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- 5 simple steps to forget someone you love - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Raymond FohjemHow would you forget someone you love? Would you continue to dwell in the past memories and ruin your health through thinking or crying for the rest of your days? If you want to stop loving someone, you will and the process is completely easy to follow. We have many types of relationships but ...
Views: 19613(2 votes) - Abuse vs. Building Your Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2012 from Gerri D Smith“Above all, challenge yourself. You may well surprise yourself at what strengths you have, what you can accomplish.” - Cecile M. Springer When you find yourself stuck in an abusive or a bullying situation, try building up your self-esteem. Whether the abuse you experience is domestic or ...
Views: 1828(1 vote) - Abuse: Why Do Some People Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many types of abuse; from child abuse, to abuse in relationships, abuse in the workplace and even through leaders of countries for example. And no matter what kind of abuse it is, people are put through pain and are made to suffer. One is then made to believe that something is wrong ...
Views: 3220(1 vote) - Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaAnger is the emotional energy within each of us that rises up when something needs to change. If you act on the need to create change, your anger can be channeled effectively; but it’s not redirected to something effective, your frustration will build, sometimes to hurricane force. Anger ...
Views: 1805(1 vote) - BeSimply...Strengthened and Renewed - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Suzanne ToroSuzanne Toro shares an introduction to a Self Help Series for Women and Men who have been abused or violated. She shares a simple over view on how to identify if you are still holding on to the trauma and the fears. She will share how you can identify where you might have buried you pain. ...
Views: 1627(4 votes) - Child Abuse: What Happens When A Child Is Invalidated? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to raising a child that is mentally and emotionally healthy and has a strong sense of self, it is imperative that they are validated. This is not to say that they have to be validated at all times in order to become a functional adult, but in most cases, it is vital that this ...
Views: 2156(2 votes) - Choking Off The Roots Of Anger - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2012 from Charles SteedWe’ve become a society of free expression. These days people are encouraged to open up and just let their feelings flow. Of course, there are plenty of acceptable ways to do this as well as some very unacceptable methods of expression. In most cases anger is one method that causes significant ...
Views: 1410(1 vote) - Controlling Mothers: Why Are Some Mothers Controlling? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that to some degree all mothers are controlling and that they have to be. From the very beginning a child has to have the right discipline and guidance to develop. However, what happens when this control is taken to the extreme and the child is taken advantage of? A ...
Views: 4771(1 vote) - Could My Child Be Sexually Abusing Other Children - Juvenile Sex Offenders - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Judy WrightIt is not the strangers who manipulate and prey on their sexual victims, it is someone who is usually known and respected by the family. Sexual abuse is often first committed by juvenile family members who are loved and trusted. As hormones begin to surge and if they have not been taught how to ...
Views: 3563(2 votes) - Couples, How to Stop Verbal Abuse in its Tracks - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthFrustration and anger can lead to mean-spirited, disrespectful communication. We sometimes reach the breaking point and say hurtful or belittling comments, often while raising our voice. For example, Sarah is watching TV with her husband Erik. A commercial for a fast food company comes on and ...
Views: 8727(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want a man in my life that I can trust again. - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ...
Views: 948(2 votes) - Emotional Abuse: 3 Signs Your Spouse May Be Gaslighting You - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2019 from Anica OaksIn today’s world, many people find themselves unsatisfied with their marital relationships. If this is the case for you, now is the time to examine why your union has become unsavory. In many cases, people begin to suspect that the culprit for a substandard or abusive marriage is emotional ...
Views: 964(1 vote) - Empowering Choices - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from G LThe choices we make creates experiences for us and others. The way we perceive ourselves is a choice. Do you see yourself as beautiful, ugly, smart, stupid, outgoing, open, closed emotional or unfeeling? If one chooses to see their self as incompetent for example, they will create experiences of ...
Views: 2143(1 vote) - Fear and Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2011 from Laura Bonetzky-JosephEver wonder why victims stay with their abusers and DON'T leave? Many are handicapped by the years of fear and control instilled in them by the abuser. Fear of homelessness. Fear of the inability to provide for the children. Fear the abuser will kill the other parent, children, or everyone in a ...
Views: 2813(3 votes) - Giving a Helping Hand to a Hand in Need - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellRecently, some of the books I ordered came to me with printing issues on the cover. I was devastated because I knew I couldn't sell them, nor could they be given away without covers on them. For me, this was a real waste of good material. Since I never throw anything away, I wanted to see what I ...
Views: 1492(1 vote) - Got Drunk and Slept With My Ex: Sleeping With Your Ex after a Breakup - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaGot Drunk and Slept With My Ex: Sleeping With Your Ex after a Breakup "I had sex with my ex boyfriend." That's never a good thing to say. It's even worse if the woman saying it is in love with her ex. The decision to sleep with an ex in an effort to get him back may seem like a fantastic ...
Views: 806(1 vote) - Guidelines for Determining a Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownShould I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can ...
Views: 1508(2 votes) - He Broke Up With Me But Says He Still Cares: Why Did He Break Up With Me If He Still Loves Me - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaHe Broke Up With Me But Says He Still Cares: Why Did He Break Up With Me If He Still Loves Me You went through a break up recently and your ex boyfriend is still keeping in touch with you. When you are about to give up on your ex boyfriend and move on to find a new guy, he suddenly says he ...
Views: 1103(1 vote) - HE Said; SHE heard. - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from PD RiversHE said "You are gaining weight every day. Your body looks like you swallowed the Pillsbury Doughboy." SHE heard "Oh, God, I have to stop taking this medication. It doesn't matter that it is all that is keeping me alive. I am fat and my husband doesn't love me any more." Are you laughing? You ...
Views: 1318(1 vote) - He Won't Accept My Apology: I Apologized and He Didn't Reply - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Lyra NoaHe Won't Accept My Apology: I Apologized and He Didn't Reply Did your boyfriend break up with you over a mistake you made? Is he refusing to listen to you when you try to tell him you'll change and never do it again? Is he not answering your calls or texts anymore? Do you know if you could ...
Views: 2999(1 vote) - How emotionally mature are you in love? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Gina HardyMost of my lovely couples come to me in relational angst when their bag of long standing coping “tools” has run aground and they have nothing left with which to communicate their feelings and needs in a healthy way. Many couples just cope, rather than experience deeply fulfilling and ...
Views: 2844(1 vote) - How To Apologize To An Ex Boyfriend: I Apologized To My Ex Now What - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Lyra NoaHow To Apologize To An Ex Boyfriend: I Apologized To My Ex Now What Here's a great 3 part plan on how to apologize to get your ex back. Getting your ex back does not have to be difficult. Many have succeeded, yet many others tend to fail. What makes the difference? The way you apologize. ...
Views: 1137(1 vote) - How to Heal from a Relationship with a Narcissist! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne Brown“Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself.” In our article about Leaving a Narcissist, I spoke about knowledge being your best weapon. Only with knowledge about what is happening, how it is happening, and how to counter ...
Views: 1616(2 votes) - how to walk in sexy high heels - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Marysian SianHowever, if you want to use sexy high heels to attract others towards you, then you need to use the best suitable sexy high heels for you. The reason is if you don’t use sexy high heels according to your height, weight, skin colour and other physical conditions, then you will not be able to get ...
Views: 3702(1 vote) - I Told My Ex I Missed Him and He Didn't Reply: Told My Ex I Miss Him No Response - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Lyra NoaI Told My Ex I Missed Him and He Didn't Reply: Told My Ex I Miss Him No Response I'm sorry your relationship with your ex boyfriend didn't work out and you miss him dearly and need to figure out what to do. I know you still love him and think your relationship is still worth fighting for? I ...
Views: 1564(1 vote) - It's Been A Month Since We Broke Up: It's Been Months And I Still Miss My Ex - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaIt's Been A Month Since We Broke Up: It's Been Months And I Still Miss My Ex It has been a month after you break off with your ex and you wonder if it is possible to get back with your ex. How possible it is to get an ex back after a month? It depends on the situation. If your ex is not in ...
Views: 445(1 vote) - It's Been Years and I Still Love My Ex: It's Been 2 Years and I Still Miss My Ex - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaIt's Been Years and I Still Love My Ex: It's Been 2 Years and I Still Miss My Ex Do you find yourself still thinking "I still love my ex"? If you do it is time to figure out what you want to do about it. It is natural to still have love for your ex if you were together for a while. As a ...
Views: 919(1 vote) - Misunderstanding Abusive Men Like Chris Brown - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Teagin Maddox,An article about Chris Brown captured my attention recently because of the title, "The Real Reason Everybody Hates Chris... Brown, That Is (It's Not Why You Think)". It was written by Keli Goff, an Author, Commentator, and Contributing Editor at TheLoop.21.com. She also appears as a regular ...
Views: 2917(4 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Alternate Between ‘Bad Boys’ And ‘Nice Guys’? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of women who are only drawn to men who are kind and respectful, for instance, there are also plenty of women who aren’t. As a result of this, their relationships with men are going to be radically different. The Norm Still, when it comes to what a woman’s ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - She's Not My Mother - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month; this is to honor the abused. A child can be abused by parents, stepparents, grand parents, siblings, and other relatives. This is a hypothetical story about a child and his mother, however, it could be the story of anyone. In this day and age, ...
Views: 1610(1 vote) - Staying True to Your Inner Voice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAlways Remain True to Yourself We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment. We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Still Crying A Year After Breakup: Still Struggling A Year After Breakup - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaStill Crying A Year After Breakup: Still Struggling A Year After Breakup So, your relationship has run its course and you guys broke up. We could sat it is not such a big deal. It happens to thousands of people everyday. A little crying, your heart seems broken for some time, but not long ...
Views: 706(1 vote) - Still In Love With My First Love After 20 Years: Thinking About Ex Years Later - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaStill In Love With My First Love After 20 Years: Thinking About Ex Years Later If you have been separated or divorced from your ex and suddenly you realize that you are still in love, do not feel bad. Lots of people experience the same situation. There are lots of people who still love their ...
Views: 822(1 vote) - The Voice from Within - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Patrice PerkinsA voice within......we all have one - we just need to listen. It's a parents dream to be a witness to their child's first words. There was a time when it was easy to speak my little words of expression from that point in my life and receive a smile from my mother. But, as time went on my ...
Views: 1184(1 vote) - Toxic People - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsA few years ago, I attended one of Debbie Ford’s ( No1 NY Times Best Selling Author and Self Development Expert) Shadow process workshops in New York. One of the biggest light bulb moments I had on this course was when Debbie led us through a process where we learned to accept that ‘ There are ...
Views: 3412(6 votes) - When It Hurts Say OUCH! - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghThat's Got to Hurt! I recently had a Twitter friend ask me to post some uplifting quotes related to “taking kindness as weakness” and “being pushed too far.” Of course I did my best to find a few that might assuage her pain. At least I hope they helped a little. This reminded me of a common ...
Views: 1975(2 votes) - When What You Give is Squandered: Re-thinking identity as a giver when giving too much can hurt - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2010 from Fannie LeFloreIf you’ve been victimized often, chances are the positive qualities you possess were viewed as an opportunity to take advantage of you – often by someone who lacks caring and concern, consciousness or character, usually in combination. Being un-thoughtful and even callous in our stressed, ...
Views: 2131(1 vote) - At the Mall - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.Derron liked to play his Xbox as much as he could in between work and school. He competed with his friends and family as well as people online. His new game just came out and he just had to beat everyone’s score. He always had to have the highest score. Sabrina worked at the video store in ...
Views: 1783(7 votes) - Lane Changing Thoughts - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2010 from Vonzel SawyerI was contemplating what could I write that would reach people and help them to get them started toward the path of life that best suits them and those connected to them. Here is what came to me, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable” When we meet others and purpose is sensed ...
Views: 1645(6 votes) - ABC's Of Overcoming Fear Associated With Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2011 from Laura Bonetzky-JosephA - Acknowledge the abuse - past, present and future B- Break the Silence C- Confront your fears & Call for help - There is nothing to be ashamed of D - Don't Blame Yourself - Deliberately set intentions towards empowerment E - Everyone Can Heal F- Fear is worse than the abuse ...
Views: 1623(4 votes) - The Main Causes of Your Irrational Anger - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople often get angry and many times they don't even know why they get angry. As a counselor, I've dealt with many people who are genuinely puzzled why they got so angry. Have you ever gotten angry over something small, stupid, or just plain silly? Have you ever sat down later and felt ...
Views: 13920(3 votes) - 5 Thing to NEVER Say to your CHILD! - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Carl LogreccoAs parents, we would agree that we love our children. Perhaps even more than we have ever loved anyone. However, most children, especially weight-challenged children, may remember things that we said to them years ago, that keep them from experiencing love. Before I became a father, a friend ...
Views: 1660(3 votes) - Abusive Parents: Why Do Some Parents Abuse Their Children? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive parenting if often something that goes on covertly in our society. To the outsider it might not even be noticed. With how a family or parent presents themselves to the outside world being the complete opposite of how they our behind closed doors. These people can hold positions of ...
Views: 2871(3 votes) - How to Date a Nice Guy - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeI constantly work with women who are tired of cycling through ‘bad boys’ or dysfunctional relationships. They want to find someone worth spending the rest of their lives with. The problem is that they may not be able to identify the ‘nice guys.’ Even if they can, there is baggage they cannot ...
Views: 10843(3 votes) - Hurt People Hurt People - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Ken FieldsPeople who are hurt, specifically in an emotional or psychological sense, tend to hurt other people. Hurt people can hurt people with harsh words, biting comments, derogatory statements, ridicule, condescension, sarcasm, yelling and screaming, cussing and innuendo about family members or ...
Views: 4130(3 votes) - Is Your Family Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on May 06, 2011 from Darlene LancerProbably, and you’re in the majority. The term “dysfunctional family,” once used only by professionals, has become popular jargon in America where dysfunctional families are the norm due to cultural values, a high divorce rate, and widespread addictions – from prescription drugs to exercising, ...
Views: 1574(3 votes) - Parental Alienation Syndrome and the law of gravity - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Les LinetParental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) has, to date, not been included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders and is not widely accepted in United States courts. Even after it might be included in the diagnostic manual, courtroom arguments will likely continue for decades – ...
Views: 2215(5 votes) - The Finest Boy in the School - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.This is a short story about Mary, who is a sophomore in high school. Her best friend’s name is Lindsey; they are inseparable. There was a junior in high school, which caught Mary’s eye. He was tall and handsome and had muscles on top of muscles. She told Lindsey all about him, “Look, there ...
Views: 1560(5 votes) - ***Divorcing Destruction: Think Straight and Think Strong - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Teagin Maddox,As women, we typically give, and want, more in relationships than men; we want nice homes and solid families, not just some roof over our heads and a bunch of people co-existing together--although that sure would be easier. Nope; we want constant connection; we want the fairy tale. We are ...
Views: 2676(4 votes) - Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less ...
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