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- NOT BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF HARMS YOUR RELATIONSHIPS - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you are not TURE TO YOURSELF you harm your relationships. Finding out what prevents you from being true to yourself is vital for initiating the necessary changes and cultivate a successful intimacy. WHAT DOES IT MEAN “NOT BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF”? When you are NOT ...
Views: 6950(1 vote) - Self-Betrayal is the Most Horrific Betrayal of them All! - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2012 from Doron GilYou probably tend to think – like most people do - that the most horrific betrayal of all is a person’s betrayal of his/her partner. After all, this is what you have been brought up to believe since childhood – from books and movies you have seen; from newspaper reports you have read; from TV ...
Views: 5945(2 votes) - Defining One's Relationship-Status on Facebook as “Complicated” – What Stands Behind it? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2011 from Doron GilNO ONE HAS EVER PROMISSED YOU A ROSE GARDEN No one has ever said relationships are easy. Neither with a “soul-mate” nor with “loved-ones”. Arguments, disagreements and conflicts always exist. They are part of the relationship. THE MEANING OF “COMPLICATED” Yet, when I see from time to ...
Views: 5143 - Don’t Try to Change Your Partner. Change YOURSELF Instead! This Can Help Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Doron GilMen and women alike often try to change their partners. They believe that “only when” their partners will think, feel, react and behave the way they themselves do – the relationship will be satisfying. But how often does it happen that just because they try to change their partners their ...
Views: 4999(1 vote) - Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn How to De-activate its Power - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Your anxiety often harms your attempts at relationships. It works against you as you try to find a partner and develop a successful intimacy. It drives you to react and behave in ways which are counter-productive to a successful relationship. Combating your anxiety enables you to ...
Views: 4577 - Staying in an Unsatisfying Relationship Rather than Leaving: The Reasons & the Options - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you feel stuck in an unsatisfying relationship but do not dare to leave, “excusing” your stay with various justifications and rationalizations, try to understand what stands in your way from making a change in your situation. You will then be able to make a clear decision ...
Views: 3940(1 vote) - Writing Your “Relationships-Autobiography” Enables you to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Doron GilWriting one’s autobiography has become trendy these days. Old people write their autobiographies, looking-back at their life, to “leave something” for the next generations in their family. As they work on their autobiography they “look-back” at their life, remember the high points and ...
Views: 3684(1 vote) - Meeting “The Right Person” Is Not a Matter of Luck or Time But of Being “Available and Ready” for a Relationship - by Submitted on May 24, 2011 from Doron GilYou probably know those who, when failing, time and again, in their attempts to develop an intimate relationship, tell you “it’s only a matter of time” until they will; “it is only a matter of meeting ‘the right person’”. What they don’t realize is that meeting “the right person” with whom to ...
Views: 3527(1 vote) - 17 Tips on How Can Self-Awareness Enable You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2012 from Doron GilIn the following 17 tips I explain HOW BECOMING SELF-AWARE ENABLES YOU TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP. I show how becoming aware of factors which control you and affect the ways in which you react and behave in dating and relationships is essential to learning ...
Views: 3458 - Attraction, Desire, Self-Awareness and Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from Doron GilThere are some surprising similarities between Sexual desire and Self-Awareness with regard to Intimate Relationships, some of which you might have never thought about. And why would you? The two seem to be worlds-apart. But are they? SIMILARITIES BETWEEN SEXUAL DESIRE AND ...
Views: 3420(1 vote) - What is Self-Awareness, Why is it Important for a Successful Relationship, and How to Attain it - by Submitted on May 01, 2011 from Doron GilWHAT IS SELF-AWARENESS? Self-Awareness is a process by which you get to know yourself better. You can then understand what controls your attitudes, thinking, reactions and behaviors and drive you to sabotage your relationships. As you attain Self-Awareness you can realize the factors that ...
Views: 3316 - Denial and Projection Harm Your Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Doron GilIf you find yourself in unsatisfying relationships over and over again, or without a partner, the reason might well be that you sabotage yourself without even knowing that you do. One way might be, to project onto your partner traits, emotions and behaviors you deny in yourself. When these are ...
Views: 3035 - Don’t Let “The Fear of Being Alone” Drive You to Stay in an Unsatisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Doron GilStaying in an unsatisfying relationship might be driven by many fears, one of which is THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE.You convince yourself that it is better to have a partner and be in a relationship, albeit not a satisfying one, rather than being alone. The problem is that you the give up on your ...
Views: 2800 - Become Aware of Your Perception of Reality: Don’t Let it Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION You and your partner react and behave in your relationship each from your own Perception of Reality – your personal view point of how things “should be”. Your perceptions are affected by many factors you have internalized over the years while growing up. As long as you are NOT ...
Views: 2780 - How to Turn a Failed Relationship into a Successful One: Self-Awareness is the Answer - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION It isn’t easy to change habits. But when it comes to intimate relationships, sticking-on to your habits is a sure way to fail. When you understand your habits, realize the damage they cause to your relationships and make the necessary effort to change them, you increase your ...
Views: 2725 - Self-Awareness Exemplifies the Essence of Gestalt Therapy: The Fully-Functioning Person and Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Doron GilTHE FULLY-FUNCTIONING PERSON The Fully-Functioning Person, according to Gestalt Therapy, is one who self-actualizes himself by freeing himself from what prevents him to live life to the fullest. In order to do so it is vital that he develops his Self-Awareness: 1) Gets in touch with his ...
Views: 2715(1 vote) - Healing after a Failed Relationship: Learn how Self-Awareness Enables You to Heal & to Move Forward - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2012 from Doron GilIf you have a number of failed relationships behind you, it is very likely that you feel wounded, depressed, despaired and lonely. In order to become empowered to develop a healthy and satisfying relationship you first need to heal these wounds. This is possible when you become aware of what it ...
Views: 2707 - Taking Off Your Masks is a Prerequisite to Succeed in an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Masks you wear might have a heavy toll on your relationships. You are not “who you really are”. You can’t develop a truly intimate bond. Acknowledging the masks and removing them is a prerequisite for a successful intimate relationship. DO YOU PRESENT TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS ...
Views: 2561(1 vote) - Self-Awareness is at the Core of Self-Growth, Self-Improvement and Self-Empowerment - by Submitted on May 15, 2011 from Doron GilSelf-Growth, Self-Improvement and Self-Empowerment are three concepts which go hand in hand. When you embark on any one of them, you’re actually embarking on all three simultaneously. You are then on the path to having a much better personal and professional life and relationships. It says ...
Views: 2517 - When You Overcome Your “Fear of Change” You Become Able to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2012 from Doron GilYou might be controlled by the fear of change. When you have a relationship that isn’t satisfying, you’re afraid to make changes or leave and give up the known and familiar, fearing pain and others’ reactions. When single, you hesitate to look for a partner out of fear of changing a way of life ...
Views: 2444 - Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships! Learn How and Develop a Successful Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Doron GilIf you desire to have a satisfying intimate relationship but haven’t been successful until now, you can probably “predict”, your chances at success next time around based on your past experiences. In all likelihood, if you have failed until now, there is no reason to believe you will succeed ...
Views: 2379 - If You Want to Meet Your Soul-Mate, Meet Yourself First - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Doron GilIf you haven’t been successful in cultivating an intimate relationship in spite of your continuing attempts, and are tired of disappointments, failed relationships, unfulfilled promises and/or partners who mislead you, you may resort to believing that you haven’t met your soul-mate yet. He/she ...
Views: 2351(2 votes) - Don’t Let Your Belief-System Hurt You & Sabotage Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Doron GilIt is being said that having a belief-system is good: it is something which directs you; guides your actions; motivates you to know how to go about feel you know how to move forward with life. But if your belief-system controls your attitudes and behviors without you being aware of it, you are ...
Views: 2336 - Being Authentic on First Date: Can it Lead to Developing a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Even if you perceive yourself to be an open, honest and authentic person, if you are not alert to your date and don’t keep any boundaries during first date, you might sabotage any possibility of extending the date into a relationship. Being an open person doesn’t mean you don’t ...
Views: 2275 - Wearing a Mask of “A Loving Person” Sabotages Your Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION When you are “there” 100% for your partner – are you there because this is “who you really are”, or this is a mask you hope will get you love, appreciation and attention? Knowing the difference between the two is important for your relationship. DO YOU WEAR A MASK - NOT ONLY ...
Views: 2182 - Getting to Know Yourself is the Best Way to Succeed in Developing a Satisfying Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 03, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are single and on the dating scene wishing to find a partner with whom to develop a successful relationship, you have probably listened to and practiced many dating-tips you read in advice columns, found on the internet and received from friends, such as: * Write the perfect profile * ...
Views: 2176 - Longing: Who Do You Long For After Separation? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Doron GilLonging for your partner can fill you with joy, good thoughts and anticipation. There is someone to long for; to write poems to; to dream about at night. But if your partner is no longer there, longing can make you sad and melancholic, arousing the feeling of loneliness. But who are you ...
Views: 2143 - Needing Love & Being Desperate and Dependent Might Kill Your Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction If you are driven by neediness and dependency you might be “pushed” into unhealthy, even abusive relationships. These might bring uncomfortable, terrible consequences in terms of depression, feelings of worthlessness and of loneliness. Becoming aware of your needs and conquering ...
Views: 2108 - How to Release Yourself from Your Inner-Prison and Make Conscious Decisions about Your Life and Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Doron GilBradley Manning, a 23 year old American soldier is in prison for leaking “SECRET INFORMATION” (250 thousand documents) to WikiLeaks. Some say he is a courageous man and call him a hero; others say he is a traitor. While Bradley Manning is in jail awaiting trial, many others who walk around ...
Views: 2103 - Change the Way You Do “The Dating-Game”- and Succeed in Developing an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION If you have been in the dating-game for quite a long time now and still are not successful to develop a successful intimate relationship, maybe it’s time for you to change tactics. Having the courage to do things differently may prove to be “the right way” to succeed in finding a ...
Views: 2065 - How do Stinginess, Jealousy & Unfaithfulness & the Need for Control Harm Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2012 from Doron GilDenying traits, emotions and behaviors and projecting them onto your partner sabotages your relationships. As long as you are not aware of this being the case you will continue harm your relationships time and again. Becoming aware is therefore the key to change. Here are three examples of ...
Views: 2047 - How to Develop Self-Awareness & Succeed with Your Relationships 2: The Importance of Observing Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Observing yourself enables you to become aware of your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, reactions and behaviors in relationships (or in staying single). You can then understand how these drive you to sabotage your relationships. This enables you to make the necessary changes and ...
Views: 1994 - Letting Go of an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship: Why Many Don’t Have the Courage for & why it is Healthy and Important - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Doron GilAt times, letting go is very healthy. Yet there are many who don’t have the courage to let go, and they resort to various reasons and justifications to explain – to themselves and to others – why they stay stuck in a bad relationship. While staying they might be “obsessed” about their partner, ...
Views: 1933 - How Many Dates Should You Go On Before Settling Down to Develop a Serious Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2013 from Doron GilRecently I came across the following Tweet: “Just what the doctor ordered: date 100 men without getting serious with anyone”. This made me thinking: for what purpose would anyone try to date 100 men (or, for that matter, women) without getting serious with anyone? How much can one learn about ...
Views: 1907(1 vote) - Does the “Fear of Letting Go” Withhold You from Changing an Unsatisfying Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2012 from Doron GilWhether you are single wishing to develop a relationship or have a relationship wishing to change or end it, changing the situation you are in involves taking a risk. The Fear of Letting Go might withhold you from taking such a risk since it makes you anxious about an uncertain future. But the ...
Views: 1865 - Can You Blame “The Other Sex” for Your Failed Relationships? - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Doron GilIf you have been trying for a long time now to have a satisfying intimacy and didn’t succeed, it is very likely that you fail due to lack of Self-Awareness: you don’t understand how you shoot yourself in the foot. Developing Self-Awareness will enable you to realize a host of factors which drive ...
Views: 1859 - Love & Friendship in the New Testament: How to Expand Your Ability to Give and Be There for Others - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2011 from Doron GilThe New Testament provides us with many insights and advice-tips about love and relationships. These emphasize, time and again, the importance of loving others and being there for them. HERE ARE 10 SUCH INSIGHTS: 1. A faithful friend is the medicine of life (Ecclesiasticus 6:16). 2. ...
Views: 1845(1 vote) - As Long As You Wear Masks You Hinder Your Ability to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you go on dates wearing masks – not presenting your “real you”, you might stay single. When you become aware of the masks you wear, understand why you wear them and have the courage to remove them you can develop a truly intimate relationship. IF YOU TRICK YOUR ...
Views: 1829(1 vote) - Your “Self-Awareness Score” is Directly Linked to Your Ability to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Doron GilMany who fail to cultivate a successful relationship often ask me “What’s the secret to succeeding”. As I explain to them that “the secret” is Self-Awareness, they often are surprised. They admit they have heard many “tips” and “words of wisdom” how to go about developing a satisfying ...
Views: 1821 - Does Your Low Self-esteem Stand in Your Way from Developing a Healthy Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2013 from Doron GilA low self-esteem might push you to impress your dates and “potential others” by being “too nice”, “too accommodating”, “too easygoing” and so on, whether when you post your profile on social media or when you meet new people face-to-face. Even though you might be going on endless dates, as long ...
Views: 1787(2 votes) - Don’t Sacrifice Yourself for a Partner and a Relationship: It Will Only Cause You Harm - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Doron GilYou will be amazed to realize what people do for love. Some sacrifice themselves on the “altar of a relationship”, some are involved with dangerous and stupid “adventures”. But whatever others do, what is important is that you know yourself and know what you are willing, or unwilling, to do “for ...
Views: 1750 - Don’t Let Your Expectations about Your Partner & Relationship Harm You Just Before the Holidays! - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2011 from Doron GilEXPECTATIONS ABOUT PARTNERS AND RELATIONSHIPS We all have expectations about partners and relationships, and this is natural. However, if you hold on to unrealistic expectations hoping that they will be fulfilled, you are likely to harm your relationships. Becoming aware of your expectations ...
Views: 1739 - Be Aware of Your Projections: They Might Harm Your Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you project your own traits, emotions and behaviors onto your partner, accusing him/her of owning these, rather than accepting them as part of you, you are harming the relationship. Becoming aware of your projections and taking responsibility for all your traits, ...
Views: 1721(1 vote) - A Successful Intimate Relationship Depends on Being Aware - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION We all like to think that we are logical, rational human beings. But many of our reactions and behaviors are driven by factors we NOT aware of – leading us to harm our relationships. Developing Self-Awareness paves the way to a successful intimacy. ARE WE RATIONAL HUMAN ...
Views: 1644 - Be Authentic! This is a MUST if You Want to Succeed Having an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2012 from Doron GilBeing authentic is a MUST in order to develop a successful intimate relationship. Unfortunately, not many are authentic. In this article I explain why it is so difficult for so many to be authentic, and what you can do to enhance your authenticity and thereby your relationships. WHAT DOES ...
Views: 1627 - 10 New-Year Resolutions Which Will Enable You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship Next Year - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2011 from Doron GilIf you wish wholeheartedly to succeed in cultivating a successful intimate relationship but haven’t been able to doing so this year, here are10 New Year Resolutions which, if you decide to adopt and follow, will empower you to develop the relationship you so much desire: 1. TAKE TIME OFF from ...
Views: 1597 - Self-Awareness: the Key to Understanding How You Sabotage Your Relationships and How to Change - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Doron GilTrying to develop an intimate relationship but failing time after time is a hint that something you do harms your attempts. Taking a careful look at what this “something” is will enable you to (finally) stop harming your relationships and develop the bond you desire. SELF-AWARENESS IS THE ...
Views: 1595 - Are You Single & Dating Yet Failing to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? Learn What Stands in Your Way - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2013 from Doron GilMany singles are trying various ways to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying intimate relationship: enroll on dating sites, seek the help of a “dating coach”, attend workshops on the subject, read books on relationships and seek relationship advice in different journals and internet ...
Views: 1594 - What Is the Best that You Can Do When Wanting to Help Your Friend? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction There are those who, when confronted with a crisis situation or with a need to change something, get into a “helpless” state of mind. They feel they don’t have control over their lives, that they can’t make decisions and move forward. They might feel stuck in whichever situation ...
Views: 1587(1 vote) - Be Aware: When Your Desire for Love is Driven by Neediness & Dependency it Harms the Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction Many “fall for” others who are unavailable, giving themselves totally, as if there is no tomorrow, ignoring warning signs – even the most obvious ones – believing they have found “the love of their life”, only to become disillusioned time and again – and to jump in with another ...
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