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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Top 10 Signs of a Cheating Man - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Dan And JenniferLadies, you know in your heart if your man is cheating on you. You can feel it... Maybe you've suspected for a while that things aren't quite right in your relationship and you're worried that maybe he's stepping out on you, but you just can't put your finger on exactly what's bugging ...
Views: 3090(1 vote) - Separation and Divorce Tips - Riding the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Carolyn EllisDivorce and separation can be quite a ride. Up and down. Up and down. Will it ever stop? Even before the decision to separate or divorce is made, life can feel like it’s spinning out of control. One day you’re up, the next day you’re down. It can feel like you are losing your mind. Divorce ...
Views: 5084 - The Many Faces of Jealousy - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Patricia FasonJealousy, most of us feel it at some time or other. Some people experience it more strongly than others and some even let jealousy consume them. Sometimes the feeling is justified and at other times it isn't. It's an ugly emotion, both for the one feeling it and for the person at the other end. ...
Views: 2888 - Why Magical Relationship Beliefs Never Last - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Master Coach Hu DalconzoMagical relationship beliefs are a subtle challenge for the consciously awakened. Magical relationship beliefs are unrealistic, fantasy-based beliefs. Many of these beliefs are rooted in childhood while watching Prince Charming save and protect his beautiful, but un-empowered, princess. Magical ...
Views: 2155 - Happiness With or Without a Guy - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Mardie CaldwellWhy is it that guys seem so important to our happiness? They pretty much dictate our moods by their behaviors. When they flirt with us or pay attention to us, we are in great moods. But then if they don’t act the way we want or they are not paying attention to us, we feel bad about ourselves. ...
Views: 1451 - When Your Wife is Ill and Romance Ain't Happening - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Lisa CopenWhen your wife has a chronic illness, though you may love her no matter what, it can be hard for her to get into a romantic mood. Physical pain from the actual illness to weight gain or loss, bloating, and less-than-fun symptoms of medication can all be a deterrent to some romantic ...
Views: 1210 - Tantric Sex - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Chandi DeviHere in LA we are bombarded with false information about tantra. Tantra is the union of two souls, the art and science of joining body, mind and spirit. It is the study of vibratory energies, the union of opposite polarities, the feminine and masculine conjoined in a harmonious duet of love and ...
Views: 4019(1 vote) - Good Sex on the Brain - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Melody BrookeI have a little experience with bad sex. I’ve been married three times. This last one took. To tell you the truth my first two husbands would say my current husband was lying if he told them how often and how amazing our sex life is. Honestly, I have been one of those fortunate women who have ...
Views: 1912 - Want More Sex? Here's How! - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Melody BrookeRegardless of what you may think. Sex happens in the brain. Our ability to feel desire, the things that turn us on, the things that make us reach climax all happen in the brain. So, if you want more sex, it’s reasonable to assume you should know more about the brain. I’ll give you the primer ...
Views: 1979 - Honoring You in All Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2009 from Lori RadunIt's no secret that it takes two to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Although I would agree with this statement, I also know there is a lot one person can do to change the dynamics of any relationship. And since none of us have the power to change another person, it only makes sense ...
Views: 1074 - Relationship Advice for Men to Better Relationships with Women - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from Joshua UebergangMen, you can no longer can club a woman across the head and drag her to your cave. If you want a relationship with a woman, there's some advice you need to follow. When you follow this help, you'll have women walking into your cave at their will. As hard as it to believe sometimes being a man, ...
Views: 1358 - ***So What Is This Thing Called Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We live in a world of mixed messages. Our world is neither black nor white. The world we live in is full of powerful emotions. And the truth is, the world we live in is complicated – so very complicated. And for those of us who have lived in ...
Views: 2470(28 votes) - 7 Secrets of Happy Couples - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2009 from Jonathan HuieWhy do some couples stay happy together for a lifetime, while others are in conflict almost from the beginning? Part of the answer is compatibility - making the initial choice of a partner with whom you share common values. Equally much, however, depends upon the choices each partner chooses ...
Views: 1961(2 votes) - Sex, Relationship and The Single Woman - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Trudy-Ann EwanThe Institute of Marriage is not to be entered into lightly. A marriage is about longevity, not about a weekend fling. It should not be entered into with thoughts of, "oh, if it doesn't work out, we can always get a divorce". It is an institution of love, commitment, respect and understanding. ...
Views: 1821 - The Environment of Intimacy and Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2009 from Karen VizerIf you’re wondering what the heck environments are and why should you care, here’s some information for you. The Merriam-Webster on-line dictionary defines environment in the following ways: ~the circumstances, objects, or conditions by which one is surrounded ~the aggregate of social and ...
Views: 837 - Soul Mates or Cell Mates? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Michele LandersWhen we hear the words “Soul Mate,” most people conjure up visions of that special someone specifically molded and made for them and only them. Someone who understands us as no other person can. And, like synchronized swimmers, “Soul Mates” are in tune and in rhythm with one another, navigating ...
Views: 1191(1 vote) - Is Your Relationship in Danger? Take This 10 Question Quiz to Find Out - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Jonathan HuieYou have the occasional argument. Sometimes you feel frustrated, and you have that uneasy sense that everything is not as it should be. Is your relationship in trouble? The answer may not be obvious. Take this quiz to measure the overall state of your relationship and highlight the trouble ...
Views: 1470(2 votes) - Are You Healing an Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Janice TownsendIt's Tuesday and you're thinking about where you're going at the weekend. You're spouse says they would like to speak to you about something. 'Sure, What's up?' And the words come back to you as though they've been delivered from a dream. 'I've been having an affair for the past ...
Views: 867 - Infidelity and the Road to Recovery - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Janice TownsendYes, you can recover from the tragedy that infidelity is, but it may take some time. Probably best to think in terms of twelve months minimum, and most likely two years. This may not be what you want to hear just now, as you may be at the very beginning of your trauma. However, don't think ...
Views: 868 - A Brief Look at Betrayal - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Janice TownsendNobody expects it will happen to them, and that's part of the problem. At least it's that belief, that trust, that takes the hardest blow when the news of infidelity blows its cold chill along the corridors. It's the crushing of one's trust, and core beliefs that brings about the intital ...
Views: 883 - Is Break Up the End of a Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Jamie GrantThere is nothing you can do to avoid the pain and the frustration when you have to face a break up. Especially if you felt real love and counted on it. There are lots of tips and advices everywhere about how to mend a broken heart, how to survive a break up, healing a broken heart and so on. But ...
Views: 680 - ***Marriage Help: 3 Steps to Becoming a Better Listener - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from Richard Nicastro"You never listen to me...I've asked you a thousand times to let me know when you can't pick the kids up from daycare!" In my work with couples, it is common to hear one person accuse the other of "not listening." This usually takes the following form: 1. You ask your partner to do something ...
Views: 1389 - Three Ways for Couples to Stop the Tug of War - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondValerie was hurt and upset. Barry dismissed her plans for the Thanksgiving holiday but supported the same proposals coming from cousin Ruth. What made it even worse was that Barry seemed oblivious to the stinging rebuke he had dealt his wife. Silenced by the lump growing in her throat and the ...
Views: 1985 - ***Caring For Aging Parents Can Challenge Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are “baby-boomers.” Like some 80 million Americans, we were born during the period 1946-1964. We are that generation of Americans born to what former NBC anchor Tom Brokaw called, “The Greatest Generation.” Our parents survived the Great ...
Views: 4919(32 votes) - Silly Love Songs: I Wanna Hold Your Hand - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2009 from Tony CucksonSome people say They’ve had enough of Silly love songs. - Paul McCartney, Just Another Silly Love Song Let this Irish storyteller suggest a time when people could really say they’ve had enough of ‘silly love songs.’ It’s when they are dead. Before such time ...
Views: 1366 - Manifesting Love - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Kristy Robinett"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." A Course in Miracles With Valentine's Day fast approaching, I thought it would be fitting for me to focus in on love and relationships, which is probably the ...
Views: 1046(3 votes) - 4 Things to Get Rid of Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2009 from Chris RobertsFor starting a new and healthy relationship, you need to first create a space for it by getting rid and throwing the toxic relationship out of your life. In this world we build so many relationships with different people. These relationships we have can directly affect our life in every possible ...
Views: 1442 - Valentine’s Day Recessionomics - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from James LeGrandWe are in a world wide economic downturn. This Valentine’s Day won’t be about the size or the price of the gift one receives. Materialism in this economy would be irresponsible. More of an emphasis must be placed on truthful expressions of love this Valentine’s Day. So, how can we express our ...
Views: 1081 - Why Communication is the Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Joshua UebergangYou have heard communication is important for relationships, romance, and love. Well, I take this a step further. Communication is the relationship. Communication connects people. You can do neither when communication is nonexistent. How do you maintain or build a strong relationship when you ...
Views: 1409 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (18): Floating Lights - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland FLOATING LIGHTS Candles are one of the most useful aids for creating your own romantic rituals and celebrations, for remembering loved ones you cannot be with right now, or for healing the separation between ...
Views: 1284 - Saying Goodbye to Defensiveness - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Jeannie CampanelliPart of fully claiming your own life is learning the steps to stay “in your own business”. What that means essentially is staying focused on your own affairs, rather than determining what those around you “should” or “should not” be up to. One way we intrude into someone else’s business is by ...
Views: 1684 - Monsters: Live or Die with Them - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Bradley FalkMore than likely you have a couple of Monsters in your life. The type of Monsters I’m referring to reside within your inner circle (giving you no line of defense) and they are purposefully removing the very essence that makes you human. Because I was born on Halloween, I’ve been ...
Views: 857 - How Do You Express Love? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardWe all want to feel love; we want to give it and we want to get it. But, what happens if we don’t feel it? In order to have a healthy, loving relationship we need to recognize that our partner may have a different description of love than we do. What does love mean to you? Your partner? How ...
Views: 1906 - Keeping Your Valentine Forever! - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2009 from John CurtisHere are some little known facts about Valentines Day: 1. Nationwide, 6,000 couples will tie the knot on Valentine’s Day 2009. Even when that date does not fall upon a Saturday, February 14th is consistently one of the most popular days of the year to wed. 2. 255,000 other couples will become ...
Views: 1889 - Energy Psychology Tips for Romance in Healthy Aging - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2009 from Dorothea Hover-KramerRomance is widely understood as the vital connection with the “special someone” who is or will become your life partner. The laws of attraction operate in a most tangible way when it comes to romance. If you are grumpy, unhappy, or very needy you are likely to attract those very qualities ...
Views: 455 - How to Create a Fun Valentine's Day Date on a Tight Budget - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Tracey BennettRomantic Valentine's Day date ideas don't have to bust your budget. Here's a recipe for cooking up a memorable occasion with a few simple and cheap Valentine's Day gift ideas. Dazzle your sweetie with a feast of sensory delights. The most important one, good conversation, is free. Ingredients ...
Views: 1362(2 votes) - What Women Want in Men - Do You Need to Look Good? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Joshua UebergangOne of the strongest beliefs I need to destroy is that women must have a physically attractive man. Society overemphasizes physical appearance as it pries off of men's insecurities. Physical attractiveness in women is important for men, but guys get into relationship trouble by projecting their ...
Views: 3204 - Creating Boundaries or Barriers – Where do You Hang Out? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Jeannie CampanelliWhat I’ve seen as a professional coach is that much of our personal power (‘claiming our life as our own’) relies on setting clear boundaries – listening to our own values, asking for help, and knowing what we want and don’t want. There’s an art to setting boundaries that do not become barriers ...
Views: 1496 - Sleep Solutions for Bedroom Bliss - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSleeping together is an important way for couples to feel connected to one another. While many partners can live happily together; they just can’t sleep well side by side. Research from the Better Sleep Council (BSC) found that on average, one in three Americans report that their ...
Views: 816 - Secrets for Singles to Survive (Even Thrive) on Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2009 from Gloria MacDonaldHow do you get through Valentine’s Day when you’re single? For many singles, Valentine's Day can be really tough. Maybe you’re thinking “I’ve been on my own for a long, long time, will I EVER meet someone?” Or perhaps you’ve recently gone through a ...
Views: 880 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (16): Together Forever - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland TOGETHER FOREVER Lifelong commitment normally means growing old together. Think and talk together about how your relationship will mature as your age advances. Time for Exercise: five to 30 minutes Properties ...
Views: 1077 - Relationship Sabotage - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2009 from James LeGrandYou may be pushing your partner out of your life. Your fears, guilt, doubt, past experiences and feelings of unworthiness may drive you to doing and saying terrible things to the one you like or love. Whether you are doing this consciously or unconsciously, you could be pushing away the ...
Views: 7708 - Try a Spark Experiment in Your Marriage or Love Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsReverend Ed Young, founder of a nondenominational church in Texas, made an unusual proposal to his congregation a few months ago. He suggested that married couples in his church make an agreement to have sex with one another every day for seven days. This “sexperiment” was intended ...
Views: 2198 - How Unspoken Agreements Run Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2009 from Susan QuinnUnspoken agreements are the agreements that we do not speak, but play out in our lives. They are agreements that we make with ourselves, another person or group as a way to get love, attention, or to feel safe. From the time that Kathy married Bob, she took the back seat in their interactions ...
Views: 4451 - Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Margaret PaulSharon, one of the members of our website, emailed me asking me to write more on abuse, particularly covert incest. She was in the process of ending her 4-year marriage with her covertly abusive husband, who is emotionally incestuous with his adult daughter. "There is no physical involvement, ...
Views: 3921(1 vote) - Parents - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Rebecca KimbelParents are people, not Gods. They cannot provide something out of nothing. They cannot give what they do not have. They cannot be what they are not and they cannot fill the emptiness in adult children who cannot or will not assume the responsibilities of an adult. Parents, who themselves have ...
Views: 1302 - Your Relationship is Over What Next? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Chris RobertsNothing is as hard as trying to cope up with a relationship when it is over. What started as two hearts coming together into a wonderful relationship suddenly encounters bad time and breaks up causing a lot of pain. Usually the break up is connected to the heart as it all started there. So the ...
Views: 873 - Tragedy Can Heal Troubled Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Allison O'NeillWhen tragedy strikes people really do come together. A friend of mine shared a story with me... “We have had nothing to do with our extended family for more than ten years but when one relative’s baby lost its life moments after delivery we knew silence wouldn’t be right. The fact we are blood ...
Views: 1068 - 6 Tips for Successful Relating - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Melanie Smithson1. Know what’s your business and stay out of what’s not your business So often we take responsibility for another person’s well-being (or what our idea of that is) and we try to get them to do what we think is best. The problem with this is that most of the time, nobody asked for our help. ...
Views: 1098 - Why Do We Lie to the People We Love? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere’s something about love which stimulates the imagination. We fantasize about romance and sex. When we are in love we walk on air and everything is wonderful, even when in reality we soon discover that it isn’t perfect. Besides, who can compete with our complex imagination? And ...
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