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The Importance of Mind-Body Work for Treating Grief - by Michael Roth- Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Find Healthy Relationships Boring If She Had A Dysfunctional Childhood? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been in a number of relationships that were anything but functional, a woman can end up in a relationship that is very different. This can be a relationship where the man (or woman) is reliable and consistent. Due to this, what he says he will do will generally be what he does ...
Views: 1 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Guarded Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he has the tendency to be aloof when he is around women. As a result of this, he will come across as distant and it won’t be possible for a woman to connect to him. He could see that this has largely stopped him from ...
Views: 2 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As A Threat If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough certain areas of a man’s life might be going well, there might be one area that isn’t and it might have been this way for a while. So, his career could be going in the right direction and he might have a number of close friends, for instance. However, when it comes to his love life, ...
Views: 3 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Only Give Him What He Needed To Survive? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, it can be hard for the people in his life to understand what is going on. His friends and his girlfriend, if he has one, are then going to be confused. For them, it could be clear that he is living in the wrong way and needs to ...
Views: 4 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Struggle To Be Loved By A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he might see that he has spent a lot of time trying to make women like him. Along with this, he might see that he has been with a number of women who were unable to love him. As a result, he can believe that there is something wrong with ...
Views: 5 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry Split-Off Child Parts? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have fully moved on from this stage of their life. Due to this, what happened and the impact it had on them can still have a big effect on their life. However, if they are not aware of this, what is ...
Views: 5 - Are You Aligned With What You Want To Manifest? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, I was thinking about how, as human beings, we can say that we want one thing but do things that don’t match up with what we want. Along with this, we can question if it is possible to attain it and even criticise what we want. As a result of this, we might not be able to attain ...
Views: 6 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose Their Ability To Love? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf one were to meet someone who they are attracted to and things went further, they could find that it is difficult for them to feel and express love for their partner. They are then going to be fond of them but they will feel restricted. This can mean that they will find it hard to access ...
Views: 6 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear Being In Their Body If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperPractically from the moment that someone wakes up until they go to bed at night, they could be on the go. When they are not working, then, they can be exercising, practising a hobby or out socialising. They can come across as confident, high-energy and as someone who is not afraid to try new ...
Views: 7 - Mother Wounds: What Would A Man Have Had A Mother Who Treated Him Like He Was Nothing? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperA man might not remember a great deal about what took place during his formative years but that doesn’t mean what took place at this stage of his life is well and truly in the past. Consequently, his adult life can be very similar to how it was for him during this stage of his life. It might ...
Views: 7 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Seeing His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact. He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ...
Views: 7 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can It Be Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much of a life. Ultimately, a lot of his time and energy will be directed towards meeting her needs, leaving him with very little time and energy to meet his own needs. He is then going to be her son ...
Views: 9 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Carry A Felt Sense Of Helplessness If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not powerless, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. In general, they could feel totally helpless and as though they have no control over their life. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be consciously aware of how they feel. As a result, there ...
Views: 8 - Intimacy: Can A Woman Be Drawn To Men Who Emotionally Withdraw If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship, she may have found that the man that she is with has become less available as time has passed. So, during the early stages, he might have soon replied to her messages, called her, generally been available to meet, been affectionate and expressed his inner world, ...
Views: 8 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Withdrawn Around A Woman If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man may be in a relationship that is not going well. The main reason for this is that he might find that it is not possible for him to be connected to how he feels when he is with his girlfriend. If so, when he is with her, he will lose touch with how he feels. He ...
Views: 8 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Being Able To Freely Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the ability to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will. Instead, they can have the tendency to play a role. To use an analogy, it can be as if they have a car that they can drive anywhere but they continually drive the car to the same places. Living in this ...
Views: 8 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Unsettled? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone’s emotional self may rarely, if ever, be settled, with them often being all at sea internally. Due to this, it might not be possible for them to live a normal life. Now, it might not matter if they are around others or by themselves as they could struggle to handle what is ...
Views: 8 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Try To Be Accepted By Women If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he spends a lot of time trying to please women. So, over the years he might have been in a number of relationships where he lost himself. Therefore, thanks to how focused he was on trying to make the women happy, he ...
Views: 8 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Experience Hope Instead Of Fulfilment? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, at least one area of someone’s life might not be going as they want it to go. This area of their life might have also been this for as long as they can remember, which can add to the pain that they are experiencing. So, they might have wanted to be in an intimate relationship for ...
Views: 12 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Believe That They Only Deserve To Survive? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, someone can have the sense that they are only worthy of meeting their basic needs. Consequently, they can generally create a life where they survive but seldom if ever thrive. But, if this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they can believe that this is just what ...
Views: 14 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Try To Rescue His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could do a lot for his mother, and he may have been this way for many years. He is then going to be more like her parent than her son, which will mean that he is out of balance. However, no matter what he does for her, he could end up doing even more if she becomes ill and ...
Views: 15 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Live In Hope If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has experienced a lot of frustration over the years. He could see that this is because his needs have largely not been met in one or a number of areas of his life. Being deprived is then going to be normal and this will have naturally ...
Views: 15 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Abuse With Survival If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone may be in a relationship that is anything but loving. So, they could be with someone who undermines them in a variety of different ways. For example, they could rarely be seen or heard, receive affection, often be put down and humiliated and even be physically harmed. They ...
Views: 16 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As His Enemies If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, a man may have experienced a breakup. He may have been with a woman who didn’t treat him very well and be relieved that their time together has come to an end. If so, this would have been a relationship that was anything but harmonious and there wouldn’t have been a great ...
Views: 16 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be In A Traumatised State If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were anything but nurturing, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. They might not remember a great deal about this stage of their life; then again, they might believe that this stage of their life wasn’t that bad, with it being a time when they received what ...
Views: 18 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Like An Imposter If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, someone may have put a lot of effort into their career. Thanks to this, they might have been able to make a lot of progress, with them achieving a high position and doing well financially. However, regardless of whether they hold a high position or are well off financially, ...
Views: 18 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone’s Life Take On A Symbolic Meaning If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can want to achieve one or a number of things, it doesn’t mean that they will be fully aware of why this is. This is because they can be out of touch with what is truly driving them. What this illustrates is that there is their conscious mind or conscious sense of ...
Views: 21 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Being Happy If They Had A Depressed Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they rarely feel happy or experience joy. In general, then, they are going to spend a lot of time feeling flat or down. What might stand out is that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. If ...
Views: 20 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Associate Separation With Death? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, someone may have gone through a breakup, and, since then, they might not have been in a good way. This may have been a relationship that was going well or it might not. Either way, there can be moments when they experience fear and anxiety, and other moments when they lose touch ...
Views: 21 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Believe That There Is Only Enough For Them To Survive? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they typically only have enough money to merely exist. So, they can have what they need to pay their rent, buy food and clothes, for instance, but that could be about it. This could mean that they have a job ...
Views: 23 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Only Change His Behaviour To Please His Girlfriend? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a relationship but is overly focused on his mother, his girlfriend is likely to be frustrated with what is going on. This is because he will spend a lot of time doing things for his mother, having very little time for himself, let alone her. She might have kept her true ...
Views: 23 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Emotional State Be Controlled By His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be physically separate from his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will act like it. This is also likely to mean that he won’t feel emotionally separate from her either. He will then often be doing things for her and his emotional state will largely be defined by her. Now, ...
Views: 23 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Deserve To Be Punished If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they find is that they are often not treated very well by others. So, when they are around their friends, perhaps family and at work, they could often be put down and ignored, for instance. Then again, they might typically ...
Views: 24 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Ostracised? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they can find is that they have the tendency to please others. This can largely take place without them consciously choosing to do so. Being this way will mean that they typically focus on other people’s needs and ignore ...
Views: 23 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self To Survive? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to play a role when they are around others. For example, they can typically come across as easy-going, selfless and do what they can to please others. As a result, they are rarely if ever going to fully show up around others and freely express themselves. ...
Views: 28 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Drawn To Women Who Are Out Of Reach If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who he was unable to get close to. So, he may have been with at least one woman who was already in a relationship and he was having an affair with. Along with this, he may have been with at least one woman who lived a long way away or ...
Views: 27 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would A Woman Be Happy If A Mother-Enmeshed Man Became Available? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Thanks to how caught up he is with her needs, he might seldom be physically, let alone emotionally, available. If so, a lot of his time and energy will be directed toward his mother, leaving him with ...
Views: 26 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone’s Sense Of Self Be Built On Pain If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has a body, it doesn’t mean that they will typically inhabit their body. Instead, they can live in their head, with them having a weak connection with their body. As a result of this, they are going to live on the surface of themselves and they won’t have access to all of ...
Views: 30 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they spend a lot of time trying to fix other people’s problems. This can be how they are with their friends and their partner, that’s if they are in a relationship. Along with this, they could often be this way ...
Views: 27 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Believe That They Need To Focus On Others To Survive? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to focus on other people’s needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise how focused they generally are on other people’s needs. Consequently, they will often overlook their own needs, which will cause them to neglect themselves. Yet, ...
Views: 31 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Behave As An Object If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to act as if they are an object that exists to serve others. So, they could find that they are often doing things for others and seldom there for themselves. Therefore, if they are not ...
Views: 29 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Being Able To Experience Pleasure? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperPractically from the moment that someone’s wakes up, they could experience anxiety to one degree or another. Shortly after this, they can think about one or a few of the things that they have to do that day and be filled with dread. What might change what is going on is if they have a coffee ...
Views: 29 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Rescued? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, if that they often end up in situations where they need to be saved. Their life is then going to be anything but harmonious and there will be a lot of ups and downs. It can then be normal for them to feel helpless, ...
Views: 27 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Worthless If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they are often treated badly. Along with this, they could see that they generally don’t treat themselves very well. However, they could see that being treated badly feels comfortable and that it takes a ...
Views: 32 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman’s Fear Of Intimacy Cause Her To End Up With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman can be in a relationship with a man who is rarely physically let alone emotionally available. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time being there for his mother and taking care of her needs. Due to this, she will be in a relationship but she may as well be ...
Views: 30 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Needless False Self If They Had A Depriving Childhood? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with all of their needs, let alone do what they can to meet them. Instead, they can only be in touch with a few of their needs and they might not always do what they can to meet these ...
Views: 33 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Be An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperA man can be in a position where he not only focuses on his mother and ignores himself but he can be comfortable with this. He can have the sense that he is doing the right thing by being there for her. So, as far as he is concerned, as he is her son, it can be his responsibility to be there ...
Views: 33 - Narcissistic Mothers: Can A Man Feel Worthless If Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels low and depressed. He could find that this is because he doesn’t feel good about himself and doesn’t believe this will ever change. If he were to think about why he feels this way, he could think ...
Views: 32 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Survival Attached To His Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is focused on and does a lot for his mother, he is unlikely to have a life that is very fulfilling. The reason for this is that a number of his needs will seldom if ever be met. Yet, even though he will be depriving himself, this might not be something that ...
Views: 33 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone’s Connection To Their Emotional Self Be Severed If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has a mental, emotional and instinctual self, it doesn’t mean that they are generally in touch with each of these parts. In general, they can be in touch with what is going on for them at a mental level but that’s about it. But, if this is just what is normal, they won’t ...
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