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- Not Being Connected to Your Will Harms Your Relationships: Get to Know What You Want and Learn to Express it! - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2012 from Doron GilOne of the “surest” ways to fail in your relationships is by not being connected to your will; by compromising yourself at the altar of the relationship and by not being true to yourself. It is important that you understand why you’ve chosen these ways and realize how by doing so you sabotage ...
Views: 1169 - Do You Tend to Give-up on Your Will for the Sake of the Relationship? Be Careful! It might Harm Your Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2012 from Doron GilWhen you sacrifice your own will “for the sake of the relationship” your relationship seems harmonious, everything is by mutual consent. However, because you don't allow place to your own will, but rather live according to your partner's, you begin to feel uncomfortable, frustrated and angry. ...
Views: 1230 - Be Aware: Self-Sacrifice, Neediness and “Being there” for Your Partner Might Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are single looking for a partner and your friends ask: “Do you want a relationship?” you certainly answer affirmatively. But often, once you have one, something odd happens: you give up and ignore your own will. You tell yourself: “I have a relationship - and that’s what matters! Do ...
Views: 1279 - Do You Have the Personal Quality Which Enables You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2012 from Doron GilWhat are the “best” personal qualities which enable you to develop a successful intimate relationship? Different personal coaches and therapists might give you different answers. There are those who believe that communication skills are the key for a satisfying bond; others believe that ...
Views: 966 - Do You Have a Burnout from Dating? Take the Time during the Holidays to Heal - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction There is much talking about burnout from work. But burnout also happens when you feel exhausted from endless dating - yet you keep dating nonetheless. This is counter-productive, since you don’t project happiness to your date, but fatigue; not empowerment, but desperation; not ...
Views: 1383 - Do You Perceive Yourself to be a “Special” Person, therefore Not Succeeding at Having an Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are unsuccessful in developing an intimate relationship you might – like many others - perceive yourself as being “particular” – hereby justifying to yourself the fact that you are unsuccessful. But the fact of the matter is, “particular” are those who are willing to develop ...
Views: 1279(2 votes) - If You Perceive Yourself to be a “Quality Single” and are Enrolled with “Quality Dating-Sites” – Why don’t You Already Have a Successful Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2012 from Doron GilAmong the many dating-sites that have flourished during the last couple of years there are some which advertise themselves as designed for “Quality Singles”. These are tailored, apparently, for a “select” group of singles who perceive themselves to be highly intelligent, well-educated, ...
Views: 1072 - Why Are You Still Single In Spite of Being Connected with Many Others Via Social Media? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2012 from Doron GilMany singles find dating too difficult at times. Indeed, singles are “connected” with many others via social networks, but still find it difficult to find a suitable partner, develop and maintain a satisfying intimate relationship. Convincing themselves that they are just too busy to look, ...
Views: 986 - Have any Regrets about Your Relationships? Why not Make the Necessary Changes NOW – and Succeed? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction The Top Five Regrets outlined here as related to a successful intimate relationship can help you consider how you “do” you own relationships. They can motivate you to think upon and reflect whether you allow yourself to be “who you are” in a relationship – or not; whether you ...
Views: 1113 - Are You Authentic? Learn Why Authenticity is Essential for a Successful Intimate Relationship! - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Doron GilA major component of successful intimate relationship is authenticity: when you are “who you are”, true to yourself and genuine, you can develop, nurture and maintain a healthy and satisfying intimacy. But many fail in their relationships because they are NOT authentic. Getting up the courage to ...
Views: 1280 - Be Aware: When Your Desire for Love is Driven by Neediness & Dependency it Harms the Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction Many “fall for” others who are unavailable, giving themselves totally, as if there is no tomorrow, ignoring warning signs – even the most obvious ones – believing they have found “the love of their life”, only to become disillusioned time and again – and to jump in with another ...
Views: 1526 - Don’t Seek Short-Cuts to Finding a Partner with Whom to Develop an Intimate Relationship: They Might Fail You! - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Doron GilTime is money. For one reason or another this phrase has taken precedence in many aspects of our daily life: on CNN, for example, you often hear the anchor saying to an interviewer: “quickly…”; or “please answer the final last question in one sentence”. Twitter forces you to send messages with ...
Views: 1089 - “Falling in Love” or Pure Neediness? The Difference Might Determine the Future of the Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction Can a person driven by a bottomless need for love, causing her relationships fail time and again, get up the courage to look inwards, become aware of where this need comes from, realize the disastrous effect it has on her relationships and take the necessary steps to conquer it? ...
Views: 1183 - Self-Betrayal is the Most Horrific Betrayal of them All! - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2012 from Doron GilYou probably tend to think – like most people do - that the most horrific betrayal of all is a person’s betrayal of his/her partner. After all, this is what you have been brought up to believe since childhood – from books and movies you have seen; from newspaper reports you have read; from TV ...
Views: 5892(2 votes) - Spying on Your Partner OR Learning about Yourself: Which one is Better in the Long Run? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2012 from Doron GilPartners’ spying on each other is not a new phenomenon. What is new is the “James Bond” techniques they use. In different stores in Manhattan you can find, these days, various devises to spy on your “loved one”: a pen, glasses, a key-chain, a tie, a watch, a clock, even a teddy bear - all of ...
Views: 1303 - Have You Ever Thought about Making an Agreement with YOURSELF in Order to Succeed with Your Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2012 from Doron GilIt is customary these days for partners to institute a prenuptial agreement or, while dating, a “relationship agreement” - mutually agreeing on the “relationships terms and conditions”: for example, whether the partners commit to meet once or twice a week; whether they commit to spend a night or ...
Views: 1042 - Do You Know What Stands in Your Way from Developing a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou might be failing in your relationships for a variety of reasons. But as long as you are not aware of what the true reason is, you will not know what you need to change. Consequently you will keep failing in your relationships. Becoming aware of what stands in your way is therefore vital to ...
Views: 1155 - Needing Love & Being Desperate and Dependent Might Kill Your Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction If you are driven by neediness and dependency you might be “pushed” into unhealthy, even abusive relationships. These might bring uncomfortable, terrible consequences in terms of depression, feelings of worthlessness and of loneliness. Becoming aware of your needs and conquering ...
Views: 2061 - Do You Choose Your Partner(s) or They Choose You? This Can Make a Big Difference in Your Relationship’s Success - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2012 from Doron GilAlthough it might NOT be apparent, there is a big difference whether you go out with someone YOU have decided to go out with or with someone who has chosen you. The first usually happens when you are empowered to be yourself and feel safe with being alone. The second often occurs when you have a ...
Views: 1137 - How do Stinginess, Jealousy & Unfaithfulness & the Need for Control Harm Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2012 from Doron GilDenying traits, emotions and behaviors and projecting them onto your partner sabotages your relationships. As long as you are not aware of this being the case you will continue harm your relationships time and again. Becoming aware is therefore the key to change. Here are three examples of ...
Views: 2010 - Healing after a Failed Relationship: Learn how Self-Awareness Enables You to Heal & to Move Forward - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2012 from Doron GilIf you have a number of failed relationships behind you, it is very likely that you feel wounded, depressed, despaired and lonely. In order to become empowered to develop a healthy and satisfying relationship you first need to heal these wounds. This is possible when you become aware of what it ...
Views: 2671 - Be Aware of Your Projections: They Might Harm Your Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION As long as you project your own traits, emotions and behaviors onto your partner, accusing him/her of owning these, rather than accepting them as part of you, you are harming the relationship. Becoming aware of your projections and taking responsibility for all your traits, ...
Views: 1681(1 vote) - Denial and Projection Harm Your Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Doron GilIf you find yourself in unsatisfying relationships over and over again, or without a partner, the reason might well be that you sabotage yourself without even knowing that you do. One way might be, to project onto your partner traits, emotions and behaviors you deny in yourself. When these are ...
Views: 2987 - Are You Aware of How You Sabotage Your Relationships? Taking the Road to Self-Awareness Will Help You Change! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Doron GilAs long as you are not aware of the ways in which you might be sabotaging your relationships, you might fail to develop a successful intimacy time and again. But without knowing what you do which harms your attempts at relationships, you will not know what and how to change. Developing ...
Views: 901 - Listen to Your Partner’s Feedback: It Will Help You Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Your partners might often see in you characteristics and traits you don’t acknowledge and accept in yourself. The reason being – you reject and depress these in you if you feel they don’t correlate with the person that you want to believe you are. Listening to what your partners ...
Views: 1139 - If You Are Unhappy About Your Relationship (or Lack of) - Learn How to Develop a Satisfying One! - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Doron GilARE YOU UNHAPPY WITH YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP? If you are unhappy in your relationship – or with your failed attempts at finding a partner – “use” it to figure out what it takes to develop a successful relationship. Your unhappiness, as much as it is an awful feeling, can serve as a turning ...
Views: 790 - When You Understand the Reasons for Your Failed Relationships You Become Able to Develop a Successful Intimacy - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2012 from Doron GilIt is very likely that if you have been failing tine and again to develop a successful relationships it means, you don’t know what you do wrong. Consequently, you keep doing the same “mistakes” over and over again. When you get a grip on what makes you sabotage your attempts you can change and ...
Views: 1115 - Dating “Unavailable Others” is a Waste of Your Time: Learn Why and How to Avoid It - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are presently on “the dating scene” wishing wholeheartedly to find a partner with whom to develop a serious relationship, don’t date those who are basically UNAVAILABLE. No matter what they promise you, and regardless of how much you think “this is the right person for me”, dating them is ...
Views: 1138 - Be “The Artist” of Your Relationships Success Story: “Do” Dating and Relationships YOUR way! - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are trying for a long time now to find a partner (if you are still single) with whom to develop a successful relationship, or to develop a satisfying one (if you already have a partner), but are unsuccessful – you are not alone. Many do! And like many others you are probably doing ...
Views: 1409(1 vote) - Research Shows that Couples Are Usually Happier than Singles. If You Are Single Wanting a Relationship, Why Are You Still Alone? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou may have heard experts saying that couples usually feel happier in their life then singles. Indeed, studies show that in spite of the escalating number of divorces and separations, 80% of young adults still say they are looking forward to a good marriage (or living together), a satisfying ...
Views: 1303 - 4 Guidelines 4 Your Success with Dating and Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from Doron GilI am often surprised to see singles who shoot themselves in the foot in relationships for the simple reason that they are not tuned to themselves or to their date/partner. Time and again I see singles sating others who are incompatible to them. It is apparent to me that they are driven by needs ...
Views: 1516 - Single & Dating? Note that People Who Are Separated or “In the Process” Might Not Be “Available” for a Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are taking part in the dating scene you have probably met many who claim to be in the process of divorce/separation or declare that they have just recently separated. Agreeing to go out with them under the assumption that a satisfying relationship might develop is, in most likelihood, a ...
Views: 1308 - Healing and Awareness Are Vital for Your Personal Growth - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2012 from Doron GilIt is likely that you, as a grown-up – like so many others - probably have some unfinished businesses to take care of, be it relationships issues, unfulfilled career opportunities, as well as unresolved parents-children issues (with your own parents and/or own children). Taking time to heal ...
Views: 1074(2 votes) - Predict Your Success or Failure with Relationships – and Make the Best to Succeed! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Doron GilSerious researchers are looking for ways to predict and identify future criminals. Research has shown that criminals serving time for violent acts have already shown violent tendencies in elementary school. By the same token, studies comparing introverts and extroverts have found that such ...
Views: 1312 - Can You Blame “The Other Sex” for Your Failed Relationships? - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Doron GilIf you have been trying for a long time now to have a satisfying intimacy and didn’t succeed, it is very likely that you fail due to lack of Self-Awareness: you don’t understand how you shoot yourself in the foot. Developing Self-Awareness will enable you to realize a host of factors which drive ...
Views: 1805 - Using “Stay-Over Relationships” to Find a Partner & Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Doron GilA “new trend” in dating is on the rise: “THE STAY-OVER RELATIONSHIP”. Men & women pack up their bag and “move in” with their date (“partner”) for two or three days. If you are taking part in this new trend you can make use of your “stay-over relationships” for your personal growth and ...
Views: 1412 - Getting to Know Yourself is the Best Way to Succeed in Developing a Satisfying Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 03, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are single and on the dating scene wishing to find a partner with whom to develop a successful relationship, you have probably listened to and practiced many dating-tips you read in advice columns, found on the internet and received from friends, such as: * Write the perfect profile * ...
Views: 2140 - Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn to De-activate its Power - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Doron GilYOUR ANXIETY WORKS AGAINST YOU! If you have been wishing for quite some time now to have a stable, successful, satisfying relationship but are finding yourself time and again with the wrong partners and in unsatisfying relationships, what does it mean? Could it really be that “all these men” ...
Views: 1236(1 vote) - Don’t Let Your Belief-System Hurt You & Sabotage Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Doron GilIt is being said that having a belief-system is good: it is something which directs you; guides your actions; motivates you to know how to go about feel you know how to move forward with life. But if your belief-system controls your attitudes and behviors without you being aware of it, you are ...
Views: 2288 - Become Aware of Your Perception of Reality: Don’t Let it Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION You and your partner react and behave in your relationship each from your own Perception of Reality – your personal view point of how things “should be”. Your perceptions are affected by many factors you have internalized over the years while growing up. As long as you are NOT ...
Views: 2736 - Still Single? Stop Justifying Your Failures! Gain Self-Awareness and Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION If you have been failing in your relationships time and again, you might have resorted to self-manipulations to justify to yourself why you fail. Instead of doing so, become aware of the true reasons behind your failures – and learn how to succeed! JUSTIFICATION YOU USE If ...
Views: 1502 - When You Overcome Your “Fear of Change” You Become Able to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2012 from Doron GilYou might be controlled by the fear of change. When you have a relationship that isn’t satisfying, you’re afraid to make changes or leave and give up the known and familiar, fearing pain and others’ reactions. When single, you hesitate to look for a partner out of fear of changing a way of life ...
Views: 2413 - Don’t Sabotage Your Relationship! Become Aware of What You Do – and Change! - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2012 from Doron GilWHY DO YOU FAIL TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP? If you have been trying for quite some time now to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying relationship but in vain, or are having continuous problems with your partner, there is probably something you do wrong. ...
Views: 1217 - Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships! Learn How and Develop a Successful Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Doron GilIf you desire to have a satisfying intimate relationship but haven’t been successful until now, you can probably “predict”, your chances at success next time around based on your past experiences. In all likelihood, if you have failed until now, there is no reason to believe you will succeed ...
Views: 2333 - Thinking You Are in Control Prevents You from Making Changes Vital to Developing a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2012 from Doron GilThinking you are in control of your life might lead you to believe you have done all it takes to develop a successful relationship. But if this is the case, why do you fail with your relationships time and again? Is it possible that you are not aware of the ways in which you sabotage your ...
Views: 883 - Be “The Artist” of Your Relationship Success Story - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou may be trying for a long time now to find a partner (if you are still single) with whom to develop a successful relationship, or to develop a satisfying one (if you already have a partner). In order to succeed you have probably read advice columns about dating and relationships. Listened ...
Views: 1337 - Be Authentic! This is a MUST if You Want to Succeed Having an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2012 from Doron GilBeing authentic is a MUST in order to develop a successful intimate relationship. Unfortunately, not many are authentic. In this article I explain why it is so difficult for so many to be authentic, and what you can do to enhance your authenticity and thereby your relationships. WHAT DOES ...
Views: 1580 - Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn How to De-activate its Power - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Your anxiety often harms your attempts at relationships. It works against you as you try to find a partner and develop a successful intimacy. It drives you to react and behave in ways which are counter-productive to a successful relationship. Combating your anxiety enables you to ...
Views: 4544 - How & Why Does Self-Awareness Enable You to Succeed with Your Relationships: Two Examples - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION It isn’t easy to change habits. But when it comes to intimate relationships, sticking-on to your habits is a sure way to fail. When you understand your habits, realize the damage they cause to your relationships and make the necessary effort to change them, you increase your ...
Views: 1304 - Why is Self-Awareness the Key to Your Success with Intimate Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2012 from Doron GilFINDING OUT WHY YOU FAIL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS – AND MAKING THE NECESSARY CHANGES If you find yourself failing in your relationships time and again and are not sure why, you are not alone. Many experience similar situations. The best advice I can give you is: DEVELOP SELF-AWARENESS, get in ...
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