Relationship Advice Articles

“You can’t give love to someone else without knowing how to give yourself love first.” nn ~Tristan LoonnAccording to humanistic psychology, human beings have an inner need and desire to give and receive high quality love. Love is the glue that holds together human society and without it our lives have little meaning or purpose. In fact, our need to give high quality love to others drives us towards behaviors that would otherwise be considered insane, such as

Emotional intimacy is a dimension of interpersonal intimacy that varies in degree and over time, much like physical intimacy. Affect, emotion and feeling may refer to different phenomena. Emotional intimacy may refer to any or all of those in both a lay or a professional context.nnEmotional intimacy can be observed in terms of verbal and non-verbal communication. The degree of comfort, effectiveness and mutual experience of closeness might indicate emotional intimacy between

The simplest and most understandable way I have ever heard intimacy described is by breaking the word down: in to me see. That is what intimacy is about - allowing another person to see into us, sharing who we are with another person. nnSharing who we are is a problem because at the core of our relationship with ourselves is the feeling that we are somehow defective, unlovable and unworthy. That programming is a defense that the ego adapted to help us survive. It is based upo

Are you a rational or irrational thinker? You may want to believe you are a rational thinker, but you find that you are the eternal pessimist, able to see only the half-empty glass in many situations you face. You are a rational thinker if you turn negative situations into positive ones. You can face unpleasantant situations and not become overwhelmed. You use your unique talents to resolve problems and view the brighter side of your life. If you are an irrational thinker, yo

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Relationship Advice . The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to Relationship Advice is Brenda Shoshanna . Relationship advice concerns any guidance or suggestion about how to better manage or reconcile differences, reach agreements, and coexist peacefully in a relationship (whether that relationship is romantic, platonic, familial, or professional) from any number of third party sources.nn Relationship Rescue: A Seven-S

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Relationship Advice . The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to Relationship Advice is Brenda Shoshanna . Relationship advice concerns any guidance or suggestion about how to better manage or reconcile differences, reach agreements, and coexist peacefully in a relationship (whether that relationship is romantic, platonic, familial, or professional) from any number of third party sources.nn Love and Respect: The Love She

Should you stay with your partner or leave them? Is all the pain you suffer in your relationship worth it for the good times you have together? Will it really be worth all the pain of leaving them or is it better to stay and stick it out?nnIn most relationships there comes a point when you have to decide whether your partner really has the qualities you need to stay together. Making the decision to stay or go is almost always a very painful and confusing time as there general

What’s Love Got to Do with It?nnWell, I got dumped... As a performer in the DECIDE urban musical, that is. I was having so much fun on stage, doing what I loved, and making a difference for people. Most importantly, I loved working with Stuart Knight, the director.nnHow could he do this? I thought Stuart liked me and my work? I thought we were getting along very well together? The news was disappointing. Feelings of loss and hurt overwhelmed me. My heart ached. It was l

Are there any "holes" in your relationship? nnIf you're like us--the answer is yes. nnIn fact, in many relationships there are usually quite a few "holes." nn"Holes" are those things in your relationships and life that you may know are there but it's always a surprise when you fall into one. nnThings can be going along just fine and before you know it, you've fallen into one of those darn holes again. nnThe house we live in is over 130 years old and just like a lot of relatio

There are reliable tools that can be used to create a healthy relationship, many of which have not been taught in our culture. If you want to have a really healthy relationship, follow these simple guidelines.nn1. Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness. Too often relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames their partner for making them that way. Make yourself happy first, and then share his or her happiness.n n2. Do not do anything for your par

It is amazing the number of couples that allow the intimate side of their relationship slide. Loss of intimacy is one of those common marriage problems that eat away at the very foundation of a marriage turning what was once a loving and fulfilling relationship into nothing more than a shell.nnThe excuses are all too common, just too busy at work, the children are too demanding, we don’t have time or it’s just temporary to name but a few. With such easy excuses slipping o

3 ways to guarantee you’ll find him within a year nnAre you looking to find your Mr. Right? Your perfect partner? A man that you’ll love passionately, forever, and who’ll love you back even more?nnThen there are 3 things you must know or must do in order to make sure you get him.nn 1. Get Clear on Who He Is nnLet me ask you this. If you don’t know…nn• what kind of personality he must have n• what behavioural characteristics he must po

This article is also available at http://www.psychresources.net nnCommunication problems are by far the most common reason that couples come in for counseling. However, learning new communication skills does not always address the true cause of their problem. For example, many people who have difficulty communicating with their partners have a much easier time communicating with other people. In cases such as these, a lack of skill is not the real problem. It is the person's

Love your LOVERnnAre you living your life with passion and desire?n nEvery area of your life should possess both and sadly enough the one area that is most neglected is our relationship with our significant other. Here are a few tips and suggestions that will rekindle those flames of desire. nnn1. Hug and kiss every morning before leaving the house. n2. Reach across the front seat of the car when you drive and hold their hand, even for a few moments. Allow your fingers to bec

The less we learn to long for -- or depend upon -- nnSpecial understanding from others, nnThe less we will suffer for not receiving this. nn nnThe less we suffer over what others nnSeem incapable of giving to us, nnThe less unhappy will we find ourselves nnIn these unanswered moments of our lives nnSpent in the company of friends and foes alike. nn nnThe less pain we have over what life appears to deny us, nnThe more at peace we naturally become with ourselves. nn nnThe more

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Relationship Advice . The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to Relationship Advice is Brenda Shoshanna . Relationship advice concerns any guidance or suggestion about how to better manage or reconcile differences, reach agreements, and coexist peacefully in a relationship (whether that relationship is romantic, platonic, familial, or professional) from any number of third party sources.nn The Five Love Languages: How t

Relationship counseling is the process of counseling the parties of a relationship in an effort to recognize and to better manage or reconcile troublesome differences and repeating patterns of distress. The relationship involved may be between members of a family, couples, employees or employers in a workplace, or between a professional and a client.nn History nRelationship counseling as a discrete, professional service is a recent phenomenon. Until the late 20th century, the

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Relationship Advice . The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to Relationship Advice is Brenda Shoshanna . Relationship advice concerns any guidance or suggestion about how to better manage or reconcile differences, reach agreements, and coexist peacefully in a relationship (whether that relationship is romantic, platonic, familial, or professional) from any number of third party sources.nn How to Win Friends & Influence

We can never hope to be free as long as any part of us struggles with, or suffers over what others are doing, have done, or won't do with their lives. If we could remain aware of the often-compromised state of our own character, that is, how we still do those things to others that we don't want to do, this awakened conscience would stir in us a new need. Rather than worrying about whether so-and-so gets his comeuppance for being the kind of person he is, our attention would b

This is being written to put forward an understanding of relationships that can enable us to have the relationship we all want. It is also being written after having worked as a counsellor for over twenty years and dealing with numerous relationships during that time. I believe I have arrived at an understanding that can make all the difference.nnnWith the many hundreds of people I have seen from all over the world, from every continent I realised, there is a pattern in their

To have a good relationship, it needs nurtured and cultivated. Have you ever thought of developing charisma and applying your charisma and charm in your relationships?nnSo many times, we may like someone or even love him or her, but time gets away from us. We never express our sentiments, or don't express them often enough. Or we become separated by a physical move of some distance or changes happen in our lives that don't allow us to see each other as often.nnIt reminds me o

Yahoo, it’s spring! As the grass began to grow, I knew it was time to connect with nature and get our garden ready for another productive year.nnIt was fun to work in the garden that sunny day. There was that distinctive rich, sweet smell. It was a very pleasurable experience to work the soil, plan where things would be, and to picture in my mind how it would look when we harvest and savour the fruits veggies of our labour.nnAfter the seeds were carefully planted, there was

We have all been on some pretty terrible dates. Some have been with the biggest time wasters, while some others have been so embarrassing that I try never to think about them. Did these dates occur because I was bored, I let me guard down, was I lonely, or did I just date anyone, even though I knew I was not compatible with him? If so, then obviously I dated these men for the wrong reasons. And I was a complete idiot for doing so.nLet me assure you that there will be a decent

There I was, running around trying to juggle umpteen items nand doing only a fair job of it at best. There was my ntherapy business, and I have been putting big pieces into nplace to add coaching to my business along with having to nprepare a presentation for an annual convention. Then ...

I yawn, stretch my arms behind my head and stare at the ceiling. I've been in bed for a few minutes. Ahhh, the peaceful quiet all around. The room is dark. The kids are asleep. It's an expansive moment for my mind. My mind seems to fill the entire room. Okay, it's been 20 minutes now. The ...

Relationships in which one individual is depressed are ninetimes more likely to divorce. Wow, the normal divorce rateis already over 60% nationally! But, it's not always aspouse who is depressed, sometimes it is a child or anextended family member. In this article, however, we'll be focusing ...

Don't worry, I'm not going to get in the pulpit but I willchallenge you to take an objective look at what faith maybe able to do for your depression. In doing so, we'll belooking at many people who use faith in different ways. Did you know that someone who practices healing touch, suchas ...

Ah yes, the you can just now begin to feel the cold bite in the air during the mornings and evenings. Soon the leaves will turn all sorts of brilliant colors. The autumn season is on it's way. I love the fall. It's my favorite season of the year. Unfortunately, for many who suffer from a ...

Are you suffering from depression or a medical condition? Depression can be a symptom of an undiagnosed medical condition. Decision trees are used in psychotherapy much like they are in other professions. At the top of the decision tree are always two items to rule out FIRST, before making a ...

The holidays bring grief to an all new height for those who are nsuffering from losses or struggle with depression, anxiety, nchronic illness or other such disorders. This newsletter is for nthose who suffer and for those who love them. If it's a merry Christmas for you, please take a moment ...

I received a disturbing email this week. It's one of many on the same theme which I have received over time, so I knew it was time to address this issue. Here's the story. A young lady's boyfriend went to see a doctor for depression. She shared with me that the doctor apparently said he has ...

In the "Anxiety Disorders" section of the manual entitled "Diagnostic Criteria from DSM IV," which is used for the ndiagnosis of mental health conditions, there are 12 anxiety ndiagnoses covered. The fifth, and what may appear to be a soft diagnosis, is Social Phobia (Social Anxiety ...

You have and will experience sadness. It might be the loss of a job, pet or a loved one. Yes, even a loved one. The trouble is, particularly here in the United States, we have a quick-fix for everything... why not sadness too? Our quick-fix for sadness is that it's simply not allowed. Healthy ...

I like to think that as a professional psychotherapist & coach, the space in which I work in my office is a smaller reflection of our much larger culture here in the USA. Let me explain. Our culture is constantly on the move towards faster, more convenient ways of doing things. I'm caught ...

I've heard it said that by the end of January, over 90% of individuals who make New Years resolutions don't remember what they were. Why is this so? People are often sincere, however, they are not yet in the right place for big changes in their lives. Many others want to continue same ...

Have you ever overheard people talking about couples that have been married for a very long time? One of things often said is how a couple will begin to look alike over time. How and why do you think this occurs? This phenomenon parallels a tea bag being steeped in clear water. After a while ...

A tremendous amount of stress occurs when you don't understand and accept your limitations. When you attempt to control something in life that is not within your sphere of influence how do you feel and react? What is it like for you to experience powerlessness? Can you control another's ...

Are you and your spouse not seeing eye to eye on much anymore? Find out in this guide whether it's time for marriage therapy and get that spark back. Staying in a long-term, committed relationship is one of the most difficult things human beings demand of themselves. When you live hand-in-hand with another person ...

One of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to? How many times have we said something that we really didn't mean, but we were too frustrated to stop it from being said? What's more, some people have a fear of expressing themselves at all. They're afraid to say something that might cost them a friendship. Or they bottle everything up tight and seize up at the mere thought of sharing their true emotions. This can be a constant struggle for people.

It seems that everywhere you look, many long-standing (or short) relationships and/or marriages are dissolving. If you’re like most people, when this happens, you find yourself stuck in thinking about the past, wondering what went wrong, and unable to move from the pain of the relationship. ...

How will I know I am in Love? By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our many interviews with people “in love” we ask them, perhaps, the most revealing question of the interview – “How will I know I am in love?” We have heard very consistent answers. And conversely, many people involved in a new loving relationship, particularly young people, often ask us, “How do I know if I am in love?” We think we know the answer.

Would the prince have chose Cinderella to marry if she was a miserable young woman? If her stepsisters were beautiful but miserable, would he have chosen either of them? Are you living under the delusion that when you meet your soul mate you will finally be happy - that your misery is because ...

Text messaging is one of the most powerful ways to flirt and build attraction and to lay a great foundation for a lasting relationship with a man.

Good relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...

If you have a new guy in your life and are in the early stages of courtship, chances are good you will be texting him and he will be texting you. Flirty texting is fun, but if you aren't careful, you can unknowingly put a huge damper on his attraction.

"I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line." --Lucile Ball, 1911-1989, Comedienne and Actress Lucile Ball was a very smart woman! Do you believe that if you put others first, they will love and value you and you will feel loved? Has this worked for you?

Permissions: You may publish this article free of charge in your ezine, web site, ebook or print publication so long as the copyright notice and the resource paragraph (at the end ofrnthe article) are included. Laurie Weiss, Ph.D. Email: media@laurieweiss.com ------------ Article Begins Below This Line ------------ R-E-S-P-E-C-T: 25 Ways To Show It Copyright 2004 Laurie Weiss, Ph.D. Convicted criminals report that their violent behavior was caused by perceived disrespect.* Everyone wants to be treated with respect, but respect means different things to different people.

If your partner had an affair, you might be trying to figure out how this happened. Whether you are still in this relationship or not, your heart might feel broken into a million pieces. Unfortunately, some of the beliefs that you may hold about infidelity could be making your broken heart pain worse than it already is. There are many misconceptions about why people cheat.