A - Acknowledge the abuse - past, present and future

B- Break the Silence

C- Confront your fears & Call for help - There is nothing to be ashamed of

D - Don't Blame Yourself - Deliberately set intentions towards empowerment

E - Everyone Can Heal

F- Fear is worse than the abuse itself as without fear the abuser has no power or control. Free yourself and fight back your abuser. Take back your power.

G - Give your self some healing and recovery time. Time and patience is crucial

H - Have a SAFE Plan in Place

I - I deserve to be treated with respect

J - Join a support group for survivors of abuse.

K - Know you can't change the abuser nor can you help them. You can only help you.

L - Love Your Self Unconditionally and with self respect

M- Muster Up The Courage to Leave and do so with a strong plan in place and a support system

N- No one has any power or control over my life's vibrational energy

O - Overcome your fears one day at a time. This is not something that happens over night.

P - Pray every day. The power of prayer is amazing. You just have to have faith and be patient.

Q - Quiet your mind - With that you will gain the clarity you need

R - Resist the temptations and control of the abuser

S - Say No when you are Feeling violated and surround yourself with supportive individuals

T - Take back your power ... Tell Someone About the Abuse and trust your inner voice

U - Understand life's lessons in what can be a horrible experience. You WILL become stronger as a result. Have faith in yourself with that.

V - Value your life & yourself

W - What you fear the most will happen the most.

X - X-ercise your rights under the VAWA and your state laws

Y - You are worthy to find true love, but love that will love and respect you

Z - Zealously make a plan to free yourself from any and all forms of abuse in the present and future.

Above all ... Ask for help til someone hears you!!!

There is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Stay strong. Alone we are weak, but together we are STRONG.

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Author's Bio: 

Laura is a writer and advocate for victims of domestic abuse and donates time to help victims through the healing process and the legal system in Massachusetts.

These come from years as a survivor of abuse. Moving from victim to survivor is quite important as a part of healing. I am thankful for all those who passed in my life over the past 5yrs. I'll never forget this statement "People come into your life for a reason, a moment, a day, a season, or a lifetime" My blogs started out from personal experiences & grown into my professional experiences. Thank you for coming by & PLEASE leave your comments.

Laura is a writer and advocate for victims of domestic abuse and donates time to help victims through the healing process and the legal system in Massachusetts.

Laura is very compassionate and passionate about what she does. She believes that no matter what you are seeking, balance is key - mind, body or spirit. If any of those three areas are out of balance, your whole system will be out of balance. She strives to provide the very best services, classes, workshops, & events. Laura also customizes services to meet her client’s individual needs.

She's the moderator for various online health & wellness groups including Myspace & LinkedIn & volunteers her time helping those healing from abuse.

Laura was recognized in 2009 & 2010 as one of the top professionals under the age of 40 by New England Business Bulletin. She was one of the featured recipients in the article “Sixteen honorees were selected for innovation, leadership, and community service;” by Pamela Berard, a New England Business Bulletin correspondent on November 24, 2010. She was also the 2008, 2009, 2010 recipient for the Healthy Living Award given by Healthy Living Magazine for her contributions to the health and wellness communities.

Laura has published articles on domestic violence topics on Blogspot - http://abcs-of-overcoming-fear.blogspot.com/2009/05/abcs-of-overcoming-f...