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- Twenty Personal Choices Determine How Happy You Are - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineTwenty Choices You Can Make to Increase Happiness In our pursuit of happiness we must first realize and accept that being happy is a deliberate choice; a choice we make every moment of every day. There are many strategies to help make attaining that goal possible. Following is a list of ...
Views: 791 - Ten Tips Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineTen Ways to Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization One of the greatest fears of those in recovery from narcissistic abuse is re-victimization. People feel powerless against the covert mind control used by narcissists to trap unknowing victims. Knowledge is power. Awareness is protection. ...
Views: 1673(1 vote) - Changing Inner Dialogue Crucial for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineHow to Change the Way You Talk to Yourself From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 Each of us has a subconscious inner voice, called an “inner dialogue,” that strongly influences our life. Since it has always ...
Views: 863 - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineTake The Quiz To find out if you are suffering from relationship codependency, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to relationships with people who lack stability and/or are ...
Views: 1099 - Twenty Signs Your Abuser is a Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2019 from Randi FineDo you suspect that you are suffering emotional abuse from someone who has narcissistic personality disorder? Here are twenty of the most common behaviors you may be experiencing: Does he rage when his opinion, point of view, or idea is challenged, even slightly? Is she emotionally ...
Views: 1027 - Attributes of the Narcissistic False Self - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2019 from Randi FineNarcissists feel no more love for the people they have relationships with than they do for strangers. They may use the word “love” to express their feelings, and they may at times demonstrate appropriate loving behavior, but it is a ruse. They are emotionally unequipped to love anyone but ...
Views: 999 - Feeling Isolated in the Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2018 from Randi FineIsolation, Loneliness, and Disconnection in the Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse Written by Randi G. Fine, Author of Close Encounters of the Worst Kind Every survivor of narcissistic abuse experiences feelings of isolation, loneliness, and disconnection in the beginning stages of the ...
Views: 1172 - Through a Simple Twist of Faith Part Three - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2018 from Randi FineThrough a Simple Twist of Faith The conclusion of a three-part article written by Randi G. Fine I should have seen the writing on the wall and planned an exit strategy long before I needed it but I had not. Financially dependent and deeply in denial I lingered until the very last second. ...
Views: 963 - Through a Simple Twist of Faith, Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2018 from Randi FineThrough a Simple Twist of Faith Part two of a three-part article written by Randi G. Fine Some who suffer adversity have had their lives negatively altered by an identifiable, pivotal event. Others gradually lose their foothold over a period of years. Though unaware that it was happening ...
Views: 1135 - Through a Simple Twist of Faith Part One - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2018 from Randi FineThrough a Simple Twist of Faith Part one of a three-part article written by Randi G. Fine I was born into a highly observant Jewish family. My mother’s father, a Lithuanian immigrant, was a pious man. He was a cantor by trade—an ordained Jewish clergy with a magnificent voice who joined ...
Views: 880 - Recovering From Relationship Codependency - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineRecovering From Relationship Codependency (Codependency Part Two) written by Randi G. Fine Originally published on Life As A Human Codependency is an emotional disorder that begins forming in childhood, but it does not reveal itself until a person starts having adult ...
Views: 1294 - Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineConfusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction (Codependency Part One) written by Randi G Fine, originally published on Life As A Human Have you ever believed that you could love someone enough to fix whatever is wrong in their life? Do you have the ability or tendency to deny and ...
Views: 1380 - Living the Legacy You Hope to Leave Behind Part Three - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineYou Are Living Your Life But Are You Living Your Legacy? Conclusion of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine You may not realize it but your life has been influenced by or benefited from the lives of those who have gone before you; your parents, grandparents, great grandparents. They ...
Views: 1001 - Living the Legacy You Hope To Leave Behind Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineYou Are Living Your Life But Are You Living Your Legacy? Part Two of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine A life lived virtuously and consciously ripples and reverberates eternal. That is the legacy of unsung heroes. That is one of the legacies I hope to leave behind and try to ...
Views: 899 - Living the Legacy You Hope to Leave Behind Part One - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineYou Are Living Your Life But Are You Living Your Legacy? Part One of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine Have you ever asked yourself what your ultimate purpose is; what you are supposed to add to this world and what imprint you will leave on it? Are you living the legacy you hope ...
Views: 1039 - The Addictive Personality Part Three - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineAddictive Personalities Conclusion of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine Deep down inside people with addictions know that what they are doing is wrong. They know that their behaviors, choices, and actions are hurting them and their loved ones. But the need to feed their addiction ...
Views: 955 - The Addictive Personality Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineAddictive Personalities Part Two of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine Much has been written about genetic predisposition and its relationship to addictive personalities. Having an addict in the family does not guarantee that everyone in the family will become addicts. But many ...
Views: 1008 - The Addictive Personality, Part One - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineAddictive Personalities Part One of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine How do you envision someone with an addictive personality? Do you picture an alcoholic, someone strung out on drugs, a chain smoker, or a gambler down on his luck? Addictive behaviors are commonly thought of ...
Views: 1367 - Domestic Abuse From Seduction to Survival Part Three - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineDomestic Abuse and Violence From Seduction to Survival, Part Three Written by Randi G. Fine Domestic abuse creates a complex emotional and psychological syndrome in victims that makes their reality very difficult to accept. Victims believe that if they do and say all the right things, the ...
Views: 1129 - Domestic Abuse From Seduction to Survival Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineDomestic Abuse and Violence From Seduction to Survival, Part Two Written by Randi G. Fine There isn’t any accurate way to predict who will abuse and who won’t. What we do know is that children who have grown up with abusive role models and learned that violence in a relationship is normal ...
Views: 1056 - Domestic Abuse From Seduction to Survival Part One - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineDomestic Abuse and Violence From Seduction to Survival, Part One Written by Randi G. Fine One out of every four women will experience domestic abuse or domestic violence sometime in her life. Although women are more commonly victimized, roughly two out of every five domestic abuse victims ...
Views: 1081 - Making Courageous Decisions - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineMaking Difficult, Courageous Decisions Written by Randi G. Fine A life rooted in faith, love, and honor is one of compassion and acceptance; one that values and respects others for their intelligence, strength, and courage. ~Randi G. Fine Finding the courage to make a difficult decision, ...
Views: 1170 - Navigating the Transitions in Your Life Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineLife Transitions Written by Randi G. Fine Transition is uncomfortable and difficult but nothing in life would exist without it. Transitions have beginnings and ends. We cannot possibly know what is in store for us, but hindsight of our past will assure us that everything will work out ...
Views: 1112 - Navigating the Transitions In Your Life Part One - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineLife Transitions Written by Randi G. Fine Life is a series of beginnings and endings. Seasons change; trees blossom and then go barren, flowers bloom and then go dormant, day turns to night, years begin and they end, we are born and we die. Endings are not sudden, nor are beginnings. They ...
Views: 1107 - Can Your Children Be Honest - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineCan Your Children Be Honest? Parenting Advice: Establishing Open Communication and Trust Written by Randi G Fine Children go through phases, particularly during their adolescent years, when they see no logical or justifiable reason to communicate with their parents for any reason other ...
Views: 915 - Are You Being Spiritually Abused by a Narcissist - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineSpiritual Narcissistic Abuse Randi G. Fine, Author From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 Mark shares his Close Encounter: I’ve been married to an intelligent, beautiful woman for seventeen years and we ...
Views: 1214 - Broken Sons of Narcissistic Mothers - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineSons of a Narcissistic Mothers Randi G. Fine, Author From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 The experience I have with sons of narcissistic mothers was gained through my counseling work with them. I can assure ...
Views: 1694 - Is Your Inner Dialogue Keeping You Stuck In Pain - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineChanging the Way You Talk to Yourself Randi G. Fine, Author From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 Each of us has a subconscious inner voice, called an “inner dialogue,” that strongly influences our life. ...
Views: 1189 - How to Spot a Narcissist on the Prowl - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineRecognizing the Red Flags Article Written by Randi G. Fine Author of Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery Narcissists are everywhere. These predators covertly walk among us in droves. Adept at changing their personalities in ...
Views: 1187 - Abuse Campaign of Pathological Narcissists - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FinePathological Narcissistic Abuse Written by Randi G. Fine Excerpt from my upcoming book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing Pathological narcissistic abuse is far more damaging than any of us can possibly conceive. Have no doubt—it is both ...
Views: 1284 - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 1934(1 vote) - Adult Children of Narcissistic Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2016 from Randi FineA Preview From Randi G. Fine’s Upcoming Book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: Surviving Pathological Narcissistic Abuse This is copyrighted material. It may not be reprinted, or used in whole or part by anyone other than the author. As an Adult Child of Narcissistic Abuse you can learn ...
Views: 2160 - Embracing Life Transitions - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2015 from Randi FineTranscript from 6/14/12 blog talk radio show A Fine Time for Healing, Transitions in Life Transitions in Life Written by Randi G. Fine Life is a series of beginnings and endings. Seasons change; trees blossom and then go barren, flowers bloom and then go dormant, day turns to night, years ...
Views: 2222 - Raising Honest Children - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineCan Your Children Be Honest? Parenting Advice: Establishing Open Communication and Trust I often hear parents say, “My child does not tell me anything.” Children go through phases, particularly during their adolescent years, when they see no logical or justifiable reason to communicate ...
Views: 1398 - Loving Ourselves First - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineSelf Love Comes Before All Else "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~Buddha So many women struggle with the concept of self-love. Women by nature are nurturers, caretakers. Many of us believe that it is our duty to give and give, ...
Views: 1280 - Staying True to Your Inner Voice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAlways Remain True to Yourself We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment. We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior ...
Views: 1469(1 vote) - How to Deal With the Curve Balls of Life - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineHow to Throw a Successful Pity Party and Then Start Thriving Again I have discussed this thought in previous articles, but this time I will state it in the form of an affirmation: "There is a reason of greater good for everything that happens." Acknowledging that there is a greater good ...
Views: 1207 - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships? Take the Quiz To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to ...
Views: 1695(1 vote) - Letting Go of Your Past Emotions Assessment - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhat is Your Emotional Awareness About Your Past? Identifying Unexpressed Emotion To find out if you are having trouble letting go of the past, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you have painful childhood memories that you have yet to deal with? Do you ...
Views: 1410 - Narcissistic Triangulation Sabotages Sibling Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissistic Parents Divide Their Children Through Triangulation Conflict is a normal part of family dynamics. The fact that a family argues from time to time does not make it a dysfunctional family unit. What makes a family dysfunctional is the emotional pain and confusion that prevails ...
Views: 2136 - Empathy Connects Us To The Heart Of Others - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhere Has Our Ability to Empathize Gone? Excerpted from August 2, 2012 show on A Fine Time for Healing, Is Our Ability to Empathize Eroding? Empathy is the ability to emotionally put oneself into someone else’s shoes—the capacity to share and understand the feelings, emotions, and ...
Views: 1448 - Forgive or Not Forgive Narcissistic Abuser - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineShould Narcissistic Abusers Be Held Accountable for Their Actions? Excerpt from January 7, 2014 show on A Fine Time for Healing, Whether to Forgive or Not Forgive the Narcissistic Abuse Many recovering victims of narcissistic abuse struggle with the dilemma of whether or not to hold the ...
Views: 2211 - Narcissistic Pride Trumps Personal Health and Safety - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissists Need to Show Perfection to the World, At Any Cost There is an elderly woman I know (whom I will not name) whose narcissism is so severe that it is physically destroying her. This woman has been suffering from a painful auto-immune disease for thirty-five years. Progressively ...
Views: 1699 - The Narcissistic Mothers Accomplice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhen Children Don’t Stand a Chance Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ...
Views: 1929 - Adult NPD Survivors Defenseless Against Ignorant Judgment - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAdult NPD Survivors Further Assaulted By Ignoramuses When people hear that I have chosen to have no contact with my highly toxic, aged mother and father they always tell me how sorry they feel for my parents. I can only assume that in me they see a happy, well-adjusted adult woman and must ...
Views: 1445 - Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder the same as Narcissism? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissism is an instinctive trait of self-love that everyone possesses to some degree. In infancy we all possess traits of narcissism that are appropriate for that level of development such as self-absorption, omnipotence and grandiosity. However, these same characteristic are seen as ...
Views: 1631 - Twenty Questions Identify Narcissistic Parental Triangulation Among Siblings - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineHave You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation? To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Is there one sibling in your family who is your ...
Views: 3740 - Narcissistic Parent and Enabling Parent - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler? To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ...
Views: 3257 - Emotionally Needy Friends: Where Do You Draw the Line? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2012 from Randi FineFriendship is one of life’s greatest gifts. It is a fulfilling relationship that is shared by two people who care about each other, trust each other, and want only the best for each other. A good friendship is honest, loyal, and truthful; good friends understand and accept each other in ways no ...
Views: 18808 - Karma: The Cause and Effect of our Actions - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2012 from Randi FineThe word Karma is new age and trendy. We see it used on food products, bath and body products, on business names, as titles of songs, etc. But how many of us really know what it means? Karma is often thought of as reciprocal punishment, with the same connotation as, “An eye for an eye.” ...
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