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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Diffferentiation in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Delyse LedgardThe concept of differentiation is central to the work I do with couples. In this article I provide a couple of definitions and identify the skills needed for differentiation, and some of the ways couples avoid doing this work in their relationships. Differentiation is the active, ongoing ...
Views: 1013 - 4 Ways to Survive the Hard Times and Come Out Closer - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinIs it possible for something good to come out of the economic downturn? Can a relationship, even one that may be experiencing its own hard times, come out better for surviving the hard times? Here are some ways to use the recession to your benefit: 1. Back to Basics. View this as an ...Is ...
Views: 2622(2 votes) - 6 Ways to Stay Focused on What You Really Want in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinNo matter how young or old you are, or how hard things have been, it’s never too late to review what works and what doesn’t work in your life. It’s easy to lose focus on what you really want due to the daily demands of life. However, there’s always a way to look at your life differently, to ...
Views: 4957 - 3 Stages of Mending a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Chris RobertsWhen you get dumped next the negative feelings start coming in to your mind. You may become suicidal or you can end up being all alone by yourself. You may end your entire social circle by not going out and not answering phone calls. This condition of depression is very painful. You may not feel ...
Views: 861 - Being Dumped Sucks – How You Can Get Over It - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Chris RobertsThere are many reasons why people are being dumped. You would never know if a relationship can last as it may look fine at the moment. But whatever may be the reason, you need to get over the bad experience as soon as you can. Life presents its own challenges to face in different forms. This is ...
Views: 5897 - The Finger Revolution - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2010 from Leslie SannLast year on Earth Day I walked into a store and was given a wooden clothes pin. On one side was written "Save Energy." Turn it over and it said, "Hang Your Clothes Out to Dry." Strange, I thought. Here they are giving out pieces of trees as a way to honor the planet. I wanted to tell you ...
Views: 1762(1 vote) - The 4 Secrets of Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsWouldn't it be great if we were born with an inbuilt manual that shows us how to relate successfully to others? Although everyone has the capability to relate successfully to others, often people react in ways that are distorted by past experiences. The culprits are usually one or all of the ...
Views: 2592(1 vote) - Why Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsThere are many areas in life where it can be noticed that men and women respond differently to a number of situations, recent research with brain imaging has shown that each gender responds differently to stress. The main difference is that stress caused changes in men's rights prefrontal ...
Views: 2340(1 vote) - Caution! Words Don't Disappear into Thin Air! - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Azriel WinnettTry an experiment. Start a conversation on any topic with your spouse or best friend. After you’ve been talking together for a few minutes, interject with something along the lines of: “Hey, what are you talking about? You’re a real idiot!” Next, hasten to explain to your partner that of ...
Views: 1605(1 vote) - Is Your Love Like Guy Fawkes or Kent Fire? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsI often liken the exhilarating state of 'falling in love' to Guy Fawkes Night. It's a night with lots of excitement created by fire-works of such beauty that take your breath away and make your heart beat faster. The instant attraction to another person causes reason and rhyme to vanish whilst ...
Views: 1497 - There Are Only Three Possibilities for Any Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from David MillsThere are only three possibilities for the future of any relationship: Stay as you are. Change how you are. Split up. That's it, there are no other options. So if you can't stand it the way it is and you don't want to go, your only option is change and to quote the ...
Views: 578 - The Structure of Love - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsWhen you ask the question "What is Love?" people will give you many different explanations. Indeed, love is many things for many people. I would like to present the concept of 'Consumate Love' following the 'Triangular Theory of Love' developed by Robert Sternberg. (Find out more about Sternberg ...
Views: 1861 - Taking Interpersonal Realtionships to a New Level - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Azriel WinnettI want to tell you a little story. Not about anything dramatic. On the contrary, it's very ordinary. So ordinary, in fact, that the many onlookers who must have been standing around didn't bat an eyelid when they overheard this brief conversation in a busy butcher shop. Hardly surprising that ...
Views: 1587(1 vote) - What Makes You Think You're Ready for Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraEverything’s set: you have the most gorgeous ring and you’ve set the wedding date. Your wedding gown is custom-made, absolutely perfect, and you can’t wait to finally walk down the aisle with the most scrumptious veil ever. The wedding colours are definitely stylish, as well as the attendant’s ...
Views: 720 - The #1 Secret of Great Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Jonathan HuieBehind all the issues that separate an ordinary relationship from a great one, is one common factor. Behind all the truly helpful advice on improving your life together, there lies one key to a great relationship. Many different kinds of problems can cause a relationship to fall apart. ...
Views: 1616(2 votes) - The Ultimate Relationship Advisor - Your Psychic! - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Alan BridgesAs I write this, I have just completed what has been nothing short of a marathon session of relationship readings, counselling and agony aunt advice. You would think that it was the fourteenth of February and not the end of April based on how many people want to know whether they should stay, go ...
Views: 1699 - Putting the R Back in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Relationship Resource CenterPutting the “R” Back in Your Relationship (And We Don’t Mean Romance) Want romance in your relationship? You have to start with a different R, R-e-s-p-e-c-t. While it’s sad to lose the initial romance of a relationship, it’s disastrous to lose the respect! Loss of respect leads to ...
Views: 802 - Love and Romance: #1 Tip for Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Sherri Nickols"As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product." ~Sara Paddin Hidden Power of the Heart Love and romance are in the air along with ...
Views: 1104 - *** Lock and Key Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Paul ChekOver the years, I’ve discovered a relatively simple metaphor for understanding relationships and maintaining healthy relations. The metaphor is the lock and key, and you can learn a great deal about your interactions with others and how to make those interactions with others better contribute to ...
Views: 3595(1 vote) - Overcoming Roadblocks to Romance - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Sherri Nickols"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James What road conditions are stopping you from unleashing yourself and driving like a diva into an extraordinary relationship? Is your road harangued with the ...
Views: 937 - Why Couples Fight: Some Practical Advice - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Max RiversEver wonder why when that early bloom of love fades you find yourself fighting with the same person you felt so safe with? Couples mediation not only has an explanation of this phenomenon, it also offers some practical steps you can take to reverse this process. In mediation terms, conflict is ...
Views: 2574 - Masculinity & Femininity - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Adam GainsburgIn the Soulsign work, there is pictured an intersection of two axial lines to represent the two fundamental conflicts within all humanity: that between the masculine (yang) and feminine (yin), and between Self-Essence and Self-Identity. Where the masculine-feminine domain creates the possibility ...
Views: 3153 - The Gentle Double - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Marian McCainHAVE YOU EVER had the experience of being really angry, totally ‘losing it,’ flying off the handle at someone and yet, at the same time, part of you seems to be standing off to one side, watching the whole performance? Since several different areas of the brain are involved in our reactions to ...
Views: 1433 - Uncovering the Glasses We Wear - Looking Within - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Geoffrey SchmidtWe often find ourselves in a relationship because we are attracted and like being around another person. It usually is a very organic and spontaneous energetic thrill, but more often than not, once the hormones and newness of the relationship have ended, we find ourselves struggling with our new ...
Views: 988 - Relationship Talk - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Deborah FoxGUARDIANSHIP When we hear the word ‘guardian,’ what comes to mind might be how we feel in relation to our children, or our elderly parents, or perhaps an estate. At first blush, seeing oneself as a guardian of one’s relationship might seem a bit weird. However, if we were to think of ...
Views: 640 - Tips for a Happier Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Deborah FoxMuch of this article could best be categorized as common sense. So, why would I bother to write about something as common as common sense? I think the answer lies in the same directory of life as the saying “When all else fails, read the directions”. We so often don’t look to the obvious as a ...
Views: 707 - Creating Healthy Boundaries in All Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Reverend Kimberley SmithAre you one of those people who just can't say "No"? If you are, know that this way of being is simply not good for you and the people around you. You might be asking yourself how can being nice all the time be bad for me and others. Here's how it's bad for you: When you always say "Yes" to ...
Views: 1058 - Getting Married Soon? Five Key Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Say "I Do" - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Rod LoudenAfter what was hopefully at least a 2-year courtship, you now find yourself engaged. You're excited and nervous as the big day approaches. You think you've got all the important questions asked and answered. Are the guests seated properly? Did we give the florist a deposit? Are all the relatives ...
Views: 5155 - Relatinnship Alert! Don't Miss the Warning Signs - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Rod LoudenJust as your automobile needs regular care and maintenance, so does your relationship. Many couples ignore warning lights and other signs that their relationship is falling apart and is in need of a service call. They know something’s wrong, but ignore the problem(s) thinking it will go away. ...
Views: 1169 - Sleeping with a Friend - Should I? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Mel Joy VertalinoSleeping with a friend seems like something that would be so easy, effortless. You would think that because this guy is your friend that it will have a positive outcome. First of all, you need to ask yourself, why you allowed it to happen? Did you want it to happen? Were you drunk and you regret ...
Views: 8225 - *** Love: Is This Romance or is This Friendship? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Margaret PaulJames, in his middle 30s, was ready to meet his life partner, get married and have children. After dating many women, he met Cindy. "She is really beautiful, although I'm not sure she's my type. But I think she is perfect for me. We have the same interests, the same values, we go to the ...
Views: 3376(2 votes) - Relationship as a Spiritual Path - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2009 from Darlene LancerWhat makes us "spiritual" beings? The concept of spirituality is derived from "spiritus," meaning vitality or the breath of life. When we are connected to that force, like an electric charge, our soul awakes; the more we stay connected to that energy, the stronger and more alive is our soul. ...
Views: 1873(1 vote) - The Seven Ways to Say I Love You - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Glenn SmithHave you said, “I love you” hundreds to thousands of times only to find it being less effective than your intention? If that is the case, you may not be surprised to know that there are many more ways to say I love you than verbally expressing it. In fact, there are seven ways to communicate ...
Views: 3479 - Have You Connected with Your Spirituality Lately? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Carolyn BatesAs the thoughts of reaching the later stages of life start to creep into your mind. As the final years, months, days of your 30 plus career start to come to an end and you’re starting to wonder what retirement is really going to look like. The more mornings you wake up with hips, knees and ...
Views: 1017 - How Well Do You Know The Man or Woman You Love and Make Love To? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Yangki Christine AkitengHave you ever felt like if people were to take the time and effort just get to know you a little bit more, they would love you? I have. Ego trip? Perhaps. What exactly does "to know me is to love me" mean? Some have interpreted it to mean "if people were to just get to know me a little bit ...
Views: 2530 - BLAM!!! Laugh, Cry, Anger - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Carolyn BatesYou’re thinking your life is wonderful, no current crisis is on the horizon, no big decisions to make, everything seems to be rocking along. Then, out of the blue, something happens in five minutes, your world is turned upside down, you have to make some instant decisions. Your emotions are ...
Views: 1281(1 vote) - Resolving Conflict in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Jim BrittAre you tired of experiencing conflict in your relationship? Do you ever find yourself choosing the wrong person? Have you ever thought, “if only I’d known…” about my partner? Just imagine what it would be like if you could have a relationship where you could easily resolve problem, make ...
Views: 3024 - Are You Estranged from Someone You Love? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Carolyn BatesOne of life’s most difficult situations is when someone you love is no longer present in your life. It’s a given thing that sometime as a family member, a good friend or a parent, you are going to have a major disagreement. This so frequently happens with life transitions and as we approach ...
Views: 1351(1 vote) - The 5 Things Men Really Want from Women - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Kenneth MacLeanWhat do men really want from a woman? Well, it's impossible for one man to speak for all men. But almost all of us want companionship, sex, and love, not necessarily in that order. Of course, many men like cars, and sports, and gadgets, but that's not what this article is about. I'm talking ...
Views: 2826(2 votes) - Managing Anger When You Get Treated Like an ATM Machine - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondI Can’t Stand It - My Family Treats Me Like An ATM Machine! How the hot button was created Sharon helped her sister Ellisa prepare the party for their father's 80th birthday. As the guests left they thanked Ellisa and wished her father many more years of healthy life. Sharon drove home hurt ...
Views: 5041 - Mask Removal - Authenticity in Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Stephen FruehThe subtitle I chose was this: “it’s not that hard.” But I misled so I changed it. It’s not that hard once you’ve fully invested yourself in the process but it’s really hard to get going. Let me explain. In an earlier post we looked at the masks we wear. Couples who wish to take their marriage ...
Views: 2323 - Recognizing and Dealing with Negativity - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Mardie CaldwellIt's only natural that we want to be "right" or feel that we are handling every situation to our best ability. But, the truth remains that it is not always the case. This becomes especially evident when we deal with people that are considered difficult, verbally aggressive, or just negative. ...
Views: 2420 - You Are Capable of Unconditional Love - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Tony GrantIt has been quite some time since my last posting and oh so much has occurred in my life that words find it hard to express. However, I have been seeing a lot of articles lately about unconditional love and how we, as adults, seem to lose that ability to see love for what it is rather than ...
Views: 1558 - Best Reasons to Be in a Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Gregory SmithThere are definitely advantages to being in a relationship with someone you love. I have been recently reminded of some of the best reasons to be in a relationship by a number of readers’ emails that came in after I wrote "Best Reasons to Be Single" several months ago. So in the ...
Views: 1464 - ***Simple Things Matter in Marriage – Even in Venice! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Have you ever been to Venice, Italy? Wow, what a wonderfully romantic place! When you ride in a gondola together by Marco Polo’s house, stroll on St. Mark’s Square while holding hands, enjoy the grandeur of the Doges Palace, or share a bottle of ...
Views: 2646(26 votes) - Male Body Language Flirting Signs: Reading A Man’s Body Language To Know If He Likes You - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from Michael LeeDon’t you just wish you can read what men are thinking sometimes? Unless you’re in a movie or a comedy sitcom, that is very unlikely. But if you know how to decipher male body language flirting signs, who needs ESP? There is nothing complicated about reading body language, and interpreting ...
Views: 3015(4 votes) - Healthy Boundaries = Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Isabel KirkRelationships are a beautiful thing but they can also be challenging. I love a cartoon that reads as follows: “Relationships: a mess worth making.” It very well illustrates how many times relationships can be messy or unhealthy. The main cause of unhealthy relationships? Unhealthy boundaries. ...
Views: 3705 - Dating and Relationships: Art or Science? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2009 from Sophie RinaldiDating. Beautiful, challenging and complicated game. You want to be on top of it, right? You want to ride the wave, finish up the first and take the prize - the best partner out there! You want to be a winner at the mating game and live the life of sweet promises that the whole world conspired ...
Views: 1083 - Flirting Tips for Shy Guys: 3 Cool Tips to Flirt With Women (No Matter How Shy You Are) - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Michael LeeCan’t approach a girl without breaking into sweat? Do you find yourself stammering even before the second word of your practiced pick-up line? If you’re nodding your head at these questions, then you might be the sort of guy who needs to learn a few flirting tips for shy guys. You read that ...
Views: 2541 - Stalking: Is This You? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Kim OlverI am not talking about criminal stalkers who truly intend to do someone harm. What I’m talking about are regular people who have a relationship end before they were ready and some of the behaviors they use in their best attempt to hold on to their partners. Has this ever happened to you? Let’s ...
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