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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Facebook Affairs - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamYesterday I talked with another wife emotionally involved with an old boyfriend she bumped into online on Facebook. No surprise there. Every month couples enroll in our workshop for marriages in crisis because one of them – usually the wife – had an affair with someone found on one of the social ...
Views: 5420(4 votes) - Facebook cheating – Can Your Spouse’s Facebook Socializing Destroy Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2012 from Lisa Penn-JamesA recent survey in the United Kingdom found that married couples headed for divorce are increasingly citing Facebook in their petitions. The survey revealed that a staggering 33 percent of divorce petitions contained the word Facebook, as opposed to only 20 percent in 2009. The most common ...
Views: 2023(1 vote) - Facial Speak - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2013 from William FetterFacial Speak I've been watching the Jodie Arias Death Penalty trial for the past three weeks. For those of you who aren't familiar with this case, here is a little information about her. Jodi Arias, 32, is accused of first degree murder in the death of her former boyfriend, Travis ...
Views: 1457(1 vote) - Fair Fighting Rules for Separation and Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from TR CarderEmotions can run riot during separation or divorce. High value topics such as child custody, property division, child support and security get shuffled with advice and criticism from all corners, to create a mental tangle that can shake up even the coolest customer. Add a couple of divorce ...
Views: 1694(2 votes) - Fall 2017’s Saturn in Sagittarius Swansong: “LOVE IS ALWAYS MORE PRECIOUS THAN MONEY” - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2017 from joan pancoe“The impermanence of this present life will force you to leave all wealth behind, but by giving it away, you can take it with you as good karma.” The Dalai Lama To view with images and all links activiated: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=119 Dear ONE, ...
Views: 1515(1 vote) - Family Violence Q&A - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaQ: My spouse and I often have arguments over the “small stuff.” How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering? A: I’ll bet neither of you would argue with your boss or work colleagues, or your children’s teachers the way you argue with ...
Views: 1850(1 vote) - Father of the Bride Speech - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from alim mollaThe father of the bride speech is very important just because you in fact are the father of the bride. This is not some speech you want to put together in a heartbeat and just blurt out in a minute. Don’t get me wrong, it could very well be one minute long, but you want to think through the ...
Views: 653(1 vote) - Fight Technology Overload With These 6 Tips - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Michael RosenbaumYou love your smartphone – right? How many good things has it done for you today? From connecting with friends to getting restaurant reviews, our phones are invaluable. However, there’s also a downside to our phones. As we focus on our phone, we often neglect dealing with things in the ...
Views: 1396(1 vote) - Financial Boundaries Within the Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2011 from Chris Hartwell, MSWBoundaries within the marriage are very important to the relationship. Determining what should be kept private between the couple versus what is told to the outside world makes a big impact. Finances are an issue that some people prefer to remain very private about, while other people don’t mind ...
Views: 1876(1 vote) - Finding a unicorn woman for couples on the Internet - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2018 from Koki DarcyUnicorn is the polyamorous or bisexual woman who is especially willing to be a romantic or sexually involved equally with the couple. This unicorn woman is not allowing with any other partners. In addition, it acts as a couple of curious open relationships with like local unicorns woman for ...
Views: 2218(1 vote) - Finding a Work-Life Balance During the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2011 from Diane CraigHappy holidays! It’s time for most businesses to close down in observance of Christmas and the New Year. But when we’re constantly caught up in the fast pace of the office, it can be hard to stop working entirely and to enjoy the time off. A few extra days without constant meetings and incoming ...
Views: 1113(1 vote) - Finding the right BDSM partner - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2017 from Shawn YanFinding fellow kinky people in the wild can be hard enough as it is, let alone finding a partner within the BDSM community that can meet your needs. Here are some tips to make searching for that person easier. Knowing What You Want: Understanding your desires sounds obvious, but it is ...
Views: 1480(1 vote) - Fire Signs Love Reading for August 2019. (Leo, Sagittarius, Aries) - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonThere's someone resurfacing from your past and for one moment this may bring you joy but when you really look into this situation, you see this blast from the past for what they really are and the position they play in your life. Most people and situations are left behind for a reason. They have ...
Views: 654(1 vote) - First Comes Love, Then Comes Obesity - Really? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Michelle MorandFirst comes love, then comes obesity: So reads the heading from an article in the July 6th issue of Time Magazine (See the article at this link: http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1907143,00.html). Even though my skin was bristling at the glib headline, I felt obligated ...
Views: 1889(2 votes) - Five Conversations to Have with Your Spouse Before the Holidays - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Chick MoormanMany people experience stress during the holiday season. Some get the blues. Others find that the holidays don’t quite turn out they way they had hoped. To make sure your holiday season creates more joy and less stress, have these five conversations with your spouse soon. Conversation One: ...
Views: 1336(1 vote) - Five Easy Steps to Getting Her Back Through Self-improvement! - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Andrew HunterWomen realize that the impressions that people have of us, and the judgments they make about us, are based on our appearance - indeed, our appearance often is a determining factor when someone's deciding to get to know us better. Most men are not nearly as attentive to their looks as are women. ...
Views: 2884(1 vote) - Five Secrets in Finding a Relationship Coach - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Angela HicksFive Secrets in Finding a Relationship Coach By Angela Hicks (The Relationship CEO) Being a relationship coach, I have had numerous conversations with people about the struggles in locating a good coach. But when I probed by asking questions to understand what they were looking for or for ...
Views: 863(1 vote) - Five Ways to Avoid Intimacy - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Allan HardmanWhen an apprentice called me to tell me his wife was thinking about leaving him, he was mystified about what more she could want from him. He worked hard, supported her so she could be a stay-at-home Mom, he mowed the lawn, and kept the oil changed in the car. He was always busy with tasks and ...
Views: 4339(1 vote) - Follow These Three Easy Tips to Survive your Breakup - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Andrew HunterFew times in a man's life are as miserable as when he realizes his relationship is about to be destroyed. Men being men, this is often the first time that they actually love her - the moment they realize that she'd going to leave. Men are commonly not expected to have great skills in managing ...
Views: 3282(1 vote) - Following the Four Agreements - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneHave you ever heard of the four agreements? This set of very simple concepts can literally transform your life; profound, yet extremely difficult to practice on a daily basis. “You need a very strong will in order to adopt the four Agreements – but if you can begin to live your life with these ...
Views: 2465(1 vote) - Forgiving Infidelity – The Aftermath of an extramarital Affair - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Kalyna KapurEvery relationship has its fair share of ups and downs. But coming across your partner’s cheating is categorically one of the most trying experiences. Infidelity happens to have a domino effect that impacts everyone in the couple’s lives. If the couple is married, the damage extends to family, ...
Views: 919(1 vote) - Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaLast month, I received the following letter from an old friend, Lloyd Barnhart. "A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomena which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated…even abused…by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 1819(1 vote) - Gays and Lesbians: Are you Normal? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from Michele OMaraImagine that all humans were produced on a production line of various human production factories around the world. Would all of the non-heterosexuals just be plucked right off the conveyor belt and tossed in to a pile labeled defects? Most of us, gay or not, are raised to believe that ...
Views: 941(1 vote) - Get 'Over' Yourself - Expanding Your Awareness and Compassion in Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Pamela TurnerWe are so used to always seeing things from our own viewpoint. We know that what we experience is determined by our beliefs and filters and that these beliefs and filters were set in place at a young age before the life you are living now even existed. Yet we are so attached to our limited views ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Get 20% Off Backbone Power - A Self-Help Audiobook With Code JULY4 - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownBackbone Power, an easy to understand book, tackles the question of whether being a “people pleaser” is a virtue or a curse. Backbone Power takes the reader on a self-guided tour of their deepest thought processes to arrive at an understanding of the true “Self”. As they gain a better ...
Views: 1009(1 vote) - Get Ex Back: What You Need to Know - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Patrick MorrisAlmost everyone who has been in a relationship experiences break ups most of their lifetime. And more often than not, adults learn to move on. However, it could be a great deal of trouble if you are not ready to get a life of your own. In other words, you’re still wondering how to get ex back. ...
Views: 534(1 vote) - Get Ex Girlfriend Back If She Is Dating Another Guy! - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Jolie JoeAfter the breakup between you and your girlfriend, she becomes your ex girlfriend. It is very obvious that you can see her getting involved with other guys instantly. It mostly happens after a fresh breakup. These guys are called rebound boyfriends and girls do this to make their ego boost. They ...
Views: 11927(1 vote) - Getting A Girlfriend - Your Attitude Counts! - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2013 from Alvin ChuaSeducing and successfully getting a girl can come easy to some people, and that is because they may have failed many times before and now knows how to go about this. If you find it difficult, chances are, you are still trying your luck and different methods to see what works and what does ...
Views: 776(1 vote) - Getting Along With Each Other - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn 1998, Richard and I had a marvelous opportunity to sail around the world as the ballroom dance teachers on a cruise ship. Many of the places we saw then, such as Oman, Jordan, Turkey, Morocco, Indonesia and Israel are in turmoil now, and not as safe for tourists. Last year, when ...
Views: 1319(1 vote) - Getting An Ex Back Made Easy With The Right 10 Moves - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2011 from Brenda StewartShe loved you, you loved her. At one time something occurred and because of you or her, your relationship became unbearably so you both decided to put an end to your relationship. But you do not really reconciled to the idea and you are still thinking about her and want her back in your life. ...
Views: 1149(1 vote) - Getting Back Together With Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2010 from Sean FoleyYou have had a fight and quarreled with your ex over something and now you have had a break up..! Was it worth it? You and your partner love each other mad but these quarrels have been getting out of hand and finally the moment came when you called quits. It is only wise that you work on getting ...
Views: 1344(1 vote) - Getting Back Together With Your Ex - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from LaToya CampbellThe first step in making it work again with an ex is to remember and understand the reasons behind your break up in the first place. If you decide to make it work again with your ex, the question would then be if you could get past the reason for the initial break up. Once you’ve made up your ...
Views: 2564(1 vote) - Getting Past Jealousy - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Susan DerryJealousy is simply insecurity in hyperdrive. Feeling jealous means that we have weighed and measured ourself and found ourself wanting. We compare ourself to someone or something else and feel that we are coming up short. With everything that we feel, do or say, we are trying to get our ...
Views: 2121(1 vote) - Getting to the Heart of What Matters in Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2010 from Sandy Brewer, PhDGetting to the Heart of What Matters in Your Life. This is what the Sandy Brewer Show is all about! Experience the powerful voice of Human Behavior and Relationship expert, Sandy Brewer, PhD, as she provides empowering perspectives about life’s everyday challenges. Sandy gets right ...
Views: 2341(1 vote) - Getting Triggered and What You Can Do - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2017 from Darlene LancerGetting your "buttons" pushed or getting "triggered" is an opportunity to heal and grow. The more hurts we've endured and the weaker our boundaries, the more reactive we are to people and events. Our triggers - our buttons - are our wounds. Codependents are off the charts when it comes to ...
Views: 1834(2 votes) - Great Expectations: Unattainable Standards Harm Your Life and Your Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from nancy traversEveryone has expectations. In fact, everyone hopes that they can achieve the best in their endeavors. However, some of us take our expectations too far. Having goals and standards is healthy; they keep us motivated to achieve and pursue our dreams. High standards motivate us to do our best. Some ...
Views: 2739(1 vote) - Grief and Loss of Relationship in Marriage Counseling: Tips to Work Through the Five Stages in the Relationship Breakup. - by Submitted on May 23, 2012 from Jim BowenHaven’t we all felt the pit in our stomach, the disbelief it’s happening, feeling pissed off, calling up to get back together, and the sadness, when we go through the loss of a romantic relationship that we cared a lot about? Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote originally about these stages in terms of ...
Views: 2551(1 vote) - Handling the Green-Eyed Monster - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaI can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Yesterday, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; it is the green-eyed monster" ...
Views: 2209(1 vote) - Happiness: Do Some People Criticise Others When They Are Unhappy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is happy, they can feel the need to share how they feel with others, and this can take place in a number of ways. Perhaps one will be more complimentary than they usually are. It can then be normal for them to say how good someone looks, or they might talk about how they appreciate ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - Happy Valentine's Day from Dr. Romance - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today "This book is all about preparing you -- not just for confident and competent dating -- but for a successful, loving, forever adult relationship. In today's world, most of us need some kind of guidance. If you're conflicted at all about dating...if ...
Views: 732(1 vote) - Has Anger Management Replaced Couples Counseling? - by Submitted on May 31, 2011 from Ari NovickDo Relationships Need Anger Management? As I licensed psychotherapist, I have seen countless of partners in my clinical practice. As an anger management expert, I have seen equally the same number of partners come in for anger management relationship counseling". While doing therapy with ...
Views: 965(1 vote) - Have You Used The Ultimate Virtual Assistant To Find Love and Fulfillment? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneEver since I began seeing my private therapy and coaching clients, over two decades ago, I have been longing to work with a Virtual Assistant. In fact, I wanted this type of personal assistance to help me cope with my family, my relationships, my career path, and even my health many years ...
Views: 2182(1 vote) - Having Successful Relationships! - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2013 from Larry CraneOur emotions and wants in regards to our relationships are indications that we are often not in control. Furthermore, the “I can’t and I won’t” thoughts that are playing in the background keeps us from taking positive action. Each “I can’t or I won’t” thought is actually a limitation. These ...
Views: 1542(2 votes) - He Doesn’t REALLY Want the Perfect Woman - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2021 from Sahib BerwalHe Doesn’t REALLY Want the Perfect Woman He Wants These 3 Things from You Instead… How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want? If you’re like most women, it’s a LOT. You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive. All this time presenting ...
Views: 869(1 vote) - Healing and Transformation through Love - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2010 from Bambi CorsoIn a special room in my house, I have the following saying framed, “Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I need it the most.” I almost cried when I found this piece, knowing that I have been both the one who needed to feel loved, and the one who needed to share love with someone ...
Views: 2874(1 vote) - Healing In Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2024 from Darlene LancerEven before we enter the world, our brains and hormones are wired for connection. Our first relationship begins in our mother’s womb, where we recognize her voice and respond to her moods through hormones and stress responses. Later, her smell and touch become familiar. Affection and responsive ...
Views: 128(1 vote) - Healing Love Addiction: Letting Go Of The Past - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim Hall“It is not where we were that counts, but where we are going” When we first find recovery, some of us feel shame and despair at calling ourselves “addicts”. In the beginning, we may be filled with both fear and hope as we struggle to heal and find new meaning in our lives. The past may ...
Views: 3903(1 vote) - Healing Relationship Trauma - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Karinna Kittles-Karsten‘How do I begin to heal from relationship trauma?’ Well, what I’m about to say to you may seem contradictory but I am going to detail the simplest easiest way to healing yourself from relationship trauma. And that is through the body. Our bodies hold our memories, hold our dramas, hold ...
Views: 1101(1 vote) - Healing the Energy of Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2010 from Ruth WilsonTo heal the energy of your relationship, accept the other person just as they are right now. Update your databanks. A healthy relationship occurs in the present. If you try to relate to an old memory of a person or a fixed idea of how they should be, you are ignoring who they are right ...
Views: 1619(1 vote) - Healthy Finances for Couples – How to Have the Money Talk - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Kathy Jo PollackWant to stay married, talk about money. Creating healthy finances when two people join their lives takes effort. Are you having money talks with your spouse or significant other? Many people will talk about anything before money and yet money is the #1 reason for divorce and the driving force in ...
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