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- If You Are Still Single Hoping to Have a Relationship, Use the Holidays to Figure Out How to Succeed in Developing Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Doron GilThe Holidays are approaching! Isn’t it time to celebrate? Not for everybody. If you are single fearing being alone during the holidays, your might want the festivities to pass as quickly as possible. “No time of the year might be so dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If ...
Views: 1011 - The Holidays are a Perfect Time to Reflect and Contemplate How to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Doron GilHave you ever learned in school how to develop a successful relationship? Have your parents ever given you a good example? And, most of all: what makes you think you know how to succeed in an intimate relationship? Well, if you find yourself failing time and again, you know the answer: you don’t ...
Views: 889 - Are You Stuck in an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? Here are 3 Routes for you to Consider - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Doron GilThe increasing number of separations and divorce is an indication that many are not satisfied with their relationships. Yet, those who stay in an unsatisfying relationship might have reasons for doing so. Whatever the reasons are, there are at least 3 routes to making a change. Reasons for ...
Views: 1418 - Don’t Sacrifice Yourself for a Partner and a Relationship: It Will Only Cause You Harm - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Doron GilYou will be amazed to realize what people do for love. Some sacrifice themselves on the “altar of a relationship”, some are involved with dangerous and stupid “adventures”. But whatever others do, what is important is that you know yourself and know what you are willing, or unwilling, to do “for ...
Views: 1725 - What is “A Complete Relationship”? One which is Based on “Positive” & “Negative”. Coming to Terms with is Helps the Intimacy - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2013 from Doron GilSometimes in relationships you want to have only the half – the “good” half, not the “bad”; the “positive”, not the “negative”; the “easy”, not the “difficult”. But “a complete relationship” is based on both the “good”, and the “bad”, the “positive” as well as the “negative”. And when you learn ...
Views: 1010 - How to Finally Succeed with Intimacy: Make Sure You Change What Needs a Change Before You Begin a New Relationship - by Submitted on May 29, 2013 from Doron GilAs long as you don’t change whatever it is that you need to change regarding your attitudes about relationships and/or your behaviors with your partners, you will probably end up with similar problems with new partners. The reason being – you always bring yourself into the new relationship. This ...
Views: 1093(1 vote) - If You Are Single and Dating Looking for a Satisfying Intimate Relationship, You Should Learn the Healing Power of Self-Reflection - by Submitted on May 27, 2013 from Doron GilIf you are among those who dream about finding “the one and only”; “the perfect match”; “the knight on the white horse” - you probably have developed a host of fantasies and hopes about how this person will look like; will be like; will behave like, love and treat you. And you probably have ...
Views: 1124 - Don’t You At Times Wish that Your Relationship with Your Partner Will be as Good as the One You Have with Your Friend? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Doron GilHave you ever wished that your relationship with your partner will be at a similar level of friendship like the one you have with your closest friend? That with him you would be able to talk about everything in the open, like really two soul-mates? Hellas, this is often not the case. And when ...
Views: 1438 - What Is the Best that You Can Do When Wanting to Help Your Friend? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction There are those who, when confronted with a crisis situation or with a need to change something, get into a “helpless” state of mind. They feel they don’t have control over their lives, that they can’t make decisions and move forward. They might feel stuck in whichever situation ...
Views: 1557(1 vote) - When Is It About YOU and When Is It About HIM: Don’t Let Your Fears & Neediness Hurt You - by Submitted on May 19, 2013 from Doron GilHe didn’t call or sent you an sms after the date and you take it personally. You think it’s because of you; that he didn’t like you; that he was not attracted to you; that he didn’t enjoy your company, that he might have detected your insecurity and shied away from it; that he might have noticed ...
Views: 1122 - How to Change from Being Single & Alone to Having a Satisfying Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you are without a relationship for a long time now, you might consider yourself “a loneliness expert”. Indeed, such an option is always available. But before you decide to adapt such an “expertise” you can choose another option: to look inwards, find out things about yourself ...
Views: 1261 - Treating Each New Date as a Beginner Can Help You Extend a Date Into a Meaningful Relationship - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Doron GilThere are those who are “proud” about dating tens if not hundreds of others. They think is shows how “great” they are; how “in demand” they are. Felling “hot” about themselves they turn dating into a game, competing with themselves (as well as with others) about how many dates they will go on; ...
Views: 925 - Betrayal, Cheating, Trust & Forgiveness - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Doron GilBetrayal is a common occurrence. Research shows that a large proportion of partners betray their “loved ones”. A person thinking that his/her partner is “unique”, “special” and “exceptional” might stop thinking it after finding the partner has been unfaithful. After all, he/she has become “just ...
Views: 1459 - Becoming Aware of How You Hurt Yourself is a Key to Improving Your Life & Relationships - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you feel there is something in the way you “do” life, your attitudes and the way you behave that hurts your well-being and happiness, becoming aware of what you were not aware of until now is the key to initiate a conscious change in your behavioral patterns, tendencies and ...
Views: 1060 - Mindfulness, Self-Awareness & Intimacy: How to Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction When you get up the courage and the motivation to go through the process of mindfulness, observe, pay attention, become aware and accept what you see, the more self-understanding and personal-growth you gain, and the more empowered you become to develop a successful intimate ...
Views: 1322 - If You Wish to Succeed Having a Satisfying Intimate Relationship with Another, You First Need to Develop a Relationship with YOURSELF - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Doron GilIf you have been trying for quite some time now to develop an intimate relationship but are not successful, in most likelihood you keep trying, keep dating others, hoping and praying that one day, eventually, you will succeed. But would you? Is there truly a reason to believe that if you ...
Views: 1148 - How to Empower Yourself to Find a Suitable Partner with Whom to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Doron GilWhen you see a couple holding hands, does it make you feel unhappy? At times, whether you are single or in an unsatisfying relationship, you feel unhappy when you see others who seem happy in their relationships. You see couples holding hands, even walk embraced, and this makes you think you ...
Views: 1087(2 votes) - Are You a Single Mother In Search for a Partner? Awareness is Vital to Your Success - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Single mothers who wish to find a partner with whom to develop a serious and successful relationship need to be aware of their expectations and needs and share these with the prospective partner. If he will do likewise they increase the likelihood of becoming able to develop and ...
Views: 1282(1 vote) - Stop Sabotaging Yourself in Search for Love and Intimacy: Learn What You Need to Change – and Succeed! - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2013 from Doron GilA sad story that often repeats itself regarding one’s search for love and intimacy Her need for attention and appreciation, to be loved and be told how “great” she is has driven her to harm her intimate relationship time and again. She expected too much from her partner; she demanded that he ...
Views: 881(1 vote) - Reflecting on Your Intimate Relationship & Your On-going Issues with Your Partner Can Help & Improve Your Bond - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2013 from Doron GilSometimes, as you wonder about your relationship with your partner, you might wonder how it goes with others’ relationships: Are your issues similar to theirs? How do others combat, struggle with and solve their problems? How happy others are? How often do they make love – and whether whatever ...
Views: 1050(1 vote) - When You Fail Having a Satisfying Relationship – Denying or Acknowledging it Determines Your Future Success - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2013 from Doron GilThere are those who, in order to feel happy in their relationship, deny and reject all “negative feelings” which have to do with what they don’t like about their bond. But the only way to “be there” in the relationship, to experience it, enjoy it and grow with it (and with your partner) is to ...
Views: 1145(1 vote) - Having a Partner & Being in an Intimate Relationship: Does it Bring More Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2013 from Doron GilIs there a correlation between having a partner and being happy? Some believe that the “trick” to being happy is to have a relationship, as if it will solve all problems: depression, sadness, low self-esteem and so on. Having a relationship – so they believe – will make them satisfied and ...
Views: 1446 - How Many Dates Should You Go On Before Settling Down to Develop a Serious Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2013 from Doron GilRecently I came across the following Tweet: “Just what the doctor ordered: date 100 men without getting serious with anyone”. This made me thinking: for what purpose would anyone try to date 100 men (or, for that matter, women) without getting serious with anyone? How much can one learn about ...
Views: 1883(1 vote) - Why Is It Important for You to Understand Your Reasoning about Partners and Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2013 from Doron GilAs friends of yours share their thoughts, feelings, fears and needs with you, keep in mind that it is impossible to truly understand what motivates people to behave, feel and think the way they do. The same might hold true to you: you yourself think, feel and behave with your partners and in ...
Views: 1000 - Being Authentic on First Date: Can it Lead to Developing a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Even if you perceive yourself to be an open, honest and authentic person, if you are not alert to your date and don’t keep any boundaries during first date, you might sabotage any possibility of extending the date into a relationship. Being an open person doesn’t mean you don’t ...
Views: 2249 - Can Your Dreams about a Wonderful Intimate Relationship Materialize? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Doron GilIt is wonderful to dream and fantasize about a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person. Who wouldn’t want to be involved with a great intimacy? But often, when you meet someone, even if at the beginning of the relationship you believe you have indeed seen your dream come true, slowly but ...
Views: 1462 - Are You Capable of Leaving an Unsatisfying Intimacy when You Realize the Relationship Isn’t Good Enough? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Doron GilI once heard someone describing her wish to separate from her partner in the following words: “I’m in the departure lounge at the airport… there’s some waiting before take-off…there might even be some delay…”. She already knew she should separate, but still hesitated about doing it and ...
Views: 1381 - Letting Go of an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship: Why Many Don’t Have the Courage for & why it is Healthy and Important - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Doron GilAt times, letting go is very healthy. Yet there are many who don’t have the courage to let go, and they resort to various reasons and justifications to explain – to themselves and to others – why they stay stuck in a bad relationship. While staying they might be “obsessed” about their partner, ...
Views: 1909 - Why Do You Fall Time & Again for Prospective Partners whom You Should Have Never Dated? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Doron GilYou might have heard the following from your friend: “Have I known it ahead of time, I wouldn’t even begun going out with him” . The question is: was it possible for her to know it ahead of time? And the answer is: it depends. It depends on signs and hints she might have noticed. On her ...
Views: 1275(1 vote) - Can You Help a Friend of Yours who Always “Falls” for the Wrong Man? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Doron GilIt is very likely that you have a friend who always “falls” for the wrong guy. Everybody sees it, except her. You feel sorry for her; you wish you can help her. You even try to show her the “facts”, explain to her how she hurts herself; “predict” the miserable future she’ll have. After all, she ...
Views: 1127(1 vote) - Saying YES When You Rather Say NO Harms the Relationship. Make a Change and Stop Sabotaging Your Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Doron GilLearning to say “No” is an important step forward in improving your quality of life and relationships. Often, those who can’t say “No” within a relationship (or, for that matter, with new dates even before a relationship has been formalized) are often those who can’t say “No” in other situations ...
Views: 1067 - Stop Deceiving Yourself about Intimacy: Facing Reality will Lead You to a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction There are those who, regardless of how many relationships they have attempted to develop, are failing time and again. Waking-up to face reality is not easy. But it is only when they become willing to look inwards; acknowledge that something must be wrong with the way they ...
Views: 1545 - Freeing Yourself from Harmful Behaviors within the Relationship Enables You to Succeed with Your Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2013 from Doron GilAs much as you might want to have a successful, healthy and satisfying relationship, and as much you think you do “all you can” in order to have one, you might still, unconsciously, react and behave in ways which hurt your bond. This is normal and humane, and many share this problem. The ...
Views: 1295 - Do You Know What Stands in Your Way from Having a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you wholeheartedly wish to have an intimate relationship and don’t yet have one, it is important that you understand the true reasons for not succeeding. Implementing five simple steps might help you figure out how to proceed to having the relationship you hope ...
Views: 1252 - Staying in an Unsatisfying Relationship Rather than Leaving: The Reasons & the Options - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you feel stuck in an unsatisfying relationship but do not dare to leave, “excusing” your stay with various justifications and rationalizations, try to understand what stands in your way from making a change in your situation. You will then be able to make a clear decision ...
Views: 3912(1 vote) - Waking-up to Face Reality is the Road to Succeed at Developing a Long-lasting, Satisfying intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2013 from Doron GilThere are those who, regardless of how many relationships they have attempted to develop with different partners have nonetheless failed time and again. Yet, they keep trying, hoping that “next time things will be different”. As much as hope is a motivating force to keep trying, there isn’t ...
Views: 1117 - Are You Single & Dating Yet Failing to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? Learn What Stands in Your Way - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2013 from Doron GilMany singles are trying various ways to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying intimate relationship: enroll on dating sites, seek the help of a “dating coach”, attend workshops on the subject, read books on relationships and seek relationship advice in different journals and internet ...
Views: 1572 - Should You Stay or Should You Leave an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Whether you decide to stay in an unsatisfying intimate relationship or leave is up to you. But you can make a proper decision only when you are aware of your fears and needs, of what might keep you hanging on to a partner which is not for you, in a relationship which is not ...
Views: 1369(1 vote) - 136. Thoughts about Being Able to Develop a Healthy and Satisfying Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Doron GilMany who are not happy with their relationships. They would have loved to make a change for the better, but they are afraid. At times they themselves don’t know what they are afraid of, still they hesitate to take steps leading to a change. They stay stuck in their unsatisfying relationship, ...
Views: 1072 - Is there a Correlation between Being a Successful Professional Woman to Having a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2013 from Doron GilWomen seem to be more emancipated than ever before. Many of them have well-paying jobs, highly-respected positions and credentials, and can support themselves financially. All these empower them to go on dates feeling good about themselves and acquire the “expertise” necessary to determine which ...
Views: 1237 - Are You Willing to Receive Feedback from Others in order to Improve Your Success with Intimate Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Doron GilA good friend of mine is writing a novel. But he resists getting any feedback from anyone: “Feedback?”- he says – “Anyone knows better than I how I should write my book? No way!” Success at writing a best-seller Just like my friend, so millions of people fantasize about writing and ...
Views: 1260(2 votes) - Are You Dating Someone who is NOT for You? Why Won’t You Find and Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you find yourself time and again with a partner who seems to “run away from you”, but nonetheless you hang-on to this “partner”, albeit the pain it causes you, you are not alone. Many behave similarly. Still, it is YOUR life. Therefore, when you get up the courage to ...
Views: 1120 - Don’t Try to Change Your Partner. Change YOURSELF Instead! This Can Help Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Doron GilMen and women alike often try to change their partners. They believe that “only when” their partners will think, feel, react and behave the way they themselves do – the relationship will be satisfying. But how often does it happen that just because they try to change their partners their ...
Views: 4967(1 vote) - Deciding to Stop Failing in Your Relationships is a Wise Decision: Make the Necessary Changes and Win! - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction The decision to keep failing in your relationships and suffer the painful consequences, or get up the courage to acknowledge what makes you fail and become able to eventually have the relationship you so much desire is yours, and yours alone! ** It might be difficult for you ...
Views: 1301(1 vote) - Going On with Someone Who You Know Isn’t for You Might be a Waste of Your Time - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Many are driven by a host of factors which drive them to “fall in love” with the wrong person and enter unhealthy relationships. Developing Self-Awareness, understanding the factors that control them and making the necessary changes are important in order to stop such pattern ...
Views: 1213 - Make Your Own Decisions in Finding a Partner & Developing an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction The “choices” you make when choosing a partner as well as when reacting and behaving in a relationship are often unconscious and affected by many factors from the past which control you, and are liable to harm your relationships. Self-awareness enables you to understand which ...
Views: 1158(2 votes) - Does Your Success with Dating Make You Spin Your Head? Know When to Stop & Develop a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction “Enjoying life” and “winning” date after date might give you a good feeling – a boost to your ego, to your sexual drive, to your availability. But don’t let it distract you from your initial goal of finding a partner with whom to develop a truly intimate relationship. Knowing and ...
Views: 1057(2 votes) - Does Your Low Self-esteem Stand in Your Way from Developing a Healthy Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2013 from Doron GilA low self-esteem might push you to impress your dates and “potential others” by being “too nice”, “too accommodating”, “too easygoing” and so on, whether when you post your profile on social media or when you meet new people face-to-face. Even though you might be going on endless dates, as long ...
Views: 1756(2 votes) - Single & Dating? Use New Year to Learn 5 Steps to Finding a Partner and Developing a Satisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2012 from Doron GilThere is no time like New Year to contemplate your successes and failures regarding intimate relationships. If you find you long to have a partner with whom to develop true intimacy and haven’t succeeded until now, why not use New Year as a time to look inwards and see, once and for all, what ...
Views: 1070(2 votes) - Be Your Own Relationships’ Coach and Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2012 from Doron GilEngaging coaches in your personal and professional life has become a trend: more and more seek the advice and services of one coach or another, be it for lack of time, lack of experience, inability to make the right choices by yourself or just a symbol of status (just like having a personal ...
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