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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How to Influence Your Guy to Take Your Relationship More Seriously - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Chris RobertsIt is fairly common to find guys who seem to have a phobia for making serious commitments in their relationships with us. In case your boyfriend happens to be of this type, you may face a lot of frustrations as your relationship does not appear to move towards the direction you would like. ...
Views: 4488 - ***Infidelity is Not Okay and it is Not Forgivable! - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for more than 25 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 5620(34 votes) - 7 Factors That Influence the Quality and Life-Span of Romantic Relationships and Marriage - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Ismini ApostoliWhen most adults embark upon a new romantic relationship, they do so with the best intentions in mind. Yet most romantic relationships usually fail within the first three months, others break down within the first year and some that last longer and even lead to marriage create more pain than ...
Views: 8245(3 votes) - How to Find and Impress the "Perfect" Man - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsStatistics say men lie five times more often than women. (Now ask yourself, is that true, or did I just make it up?) And despite human progress and enlightened times, we're still slaves to our genes. Males are hardwired to impress women. Watch the elaborate dances some birds go through to win ...
Views: 920 - How to Romance a Man - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Michael LeeWant to know how to romance a man? Then this article is for you. It has been commonly thought that romancing a guy would require tons of research, experience, and a lot of other factors in order to be good at it. People would commonly think that learning how to romance a man is just like any ...
Views: 1381 - Everybody Needs Romance! - by Submitted on May 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWe all have our own definition of romance: it is a nicely-written love poem, a breakfast in bed, or an adorable puppy at your doorstep. It is a very important ingredient for every successful and passionate relationship, whether it’s still in the budding phase or running for more than 30 years ...
Views: 615 - *** Love Asks for Nothing - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from Margaret Paul"We 'love' another in order to get something ourselves….There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything." -- A Course in Miracles "Love is incapable of asking for anything." Wow! Take a moment to think about that ...
Views: 3114(3 votes) - How to Break Up with Someone Painlessly - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from Michael LeeBreaking up is like swallowing a bitter pill. You know it’s not going to be any good but you still have to do it to get better anyway. Nobody likes to be the one to break the bad news; but luckily, people are starting to learn the proper ways to end relationships - ways that will make the whole ...
Views: 1861 - ***Almost Smart Cookie Tips: Falling for Falling in Love Traps - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from LB WishMy research on strong women's relationship problems revealed that over 40% of women liked lots of excitement in their relationships. They were drawn to men who offered a high-energy life style. Typical dates included private jets to the latest event, hobnobbing with the rich and famous and ...
Views: 1253 - Are You Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSpring: Everything seems alive and vibrant-- flowers are definitely more colourful, the air has a heady smell, the weather is story-book perfect and there is an unmistakable increase in libido in the singles crowd. Everyone seems to want to date more in the spring, and this is often the time ...
Views: 616 - Secrets for Sensitive People to Find Relationships That Work: Why Emotional Empaths May Stay Lonely or Alone - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLoneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my practice and workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet ...
Views: 1941(4 votes) - Love Entanglements - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Gary RobertsonIf we were to diagram most adult relationships as stick figure art, we would have a confusion of interlocking lines. Even if different colors were used for each person, arms and leg lines would show a lot of confusion, struggle and oppositional positioning. That's because for the most part we ...
Views: 1863 - Be Your Own Life Coach: Use the Push-Pull Relationship Theory - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamSometimes when a couple enters into a new stage of their relationship it can become very difficult to maintain an open and healthy line of communication. Through every phase of any relationship the ability to communicate is essential. Sometimes as the relationship grows and moves forward into ...
Views: 6854 - Trust is a Bogus Issue - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Gary RobertsonA primary conflict within relationships gets labeled “trust issues.” He needs to trust her to be there for him and she must trust him to remain interested only in her. We have a social convention that sexual fidelity tells us who is trustable and anyone cheating cannot be trusted. Breaking trust ...
Views: 1811 - Do Certain People Push Your Buttons? - 7 Insights for Dealing With Them - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Kimberley CohenEvery person is for your growth, learning, and expansion. This can be hard to believe especially from a person who pushes your buttons and you feel like pulling your hair out. It’s much easier to acknowledge the great and awesome qualities that our friends bring for us and reflect in us. ...
Views: 10415 - Prenup or Not to Prenup? - by Submitted on May 17, 2009 from Gary DickinsonIt’s not the 1950s. In Australia two generations ago divorce was rare and no one knew what a prenup was. You married in your early 20s, had 2.8 kids, and usually you stayed married, till death do us part. Society doesn’t plan your married life any more. Marriage isn’t seen as permanent, divorce ...
Views: 582 - Feel Unable To Have Healthy Relationships? Afraid To Go “Crash and Burn” Yet Again? - by Submitted on May 16, 2009 from Alex MayDo happy, sexy, healthy relationships elude you? May be there is something unconsciously encrypted into you that makes you destined for a failure? Consider unplugging yourself from social programming! Social programming is a kind of invisible web surrounding you from the very first moment you ...
Views: 4025 - ***Love and Marriage Cinderella Style - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The Cinderella Story is a wonderful story. It does, indeed, warm the heart. It certainly inspires. Love is always inspiring! But the truth is, it is an idealized version of falling in love that rarely ever approximates the reality or the truth of ...
Views: 3024(37 votes) - Six Ways to End Bickering About Money - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieOne of the most common causes of arguments between couples is disagreements over money, mostly about how it should be spent, or not spent. Arguments over money generally fall into two general areas, differences in fundamental attitudes, and bickering over day to day details. Sometimes the ...
Views: 2125(3 votes) - Healing from Pornography Addiction - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs someone that has spent nearly forty years studying human behavior, compulsion, mind body relationships and addiction, I have seen over and over again how addiction can be shattering to our hearts, self image, and sense of stability in the world. I am in the process of designing a program ...
Views: 2711 - For the Love of Your Wife - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Aryana HudsonA couple happy and excited about the birth of their first child is a lovely reality however there are hidden traps that will no longer be hidden if they are examined ahead of time. This question will open that Pandora's box: If you had to choose between the life of your wife or the baby which ...
Views: 1900(1 vote) - 5 Steps to Translating the Foreign Language of Relationships - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Jenn KayeHave you ever thought you asked a simple question in your relationship, such as “Would you like to go the movies this Friday?” and gotten a response that led you to believe that perhaps you really did have six heads and were speaking a foreign language? Studies have shown that over 90% of our ...
Views: 1288 - Creating a Lasting Relationship: 5 Steps to Getting it Right - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Jenn KayeHave you ever heard the old saying that “Relationships take work?” How does that make you feel when you hear that? Tired? A little frustrated? Do your eyeballs roll back in your head when you think of “working” on your relationship after a long day at the office, or running errands all day, ...
Views: 4807 - Smart, Meet Heart: 5 Remedies for (Smart) People’s Dating Woes - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSome of you, my astute readers, already noticed that the dating challenges enumerated in the last article - focusing on careers instead of relationships, expecting to be loved for the wrong reasons, not acting like a sexual being, self-sabotaging and ego identity - are not just specific to smart ...
Views: 743 - Controlling Behavior: Allowing Others to Be - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe all know what it’s like to want to be in control. In some ways, exerting control is an important survival skill. For example, we have every right to be in control of our own bodies and our own lives. Taking control in these cases is empowering and necessary. Controlling behavior in the ...
Views: 2030 - 7 Golden Rules of Communication - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsGood communication is not rocket science. It’s also not ‘painting by numbers’ where people have to learn a set of techniques. It’s not enough to learn some skills. The key to good communication is not just having good communication skills, but also having self-awareness. Why do you react and ...
Views: 14592(2 votes) - White Knight Syndrome: Subtypes - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsTo create our subtypes we reviewed numerous cases of rescuing behavior in intimate relationships. We examined and compared the personality styles, behavior in relationships, and early history. From this review, four basic subtypes of rescuers emerged: the overly empathic white knight, the ...
Views: 17448 - What is a White Knight? - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsWhite knights have a compulsive need to rescue, but how and why they rescue can be quite varied. The following is an overview of the basic characteristics common to all white knights. There are also four subtypes: the overly empathetic white knight, the tarnished white knight, the terrorizing/ ...
Views: 3740 - Pregnancy & Postpartum Anxiety: How Dads Can Support Mothers - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsEmotional difficulties in women during pregnancy and after delivery are surprisingly common. For example, studies consistently show that approximately 14 percent of women suffer from postpartum depression (Paulson, Dauber, and Leiferman 2006). In addition, some studies have found around 16 ...
Views: 2415(1 vote) - I Need a Divorce – And Quickly - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2011 from Elsabe SmitWhat do you do when you let your heart run free, knowing even as it happens that you have made the worst possible decision? We often hear about celebrities that get married on a whim, and within a matter of days, or sometimes weeks, they head for the divorce court. They have the courage to ...
Views: 2336(2 votes) - *** Avoid These Relationship Traps and Build a Stronger Union - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Richard NicastroI'm often asked, "What is one of the most challenging issues couples face today?" While every couple is different, there are themes that I see in my work as a couples counselor and relationship coach. One common issue is the difficulty couples have in prioritizing their relationship—a form of ...
Views: 1429 - Intimacy Tips for Moms and Dads - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsIf you have kids at home, it's highly likely that you and your mate have to schedule in and make plans for special time for you two to be alone. This may vary depending on your lifestyle and the ages of your kids. It's quite possible that at a certain point in your lives, you and your partner ...
Views: 1721 - ACT With Love: Learning to Fight Fairly - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsIf you’re going to address an issue, first think about the outcome you are looking for. If you want to waste your energy in a useless fight, you know what to do: put on your armor, pick up your sword, and charge. Leap into the fray, armed to the teeth with accusations, strong words, criticisms, ...
Views: 1370 - ACT With Love: NAME Your Feelings - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsNAME your feelings If you want to handle your feelings effectively, NAME them. NAME is an acronym for: N – Notice A – Acknowledge M – Make space E – Expand awareness Let’s go through these steps for handling your feelings, one by one. STEP 1: NOTICE When strong feelings show up, the first ...
Views: 3730 - ACT With Love: The Land of Rules - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsIn the right context, rules are very useful. We’d be in trouble if we didn’t have rules about which side of the road to drive on, or how fast we can drive, or how much we can drink before we drive. However, rules can be problematic if we hold them too tightly. We can become rigid or inflexible, ...
Views: 1323 - ACT with L.O.V.E. - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsLet’s discuss LOVE: L – Letting go O – Opening up V – Valuing E – Engaging Let’s now explore each of these elements in more detail: LETTING GO “Letting go” is the escape route from inside-your-mind, one of the elements that DRAIN your relationship. Your mind is like a master storyteller ...
Views: 2953 - How Do I Ask My Girlfriend to Marry Me? 3 Romantic Ways to Propose - by Submitted on May 11, 2009 from Michael LeeAre you asking yourself the big question of “How do I ask my girlfriend to marry me?” Getting married is a huge step for both men and women. However, most of the burden is on you because you’re the one who is proposing to your girlfriend. Not only will you have to plan everything, you will also ...
Views: 1687 - Healing a Broken Heart from Love - Please Help Me - by Submitted on May 10, 2009 from Ron HirsuYou just went through a breakup. Right now you are so heartbroken and all you want to do is to run away from the hurt. You just want to be left alone for awhile, hide in a rabbit hole and go into seclusion. Your whole felt like a deck of falling cards. You are so hurt that you are left in a ...
Views: 989 - Emotional vs. Sexual Cheating -- Which is More Devastating? - by Submitted on May 10, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraCheating is a sure-fire way of ruining a relationship whichever way you look at it. Of course it’s no longer news that when someone cheats on a partner, trust is lost and there is always little chance of getting it back. While this may be an all-too familiar concept for most people, the only ...
Views: 2825(2 votes) - Marriage Counseling Relationship Advice: Male Partners Must "Do" Too - by Submitted on May 09, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamAs a Psychologist an understanding of behavior and providing Relationship Advice is what allows me to help people work through their troubles. Helping people to adjust their behaviors and better their relationships is one of life’s greatest rewards. It can be just the smallest thing or even just ...
Views: 1719 - Overcoming Jealousy - by Submitted on May 09, 2009 from David Bonham-CarterJealousy is an emotion experienced by people all over the world, but when you have it you may feel as if you are completely abnormal or out of control. Overcoming jealousy for most people is often a matter of finding sensible practical strategies to help you deal with the insecure thoughts and ...
Views: 2473 - ***Is Advice About Marriage Fact Or Fiction? - by Submitted on May 08, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we prepared for the work of the day this morning it dawned on us while watching a television show – there is a lot of bad advice about marriage and relationships in the popular media today. We watched these so-called “experts” wax on about what ...
Views: 2576(39 votes) - Soul Mates - by Submitted on May 08, 2009 from Christina GikasSoul mates. The phrase conjures up visions of that perfect someone—the one and only one. THE perfect mate. The one with whom we have spent many lifetimes together. That one person who knows us inside out, who will make every dream come true, who will be the perfect mate. This person will be so ...
Views: 754 - 3 Great Ideas to Get Over a Breakup - by Submitted on May 07, 2009 from Michael LeeHow many days have you locked yourself up in your room? How many tissue boxes are strewn around the floor? Your eyes are probably swollen to the max crying over your ex. Even if you don’t know how to get over someone, you at least know that keeping yourself away from society isn’t the way. So ...
Views: 1072 - Married Couple Shares Secrets of Journey from Misery to Bliss - by Submitted on May 07, 2009 from Stephen and Sonja FrancisHow we ended up with black belts in the "Marital Arts": A few years ago, Sonja and Stephen Francis found themselves sitting in a puddle of blueberry milkshake, sobbing their hearts out. Sonja had just dumped the milkshake over Stephen's head, right after he had punched a hole in the closet ...
Views: 1380 - Overcoming The Fear of Committment - by Submitted on May 07, 2009 from Brenda Shoshanna"Most women ultimately want their relationships to lead to marriage. They feel they need a man to make a commitment in order to feel secure. This need can scare men away, making them feel like an object, as if they’re being used for a woman's security. No man wants to feel as if he's being used. ...
Views: 8615(1 vote) - Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on May 06, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraA newfound love is always exhilarating. This exhilaration always causes one to be blinded to the very obvious indicators and should be flashing red lights, warning a person of a potentially catastrophic relationship. Often, if the abuse has been inflicted during dating, it is always possible to ...
Views: 1121 - How to Get Over a Relationship - by Submitted on May 06, 2009 from Marcia BaczynskiWe’ve all been there. You meet someone fabulous, you fall in love, and life is wonderful… for a while. One day, the bickering starts. Things seem a little less shiny than before. After a while, things are clearly going downhill. And then: The Breakup. Getting over a relationship isn’t easy, but ...
Views: 1842 - The Top Seven Ways to Flatter Your Man - by Submitted on May 06, 2009 from Sally Connolly1. Do special things for him: fix his favorite meal and let him know that you are doing it because you care about him, buy his favorite drinks or snacks, rent a movie that you know he will like, buy him a little gift that shows that you have thought about him and noticed what he likes. 2. Pay ...
Views: 4009 - Is it Just “Clingy” or Something Else? - by Submitted on May 06, 2009 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Doc: I am 20 and the longest I have been in a relationship is 10 months, but I have noticed a pattern in all of the girls I have dated. When I first meet them, they seem to be head over heels for me, they seem to love my charm, since of humor and look and things go okay for about a month ...
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