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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationship Success: What is a REALationship? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhat is a REALationship? A REALationship is one in which you have openness, honesty, integrity, individuality, growth, passion, and intimacy. This begins with the relationship you have with yourself. Start by answering the following: • Do you know and live your life purpose? ...
Views: 1100 - Top Ten List of What to Do and What Not to Do in Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2005 from Kim OlverMost of us who have been intimately involved with someone beyond the infatuation stage know that relationships are like a rollercoaster ride. When things are good, they are very, very good. When things are bad, they are very, very bad. As a relationship coach, I have developed Top 10 Lists---one ...
Views: 1293 - The Farmer's Milk - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHello, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. Just the other day he tells me that he thinks we should just remain friends and nothing more. Two days later he called me and we talked about our relationship and he told me that I do make him happy and he enjoys our ...
Views: 881 - The Powerful Secret to A Loving Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2005 from Margaret PaulThere are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and ...
Views: 2981(1 vote) - Seductive Withholders - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2005 from Susan PeabodyTo many people, the term “Seductive Withholder” is self-explanatory. SW’s are men and women who vacillate between being available and unavailable. One moment they are romantic, alluring, in pursuit and then suddenly (often without warning) they pull back and withhold ...
Views: 6027 - BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2005 from Abe KassFor some people being in a relationship can be very challenging. Marriage is supposed to be full of romance, fun, security and safety. For some couples they have been blessed with having succeeded in actualizing this ideal. For many other couples, unfortunately, they have instead experienced ...
Views: 1240 - Can This Relationship Be Helped? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2005 from Margaret PaulI have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What ...
Views: 2634(1 vote) - Support and Encouragement - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2005 from Robyn SpeedOne of the things that people want in a relationship/marriage is mutual support and encouragement. It sounds rather simple doesn't it? But it is amazing the number of people who don't feel that they are receiving this support and encouragement. The sad things is that their tendency is to think: ...
Views: 1792(1 vote) - Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2005 from Margaret PaulEmotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of ...
Views: 2710 - My Son's Deployment - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2005 from Kim OlverOne of the most difficult struggles in life for a parent is the struggle that occurs when the parent is attempting to keep their child safe and the child is attempting to explore the world and find their place in it, often times not in the safest manner. A discussion of Inside Out cannot ...
Views: 1389 - Building Solid Relationships Using the Power of Words - by Submitted on May 31, 2005 from Michael LeeWe may not be aware of it; but the words we utter daily may have different interpretations, even if you think that they mean the same thing. Here's an example. Would you rather have someone tell you that you are "slim," or would you like to hear that you are "thin?" Being slim has a ...
Views: 927 - Deadly Relationship Habits - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2005 from Kim OlverHow many of you have ever been involved with a significant other who wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do? I doubt that I’m the only one. By virtue of a significant other relationship, there will be times when our partners will want us to do things we don’t ...
Views: 1290 - How to Find a Soul Mate Instead of a Cell Mate - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2005 from Debbie MandelFalling in love has been described as a thrilling adventure, a fluttering emotion and the ultimate life force. That’s why I wonder why the term, “falling in love,” is used to describe such a positive love relationship. It implies tripping, getting hurt, not mindful of where we ...
Views: 1235 - How To Keep Love Growing Through The Ups And Downs - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2005 from Brenda ShoshannaWe are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they wonder if it s possible to have the same success in love. Although things may start out wonderfully in the beginning, there is always the fear that it won t last, that ...
Views: 5187(1 vote) - What Everyone Needs to Know About Extramarital Affairs... and what you can do to help - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2005 from Dr. Bob HuizengaRecent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital infidelity. That ...
Views: 2541 - Making Up is Hard to Do - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2005 from Bill WhiteWhen was the last time you had a disagreement with your significant other? Let's for a moment forget who's fault it was. Let's stop the adrenaline before it starts pumping. Now, how long did the tension remain? Did the scene ruin an hour? a day? a week? When you want to make up with, so often ...
Views: 1690(1 vote) - The Life-Changing Power Of Appreciation - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2005 from Gregory NewmanAppreciation is one of the most powerful actions in the universe. When you are sensitively aware of a unique quality that makes someone who they are -- and are willing to communicate it to him or her -- that person’s life and your own can change forever. Let me give you an ...
Views: 922(1 vote) - How Your Personality, Life and Relationships are Created - The Crucial Key - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2005 from John CoroneosYou are not what you seem to be. Or, perhaps more accurately, you are far more than you have ever experienced yourself to be. Within you right now, exist undreamed of talents and abilities. They are simply waiting for the correct call, to bring them to the surface and enrich your life in a way ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - Men On Dating- Timing, Turn-offs and Keepers - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2005 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanDear Relationship Coach- "We met online and seemed to hit it off right from the start. After he answered my ad, we went on our first date, and it was fabulous. I believe we both felt a strong chemistry and learned a lot about each other. At the end of the evening we agreed to get together ...
Views: 14487(1 vote) - What to Do When Your Spouse or Your Friends are Negative? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2005 from Michael LosierWhat to Do When Your Spouse or Your Friends are Negative? © Michael Losier 2004. You may include this article in your ezine or on your website, provided you include the copyright statement and the bio information tag found at the end of this article. This year (2004), I've completed over ...
Views: 1420 - 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...
Views: 25121(6 votes) - "10 Things You Need To Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship" - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2005 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhether you’ve been in your relationship for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years, we don’t have to tell you that making the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. We’ve both also made this decision ourselves in our ...
Views: 2104(1 vote) - The Purpose of Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2005 from Balbir ChaggerIt is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them Anthony Storr Definitions of relationship • the state of being related by kindred, affinity, or other alliance • a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional ...
Views: 17741(1 vote) - Ending Relationships Gracefully - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often hear the question, “How do I end a relationship without hurting someone’s feelings?” Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge. The problem arises because so many people see it ...
Views: 2479(1 vote) - You ALWAYS Get What You Want - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2005 from PaulYou ALWAYS get what you want You ALWAYS get what you want The role of the subconscious in secretly shaping your life. If you’re like me, you’re probably thinking “I definitely don’t always get what I want!” I hear you, but hang in there a minute, open ...
Views: 1369(1 vote) - Tips For Singles On Celebrating The New Year - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2004 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanIt's coming up soon and you don't have any plans. Many of your friends will be away or out with their significant others. You can't believe it's been a whole year and you are facing another dateless New Years Eve. What can you do? If the above sounds familiar, it may be time for some quiet ...
Views: 1898(1 vote) - What Your Throat Is Trying To Tell You - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2004 from Gregory NewmanSome years ago, a friend of mine said “you sure do clear your throat a lot.” His comment stuck with me. Over the next few weeks I noticed that I was a chronic throat-clearer, especially during my conversations with people. Then I had an awareness that changed my life. As my ...
Views: 1116 - What's LOVE Got to Do with It? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2004 from Danish AhmedWhat’s Love Got to Do with It? Well, I got dumped... As a performer in the DECIDE urban musical, that is. I was having so much fun on stage, doing what I loved, and making a difference for people. Most importantly, I loved working with Stuart Knight, the director. How could he do ...
Views: 1487(2 votes) - You (Don't) complete Me... Dispelling the Jerry McGuire Myth - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2012 from Lisa DaltonHow many of us felt the tension as Jerry McGuire and Dorothy Boyd, fresh from Jerry’s meltdown and Dorothy’s impulsive support, stood in that elevator as the couple beside them shared those romantic words, “You complete me”? Dorothy’s panic over what she had just ...
Views: 3273 - To Stay Happily Married, Keep Dating - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2004 from Terry Hernon MacDonaldOne of my favorite memories from last year was not watching my young daughters rip into their Christmas presents, or seeing them perform in the school talent show. No, my happiest recollection is the date my husband and I went out on a Tuesday night in November. A few days before, we’d ...
Views: 1012 - Setting Your Relationship Up for Success - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2004 from Steve ErreyA quarter of thirtysomething couples are unhappy in their relationships, a new study shows. Just 51% of thirtysomething couples said they were “very happy” in their relationship, with the remainder saying they were “quite happy” but would like to see improvements. While ...
Views: 1185 - Trick Or Treat - Is This Make-Believe Or The Real Thing? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2004 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"I'll call you this week". "Yes, I'd love to see you again". "I had a great time". "I'm not interested in dating anyone else". "I think I'm falling in love with you." These are a few of the phrases passed between singles as they move through the stages of meeting and dating. At the time, they ...
Views: 1992 - Men and women are different how do they get what they want? by Susan Sheppard - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2011 from Susan SheppardMen are such wonderful creatures and most of the time everyone underappreciates them. Personally, I love men and everything about them. Since my whole theory of relationship is based upon the fact that men and women are different, it seemed time to elaborate on who men are and how did they get ...
Views: 5598 - When To Break Up - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2004 from Lisa AngelettieRelationships often begin quite simply. There is a meeting. Then Attraction. Perhaps friendship or passion comes next. And then...next thing you know you have found yourself in a full-fledged relationship. Or perhaps you pushed for the dating to mean something. To have a title. And you forced ...
Views: 2085 - Is neediness ruining your relationships?Is neediness ruining your relationships?
By John Gray, author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus
In a recent survey conducted at MarsVenus.com, “neediness”—clingy, controlling, possessive and/or demanding behavior—was one of the most commonly cited reasons for ...
Views: 7360 - Where is he when you need him...and why does it hurt so badly?Where is he when you need him...and why does it hurt so badly?
By John Gray, author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus
Has this scenario ever played out in your relationship?
You and your partner are getting along just fine, and with no notice something changes. He’s no longer ...
Views: 1103 - Arguments - The losing side of a relationship - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2004 from George MinisteriIn the 34 years that I have been doing psychic counseling, it is only in the past 10 years that I have been involved with couples counseling. One thing I have noticed with many couples, whether those couples are a man and a woman, two women, or two men, is that there is often a lack of real and ...
Views: 1250 - Relationship Advice--Top 5 Tips - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2004 from Lisa AngelettieRelationship Advice--Introduction Clients at www.GirlShrink.com like to discuss a variety of issues in e-therapy, but most clients overwhelmingly ask for sound relationship advice. Therefore, we decided to put together a list of relationship advice tips, that when followed, address the very ...
Views: 2661 - Is your Business Partnership about to Crash and Burn? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2004 from Dorene LehaviThe Seven C's: Danger Signs not to be Ignored When Harry teamed up with Joe, everyone thought it was a business match made in heaven. Both loved the clothing business. Harry was a natural salesman with good design sense and Joe was a shrewd buyer and financial whiz. Together they opened a ...
Views: 3965 - The Metrosexual Man vs. The Cowboy - What DO Women Want? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2004 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanHe always looks perfectly put together. He can be in a t-shirt and jeans or heading out to a black-tie event. His hair never has a bad day. His nails are clean and buffed. His clothes are perfectly pressed and exquisitely coordinated. He smells like flowers and spice. Is he gay? No, he's the new ...
Views: 3675 - Forgive and Forget - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2004 from Jerry LopperSomeone did you wrong and you’re angry; you’re not just angry, you’re plotting a way to get even.You can’t wait to see that so-and-so, and turn the tables on him. Nations do that, too, on a larger scale; Israelis attack Palestinians in retaliation for a Palestinian ...
Views: 5203 - Harmonious Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2004 from Dr. Sanjoy MukerjiRelationship is one of the most important key areas in our life. Almost everything we do involves a relationship – in our family life, in business dealings, at work, in the social circle, with friends and so forth. It is very essential for us to find out who all are the important people in ...
Views: 14756(2 votes) - Hidden Traps for Life Partners Who Work Together - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2004 from Laurie WeissYou may think that it would be wonderful to be in business with your spouse, but the truth is that when life partners become business partners unspoken assumptions can cause significant problems. Neither couple I describe knows the other couple, but their stories are strikingly similar. ...
Views: 1767 - Do It And They Will Come - Pursuing New Adventures To Find Mr/Ms Right - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2004 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanAre you tired of the whole dating scene? Have you spent many hours (years) going to parties and events with the hope of meeting compatible and available singles? If so, now may be time to think about doing something different. Really different. After all, we tend to move about socially in the ...
Views: 1874 - Is Your Relationship A 10? - by Submitted on May 22, 2004 from Jan TincherDo you and your partner in business or at home have the same arguments over and over? Do you wish they’d just pay attention at least once in a while? Why do you have to keep getting yelled at or keep yelling at them over the same things again and again? Why can’t they just understand ...
Views: 1267 - So You Think You Have It Bad? - by Submitted on May 22, 2004 from Jan TincherThere was a woman in the mountains who went to find a guru. She had a big feast to make for the holidays that were a ways off, but first she had a problem she wanted the guru to fix. She climbed up the mountain, found the guru and said, "Guru, my mother-in-law has just moved in with us. We ...
Views: 3219 - Do You Love? - by Submitted on May 22, 2004 from Jan TincherCopyright © Jan Tincher - All Rights reserved http://www.tameyourbrain.com ~~~~~~ Do you love people? Do you love things? Do you love people and not things? Do you love things and not people? Do you love yourself? Do you love whatever you're addicted to? Do you love money? Do ...
Views: 1262 - 7 Power Skills that Build Strong Relationships - by Submitted on May 18, 2004 from Steve BrunkhorstA strong, healthy relationship is one in which the partners show respect and kindness toward each other. The relationship forms a rewarding and enduring bond of trust and support. Here are seven power skills that will help you form stronger alliances and bring more closeness, authenticity and ...
Views: 1442(2 votes) - How to Heal a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Carna Zacharias-Miller,We all experience severe heart break at some time in our lives. For many it happens in childhood or adolescence, the time when we are most vulnerable. A cold mother, an absent father, being different in any way from our peers and ostracized for it - these are some of the reasons for the early ...
Views: 1780(2 votes) - What is your primary identity? - by Submitted on May 06, 2004 from Charlie BadenhopThis article offers you an opportunity to better understand how to interact with people whose primary identity is one of fear and aggression. When you are feeling misunderstood or at risk in a relationship with another person, or when you are having difficulty understanding your own ...
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