time to get things done... and to have some fun.
My suggestions? Well...
1. Take a holiday
Oh, ... Views: 4179
Stress Relief – An Industry for Self Inflicted Stress
Stress is a big business in Western society. We live what we regard as hectic lives, that prime us with stress. That stress, to those who recognise its presence, requires relief. We are competitive beyond true need, and that too pumps more ... Views: 1691
April 2005 - Volume II - Issue IV ADHD - Addictive Tendencies
Statement: My intent in this newsletter is to express as quickly as possible my own beliefs and opinions on matters. I have no problems with people who disagree with my opinion and have even been swayed to rethink my ... Views: 6428
Like many “night people,” I have a hard time waking up in the morning, but I have an even harder time falling asleep at night. When I spoke to my doctor about this problem, she offered me a very simple solution: take three hours to "wind down" before bed. Don’t do anything stimulating in the ... Views: 1960
The nature of work is changing at whirlwind speed. Perhaps now more than ever before, job stress poses a threat to the health of workers and, in turn, to the health organizations.
According to The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health, the Federal agency responsible for ... Views: 1152
We all want to be happy. However, if a woman pushes herself to emotional and mental exhaustion in order to reach “perfect” happiness, she could suffer from a condition she probably has never heard of: Missing Mother Syndrome.
When Megan Meadows (not her real name) came to me, she just ... Views: 6006
For adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), details are a drag. We tend to see the big picture and want to jump straight to the finish line, wishing we could skip all the steps in between. Unfortunately, this perspective often causes us to become overwhelmed when it's time to start a ... Views: 1236
Summery:
Certified Hypnotist M. Vance Romane gives you 35 ways to control stress. These techniques will help you to reduce stress with your own willpower. Stress is one of the mail reasons why people smoke and over eat.
Article:
* Play Romane’s stress control seminar recordings, and read ... Views: 1152
Do you ever complain that you don’t remember enough of what you read? Here’s what to do about it. Think of your memory as having four doors. You brain automatically stores experiences by using one or more of these doors. If you decide to remember something, you can decide which of these ... Views: 1158
ADHD - Perils of People Pleasing Tendencies
Many persons with ADHD also describe themselves as excessive people pleasers. This is not necessarily all bad, but it can be carried to extremes by some.
I think the fact that many of us have past history of problems with friendships and personal ... Views: 6367
As adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), we often find ourselves excited by new ideas and plans, but overwhelmed by what it will take to reach the goals.
Many of my coaching clients find themselves in this situation. They make a decision to make a change - a big change. Sometimes ... Views: 1454
There’s so much talk about emotional intelligence and how it can promote personal and business success. What is it really? What are its basic tenets?
Emotional intelligence is the capacity to recognize, understand, and manage one’s emotions and that of others. This “intelligent” concept focuses ... Views: 1282
I looked at my father for the last time before he was finally laid to rest. And I said to myself, "I forgive you father".
I have forgiven him but I have not forgotten the turmoil, terror and abuse that I went through.
My father was working away most of the time when I was growing up. But when ... Views: 3332
Back in 1976, my family was living in Pakistan, where I was conceived. My dad had borrowed just enough money to fly himself to Canada. It took him four years before he could save up the money to fly my mom and my five siblings to Canada as well. So, I had absolutely no communication with my ... Views: 1173
Sarah is a 28 y/o accountant who had a traumatic past that she kept to herself. At age 15, she was grabbed by a masked man while she was jogging in a park. The man threatened to kill her with a knife and brutally raped her. She screamed but nobody seemed to have heard her.
Since that time, ... Views: 1416
Stress. Depression. Anxiety. They’re powerful words that conjure up all kinds of images and prejudices in our minds. People who suffer from these illnesses find it hard to cope with life. They can feel deeply unhappy, they can find no joy in anything life has to offer, and of course, their ... Views: 964
A little stress in your life is actually good for you. It wakes up your creativity, fuels your vitality and keeps your immune system vigilant. The qualifying word is little. When you find yourself rushing from activity to activity and no personal time for yourself, it’s not the external world ... Views: 1028
The pink slip read, “Kay, come to the principal’s office.” I was sixteen, a senior in high school and had never before been asked to see Mr. Ober. With the glass doors straight ahead, I was visibly shaking as I walked down the rambling corridor. When I entered the room three faces were ... Views: 2155
If you are an adult with ADD, chances are that at some point in your life, you've felt that you are not "living up to your potential." This judgment often manifests itself when you take stock of all the great ideas you've had that have never gone anywhere, and all the unfinished projects that ... Views: 1318
My entire life has been a cycle of wanting to live with vengeance and needing to numb the constant pain I feel. Pain that I found unbearable. Numbing entailed irresponsibility. Denial. Aloofness. Any way to keep myself from feeling fledging terror and anger has been my modus operandi. The hurt. ... Views: 1533
One day, I met this fellow at the running track. Just by watching the intensity and passion in his face and his jogging, I could tell that he was driven by a deeper force – something was really motivating and fuelling him.
As he began to walk, I caught up to him. I introduced myself. I then ... Views: 1789
February 2005 - Volume I - Issue XIV
ADHD: Hoarding and Packrat Tendencies
Hoarding and tendency to be a packrat are problem areas for many persons with ADHD. I include myself in this group. I find it very difficult to throw away almost anything. I still have clothes from when I was in my ... Views: 2870
Stress May Be Making You Sick! 90% of all illness in our fast paced society is stress induced. Do you realize, how many people walk around with unnatural amounts of stress? Stress and tension can become a normal feeling in your body. Medical doctors will soon be prescribing that people take a ... Views: 1298
Each one of us has a story that is its own beautiful tale and we can learn a great deal when we choose to share our stories with one another.
Because of this, I have chosen to share my patients'stories and experiences in this book. I have learned that without focusing upon the human element of ... Views: 1649
Life Coaching is all about the present and the future; it is all about taking control of our lives, now, and creating the future we want. It is not about analysing events of the past or going back to old emotions. But it is true that what we are today is the result of what we have experienced, ... Views: 1508
Adults with ADD are not "wired" for details. We're creatives, entrepreneurs, inventors, idea generators, and big picture thinkers.
When an adult with ADD is confronted with too many details to tend to, overwhelm quickly sets in. This is not a character flaw - it's quite simply just not ... Views: 1310
An Enlightened Public Discovers Anger Management
The recent pattern of referrals to anger management classes shows a dramatic shift in client profiles. Over the last seven years most referrals were from the Courts for misdemeanor offenses and infractions with aggressive behavior being the ... Views: 1920
Jill is a 21 y/o college student who used to do well until about a few months ago when she started to experience “weird” attacks almost daily. She described her experience as “horrible.” When she has the attack, she feels that she’s about to die or develop a stroke.
One day while she was in a ... Views: 1236
TOBACCO is one of the few legal substances available in stores as a consumer product, that will kill or harm when used as intended. It is the #1 killer over-the-counter drug the world has ever seen. Why is it we believe there’s enjoyment in something that is literally killing millions of people ... Views: 1815
Do you have days where nothing can make you happy? You are not alone. I ignored my depressive thoughts about life for years. Unfortunately I didn't do anything to fix my situation until they became so dehabilitating that I had no choice.
Mental disorders are common in the United States and ... Views: 1204
Water is very therapeutic and healing as well as cleansing. In our fast paced world, we have become accustomed to taking pulsating showers with strong spicy soaps to wake us up and get us going in our hectic, busy lives. But times are changing. Now we want to relax and be soothed when we’re ... Views: 3011
1. A Story.
How do you react to deadlines? How would you feel if someone said "Hurry up, the clock is ticking and we've got to get this completed!"? How well do you cope with stress?
I had a client who was constantly striving to meet deadlines and felt like he was being driven crazy by the ... Views: 1559
Stress seems to have become a constant factor in today's fast-paced society. If left unchecked, it can wreak havoc upon our health. Learning how to effectively manage stress can mean the difference between being robust and full of life, or becoming susceptible to illness and disease. Stress ... Views: 1240
January 2005 - Volume I - Issue XIII
ADHD: Brain like a computer screensaver
Statement: My intent in this newsletter is to express as quickly as possible my own beliefs and opinions on matters. I have no problems with people who disagree with my opinion and have even been swayed to rethink my ... Views: 2338
Most people experience some degree of shyness from time to time in certain situations. In fact, only about 7% of the population claims that they never feel shy. For the rest of us, shyness can range from being an occasional, minor inconvenience, to being a major problem.
Some people ... Views: 17073
Have you ever walked into a room and couldn't remember what you went there for?Have you ever grasped the hand of a potential client and then when the handshake broke, the name seemed to disappear from your memory? Or have you everleft a prospect and as you drove away remembered a key point that ... Views: 2151
Have you ever found times where you want to express yourself freely, but something inside just stops you? I know I have. Or how about this: someone else is freely expressing themselves on a subject but you cut them off? Or, just the opposite, how many times have you sat back not liking what ... Views: 1418
Billions of people around the world experience acne over their lifetimes. In fact, acne is the single most common skin disorder, and more common than all other skin disorders combined.
With this being the case, it is not surprising to see literally thousands of different acne treatments ... Views: 8524
Yes. Stress is contagious. Just ask my wife.
What it would be like to come home every day to a grumpy spouse. I used to do this to my spouse. Then I began to notice that she was beginning to become grumpy also. My stress was beginning to affect her. She had finally caught my contagions ... Views: 1971
“Wouldn’t it be nice if there was an Easy Button for life?” This question is the tag line to a TV commercial by the office supplies store, Staples.
The ad depicts people in various predicaments, including a bewildered boy called on by his teacher, a dad trying to change two babies’ diapers ... Views: 2369
excerpted from Guy Finley's newest book "Let Go and Live in the Now." Red Wheel/Weiser, 2004.
I can think of no greater encouragement than the self-evident Truth that there dwells in each of us the opportunity to explore and know the Extraordinary Life. The meaning of Extraordinary I wish to ... Views: 1385
5 Steps to Adjusting Your Expectations
Dateline: January 4th. Orange County Anger Management class participants review anger triggers of the week.
Jane, age 23, engaged to be married: “My boyfriend openly flirts with other women in front of me.”
Jim, age 40, an IT professional: “a work group ... Views: 14830