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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How to Remove Criticism to Improve Your Most Important Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2019 from Mary Kay CocharoThere are many models of Couples Therapy today. One thing that they have in common is the advice to eliminate negativity in communication. This is a hard thing to do, but is vitally important. Let's take a look at why it's essential to remove criticism and what to do instead. Does your ...
Views: 815(1 vote) - How To Repair A Marriage After An Affair Starting With These 3 Initial Steps - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2011 from Brenda StewartIf you don't know how to repair a marriage after an affair then you should know that for rebuilding your marriage stronger than ever you both have to make a lot of efforts. First you have to heal yourself and only after you feel that you overcome all the negative thought about the affair is time ...
Views: 1763(1 vote) - How to Resolve your Relationship Conflicts through Communication - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Susan LiddyRelating with others is a delicate balancing act between having our own wants and needs fulfilled, and making sacrifices on behalf of the other person. In other words: relationships are about give and take. The line where things grow blurry is in the everyday exchanges we have with those we care ...
Views: 1289(1 vote) - How to Save a Failing Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Phil CosmoRelationships start wonderfully. You meet "Mr. Right" or "Miss Right" and you go out for a few dates, perhaps to the movies. Then one day you say to yourself "I finally met the man of my dreams!" Months later someone, usually the man, pops the question - then it's on to the alter and off to ...
Views: 1525(1 vote) - How to Save Marriage – The Most Critical Ingredient in Saving a Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Lisa Penn-JamesEven if your marriage is in crisis and instead of a happy union it feels more like unpaid, overtime work, you can probably still remember how it used to be. It used to be butterflies in your stomach; it used to be full of romance and laughs. You were once deeply in love. Sometimes it’s hard to ...
Views: 1282(1 vote) - How To Set Boundaries and Stand Your Ground - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Christiana StarBoundaries are important. From a psychological perspective, boundaries are the mental, emotional, spiritual or relational limits on who and what kind of influences you accept into your life. How you expect to be treated depends on your personal history and self-evaluation. This is different ...
Views: 1488(1 vote) - How to Spice up Your Love Life this Valentine's with a Taste of the 'Yoga of Love' - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental WeaverIt’s winter in Chicago. Everything is cold, dull, and dead, but the romance doesn’t have to be! Whether you are single or attached; now is the time to kick the winter blahs and create the kind of love and intimacy that gives Peggy Lee the proverbial fever! Many of us have resolutions and ...
Views: 1665(2 votes) - How to Stop Being In Love With Someone Who Doesn’t Love You - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonWe are so happy when we fall in love and cannot understand why our world comes to a standstill when the love of our life decides to walk out on us. Something in us refuses to accept the fact that our relationship has come to an end. We start working ourselves up in a frenzy, cry, plead, ...
Views: 1424(1 vote) - How To Stop My Divorce? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from Olivia PeterIf your marriage is in crisis and you or your spouse are thinking that a divorce is your solely choice, you need to appreciate that it doesn't always have to be. To prevent marriage divorce it's terribly vital that you perceive that what seems not possible, hopeless, and irreconcilable nowadays ...
Views: 1158(1 vote) - How to Survive a Broken Heart and Bring Back a Lost Love - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Gerry RestriveraHaving a broken heart is something that people don’t want to go through, but when it happens you have to know how to survive a broken heart. Life has to go on and for this reason you have to learn how to overcome your broken heart. You will go through different stages in your break up and ...
Views: 1673(1 vote) - How to Survive a Long-distance Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online. For those who think that love is enough to make any relationship work are possible victims to one of the biggest deceptions in the world. Any type of relationship, most especially romantic, requires a lot of efforts. One has to be on toes all ...
Views: 663(1 vote) - How to Survive Long-distance Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online. A long-distance relationship is hard. A lot of couples end up breaking apart within six months from the separation. However, that should not deter you from pursuing it, especially if you know that there are also ways to make it succeed. It’s ...
Views: 756(1 vote) - How to Tell if someone is lying-Hints & Tips - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Justin DouglasAdrienne Rich said “Lying is done with words and also with silence”. The self always shines through and there are many little hints & tips that if you are aware of can show big lying indicators in someone. Signs of lying can be everything from voice tone, body language, changing the ...
Views: 3878(4 votes) - HOW TO TELL IF YOU’RE WILLFUL OR STRONG WILLED - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2020 from Darlene LancerStrong-willed people are successful, yet those who are willful often sabotage success. Willful individuals can be fiercely stubborn in their opinions and pursuit of their goals, ignoring what other people think and need. They often fiercely force their will despite obstacles or negative ...
Views: 885(2 votes) - How To Tell When Someone Is Lying - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2007 from Steve GillmanTo know how to tell when someone is lying, it helps to first look at the three basic types of lies. These are lies of omission, commission, and embellishment. What follows is a short description/definition of each, and some ways to detect each kind of lying. Lying By Omission A lie of omission ...
Views: 8018(1 vote) - How To Win Back Lost Love: 5 Tips To Get Your Ex Back In No Time - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Michael LeeIf you want to know how to win back lost love and save your relationship, you’ve got to be prepared for the best and the worst case scenarios. Everybody wants a happy ending, but not everybody gets it. However, it wouldn’t hurt for you to get a little bit of expert advice either! Learn the ...
Views: 25890(1 vote) - How to Win Your Boyfriend Back - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Patrick MorrisIt is natural for one to follow what their instincts tell them to do. During tough decisions, it’s usually the “gut feeling” that turns out to be right. However, in the case of breakups – especially when you want to win your boyfriend back – this is not the path you would want to follow. ...
Views: 548(1 vote) - How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything, Discovering Your Relationship DNA - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneStart with the idea that how you do anything is how you do everything and it will empower you to investigate how you relate, not just in a love relationship, but also with yourself and all others. This defuses the mindset of looking to fix what is ‘broken' and sets you on the path to ...
Views: 2381(6 votes) - I am so sad because I don't see this marriage working - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband complains that life is a habitrail that he has to get on everyday and he is not being reloaded. I have tried everything I know how to make things better for him. I don't know how to reply anymore, and honestly I am not sure there is ...
Views: 1234(1 vote) - I Didn’t Mean That, ‘Emotional Containment’ - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from David SamuelMany times people, in the heat of the moment, will say something, and then quickly upon realizing that it was inappropriate, try to stuff the words back in their mouth pleading that they did not mean that or they were just joking. The problem is that retraction is not possible. If I asked ...
Views: 1705(2 votes) - I Don't Like To Be Corrected - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2010 from Eloisa RamosI don’t like to be corrected, not even if the correction comes from me! I laugh because just last week my offer to help was met with resistance and I couldn’t understand why. I walked into the kitchen to find my husband making breakfast. I noticed a couple of burnt pieces on the plate and ...
Views: 4521(1 vote) - I Don’t Want To Be Lonely Anymore - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Jesse BirkeyI Don’t Want To Be Lonely Anymore We all have the desire to find someone special that we can share our life with. We want someone to be able to talk to when we are excited and to brag to when something great happens to us. We really want to do those things with someone that we know cares about ...
Views: 7368(2 votes) - I see it Differently - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2012 from Cindy Dillon“I See It Differently!” Has someone told you that physical or emotional distress is something you’re just going to have to live with? Cindy Dillon says… “I see it differently! You can break free of old patterns and embrace a full, healthy, peace-filled life.” Why is Cindy ...
Views: 1178(1 vote) - I'm Right; you're Right - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from John JohnsonYou are correct if you say we communicate using words- partially though! We also employ voice tone, gestures and body language, emotional state, clothing, the physical location (aka time/place setting) we occupy, and more; this is, in addition to the words we use. Even the lack of communicating ...
Views: 1224(1 vote) - I've Had an Affair… Now What? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Jay LindsayMichelle called me from San Francisco. She had found my website about the private marital therapy weekend intensives I do for couples in crisis. Several days earlier, Michelle had admitted to her husband, Tom, that she was having an extramarital affair. The affair was with an old boyfriend ...
Views: 2380(1 vote) - Ideas How to Look After Your Happy Love Partnership - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2012 from Georgi StanevPhysical contact and physical intimacy Physical contact is of extreme importance within a marriage and is to be reveled for as long as possible. God made physical bodies with billions of contact receptors all over the skin to take in love from a loving touch. Sleeping skin to skin creates ...
Views: 758(1 vote) - If Your Question is About Getting My Ex Back- Here’s the Way Out - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainIf your question is about getting my ex back then your first endeavor will be finding required information either from the Internet or from other valuable sources that could be books, journals, and articles that could be available in a good general or university library. Searching the Needle ...
Views: 534(1 vote) - Important Advice Before You Try to Get Your Ex Back Fast - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from robin brainPeople regret after their break up and feel nasty about it. They wish they could get back again with their ex as before. The thoughts of their ex overshadows their thinking process and disrupts the normal mental state. They keep on wishing that they could go back in time and said or did ...
Views: 400(1 vote) - Important Don'ts to Win Your Boyfriend Back - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainAre you planning to get your ex-boyfriend back in your life? Always busy with thoughts of how to win back your ex-boyfriend? Trying to rekindle that flame of love? Whatever you might do to win him back, do not do any of these while busy in your efforts to win back your love: Do not beg to ...
Views: 575(1 vote) - Improve Communication: Are You Listening? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Krystal KuehnCommunication problems are probably the greatest barriers to happy and healthy relationships. Somewhere in the exchange of thoughts and information something goes wrong. Words come out one way and are meant another. What was said is not interpreted in the way it was intended. Some thoughts ...
Views: 1145(1 vote) - Improve Your Relationships - Agree to Disagree - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Cynthia OrtizHow often do you find yourself in an intense argument over a disagreement? Too often, relationships tear apart due to disagreements. Why do we feel the NEED to be right? If someone does not agree with you why give them the cold shoulder? Is it really worth it? Does it make you feel good? ...
Views: 2798(3 votes) - Improving Your Marriage May Begin With You - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachMy approach to working with couples has always started with the following: Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues. They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the ...
Views: 2257(2 votes) - Infidelity: Whose Fault Is It? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2012 from Lara StewartIf your lover has cheated, you are far from alone. Experts estimate that as many as one-third of people cheat on a significant other at some point in their lives. Infidelity can be devastating, and can leave you wondering: is there any way I could have prevented this? Who is to blame for ...
Views: 4616(1 vote) - Inspiring Families - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghInspire Your Family; families don’t really exist until they “connect.” Personally, I don’t define a family by who its members are or even by how those members might be related to each. I define a family by how it behaves and by the degree of connectedness and cohesion between its members. Even ...
Views: 1177(1 vote) - Is breakup that hard to overcome? - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Kalyna KapurWe humans are social animals and in fact we cannot live without our social circle. We are evolved this way and it is one of the basic instinct that we developed at a very early stage of our evolution. So you can say we humans love to be around people, love to have conversation with people around ...
Views: 578(1 vote) - Is He Really Thinking, “Nothing??” - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2016 from T. Renee RichardsonAloha! Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Here we are. Deal with it. Love it up, even! The way to deal with and appreciate it, especially for more spiritually-based women, is to realize that while we’re all from the same planet, our spiritual growth processes occur differently. ...
Views: 1323(1 vote) - Is it Codependency or Just Not The Right Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Dominica ApplegateAs we struggle with codependency, it’s hard to consider that our current partner really just might not be a good match for us. Sure, I believe that many problems can be worked out in a relationship, but only if both partners want to work on them honestly and openly. For the codependent, ...
Views: 1535(1 vote) - Is it Love or Codependency? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownHow do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? This is an excellent question and often confusing for many for different reasons. Let’s look at the definitions of codependent and loving and see what we find. Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we ...
Views: 1766(1 vote) - Is It Safe? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2012 from Gary DirenfeldIs It Safe? Marital or couple counseling is an intimate experience that by design enables couples to disclose and address issues held secret. Those issues held secret may be from each other or from outsiders – including therapists. Once the word is out there though, the next issue is how ...
Views: 1169(1 vote) - Is Jealousy An Obstacle Preventing You Surviving An Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Brenda StewartAfter you find out about the affair, do you feel like you can not trust your spouse again and even the smallest hint of betrayal is making you extra-vigilant? When you are going to the restaurant, if your spouse smiles at the waitress or maybe takes a phone call from a friend of the opposite ...
Views: 1226(1 vote) - IS LIFE WORTH A LIE? LIFE IS NEVER WORTH A LIE! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2010 from Susan (Teacher Su) McKenzieNOTHING IS TOTALLY BLACK AND WHITE Lies in the virtual world and lies in the real world are a fact of life. The seriousness of such lies and how we react to them depends on our values and how serious we view the lie. Lying is never good and for some people totally undermines a budding ...
Views: 1650(1 vote) - Is Long Distance Relationship Possible to Live Through? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Joshua NyamacheBeing in a long distance relationship is challenging. There are many reasons that will lead partners to live apart from one another like studying abroad and work opportunities in different regions. This shouldn't be a barrier although. Even under normal circumstances relationships do face many ...
Views: 1300(1 vote) - Is Matrimony Guidance Well Worth the Time and Attempts - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2012 from Georgi StanevMany individuals nowadays have lost immediate physical connection with their lovers and other members of the family and so place in danger the presence of their partnerships. Despite the fact that divorce statistics worldwide is high, real number of damaged partnerships is significantly greater, ...
Views: 620(1 vote) - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 2007(1 vote) - Is My Ex Girlfriend Over Me? Figure It Out Here - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Mika MaddelaAre you trying to figure out if your ex girlfriend is still in love with you? It's not too hard to decipher her actions and interpret how she feels about you. You can easily tell if she is over you. Her talks with you would lack substance, that is if she ever talks to you at all. She'll also be ...
Views: 4490(1 vote) - Is Neediness Ruining Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIn a recent survey conducted at MarsVenus.com, “neediness”—clingy, controlling, possessive, and/or demanding behavior—was one of the most commonly cited reasons for ending a relationship. Dating couples are calling it quits because they feel they either cannot or do not want to please their ...
Views: 1677(1 vote) - Is Your Ex-Girlfriend Is Dating Again? Don’t Make This Mistake If You Want Her Back! - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Mika MaddelaIt’s not easy to move on from a painful breakup… especially if your ex-girlfriend is dating again. Even if you have already accepted the breakup, it can be devastating to find out that your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else. If you want to get her back, make sure you apply these things down ...
Views: 6889(1 vote) - Is Your Friend Manipulating You? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversYou’re feeling vague resentment, but you’re not sure why. Your friend seems to ask more of you, expect more of you, than you’re willing to give. You’re feeling guilty for not capitulating to your friend’s request. You find yourself wondering why you’re doing something when you really don’t want ...
Views: 1136(1 vote) - Is Your Marriage Over? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamThe only time I believe in giving up on a marriage is when one of them dies, or if after their divorce one of them marries someone else, or if one of them continues involvement in an activity that makes the marriage impossible. Otherwise, I believe there is a chance to reconcile. The first ...
Views: 3223(1 vote) - Is your Psychic, Psychic? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2010 from Michelle CaporaleIs your Psychic, Psychic? Everyone has “Intuitive” abilities, we are born with natural instinct. It’s common sense. Think of those who trade on the open market. These talented people have some sense of a feeling to sell or buy. Yes, the watch the market and stocks but they still go on ...
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