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- Neglect: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not realise that they were neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be firmly behind them. Their physical appearance will have changed and they might even live in a totally different environment, but their adult life could have a lot in common with ...
Views: 14 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone might not have much motivation in life. This is, of course, will be in addition to all of the other challenges that they may have. So instead of having the need to embrace life and to make the most of the life that they have ...
Views: 30 - Healing Journey: How Can Someone Know If They Are Making Progress On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes the first step on their healing journey and looks into what they can do to experience life differently, they may have suffered for many years. As a result of this, they may want their life to change more or less overnight. If the pain that they are in is unbearable, it is ...
Views: 46 - Child Abuse: Was Someone Being Punished If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they might not realise that this is what actually took place. They can then have a number of different problems, but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. One can have mental and emotional problems and their relationships can be anything but ...
Views: 42 - Anxiety: What Causes Anxiety? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has anxiety problems, they may have a strong need to find a way to change their life. Then again, they could simply tolerate what is taking place and do the best that they can to keep it together. Undoubtedly, it is going to be far better if someone has a strong need to change ...
Views: 218 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their True-Self If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can happen, that’s if one was abused and/or neglected as a child, is that they may have disconnected from their true-self. Due to what took place, they can believe that they have to hide who they are. Therefore, while living in this way will stop them from being able to be an ...
Views: 111 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Other People If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, they might not have a favourable view of their fellow human beings. As a result of this, they will be part of the human race but they can feel the need to keep their distance from others. Through being this way, their life is likely to be far ...
Views: 114 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Worth If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the effects of early abuse and/or neglect is that one can have no sense of their own value as an adult. Deep down, they can feel as though they have absolutely no value whatsoever. As a result of this, it will probably be hard for them to feel comfortable in their own skin and they ...
Views: 99 - How to Excavate the Hidden Wounds to Help you Heal Shame - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Sheryl Paul“Whatever we have taken from them, the founding story of our lives, imposed on us by a mother and father who in turn inherited a faulty script from their own parents, isn’t even ours.” – Derren Brown in Happy There is an element of your shame that is not yours. It was drip-fed down through ...
Views: 117 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet that have a sense of their own value and then there are those that don’t. It can be as though some people were born with this in place, while others weren’t. Still, even though it might seem as though this is something that someone is born with, there is far ...
Views: 101 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Existence If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it may have stopped them from realising that they deserve to be here. As a result of what took place, it can be as if they have no right to be on this planet. What took place at this stage of their life will then define how they experience ...
Views: 102 - Triggering Cascade, Trauma Imprinting, and Total Reactance - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2019 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" "Triggering cascade" is when a seemingly minor trigger results in vastly disproportional trauma. Painful memories, replete with the attendant negative emotions, are walled behind mental barriers: combinations of dams and ...
Views: 446 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Dissociate As An Adult? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the importance of being present and living in the moment. Numerous books have been written about it and there have even been programs on TV that go into this. This surely shows that this is something that is a challenge for a lot of people; if this ...
Views: 119 - Neglect: What Can Happen If Someone Was Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it might be possible for them to see that their childhood was anything but nurturing. However, if they were neglected during this stage of their life, this might not be possible. The reason for this is that when it comes to abuse, someone might be able to see ...
Views: 166 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Different Survival Modes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune. Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ...
Views: 110 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Live In Fight Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in an area that is relatively safe, they could behave as though their life is constantly under threat. What this means is that they could have the tendency to be aggressive. As a result of this, they could routinely get into heated arguments and even fights. So no ...
Views: 99 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone to Live in Freeze Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves. However, while this could be the case, ...
Views: 101 - “Without A Body, I Am Nobody” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body. One then had a physical ...
Views: 92 - Child Abuse: Can Affirmations Help Someone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone. For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ...
Views: 96 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That It Is Not Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a body and live on planet earth, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being in their body and living on the earth. This can be due to what took place when they younger. If this is so, thanks to what they went through as a child, they won’t be able to ...
Views: 94 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can seem as though being seen is a normal part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. So, just because someone’s being can be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with being seen for who they are. There is then going to be a big ...
Views: 87 - 5 Ways You Can Find Relief from Your Trauma - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2019 from Hannah WhittenlyExperiencing emotional trauma can be one of the hardest moments of your life. As you replay the events in your mind, it can seem overly difficult to focus on anything else. To get relief, you can participate in these five different strategies below. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) This is ...
Views: 123 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go. Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, ...
Views: 93 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 105 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 91 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, if someone was abused as a child, they would end up getting the assistance that they need now that they are an adult. At this point in their life, they will most likely be able to do something about what they went through. The years will have passed, that much is clear, but what they ...
Views: 88 - Are You Carrying Emotional Pain From Your Adult Life? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child can disconnect from their feelings when they are too painful to handle, an adult can also do the same thing. In both cases, it can seem as though the feelings have disappeared. Even so, in both cases the feelings will have most likely been pushed down into their ...
Views: 128 - Emotional Wounds: How Can Someone Heal Their Childhood Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. The time in their life that should have built them up would ...
Views: 119 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Saying ‘No’ If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, one thing that they may struggle with as an adult is saying no. Thanks to this, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather not do something. This is going to mean that they will go along with things that they don’t really ...
Views: 111 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Assertive If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ...
Views: 114 - Being Present: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often spoken about in self-development is the importance of being present. In some cases, this is seen as the answer to every problem and, in others, it is just seen as something that will allow someone to function better. So when someone is present, they won’t be caught up ...
Views: 127 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Needs If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for ...
Views: 127 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Intimacy If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it could be hard for them to get close to others. Their early years would have been a time when the people that were supposed to love and protect them crossed their boundaries on a daily basis and violated them in a number of other ...
Views: 158 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Seen If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected when they were a child, it may be hard for them to reveal who they are now that they are an adult. What could feel comfortable is hiding from others and hiding when they are around others. However, even though this is what can take place, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 204 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About The Opposite Sex If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that early abuse and/or neglect can do is set someone up to have serious relationships problems as an adult. They could be used to having relationships that are dysfunctional. Then again, it could be far worse, with them having had a number of relationships that were abusive. They ...
Views: 204 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go. Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ...
Views: 142 - Being Seen: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can cause someone to get into self-development is if their life is not very fulfilling. What this can mean is that they haven’t been able to make much progress in life or perhaps they have made progress, but they have only been able to get so far. Either way, they will be ...
Views: 331 - How Do You Develop Courage? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was looking through a book called, ‘How to Survive Without Psychotherapy’ by David Smail. From what I read, it was clear that this was someone who was not too keen on the type of approach that is often taken when it comes to mental and emotional problems. He didn’t like the ...
Views: 178 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse One Of The Reasons Why So Many People Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward. One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ...
Views: 368 - The Case Study of J. M. Schilling of "Dallas, Texas USA" - Thyroid Cancer Survivor and, as a consequence, Sufferer of Vocal Cord Paralysis. - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2019 from Diana YampolskyOnce again, reader’s discretion is advised. Also, due to the personal and intimate nature of the story, some names have been withheld. At the beginning of the year 2016, we got an email and then (when we asked her) a call from a woman who was residing near Dallas, Texas and who had ...
Views: 361 - 4 Ways to Help Yourself Through the Loss of a Loved One - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2019 from Rachelle WilberThe mourning process can be one of the most difficult things in the world, period. There are few experiences in life that can be as hard as dealing with the passing of someone who was important to you. If you’re trying to get through grief, then there are a number of things that can help you in ...
Views: 133 - Child Abuse: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they can be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Like a car that has been in a massive accident, they won’t just have a few scratches; every part of them can be messed up. So, their thoughts and emotions can be all over the place, their brain might ...
Views: 166 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that play a part in someone being able to live a life that is worth living, and having a sense of self worth is one of them. When one has this in place, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. Through having the ability to feel good about ...
Views: 216 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that everyone on this planet has a part of them that provides them with aggression. This part of someone will provide them with energy, drive, enthusiasm and the ability to stand their ground. Of course, it can also be something that can cause them to cause destruction, not ...
Views: 162 - Child Abuse: Is It Normal For Someone To Feel Guilty After Their Abusive Parent Passes On? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had parent who was abusive during their early years, it can be hard for them to get on with them now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that this parent could be in denial when it comes to what took place all those years ago. Or, this parent could make out that one ...
Views: 155 - Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Stay In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in their body and feels connected to it, they will experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will be aware of what their feelings and needs are, and this will mean that they will be in touch with their true-self. Along with this, they will probably find that they ...
Views: 198 - Trauma: Can ‘Staying Present’ Be Another Way For Someone To Avoid Their Trauma? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they need to ‘stay in the moment’, ‘be present’ or to ‘live in the now’. Experiencing life in this way is often seen as the answer to most of life’s challenges. Now, there is no denying that life is going to be a lot harder for ...
Views: 208 - Survival Mode: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Live In Survival Mode? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone heard a loud bang, they could end up experiencing a strong reaction. Their whole body could end up freezing and they could stop breathing, that’s if their breathing doesn’t become very shallow. Before long, they could end up getting out of this state and going to see what exactly ...
Views: 211 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Sense Of Safety To Others? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of safety, it will be possible for them to pay attention to what is taking place inside them and to utilise this information. In other words, one will be able to act like an individual. Ultimately, they will feel comfortable being in their body and safe to exist, ...
Views: 235 - How to Avoid an Accident on a Motorcycle - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2019 from Casey ChesterfieldOperating a motorcycle involves different skills than driving a car. They’re far less stable on the highway and less visible to other drivers. The openness of the vehicle itself also makes motorcyclists far more susceptible to injury and vulnerable to conditions than other drivers. In fact, it’s ...
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