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- ***What Will They Think? - Love and Approval Addiction - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Margaret PaulWhen you were growing up, how often did you hear, "What will they think?"Who are "they?" Unfortunately, "they" are everyone. Many of our parents and caregivers were love and approval addicted and geared their behavior to try to have control over getting love and ...
Views: 5382(3 votes) - How To Break Free of Anger - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2012 from Brenda Shoshanna"In my mind are thoughts that can hurt or help me. I am constantly choosing the contents of my mind." --Dr. Gerald Jampolsky There are many ways of being addicted and many purposes an addiction serves. Addiction to anger ...
Views: 5319(4 votes) - Negative Empowerment - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Denise PendletonEmpowerment, that’s a good thing ~ right? Any time we have the ability to empower someone to do their best or make good decisions, it’s a positive in their life. So how do we get caught in the trap of negative empowerment? And what exactly is negative empowerment? Have you ever noticed ...
Views: 5217(1 vote) - Re-channeling Stress into Something Positive - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2013 from Scott BaxterRe-channeling Stress into Something Positive What if someone told you there was a way that you could re-channel the negative effects of stress into something that is productive and positive? What if someone told you that you literally redefine yourself into a negative belief when you are ...
Views: 5056(1 vote) - Never Sit On the Fence - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2011 from Ade AdenekanSitting on the fence is a situation whereby you do not want to get involved in a matter no matter the urgency or importance owing to a baseless imagination that you might get yourself harmed morally, physically and mentally. This can, particularly be, when you are faced or challenged by two ...
Views: 5007 - Addiction to Spending - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2010 from Margaret Paul"I keep getting into more and more debt, but I can't seem to stop. I do great for a while, and then I just have to go shopping and buy stuff. This is going to ruin my life if I don't stop, but how do I stop?"Mary Beth is addicted to spending. What does this mean and how can she ...
Views: 4924(3 votes) - ***Are You or Your Partner Possessive? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2011 from Margaret Paul"I freak out when my husband even looks at another woman. I trust him not to wander, so I don't know why this upsets me so much.""My partner spends too much time with her friends and family. What's the point of being together if she's always gone a couple of nights a ...
Views: 4894(3 votes) - ***The Heart of Healing - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulI have spent many years trying to discover the ONE thing - the one vital choice - that leads to healing and joy, or to suffering.Over 35 years ago I discovered an essential piece of the puzzle: that we each have only one to two intents at any given moment - to protect against pain and ...
Views: 4887(5 votes) - Selfish Feelings - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2011 from Radomir SamardzicAre we our feelings, or we just have them? Sometimes it seems that we are made of them. Feelings pervade our every day lives. How do we manage them and how we use them or abuse them? We have good feelings and bad feelings. When we feel good we appear to be a totally different person than when ...
Views: 4855(1 vote) - Getting To Know Yourself - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2007 from David BohlMost people think they know themselves pretty well, but how well do you really know yourself? Do you know exactly how you feel about certain things and why, or do you tend to judge how you feel by how you think you should feel? Are you comfortable with your feelings and the "inner you," or is ...
Views: 4797 - How To Break Free From A Dead End Life - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerIn my role as a Pastor and counselor I encounter many people who have found themselves seemingly at a dead end in life. Not only do they lack purpose—or the purpose they have is not one they sought or wanted—but they seem to blunder from disaster to disaster on a fairly consistent basis. And ...
Views: 4683(1 vote) - “I’d Rather Be Right Than Happy” Identity – A New Solution - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Adele Tartaglia INSTANT SUBCONSCIOUS REPROGRAMMING The Life Management Center 480/220-2089 eztherapy@gmail.comExcerpted from Transform Your Life Instantly: Mental Erasers Make Your Mind Work for You Instead of Against You, 2005, Adele Tartaglia Science has told us that expectations based on memories are strong contributing elements in creating the future events of our lives. If we choose to be ...
Views: 4636(3 votes) - Life's One Achievable Goal - by Submitted on May 19, 2010 from Margaret PaulMost of us have many goals in life. These goals might have to do with work, finances, relationships and family.Some of the goals that many people strive for are to feel worthy, loved, and valued. Many people spend much time in their lives seeking the approval of others, believing that getting ...
Views: 4558(6 votes) - Gaining Others' Respect - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Margaret PaulWe all want to be respected by others. And, we would all love to have control over whether or not others treat us respectfully. Is this realistic?Nigel, one of my clients, has a lot of confusion about this issue. He believes that people, especially his wife and children, "should" be ...
Views: 4416(7 votes) - Survival Tips for Holidays with Dysfunctional Family Members - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2009 from Beverley GlazerQuote “ Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city." - George Burns ? Holiday stress, is difficult enough, but if you have dysfunctional family members, the daily ‘holiday reminders’ can really be upsetting. We’re bombarded with images and songs that ...
Views: 4388(2 votes) - How We Label People Hurts Them and Us - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Willie HortonI have long been of the view that “normal” behaviour is bizarre. After all, the Universities of Chicago and Milan calculate that so-called “normal” people use just 1% of their mental capacity to do what they’re doing in the here and now. The rest of their mental energy is wasted on looking ...
Views: 4386(18 votes) - Perception Is Projection - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Courtney AlbertHuman beings are meaning makers. We love to attribute meaning and label everything that we see, touch, taste, feel, or smell. This is useful, could you imagine how tedious it would be to navigate the world if we had to relearn how to open a door every time we approached one? No, instead we learn ...
Views: 4342(1 vote) - ***Anger Power - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Margaret PaulDoes anger have power? Are you being powerful when you are angry? The answers to these questions depend on what you mean by power. Certainly you can intimidate many people with your anger - especially children or others who are physically weaker than you, or people who are terrified of ...
Views: 4285(4 votes) - *** Solution Focused Therapy - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Garrett CoanMost types of psychotherapy involve exploring feelings, being validated, finding explanations, exploring wishes and dreams, setting goals, and gaining clarity. Every therapist has unique ways of working with clients, based on his or her personality, training, and views of how people change. A ...
Views: 4262(2 votes) - Juice Recipes to Reduce Your Stress - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2013 from Ryan RiveraIf there’s one choice of super food for the healthiest, you would hear that most of them include a glass of natural and fresh blend of juice in their morning meal. Why juice? Our body needs all the nutrients and minerals it can get from all the food we eat. The most abundant source of these ...
Views: 4180(1 vote) - Every Behavior Has a Positive Intention - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Charles BenderWhy drilling down to a behavior's true purpose changes everything One of the most powerful NLP presuppositions is that every behavior has a positive intention. This does not imply that everything that a person does is 100 % positive - that would be utter denial of the truth - this presupposition ...
Views: 4132(1 vote) - Why Misery Is So Addictive and How To Free Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2012 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.com"How does one become a butterfly?" she asked pensively. "You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar." -(Trina Paulus) I love that quote! It speaks to our willingness to let go of old patterns and choose a new higher way of being. This is not an easy task ...
Views: 4103(4 votes) - Self Sabotage and the Victim - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Chrissyann SmithThe victim mentality is the sister to self-sabotage. They both go hand in hand. In today’s economic turmoil more people have fallen into the victim mentality as a way to hide out from their problems or refuge and it provides some temporary stress relief. The victim believes that their ...
Views: 4019 - The Antisocial Aspect of Social Networking - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Gian Fiero |It's estimated that more than one-third (35 percent) of U.S. adults have a profile on a social networking site, according to the Pew Internet & American Life Project's daily tracking survey of 2,251 adults. A more practical survey can be done just by thinking of the number of people you know who ...
Views: 3998(2 votes) - MAKE YOUR MIND WORK for YOU...INSTEAD of AGAINST YOU! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2012 from Adele Tartaglia INSTANT SUBCONSCIOUS REPROGRAMMING The Life Management Center 480/220-2089 eztherapy@gmail.comMake You Mind Work for You…. Instead of Against You Excerpted from Make Your Mind Work for You Instead of Against You (c) 2005, Adele Tartaglia. Making Your Mind Work for You... Instead of Against You is about using the Law of Attraction in a positive way, instead of a negative way. ...
Views: 3954 - Six Easy Ways to Be Sure You Are Fitting Exercise into Your Day - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2009 from Aliesa GeorgeIt can definitely be a challenge to keep yourself at the top of your priority list with everything else in life demanding a piece of your time – deadlines at work, family responsibilities, household chores. It doesn't take long before you're over scheduled and wondering "what about me?" We get ...
Views: 3902 - ***Other Peopling and Sense of Self - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2016 from Barbara SteppOf The classifications of animal, vegetable or mineral, where do we fit? According to most scientific authorities, we are the human animal. AS WE LOOK into the animal kingdom we discover more often than not there exists a herd. Some people call it a tribe-same thing. And the herd has the ...
Views: 3891 - Controllng That Voice In Your Head - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Stephen MonahanDo you know how to quiet that voice in your head and stop its constant chatter. Are you aware that voice is not you, but your thoughts,some call it ego, masquerading as you. As humans, we seem to travel a wacky backwards path to learning life's lessons. Take, for instance, learning how to ...
Views: 3857(4 votes) - Karmic Imprints - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from G LWhat is karma? The literal meaning of karma is action, and it has been used in many different ways to define the levels of human interaction, to define the nature which is manifesting in one's life. Action is usually founded on projection, assumption, misunderstanding; and therefore karma is ...
Views: 3811(1 vote) - Curing Neurological Disorders: The Missing Factors - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Lora MorrowAuthor's Note: I wrote this article in 2000. The references herein may seem somewhat dated, but I believe most of the information is relatively timeless. I welcome all critique, and I value constructive criticism more than I do praise. On March 30-31, 2000, the National Institutes of Health ...
Views: 3792(3 votes) - The DOs and DONTs of Handling Temper Tantrums - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2009 from Matt CasperTHE DOs AND DON’Ts OF HANDLING TANTRUMS •DO keep your cool. Kids are very good at sensing your feelings. The more frustrated you feel, the more frustrated your child will become. Take control of the situation, and your child will feel more safe and secure. •DO be empathic. Try and ...
Views: 3777(4 votes) - COACHING Why do people seek it? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2011 from Elizabeth McNallyLet’s first define COACHING as being a means of support given by someone having expertise in a certain domain. This support will be brought to you in consultations sessions given by email, over the phone or face to face individually or in groups. In some cases, the goals pursued will be known ...
Views: 3741 - Is It an Adolescent Phase—or Out-of-Control Behavior? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from James Lehman“Every teen goes through this!” You tell yourself these words, but in the back of your mind, you wonder if your child’s disrespect, acting out and destructive behavior really is normal. How do you know if your child is going through an adolescent phase, or if his out-of-control behavior is here ...
Views: 3620(5 votes) - Life Got You Down? 4 Tips to Overcoming the Blues - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2009 from Joan Marie WhelanWe've all been there, are there, or may possibly go there at some point in our lives...and it's no fun, either. What I'm talking about is the blues brought on by unexpected life changes. Somewhere between here and there, our lifestyles become convoluted with "stuff" -- stuff that doesn't make ...
Views: 3578 - Breathe Like a Yogi, Be Peaceful as a Baby - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2010 from Samantha Sukalpa NotoIf you are suffering from any form of physical, mental or emotional dis-ease, there is one thing that you can do right now to set your feet firmly on the road toward healing. Breathe like a yogi. Read more to find out why and how. When we are born, we are very efficient breathers. Ever ...
Views: 3574(2 votes) - Why the Word “No” Sets off an Oppositional, Defiant Child - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from James LehmanMany parents of children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder feel hopeless and alone. They live in homes that become like little prisons as they deal with kids who are absolutely out of control and unmanageable. They don’t like their child any more, even though they still love him or her. And ...
Views: 3563(4 votes) - Keep that Train of Thought Right on its Track - A Smart Method for Handling Interruptions - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2007 from Randall "Randy" DeanHow many times have you been at work, and the phone rings, or someone walks in your office, or the e-mail "blings" and you decide to take a peek, and when you come back to what you were doing, you completely forgot where you left off? And then, it takes you 5-10-15 minutes to figure out where ...
Views: 3515 - Hypnosis Weight Loss! Does It Really Work? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Mark PatrickControlling your weight and avoiding weight gain as you get older are important ways to prevent a host of weight-related health problems. Indeed, if you are more than 20 pounds over your ideal weight, you are at greater risk for a rogues’ gallery of potentially deadly conditions, including ...
Views: 3513(1 vote) - Borderline Personality Disorder Is Treatable - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2012 from Fariborz ArbasiWhat is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a condition in which a person has an unstable mood, disrupted cognitive processes, and problems with behavioral or impulse control. BPD is more common, affecting 2 percent of adults, mostly young women. ...
Views: 3473(1 vote) - How To Effectively Practice Trust - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2015 from Susanna KearneyTrust is what allows us to believe in ourselves, in others, and in situations. When put into action, it looks like our being confident and knowing that all will be okay no matter what. Liberator of the constraints of our fears and anxiety, from a trusting place, we feel spacious, light, and more ...
Views: 3460 - The New Moon phase ~ the potential to manifest your desire - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2011 from Patricia Lantz“In the dark silent womb of the earth, frost warms to water, micro-organisms stir, the rhythms of life awaken in the heart of the seed, after a a long sleeping death in the cold hard ground ,the flower-to-be comes alive in the bright green shoot with-in the shell. Above the ground no one can see ...
Views: 3443(1 vote) - Turning Regrets Into Blessings - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2010 from Misa HopkinsSome of the most significant feelings we have that can keep us trapped in our pain include, regret, guilt, and shame. Many of us have an easier time forgiving someone else than we do ourselves. If we don’t transform these feelings they easily lead to depression and even serious ...
Views: 3443(3 votes) - Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP): An Indispensable Tool in Coaching - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ligia HoubenAbstract In order to be an excellent coach one has to acquire valuable skills to provide the best service to the client. It is my purpose, with this paper, to introduce the concept of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) as an effective tool in coaching, for both the client and the coach. Many ...
Views: 3427(2 votes) - Can Affirmations End Binge Eating Disorder? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2012 from Kristin GerstleyIt is proven that affirmations help to reprogram one’s mind. When one repeats an affirmation over and over, the subconscious picks up on it as the present reality. Does this mean that people have the ability to completely turn around their life as they know it? In one word: yes. You can ...
Views: 3425 - EFT Can Change Your Life! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Marta HiattA new therapeutic discovery that can change your life overnight! I was sitting at a table on my front porch eating lunch when a large June bug came flying by, loudly buzzing my head. In the past I would have jumped up in fright and ran into the house, possibly spilling my lunch in my haste. ...
Views: 3365(2 votes) - Narcissists Are Experts At Hiding Their Narcissistic Behaviour - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2013 from Amy AdamNarcissistic individuals are usually highly functioning within society, and for that reason incredibly difficult to detect. There are many narcissistic people within the community, who are well respected and revered by ‘the outside world’. It is only the individuals who were unfortunately hooked ...
Views: 3360 - Are You Co-Dependant and Do You Enable Others? Discover Why, Learn to Stop and Gain Life Balance. - by Submitted on May 01, 2010 from JoAnne Ceccarelli-EganARE YOU CO-DEPENDENT AND DO YOU ENABLE OTHERS? Discover why, learn to stop and gain life balance. “We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don’t know”. W.H. Auden Do you sometimes feel as if you were put on earth to serve others? Are you ...
Views: 3359(1 vote) - Educational Planning for a Student with Autism: Bring on the Visuals! - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2009 from Jennifer KruminsBring on the Visuals! For an individual who thrives on order and routine, our world is a scary place! Humans interact at record breaking speeds; everything we do is high speed, instant and ever changing. Even our homes and classrooms tend to be quickly moving people from one activity to the ...
Views: 3349(2 votes) - ***The Vital Importance of Community - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2011 from Margaret PaulI've been reading in many different sources about the research involving community and well being. In his best-selling book,"Outliers," Malcolm Gladwell opens with a study done in a small Pennsylvania town called Roseto.In 1882, Italians who lived in a town of the same name, Roseto, started to ...
Views: 3334(1 vote) - Life's Secret Formula for Achievement and Success - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2010 from Anthony RobinsonLife’s Secret Formula Yf + Yt +Yd + Ya = YR YR x t = Your Future+/- If you successfully comprehend and apply this secret formula in your life you can be, have, or do anything you want. • Did you know this secret formula has been responsible for every success and ...
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