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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Let’s Talk About Sex - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Kim OlverMany relationships have developed stress in the area of intimacy. This tends to be the kind of stress that sneaks up and builds over time. There is usually no one event that leads to this stress but a series of disappointments that accumulate over time. Sometimes there is a discovery of an ...
Views: 1315 - Twelve Tips for Talking - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Julianne BentleyThe big theme this month seems to be communication - both in my own relationship and for my clients. Why is communication so difficult? Whether it's with our families or our coworkers or our lovers, intentional discussions can be daunting. I want you to know that it's all right if you ...
Views: 2078 - Taking a Trip to Fantasy Island - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Julianne BentleyI am often asked how to go about discussing fantasies with a partner. Aside from clarifying rules and coming up with safewords, how do you even get the conversation started? The simple answer is finding your courage and making a leap of faith that the world won't end if you tell your lover ...
Views: 2237 - 7 Steps to Communicating Change to Your Loved Ones - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Afsaneh NooriTransformational change can be difficult even without having to worry about others being impacted. But when your loved ones are baffled or resistant, that adds a new dimension to the challenge. However, there are ways to communicate your needs and to hear the needs of others as you work through ...
Views: 2113(1 vote) - A Formula for Relieving Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Rita Bigel-CasherRelationships, which are the spice of life, often create feelings of inadequacy and pain which interfere with the sense of well-being that we all strive for. When faced with interpersonal conflict, we tend to either blame ourselves or the other. There is a third way. Accept the reality ...
Views: 2221 - Funny Facts About Women: Interesting Tidbits About Women Every Man Should Be Aware Of - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2009 from Michael LeeThere are quite a number of funny facts about women that you might want to know. For years, men have been baffled by women. The saying “Women are from Venus and men are from Mars” seems to hold true most of the time. There is nothing bad about this, of course. Most of the time, it’s romantic. ...
Views: 1482 - *** Cinderella Was Not Saved - She Was a Happy Person All Along! - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2009 from Margaret PaulWould the prince have chosen Cinderella to marry if she was a miserable young woman? If her stepsisters were beautiful but miserable, would he have chosen either of them? Are you living under the delusion that when you meet your soul mate you will finally be happy - that your misery is because ...
Views: 18197(15 votes) - Getting Over Commitment Phobia - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2009 from Timory KochWhat is it about us guys and our commitment phobia? Ever since they were little girls, women look forward to their special day, their dream Hawaii wedding (or wherever), but most guys dread being tied down when they tie the knot. How can the average male feel more comfortable about taking the ...
Views: 1173 - How to End a Relationship: Advice to People Who Want to Break Up - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2009 from Michael LeeWant to know how to end a relationship in a decent manner? It’s not easy for the person who’s about to receive the bad news; and it likewise isn’t any easier for the one who has to end it. Despite it being such a trying moment, however, this does not give people the excuse of not finishing a ...
Views: 878 - 7 Tips for Dealing with a Jealous Boy/Girlfriend/Spouse - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2009 from Dr. Dar HawksFirst, let’s review the dictionary definition of jealousy: 1. Feeling resentment against someone because of that person’s rivalry, success, or advantages (often fol. by of): He was jealous of his rich brother. 2. Feeling resentment because of another’s success, advantage, etc. ...
Views: 2172 - What Attracts Women - Based on the Psychology of Love - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanWhat attracts women? Psychologists say that men become attracted to women who have higher reproductive abilities like more female hormones and an hour glass body shape. They also say that women are attracted to men who are resourceful and who can protect them. So to put this in another ...
Views: 14905 - How To Get Someone You've Been Dating To Commit To A Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2009 from Yangki Christine AkitengIf someone asked, "What is the truest expression of love", my answer would be "commitment". Of course the perfect answer would be "dying for another" but the reality is that there aren't that many opportunities for each of us to die for another to demonstrate our love. In terms of love ...
Views: 5620 - Living Single - Are You Alone In A Cool Way Or Hot Way? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2009 from Yangki Christine Akiteng"I don't know why I am doing this. I've never done this until now", he muttered. "That's okay", I said. "That's why I am here. How can I be of help?" "No body calls me." "I am listening", I said. "I feel like no body really cares about me." "Are you talking about the opposite sex, ...
Views: 2363 - The Love Game - Masculine Women Feminine Men (Part 2) - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2009 from Yangki Christine AkitengWhen it comes to the mating game, all men and women sub-consciously look for clues to each other's masculine and feminine qualities. But I wish they just stopped there. No! They test each other's qualities to the dizzy limit. A woman who as a girl-child was encouraged to express too much of ...
Views: 9838 - The Love Game - Masculine Women Feminine Men (Part 1) - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2009 from Yangki Christine AkitengWhat happens when men don't act masculine and women don't act feminine? But first, what is masculine and what is feminine? Masculine and feminine are terms often equated with the biological equivalent of male and female, or social equivalent of man and woman. But in realty, the distinction ...
Views: 5745 - Tips To Remember While Gifting Flowers - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2010 from Roger PeterFlowers are a great way to express love, friendship, condolence and camaraderie. There is something so softly exotic about flowers that it appeals to one and all. There are some specific flowers for specific occasions and it helps to have knowledge about them. You would not want to end up ...
Views: 833 - These 3 Simple Spiritual Strategies Can Turn Your Love Life Around - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2009 from Baeth DavisPalm reading over the past nine years, I've read thousands of hands and the issue of relationships comes up again and again. No surprise there. The greatest desire for most of us when it comes to relationships is finding an appropriate partner. Sometimes trying to get your partner to “commit” ...
Views: 1287 - Healing a Broken Heart: 3 Things You Can Do To Mend A Broken Heart - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2009 from Michael LeeHealing a broken heart takes time. You can’t bounce back as your old self the next morning or even a few months after that. However, it can be done. And it will happen to you in time as well. The first few stages of healing a broken heart won’t be easy. Sometimes, you’ll feel the urge to ...
Views: 991 - How do I Get My Dog to Like My Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2009 from brian spilnerWith people postponing marriage longer than ever and dog ownership on the rise, it is no surprise that there conflicts arise when single dog owners bring a partner into the equation. It is quite common for a single woman to bring her new boyfriend home to find that her pooch pal detests her new ...
Views: 6363 - Steps to Take When Relationship Boundaries Get Crossed - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2009 from Liz LichtiHave you ever had a close friend or relative that you love, but wouldn't mind having the chance or nerve to tell them things that they do that bother you? Do you ever feel like the friendship boundary has been crossed, but don't say anything because you don't want to hurt their feelings? Often ...
Views: 1753 - Relationship Happiness and The Four Freedoms - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandRight this moment, just as you are, you have four unimaginably powerful resources at your command. With them you can accomplish miracles. They are your Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart, and Soul. Although you are already innately aware of these elemental forces—their strength, dynamism, and ...
Views: 2499 - Commitment Phobia: Cheating Boyfriend or Girlfriend - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonWouldn't it be nice if you could tell when someone was going to be a cheating girlfriend or cheating boyfriend BEFORE you get involved with them? Don’t you wish there was something you could do that would help you avoid having a cheating spouse? There is something you can do, and it begins with ...
Views: 6503 - Romantic Kisses You Can't Resist - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2009 from Menno Spijkstra“A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous”, so said Ingrid Bergman. It is an expression of love so great that could render the recipient in a state of pure pleasure. The right kiss at the right time can surely heat up a relationship and keep the ...
Views: 565 - How to Make a Good Apology - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2009 from Isabel KirkOne of the biggest problems my clients complain about everyday is not that the person they love hurt them or did something wrong. It is the fact that the person didn’t apologize or the apology did not feel sincere. Let’s face it. We don’t really know how to apologize and the problem is that it ...
Views: 5830 - Fun Date Ideas -- Discover Fun Things to Do on a Date - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Mark TaylorFirst dates usually are the most nerve-wrecking experience. That is why is it important to know that making it fun can create a first good impression to your girl. The extra effort you put into making it a very pleasant memory, and not just a get-together, will surely leave your date asking for ...
Views: 785 - Tips for Resolving Conflict for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Sally ConnollyTips for Resolving Conflict 1. Begin your concern or complaint in a positive way. This may involve saying things like “I really liked it when you helped me with the housework yesterday. I would love it if we could do more of our chores as a team.” or “I felt very hurt when you talked badly ...
Views: 2942 - Collateral Benefits: Be Good to Your Mate; It’s Good for Your Health! - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou’re in the middle of a screaming yelling fight with your mate. You can feel your heart racing, your blood pressure rising, and after the fight, even though you smoothed things out, your stomach is still a mess. You think “I can’t do this anymore. This is just not good for me!” Or it’s that ...
Views: 1090 - Should I Stay in This Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Patrice EvansShould I stay in this relationship or end it? This may be the hardest question you will ask yourself. Sometimes people give up too soon on a relationship. They are not willing to put the effort into making it work. Now, I’m not saying that you should stay in a bad relationship, but you do ...
Views: 1192 - *** Communication Clinic: 5 Ways to Get Your Husband to Listen - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhat motivates someone to listen to another person? Understanding this question will help you work toward more effective listening in your own marriage or relationship. 1. Clear message, favorable outcome Clearly communicating your needs is the foundation of effective communication and a ...
Views: 2350(6 votes) - Stop Worrying Your Relationships Away - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you lack the self-esteem and confidence you need to create healthy and satisfying relationships? Do you sometimes find yourself worrying so much about what other people think of you that motivation or positive thinking is all but out of your reach? Low self-esteem is a common problem that ...
Views: 4953 - Tall, Dark and Dangerous - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Susan GreenI remember the first time I saw him. I had just turned 18 and was at my first, yes my first, boy girl party. He was tall dark and very handsome and he oozed confidence. I was shy and a bit of a wallflower, but he wandered over and asked me my name. From that day on we would be inseparable. My ...
Views: 2497(1 vote) - Assumptions - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Michelle GottliebOne of the most common problems I have seen with the couples that I have worked with is their tendency to assume that they know what their partner is thinking and feeling, the assumption that they know their partner’s motivation. I have not worked with a couple yet who has struggled with this ...
Views: 1389 - *** Overcoming Marriage Problems: Start Focusing on Solutions - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhen a troubled couple comes to me for relationship help, one of the first questions I ask is, "What have you already done to try to solve these relationship problems?" Several issues immediately become apparent as I listen to these distressed couples: 1. Many of them didn't have a plan to ...
Views: 2482 - What is a Perfect Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Art MartinMost people view relationships as being outside of self. The problem with this is all relationships begin with us not with others. We must develop an effective relationship with self before we can extend out to connecting with others. We had a good relationship with self when we were born. ...
Views: 1020 - Conflict Exploration - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellMost people dread arguments, power struggles, and the silent treatment. Exploring and resolving differences are skills as important as the 3Rs and the skills least likely to be talked about. Avoiding pain doesn’t make it go away. Instead , when we explore conflict, we paradoxically experience ...
Views: 1814 - ***Having Children Is Not The Purpose of Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In the last several years a great deal has been reported about the purpose of marriage, lamenting the fact that Americans no longer consider children among the most important purposes of marriage. While most experts are concluding that this is a ...
Views: 3867(27 votes) - Be Yourself - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from FSB AuthorsStatistics say men lie five times more often than women. (Now ask yourself, is that true, or did I just make it up?) And despite human progress and enlightened times, we're still slaves to our genes. Males are hardwired to impress women. Watch the elaborate dances some birds go through to win ...
Views: 1238 - Deciding About Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from Rhonda RabowShould I stay or should I leave? Maybe you are feeling frustrated or disappointed right now. Maybe you are just in a rut or your relationship just doesn’t feel the same. How do you know when there is no hope to fix it, or when it is just like any normal relationship, having some bumps along ...
Views: 1490 - The Hurricane That Disrupts All Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from William Cottringer“Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” ~William James. What is this hurricane that disrupts all relationships at work and home? In two words: Wrong ...
Views: 1254 - How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2009 from Love Coach RinattaIs fighting a problem in your relationship or marriage? Fighting is a very serious problem for many couples. The good news is that I am about to help you solve it permanently. First you have to understanding that you should not fight at all, with anyone. I don’t mean you should not disagree ...
Views: 16387(3 votes) - What's Your Fetish? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Menno Spijkstra“Fetish” has several meanings: a. It’s something that is supposed to have magical or spiritual powers, b. An object of unreasonably extreme attention or veneration, c. Something which arouses sexual desire, and may be required for sexual gratification. Although fetish is a word with diverse ...
Views: 7022 - Keys to Overcoming Loneliness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Timothy ArendsAccording to a New York City psychologist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, sitting in front of TV doing nothing, anxiety and depression." In fact, researchers in the United States, ...
Views: 1380 - A Powerful Five Step Plan for Beating Loneliness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Timothy ArendsAccording to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...
Views: 1262 - Top 5 Myths About Loneliness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from Timothy ArendsAccording to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...
Views: 1532 - Love and the Caring Habits Part Two - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Kim OlverRespecting is a very interesting concept. In a relationship, you should never do anything that demeans or reduces your partner’s self-esteem. This is typically caused by the Deadly Habits of criticizing and complaining. Try to avoid these at all costs, but there is more to respecting than just ...
Views: 1196 - Love and the Caring Habits Part One - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Kim OlverIf you haven’t read my article on the Deadly Relationship Habits (http://www.therelationshipcenter.biz/newsletters/deadlyhabits4_05.html), then you may want to do so by clicking on the link. This article tells you what to do in your relationships to replace the destructive habits with more ...
Views: 1163 - Relationship Advice: Are you in a “Fixer-Upper” Kind of Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsDo you tend to see your partner as a “fixer-upper” kind of man or woman? Sure, you love him or her-- but there are certain aspects about your mate that, to you, need fixing or improving. Perhaps you spend your time either subtly (or more overtly) working to help your partner become more ...
Views: 7127 - Pet Peeves and Relationship Battles - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraCommitment in a relationship means that you have an armful of acceptance, tolerance, patience and most of all, love for your partner. But, human as we are, there will always be differences between us and our significant other. No matter how much you love a person, there are and there will always ...
Views: 1021 - 7 Simple Steps on How to Say Sorry and Why You Don't Want to Ignore Mistakes - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellIt’s not easy to admit when you said or did something that didn’t work out the way you hoped. What do you do with your feelings of remorse or disappointment? How do you feel when you make a mistake or when others make mistakes? Your beliefs about mistakes can tell a lot about what you believe ...
Views: 2673 - ***A Place Where Love Knows Your Name - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Once upon a time there was a wonderful television show called Cheers. It took place in Boston. Each day, the local patrons would gather at Cheers to discuss the events of the day, contemplate life’s burdens, explore life’s joys, and cry over a beer ...
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