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- How are you dealing with your feelings about the war? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2003 from John GrayIn these trying and troubled times, it can be difficult to get the feelings of “impending doom” out of your head. War, terrorism, the bad economy, you read about it in the newspaper, see headlines on the internet, and watch the war coverage on TV. It’s natural with this level of exposure to ...
Views: 6208(3 votes) - Mountain Climbing over Molehills - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2003 from Rhoberta ShalerSomeone has said that the greatest cause of ulcers is mountain-climbing over mole-hills! Is that the way you get your exercise? Many folks allow themselves to be thrown off course by minor or imaginary threats. Often they interpret these as life-or-death, or do-or-die situations. They put so ...
Views: 1251(2 votes) - What is Stress? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoStress is an interpretation of an event or circumstance which is understood to be a threat. It can be any force or pressure put on a system (living or nonliving) which may result in a need for the system to adapt or change. Stress on human beings is like a rubber band. You also stretch to ...
Views: 2050(4 votes) - How Do You Get Them to Buy-in to Your Idea? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan Dunn“How can I get them to buy-in to this idea?” Anna, a bank manager, asked me. She had an idea for restructuring the department. She knew it would work, but only if everyone would agree to it. She talked about different department members: Bob, who disagreed with anything anyone proposed. ...
Views: 1787(2 votes) - Nutrition as an Attention Deficit Disorder Alternative Treatment: Help is as Close as the Kitchen - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueThe quality of food we eat (or lack thereof) has a profound affect on Attention Deficit Disorder and ADHD. For many people, nutrition alone can effectively work as an ADHD alternative treatment. A growing body of research points to nutritional deficiencies - especially with essential fatty ...
Views: 2317(2 votes) - Communication With The Most Important Person - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Mark ThompsonHe was a student in the 6th grade. He was great in all subjects except Math. His step-father was sent to his room to help him with his Math homework. After a few minutes of silence, a loud yell of anger reverberated throughout the house. His mother came in to after her son was slapped in the ...
Views: 1533(2 votes) - What do you believe ? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2003 from Ian ClarkImagine if you saw the following headline in the mornings paper. How would it make you feel ? ' LANDING ON THE MOON WAS A HOAX ' Virtually all adults not only in the U.S but all over the world accept that Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin on the 20th July 1969 walked on the moon, everyone has ...
Views: 1527(1 vote) - Changing Fear into Excitement - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2003 from Ted SchreddFear scares people. That’s what it’s supposed to do; it’s just a matter of how much and how often do we really need to be scared? Basically, there are two kinds of fear. Real fear allows you to save your butt in challenging situations (like being chased by a predator or facing imminent danger). ...
Views: 9247(1 vote) - Self Talk Shakedown - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2003 from David CameronAs a man thinketh, so is he. Once you realize that your world arises from your thoughts and emotions, that your outer situations reflect your inner state, you start to see a much larger pattern working in your life. You start to understand how your financial, relationship and health situations ...
Views: 1240(2 votes) - Strategies for Eliminating and Managing Stress - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2010 from Michelle CastoTo combat modern day stressors, you need to realize that things are going to go the way they are going to go, so you may as well just relax. The most important thing you can do for yourself is to practice extreme self-care which means putting your own needs first. We have had it backwards for ...
Views: 1976(2 votes) - Mourning the Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAt the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding ...
Views: 4309(1 vote) - Traumas as Social Interactions - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She"). We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - The Malignant Optimism of the Abused - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninI often come across sad examples of the powers of self-delusion that the narcissist provokes in his victims. It is what I call "malignant optimism". People refuse to believe that some questions are unsolvable, some diseases incurable, some disasters inevitable. They see a sign of hope in every ...
Views: 2026(1 vote) - Facilitating Narcissism - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use ...
Views: 1818(1 vote) - The Psychology of Torture - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninThere is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed - one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, ...
Views: 2135(1 vote) - What is Abuse? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAbusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control. There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to ...
Views: 1666(1 vote) - IN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Pauline WallinIN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D Clinical Psychologist Author, "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior" In the weeks and perhaps months to come, the world will be on edge as events unfold in the Middle East and ...
Views: 1523(2 votes) - Calming Tips for Hyperactive Children - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueParents of hyperactive children know the "Would you please just settle down?!" phrase well, and likely use it on a regular basis. There are a number of tips to help parents settle their hyperactive child down. These quick tips and relaxation techniques take the same amount of time as yelling ...
Views: 3382(1 vote) - Eight simple anger management tips - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2003 from David Leonhardt"The other night I ate at a real family restaurant. Every table had an argument going." One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger. When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows: - Anger impedes our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness are ...
Views: 6148(1 vote) - Remembering intended actions and future events - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Fiona McPhersonThere is no such thing as a poor memory. You may be terrible at remembering names, or great with names but lousy at remembering birthdays and anniversaries, or terrific at remembering facts you’ve read but hopeless at remembering details about people. These are memory tasks, and there are ...
Views: 2115(1 vote) - Strattera, The New ADHD Medication - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2003 from Jeannine VirtuePlease feel free to reprint this article about the newest ADHD medication to hit pharmacy shelves, keeping author bio and URL intact. Thank you! “Strattera, the New ADHD Medication” The newest ADHD medication Strattera (atomoxetine) is expected to hit the pharmacy shelves this month to much ...
Views: 5929(1 vote) - The Restless Mind - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Remez SassonMost of our body's functions are unconscious activities. Our body breathes constantly, and we hardly pay this function any attention. The blood moves automatically through the veins, and we are hardly aware of its movement. So it is with many other bodily functions. Thinking seems also to be ...
Views: 2670(1 vote) - "Old Agreements" from the Book Healing Shame and Addiction - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Paul RandakOLD AGREEMENTS I’ve been trying to make clear to you that the only worthwhile course of action, whether for a sorcerer or an average men is to restrict our involvement with self image, we must shatter our mirror of self-reflection. -Don Juan Matus When we look at the nature of addiction, ...
Views: 3335(1 vote) - Caution your job may be hazardous to your health! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from William PoppenMost products or activities that are considered dangerous are labeled with a warning. Cigarette packages have a warning from the Surgeon General’s office. Stepladders have a warning that the top steps should be avoided. Likewise job contracts should be stamped with a statement that your job ...
Views: 1784(1 vote) - 6 Unique Stress Relievers - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Kathy ThompsonToo much driving, too much shopping, too much rushing around, running the kids around--family and work demands have you stressed out. There are many ways to help you control stress. Here are some unique methods I've collected. 1. Yell! But---be sure you are alone. The best place is ...
Views: 1572(3 votes) - Ritalin (methylphenidate) Drug Abuse: - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Jeannine VirtueRitalin (methylphenidate) Drug Abuse: Ritalin (methylphenidate) is the most common drug prescribed for Attention Deficit Disorder. Over the past five years, ADHD prescriptions have increased over 600 percent and so has the incidence of snorting Ritalin, injecting Ritalin and non-medical ...
Views: 4972(1 vote) - 5 Tips to Reduce Holiday Depression - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2002 from Wayne PerkinsAs the holidays approach each year, more and more people suffer from Holiday Depression. Some experts blame it on factors relating to nutrition. Nutritional experts believe that depression is caused by the excessive sugar and fatty foods coursing through our bodies. Other experts believe that ...
Views: 1803(1 vote) - Dynamically Anchored Self Hypnosis - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2002 from John LunsholmA novel approach to eliminating life limiting behaviors and emotions, or enhancing performance in five minutes or less “Dynamically Anchored Self Hypnosis™” (DASH™) is a simple to learn and use, yet powerful technique for creating personal change developed by Hypnotherapist John Lundholm. ...
Views: 2099(1 vote) - Fear as a friend not an enemy - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2002 from Ian ClarkFear as a friend not an enemy What we are really saying when we have fears or doubts is not that we are scared of getting hurt. Not that we are unable to do it but the real reason is we feel ‘we cannot handle it’ Some fear is pure instinct and keeps us out of danger but the majority, the ...
Views: 1842(1 vote) - The Nature of Addiction (Nicotine) - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2002 from Ian ClarkThe Nature of Addiction When you started smoking you will have been lulled in to a false sense of security, thinking you can give up whenever you want until you actually try to stop and can’t. Some people would have started smoking when they were young and most when they were teenagers. ...
Views: 2008(1 vote) - Incest and Child Sexual Abuse: Definitions, Perpetrators, Victims, and Effects - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Kali MunroIncest and Child Sexual Abuse: Definitions, Perpetrators, Victims, and Effects Definition of Child Sexual Abuse Child sexual abuse is any form of sexual activity with a child by an adult, or by another child where there is no consent or consent is not possible; or by another child who has ...
Views: 3484 - Focus On The JOY! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Kathy GatesIt’s the Holiday Season --A new year is upon us! I’ll bet you’re already thinking about how you’d like next year to be a little different than the last, right? (yes, I see hands raising!) But instead of thinking of performance, and efficiency, and control, I’d like you to take this ...It’s ...
Views: 1452 - The Psychology of Racism in America - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from David BushRacism. Now there is a word that can stir up emotions quickly! So many people have such strong views on this subject that it is really hard for a lot of people to talk about it with an open mind. The fact of the matter is that very many Christians struggle with this as well. My goal is to help ...
Views: 11264(2 votes) - A Perspective of Eating Disorders - by A human’s perception of what are right and acceptable ways to look, act and behave are really nothing but a pile of empty, meaningless and substance less rules of which have been passed down through generation after generation of perhaps, confused and somewhat misinformed people. Whether it ...
Views: 1679(1 vote) - Time for Healing! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Joseph GhabiTime for Healing We have to go through some unfortunate experiences sometimes in our life. When you speak with other people you will always find out how easy your experience is in comparison to what they have suffered. The impact that experience has brought on your life cannot be identified in ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - Why Sit Here Until I Die? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Audrina BuntonThe bible tells a story about four men who sat at the entrance of the city's gate dying with leprosy, an incurable disease which causes terribly visible swelling and sores on the skin, only then to eat inward to the bones. These lepers sat outside of the city because they were not permitted to ...
Views: 3006(3 votes) - Put Yourself in Charge of All Outer Circumstances - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Guy FinleyBarring those moments when we find ourselves in real physical danger, conditions of themselves have absolutely no authority over us. It's true. No event or circumstance has any power to make us feel one way or another. The only command any condition may have over us is that which we ...
Views: 2858(3 votes) - Stepping Out of the Realm of Fear - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2011 from Monique RiderAs a survivor of domestic violence, I have learned that fear can play a big part in keeping women locked in abusive relationships. Some of those fears are very real and some are just illusions. Threats by the abuser, threats against the children, or physical violence are truly real fears. ...
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