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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Is Your Relationship Toxic? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2017 from Darlene LancerHealthy relationships nourish and support us. Like poison, a toxic relationship is one that is damaging to us. Instead of uplifting us, it makes us feel worse. When it ends, we might experience post-traumatic stress or a lessening of our self-esteem and trust in ourselves and others. Although ...
Views: 1744(2 votes) - It Sucks When Nice Guys Finish Last - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Chris Chandra“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement. I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is. Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things ...
Views: 1618(1 vote) - It's never too late to be the one you've always wanted to be. - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Jessica Law95% of our decision are made by how you feel in the moment, you need to take control of the moment, If you came for the rest of your life live inside of yourself, Stop listening to people who are calling you fat, bisexual, gay nigger, everything that is making no sense, All these insecure people ...
Views: 1209(2 votes) - It's never too late to meet the one you've always wanted to date - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Amy LawThere are more and more bisexual couples complained that hard to find and meet a nice bi woman or man through dating sites, so many spam and most of them for sex or fun, not only for date. But complaining doesn't solve the problem. It's never to late to meet the one you've always wanted to ...
Views: 1199(2 votes) - It's time to have Inner Peace! Learning to say NO - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Marion LicchielloLearning to say NO! Being Authentic to Yourself Are you the type of person who always says yes? I’ve come to learn that it is very important to learn to say NO! It’s okay. People are still going to like you. They may even respect you more because they know you are being authentic. I’m not ...
Views: 2097(1 vote) - It’s Time to Play Your 2015 Endgame: “TRUTH or KARMIC CONSEQUENCES” - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from joan pancoe“We are in the perfect circumstances for our Souls to learn whatever they designed this whole game to learn. If we come back into form from having merged with All That Is, what the Buddhist call nirvana, we are in the world but not of it. We play the cosmic sport. We fill the forms though there ...
Views: 1322(1 vote) - Juicy Relationship For Couples: Rules For Creating And Keeping It - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownI could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything ...
Views: 1381(1 vote) - JUPITER EXALTED: The Trip to Bountiful - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from joan pancoeWe have just until July 16th, 2014 to remember all the lessons and reasons for gratitude we've received from the passage of Jupiter in the sign of his exaltation, Cancer. To review: "What is the body? That shadow of a shadow of your love, that somehow contains the entire universe." ...
Views: 2015(1 vote) - JUPITER in LIBRA: “And in the End, the Love You Take Is Equal to the Love You Make”* - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from joan pancoeJUPITER in LIBRA: “And in the End, the Love You Take Is Equal to the Love You Make”* “In love’s circle there's another kind of serenity; in love’s wine, another kind of hangover. What you learned in school is one thing, love is something entirely different.” RUMI For more: Ruminations ...
Views: 1585(1 vote) - Just Me and My Shadow... - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2011 from Jeffrey Sumber"The shadow, which is in conflict with the acknowledged values, cannot be accepted as a negative part of one's own psyche and is therefore projected--that is, it is transferred to the outside world and experienced as an outside object. It is combated, punished, and exterminated as 'the alien out ...
Views: 1152(1 vote) - KISSAway Anger - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2013 from Janet PfeifferMy guest on my radio show today, Dr. Erica Kosal, has been dealing with the devastating illness of her husband, Jim, for the past five years. Understandably, she has experienced a wide range of emotions including stress and anger. But this college professor and mother of two refused to allow ...
Views: 1653(1 vote) - Know When to Fold 'Em - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten April 12, 1990 How do you know when it's time to say goodbye? To move on? To go separate ways? There comes a point for many people, whether it's with the true love of your life, the gang at church, your oldest friend, or a group you used to hang with, when something is just not the ...
Views: 2001(2 votes) - Ladies Wear the Pants, but Keep the Skirt - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2012 from Sudani ThorneWomen are afforded the ease of starring in one of two big roles when it comes to relationships. The first being, the popular role of the damsel-in-distress, we've seen her before, bewildered pretty girl, dusty lonely road, insert flat tire, cue in dramatic music, swoon in handsome gent to the ...
Views: 1628(1 vote) - Lasting Love Is All About Connection - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from Diana Weiss-WisdomEmpty Nesters Dear Dr. Diana My husband doesn’t understand my feelings at all. I’m beginning to wonder if he ever did. Our youngest son just graduated from high school and leaves for college in a couple of months. With the kids gone, I don’t know if we have anything in common anymore. ...
Views: 1488(1 vote) - Laugh and Play Your Way to Healthy, Happy Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comMy husband Tom and I have been getting high on some really potent stuff and I want to share some with you. The great thing about it is it's free, readily available and has no bad side effects. What is this great stuff? It's laughter. We laugh on purpose like crazy and before we know it we're ...
Views: 1128(1 vote) - Laugh and Play Your Way to Healthy, Happy Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comMy husband Tom and I have been getting high on some really potent stuff and I want to share some with you. The great thing about it is it's free, readily available and has no bad side effects. What is this great stuff? It's laughter. We laugh on purpose like crazy and before we know it we're ...
Views: 1075(1 vote) - Learn How To Heal After An Affair And Rebuild Your Self-Esteem Using These 3 Steps - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Brenda StewartKnowing how to heal after and affair is just like a gift to you and to others around you. After you found out that your spouse is cheating on you and details about the affair, your self-esteem has diminished and you don't believe in you anymore. But you have to know that the first most important ...
Views: 6750(1 vote) - Learn to Pay Attention to Your Life by Using Your Internal GPS - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Don NenningerHow you live a great life by learning how to discover and follow your path (excerpt from the book The 5 Laws of Conscious Living) Living life from your center means that your experience of life is not determined by external life situations. As you grow, you learn about yourself, and you ...
Views: 1101(3 votes) - Let the Dating Begin! 10 Common Sense Rules for Healthy Dating - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Telka Arend-RitterLet the dating begin! 10 Common Sense Rules for Healthy Dating Determine COMPATIBILITY before making a sexual or long-term COMMITMENT. *Dating is defined as the information gathering stage of an adult relationship designed to determine the overall compatibility of a potential life ...
Views: 4345(1 vote) - Let your Love open the Door - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Joan Marie WhelanIn Pete Townsend’s song, he sings “Let my love open the door.” From this moment on, I want you to let your love open the door to your own heart. What I mean by that is that you must love yourself first in order to discover the love and positive energy that surrounds you. It is more prevalent ...
Views: 2150(1 vote) - Letting Go Of Emotional Baggage - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2012 from Roseanna LeatonSometimes we experience emotional overload and find it difficult to cope. It's impossible to completely wipe your memory clean but what you can do is change your emotional reaction to your memories and circumstances. Emotional baggage can reach a great weight or even enter the category of ...
Views: 2526(1 vote) - Life After Divorce: How to Move Past the Hurt - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2012 from Marni BattistaFor most women the end of a marriage feels like starting life completely over from scratch. So although it might feel strange, divorce can ultimately become the “best, worst thing” that ever happens. And, armed with that mindset, life after divorce can signal a new beginning. One day, your ...
Views: 2565(1 vote) - Life Coach: Solving Your Life's Problems in Two Simple Steps - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Ed McDonoughHaving problems and challenges in life is something we all face at one time or another. For most people, problems drag them way down emotionally and almost completely drain the life energy out of them. But it doesn't have to be that way. By making a few simple adjustments in the way you view ...
Views: 1564(1 vote) - Life is Short. Live it Now! - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Susan SheppardWatching the news is depressing. Mother Nature is really agitated this year. Excessive snow storms, rain and floods, violent earthquakes, Tsunamis, the incredible surge of tornados this year is creating havoc in the world. With just minutes warning any of these natural disasters can change ...
Views: 1645(1 vote) - LIFE'S DETOURS CAN BE BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Chelle ThompsonMany years ago, I was awakened in the middle of the night by the first verse of a poem — which would be called "DETOURS" — as it was blossoming in my head: Sometimes we experience slight dimensional snags ...Like catching your sleeve on an unforeseen splinter As you move through the ...
Views: 2541(2 votes) - Living With a Spouse With OCD - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2020 from Randi FredricksIf you've decided that your spouse has obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and you’re trying to get help for the both of you, you’ve taken a step in the right direction. Recognizing that there's a problem with your partner’s behavior and that it needs to be addressed is the first step in finding ...
Views: 2542(2 votes) - Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Joanna McDonaldAttract the partner of your dreams or spice up your current relationship with Feng Shui! Single or attached; are you looking for ways to spruce up your love life? Follow these easy steps to create a romantic, fulfilling space for you and the partner of your dreams! Remember when you first ...
Views: 925(1 vote) - Lost Trust in Your Partner? CORE Strategies Help You Regain It - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2012 from Daniela RoherLoss of trust in a love relationship can come about as a result of infidelity, a partner lying about money, one partner failing to be a loyal ally when needed, and many other ways. Regardless of the cause, when couples are faced with the dilemma of rebuilding trust after a betrayal, there are ...
Views: 1709(1 vote) - Love and Heartache - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Mary HorsmanIt hurts so bad. It can make you physically ill. It feels like it’ll never get better. Trust me. It does. It gets better. In fact, this edition of The Love Post is here to remind you that heartache is actually a demonstration of the strength and power of Love. If you didn’t Love, your ...
Views: 563(1 vote) - Love and Technology: Inspired or Lost within Technology Matrix - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2020 from Nataša PantovićWe live surrounded by an increasingly complex matrix of impulses allowing strangers of all sorts (TV, media, Internet) interfere in our mental, emotional and spiritual development. Understanding this intricate network and how does the human brain interacts with it is becoming our door to ...
Views: 1723(2 votes) - Love and the Four Noble Truths - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneThe Four Noble Truths are concepts derived from Buddhist philosophy - simploe yet profound principles to live by. Once we truly understand these principles, we can truly live in the moment, each moment. We can more readily accept whatever life is offering us, find the joy wherever we can, ...
Views: 2579(1 vote) - Love and You: Top Ten Tips for Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Lynda KlauLove and You: The Top Ten Tips for Loving Relationships Lynda Klau, Ph.D. How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written ...
Views: 2308(1 vote) - Love But Not In Love - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamOften it is the kiss of death. One says to the other, “I love you, but I’m no longer in love with you.” The person speaking either wishes for a relationship with someone new or already has it. The “I love you” phrase often means, “I’m not really that angry at you; you’ve got some good ...
Views: 4687(1 vote) - Love from Inside Out- Love yourself first to better love others - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Terai KoronuiLOVE YOURSELF TO BETTER LOVE OTHERS When you know that to love yourself first is critical to cultivate loving relationships, you will then understand and accept it as the ONLY foundation on which unconditional love, compassion and a desire to help and serve others evolves. The perception ...
Views: 1314(1 vote) - LOVE IS ALL AROUND: ARE YOU OPEN TO RECEIVING IT? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Cari MurphyLove is ALL Around: Are YOU Open to Receiving It? We all have a yearning to connect! So many of my readers, radio show listeners, and clients are wondering “How can I find my soul mate? When will I experience true love? Why does my relationship feel so empty? Is there something wrong with ...
Views: 1610(1 vote) - Love Is Not a Power Game - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Joanna WarwickI recently heard said that in relationships that all arguments, tensions and breakdowns are based on one thing’ Do I Matter to You?’ The western world seems fuelled by one up man ship; who has what, owns what, whose thinner,sexier, richer, more successful, more intelligent or more popular. ...
Views: 1158(1 vote) - love is not enough in relationship - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2013 from Mohit sachanWe think that the hardest thing in a relationship is finding the right person. After that, we fall in love and live happily ever after, right? Those in a relationship know all too well that fairy tales are only true in the movies. The truth of the matter is that having and maintaining a ...
Views: 1720(1 vote) - Love Letters For Him That Will Work - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2013 from David BrittoLove letters are a special part of any relationship. They're considered to be the keenest tool to speak out to your love , to inform him how special he's for you and how much you love and like him. Occasionally we seem to run right out of words when we are discoursing on the phone, or while ...
Views: 4210(1 vote) - Love Spells for Finding Your True Love - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Kerry PaulIf someone is searching for love spells, the odds are that they are looking to gain love, looking to mend a break up, or looking to intensify their love life all for the better. Love is something that each of us longs for- however, not all of us are lucky enough to find it in life. When one ...
Views: 415(1 vote) - Loving and Understanding a Man - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Ann YangIt is important that women understand a man's love language; so I decided to share some information to assist us ladies in getting some understanding about the bro's. Now mind you I am in no way an expert although I do get asked a lot of relationship/marriage questions. I'm also aware that there ...
Views: 688(1 vote) - Loving Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Rohan and Mohan PereraYou have heard that it has been said, ‘you have to love yourself before you can love others’. And that, 'you must 'learn' to love yourself'. This is like saying, you have to learn to breathe for yourself. Love is the breath of life for the spirit, and loving is like breathing for the spirit. ...
Views: 1403(1 vote) - Lying as a Form of Control - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2010 from Margaret PaulAll of us, as we were growing up, learned a myriad of ways to try to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. One of the ways we might have learned is to lie.We all had many opportunities to learn this way of protecting ourselves, which is a form of manipulation/control:A ...
Views: 4243(1 vote) - Lying Vs Telling The Truth In Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Brian KrallNow I know what your probably thinking…what an obvious answer to this question it is that “Honesty is the best policy”…Right? But if the answer was that obvious why would I write a whole blog on it? Obviously this is still a necessary topic, as so many people in relationships still lie to ...
Views: 4443(1 vote) - Magical Thinking About Finances Can Put A Strain On Your Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2008 from Dan And JenniferAt some point or another, almost all of us have used magical thinking to give us the confidence to go on when a relationship hits a rough patch. Most people are able to move through this stage by taking risks to confront their partners. They realize that heated discussions, arguments, even ...
Views: 2421(1 vote) - Maintaining Composure - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Ginger London,“At times, do you feel like you are about to lose your mind? Are you constantly on the go wishing for “one moment” to relax?” Are your emotions “boiling over” because you are holding them prisoner on the inside instead of expressing how you really feel? Are you “stressed” trying to meet the ...
Views: 5224(1 vote) - Make a New Friend Now - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2012 from Rosemary PriceMake a new friend now... Many of us are so busy rushing around or working we do not stop and think about ourselves but the happier we are and the more at peace we are the better we can be towards those around us. Now that we spend so much time online it is natural to want to make friends to ...
Views: 1393(1 vote) - Make Love, Not War - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Amy TorresMaking love starts in the mind. It is what we're thinking that turns us on or off. Making love can be using the body sexually to express love, tenderness, and pleasure. Making love can be purely sensual-e.g., giving your partner a massage or a bath-fragrant with essential oils. Making love can ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - Make Your Ex Miss You Like Crazy - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Abu ZaforWant to make your ex miss you like crazy? In order to make your ex miss you, you need to get yourself in the right mind frame. Here’s what you need to say to yourself: My ex misses me. My ex really wants me back. My ex want to make me jealous. My ex is testing me ...
Views: 811(1 vote) - Making It Fair: Sharing Household Tasks - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from John SchurmannHOW TO SHARE RELATIONSHIP ROLES Making It Fair: Who Will Do What and Why? (Includes a Couple Exercise) WHY ROLES ARE IMPORTANT? 1. Roles relate to how couples handle leadership responsibilities and divide household tasks. 2. As a couple, you will be involved in an almost endless number of ...
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