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- Human Doing: Can Early Deprivation Turn Someone Into A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt is part of the human experience for someone to spend time asleep and time awake. One way of looking at this would be to say that they will then spend part of their life being and part of their life doing. At the same time, this wouldn’t be completely accurate as there will need to be ...
Views: 238 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Enough For A Woman If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t believe that he is enough for a woman. As a result of this, he might not have ever been in a relationship and, if he has, it might not have lasted for very long. However, even if he is aware of this, it ...
Views: 221 - False Self: Can Someone Need To Let Go Of Their Parents Projections If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone experiences life, how they see themselves will have a big impact. However, they might not even think about how they see themselves and, even if they do, this could just be seen as who they are. If, then, they have an empowering view of themselves, this is not ...
Views: 250 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel That He Is Betraying His Mother If He Ends Up In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to end up in a relationship with a woman who he is very fond of and is starting to love, it doesn’t mean that every part of him will be on board with this relationship. Along with the part of him that feels that he is doing the right thing, can be another part that feels as though ...
Views: 271 - Emotional Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is likely to have been connected to and expressed their emotional needs when they were a child, it doesn’t mean that this will be the case now that they are an adult. In general, their emotional needs could be a mystery and, naturally, this will stop them from expressing ...
Views: 267 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Wait For Another Person To Take Care Of Them If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not a child, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like a strong and capable adult. But, if experiencing life in this way is just a normal part of their life, they might not be aware of this. Another part of this is that they might both consciously and unconsciously do ...
Views: 262 - Workaholic: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time working, having very little time for anything else. It doesn’t mean that this is something that will cross their mind, though, as it could just be what is normal. And, if they ever do think about how much time they spend working, they could end up ...
Views: 263 - Being Seen: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Feeling Safe Enough To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that the rest of them will typically be seen by others. What this means is that their inner world, so what their thoughts are about certain things and how they feel, for instance, might seldom be revealed to ...
Views: 266 - Self-Abandonment: Can Someone Abandon Themselves If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone made a number of New Year’s resolutions, it doesn’t mean that they will have followed through with any of them. They could think about some if not all of the things that they planned to do every now and then but that could be about as far as it will go. Yet, even if they don’t have ...
Views: 248 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Scared Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at bay. Not only this, but when he is around them, he may find that he is usually anxious. And, if he is not on edge, he could see that he loses touch with what is going on ...
Views: 308 - Romance Scammers: Are Some People Easy Targets For Romance Scammers? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this moment in time, one may be talking to someone that is not who they say they are. However, as far as one is concerned, they will be in a relationship with someone who loves or at the very least cares about them. In reality, the person they are talking to will simply be using them in ...
Views: 482 - Isolation: Can Someone Have The Need To Isolate Themselves If They Had Intrusive Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically need to be by themselves in order to feel settled and at ease. Along with this, this can be when they generally experience a sense of freedom and are able to be themselves. On the other hand, ...
Views: 261 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Engaging In A Struggle For Love If She Is Trying To Change A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a number of months have passed, a woman may see that her partner is overly focused on his mother. Regardless of if this stood out in the beginning, then, it will now be something that is only too clear. The next step can be for her to talk to him about what is going on, to see if she ...
Views: 633 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it is not going to be a surprise if he ends up coming to the conclusion that he is this way because of how his mother treated him very early on. The reason for this is that after looking into what took place during his early years, he ...
Views: 299 - Attention: Can Someone Believe That There Is Not Enough Attention If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be in the background and not stand out. So, when they are with a friend, they can do a lot of listening and not a great deal of talking. And, if they were to go to an event or out shopping with them, once again, their friend could take the lead and be the ...
Views: 281 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their ...
Views: 302 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their ...
Views: 269 - Self-Image: Does Someone Need To See Themselves Through Their Own Eyes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, if they were to reflect on how they see themselves, is that they don’t have a very empowering view of themselves. They might find that they see themselves as worthless, unlovable and even useless. Having this view is likely to mean that they will have suffered over ...
Views: 311 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Act More Like A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother Than His Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBefore long, a woman may find that she is with a man who has two women in his life; his mother and her. He won’t just have a normal relationship with his mother, though, as she will be his main focus. The woman, who should be his primary relationship, is then going to be like a woman that he ...
Views: 253 - Child Abuse: Was An Abusive Parent Abusing A Part Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to become aware of the fact that they were mistreated during their early years, they can have a strong need to find out why this took place. Along with this, a big part of them can feel as though they deserved to be treated badly. However, the reason that they can also feel ...
Views: 311 - Self-Assertion: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs one is an individual that has their own needs and feelings, there will be moments when they don’t want to do what another person wants them to do or agree with what they say. During such moments, it will be in their best interest to do something else or express a different viewpoint. If ...
Views: 242 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Physically Harmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time, someone may have been able to see that they have been with a number of people that were not available. If so, this is likely to be something that has caused them to experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. But, as they are going to want to experience a deeper ...
Views: 373 - Intimacy: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Have A Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has the need to experience both physical and emotional closeness with another, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable fulfilling this need. This could be something that is only an issue when it comes to being in a romantic relationship. Then again, this could be ...
Views: 278 - Rejection: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Deep Sense Of Rejection? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone carries a deep sense of rejection and feels as though they won’t be accepted by others, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The reason for this is that this can be something that is outside of their conscious awareness. However, what is taking place ...
Views: 298 - Emasculation: Can A Man Be Emasculated By A Woman? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a relationship with a woman who is undermining him, he could have at least one friend who finds it hard to accept why he doesn’t cut his ties with her. Over the days, weeks and perhaps months that he has been with her, this friend might have had a number of conversations with ...
Views: 260 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Sexualise Women If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman will be made up of many different sides such as a sexual side, an emotional side and an intellectual side, it doesn’t mean that a man will always be able to truly accept this. Thus, when he sees a woman to who he is attracted, he could simply see her as someone who could please ...
Views: 315 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have Strong Need To Be Successful If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during a man’s early years, his father was rarely available and thus, seldom if ever provided him with the love, support, encouragement and acceptance that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he is no longer looking for his father to meet these needs now that he is an adult. However, if he is ...
Views: 243 - Relationships: Can Someone Say That All Men/Women Are The Same To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are men who say that all women are the same, and, on the other hand, there are women who say that all men are the same. And, thanks to the platforms that are available online, both men and women can express their views about the opposite sex. Not only this, they can come ...
Views: 283 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Develop A Narcissistic Defence? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during someone’s early years, they missed out on the love that they needed to grow and develop in the right way, it can mean that they are deeply wounded now that they are an adult. But, although this is the case, there is a chance that they won’t have been able to join the dots, so to ...
Views: 274 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As His Enemies If He Had A Cruel Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could see that he largely sees them as people who are against him and want to cause him problems. As a result of this, he could do his best to keep his distance and ...
Views: 274 - False Self: Can A Man Have The Need To Act Tough If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could come across as though nothing fazes him and this could mean that a number of men look up to him. If this is the case, he could be seen as an example of how a man should be. Like a big oak tree, then, he is rarely going to be affected by what is going on around him and ...
Views: 254 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Controlled By His Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNot only could a man find it hard to understand why he is so focused on his mother but some of the people in his life could be just as confused. So, even if he is not currently in an intimate relationship, some of his friends and perhaps family members could also wonder what is going ...
Views: 277 - Anxiety: Can A Man Suffer From Anxiety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he often feels on edge. He might see that he has only just started to experience life in this way or it could be something that he has experienced for a little while. Regardless of how long he ...
Views: 274 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience Extreme Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he might have had the need to be there for his mother. He may find that this is generally something that he doesn’t have to think about doing as being there for her is something that just happens. But, as time has passed, he might have started to experience ...
Views: 251 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Feel Bad When He Doesn’t Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and her needs, he could wonder what is going on. Also, what could soon stand out is that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. He will see that he has his own life to live and needs to meet but he will have ...
Views: 259 - Being Seen: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Engage In An Unconscious Struggle To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBeing seen is important but it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet generally feels seen. When someone does feel seen, it will be a time when another person not only looks at them but also tunes into what is going on for them and displays empathy. Therefore, they are not going to see ...
Views: 328 - Passivity: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Passive? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that they often lack energy and find it hard to do things. In general, they might only leave their home when they have to go to work and need food. Along with this, they could go out to see friends, watch TV and they may exercise every now and then. But, even when ...
Views: 260 - Avatar 2: The Way of Water - ‘I See You’ - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, I ended up watching the new avatar film with a few friends, and I must say, that it was spectacular. I watched it in 3D but I think that it would be even better if I had watched it in 4DX. Throughout the film, a number of parts stood out and had a strong emotional impact on ...
Views: 309 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Felt Sense Of Self Ownership? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, even though it could be said that someone owns their body and mind and that no one has a right to control them or make them do something that they don’t want to do, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they actually realise. Thanks to this, they could often be controlled by others ...
Views: 280 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Trapped Forever If They Need Their Abusive Parents To Acknowledge What Happened? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be normal for someone to want to talk to their parent or parents about what happened, if they were to see that they were mistreated by them during their formative years. They might want to know why they treated them in this way and for them to express remorse, among ...
Views: 276 - Sense Of Badness: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Disowned Sense Of Badness If They Were Abused As A child? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they have the tendency to feel bad about themselves, their life is unlikely to be very pleasant. It is then going to be normal for them to be in a very low place and their life could be very unfulfilling. And, as they rarely feel good about themselves, it ...
Views: 279 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Treat Themselves Like An Object If Their Parents Treated Them Like One? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being that has a number of needs, feelings and inherent value, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could treat themselves like they are nothing more than an object that only has a few basic needs, no feelings and no value and purely exists to ...
Views: 232 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Dysfunctional Relationship With Their Sexual Side? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s sexual side, it can be like another food that they have as part of a meal or it can be something that they have late at night. In other words, it can be something that is just part of a relationship that they are in or it can be something that they engage in with ...
Views: 257 - Drive: Can Someone Unknowingly Be Driven By Their Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is highly driven, they can be seen as having high self-esteem and as an example of how to live. They are then going to have it together and be a well-adjusted human being. Thanks to how driven they are, they might have made a lot of progress in at least one area ...
Views: 282 - Inner Conflict: Can The False Self Cause Someone To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that they are often in a position where part of them has the need to do one thing whilst another part of them has the need to do something else. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion. Not only this, they could ...
Views: 276 - False Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Have The Need To Adapt To Others? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone went on a drive and a road was closed, they would need to change their route. As frustrating as this may be, it would be a minor inconvenience and it would, ultimately, allow them to reach their destination. This is then an example of someone adapting to a situation and, at the ...
Views: 260 - Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Disembodied? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to live in their head and to have a weak connection with their body. In fact, this part of them can be seen as simply being there to support their head. By having the tendency to live in this way, it can mostly be as though they are nothing more than an ...
Views: 269 - Relationships: Can Someone Push Love Away If They Were Mistreated During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that although they want to be in a loving relationship, they have pushed at least one person away who was like this. It might have taken them a little while to see this, though. The reason for this is that for a little while after, they might have believed that they ...
Views: 357 - Being Seen: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Continually End Up In Situations Where They Are Not Seen? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has the need to be seen, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be able to fulfil this need. They could often feel invisible and as though they don’t even exist. But, if this is just what is normal, it is unlikely to be something that will stand out. This is then just ...
Views: 318 - Rage: Can A Man Carry A Lot Of Repressed Rage If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may carry a lot of rage, this might not be something that he is consciously aware of. But, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this won’t have an effect on how he experiences life. There is a strong chance that he will spend a lot of time in a collapsed physical ...
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