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- ***Awakening Joy - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Karen Mehringer, MASitting at my father’s deathbed, watching every breath, wondering if it would be his last, my family and I were totally present and vigilant. We talked to my father as if he could hear us, attempting to comfort him, although we were really comforting ourselves. Already, he was in another world. ...
Views: 2646(4 votes) - What is a Eulogy? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Bernice McLarenA eulogy is a farewell or memorial speech that gives high praise to a recently deceased person. Spoken publicly at a church, funeral home or even private residence, and sometimes in conjunction with a service, the speech honors, commemorates and even celebrates the deceased's life. Although ...
Views: 2643(1 vote) - Stress and how it affects us! - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Sharon SinclairWhy is stress so personally unique? Why do one person's buttons get pushed when others' aren't? There are no direct connections between the external stressors in day-to-day stressful situations - the boss that upsets you, or the traffic, or the loud noise - and the physiological mechanisms in ...
Views: 2631(2 votes) - "Who Burned My Roles" - Coping with changes after the loss of a spouse - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Mary ZemitesOur roles in life define us. Parent, spouse, student, employee, sibling, and offspring are some examples. Our identity is shaped by these roles. Before my husband's death, my defining roles were mother, wife and caregiver. With three young children and a terminally ill husband, these ...
Views: 2607(1 vote) - Children and Grief: A Story of Trauma, Abuse and Growth - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Beth PattersonIn my work with grieving children and adolescents, it is important for me to keep in mind that the child’s age and stage of development at the time of the loved one’s death will strongly influence the ways in which the child reacts and adapts to the loss. An understanding of the child’s ...
Views: 2598 - Journey Through Grief - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Josephine ForresterI have worked on my grief for 10 years, 10 whole years. That loop of grief would get occasional relief, relief that would sometimes last a few weeks. Some of the edges were smoothed. There was hope that I would be whole again for a bit. I would fall back into that pit of grief every, single time ...
Views: 2595(5 votes) - Moving Out Of Darkness Into The Light - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Donna HaddadThe darkness I refer to is the painful and life-draining wreckage left after the loss of someone or something that is deeply significant to us. The wreckage is all the "what ifs","I wish", "If only","I should have/shouldn't haves" that remains and keeps repeating itself over and over in our ...
Views: 2584(1 vote) - 3 Steps to Shifting Out of Grief - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2012 from Kumari MullinThree months after my beloved Teacher in doggie form, Suki, left her body, I found myself still feeling an enormous ache in my heart whenever I thought of her. I knew enough to realize that how we feel is a choice, usually based on a belief. As a healer and dedicated spiritual practitioner for ...
Views: 2578(2 votes) - HEALING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2010 from Jo Anne MeekinsTHE LOSS • 'God takes good ones' says mom of girl, 15, slain in Queens bus melee A 15-year-old Queens girl was stabbed to death by a man more than twice her age during a wild fight that spun off from a typical New York moment: a clash over line-cutting at a bus stop, police said ...
Views: 2577 - Grief and Loss of Relationship in Marriage Counseling: Tips to Work Through the Five Stages in the Relationship Breakup. - by Submitted on May 23, 2012 from Jim BowenHaven’t we all felt the pit in our stomach, the disbelief it’s happening, feeling pissed off, calling up to get back together, and the sadness, when we go through the loss of a romantic relationship that we cared a lot about? Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote originally about these stages in terms of ...
Views: 2550(1 vote) - Fear of Death: How to Relieve Our Anxiety - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2008 from Lucinda GreySociety is a continuous cycle, our pavements peopled by all age groups. From babies to the elderly, we are all moving through that ever-changing kaleidoscope called life. But, as we grow older, our mindsets change. In youth we understand that people die, but that is something so far off in the ...
Views: 2548 - ***Abundance is Found in Simplicity - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Karen Mehringer, MA“It's the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary.” – Paulo Coelho Camping this summer, my husband, John, and I were reminded how freeing it is to live simply. We had only the bare necessities with us…food, water, our camping gear and clothes. Living in a simple environment, we ...
Views: 2547(11 votes) - 4 Secrets to Accepting Your Own Mortality with Grace - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Anica OaksAccepting your own mortality with grace and dignity can be a difficult process. Many people are left with scant little time to accept their own mortality, and you must prepare as best you can for the inevitable. This article explains four methods that allow you to find peace when you know that ...
Views: 2516 - The Mystery of Emotion - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Sharon SinclairThe Mystery of Emotion Emotion has always been something of a mystery. We have been taught to view emotion as a result of thought, but when we examine it carefully, we begin to suspect that this is not always true, that emotion is not under control of the brain but stands by itself, a factor ...
Views: 2504(1 vote) - Does Love Ever Die? - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Christine AryloHow to feel loved even when a relationship ends 7 days ago I made one of the hardest decisions of my life. A decision made for love, but a choice that really seemed to be set up to take love away from me. 7 days ago, I helped my best friend of 17-years, my heart companion, my soul dog, ...
Views: 2499(1 vote) - Spiritual Growth From Bereavement - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Tabitha JayneCreating or strengthening our spirituality can have untold beneficial effects upon us after loss. By spirituality I do not mean religion. The two are very separate. Religion is based around organised belief by an outside body. Spirituality in contrast, is individual belief created by ...
Views: 2477(2 votes) - ***6 Keys to Re-Awaken Hope after Loss - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Karen Mehringer, MAWhile in the grieving process, it may feel as though hope has abandoned you. Depressed, you question your purpose for living. You ask, “Why did this happen? What is the point of it all?” You may have lost hope for living your dreams or don’t even know what they are anymore. Perhaps your loved ...
Views: 2466(2 votes) - ***Living from the Heart - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2009 from Karen Mehringer, MALiving from the heart, throwing logic and practicality to the wind, and following the voice of love and inspiration takes strength and courage. But, as we break free from the chains of reason to follow our soul’s callings, a universe of possibilities opens up to us. Unforeseen assistance guides ...
Views: 2455(6 votes) - How to Heal a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2012 from Maureen Brennan MercierHow to heal a broken heart is a multifaceted process that takes patience. The first step is to accept that our heart is broken. Whether it is through the death of a loved one, a relationship ending or a betrayal in a close relationship the broken heart will heal when we focus on that ...
Views: 2427 - 4 Ways to Move Forward After a Family Death - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Eileen O'ShanassyDealing with the death of a loved one is one of the hardest things that most people will ever endure. Someone that you love has moved on and you have to deal with the fact that they are gone and the things that come with their loss. Funeral arrangements, estate settlements, and helping other ...
Views: 2421 - Lessons From The Elders - Wisdom, Experience and Understanding - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2010 from Lilian EDEN* EdenSome of you know that I am a Medium and have helped many people who have lost loved ones to 'death'. That is, I 'speak with others' who have passed on. It's not my intent to speak about those who have passed on nor impart any information from this perspective. I do what I do, and people find ...
Views: 2416 - ***Grief and Restlessness - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2009 from John AOVGrief and loss can manifest in many different ways. Your world is different now. You may not be sure what to do next. You may feel very hesitant and unsure of yourself and your ability to make decisions. These feelings may lead to figeting and restlessness. You may have difficulty sleeping as a ...
Views: 2407 - When Someone You Love Loses a Loved One - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAn Open Letter: With the AIG debacle looming, and bank bail-outs sending cortisol racing through the system of most Americans, the whole issue of loss and disappointment is ‘up’ in pretty big ways. The truth of the matter, however, was brought home this past week with the sudden death of ...
Views: 2406 - ***Creating Room for Grief - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2012 from Karen Mehringer, MAThe grieving process is natural. Similar to the cycles of the seasons or the ebb and flood of the tides…it is not linear and straightforward, but it comes and goes. At times we may feel good about life…inspired, energized and in our passion. At others we may feel sad, fatigued and depressed. ...
Views: 2382(1 vote) - Irishman Walking (Stage 2 Chapter 3) - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2013 from Michael Denis CrosseyIrishman Walking is about my walking the coastal roads of Japan through a series of summer, winter, spring, and autumn stages. Stage 2 began in the city of Noshiro, Akita Prefecture in the winter of 2009, and ended in Tsuruoka City, Yamagata four weeks later in January 2010. Last summer (2012), ...
Views: 2369 - Down Time: Dealing With Unemployment Depression - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2010 from Robert ShindellYou just lost your job and your world has literally crumbled down around you. What's that smoldering over in the corner? Oh, just your dreams. Right next to the pile of rubble that used to be your retirement. Yeah, losing your job can certainly have an effect on the horizon of your life. But ...
Views: 2350 - Helping Children Cope With Illness and Death of Loved One - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Judy WrightChildren who have been allowed to participate in the care of loved one, including hospice care at end of life, are better prepared later in life when losses of any kind occur. Loss of a Pet For many children the first death they may witness or participate in, is the death of a pet. When I ...
Views: 2345(3 votes) - Healing Grief Through Spiritual Mediumship - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2008 from Samara AnjelaeGrief is a universal and common reaction to the lost of a love one. Losing a parent, spouse, friend, child or pet can be devastating. In current times more and more bereaved individuals and families are utilizing spiritual mediumship via a medium as an effective way to help their grief and come ...
Views: 2326 - Supporting a Friend Who is Grieving an Infant Death - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraA miscarriage or a death of an infant is very sad. And though receiving condolences and support is so significant to the grieving process, most of the time it is difficult to know what not to say at all. Oftentimes, these worries keep people from supporting friends and reaching out to our loved ...
Views: 2324 - Dealing with Grief and Loss - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Grace AbonilloWe can never escape death. It is inevitable and yet when a loved one or a close friend died we suffered a great range of emotions. We desperately try to avoid the hurt, the pain, anxiety and feelings of helplessness we feel when we lost a loved one. Then we feel like life has gone back to ...
Views: 2303(3 votes) - Brief Grief - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2007 from Paul RiekerReducing grief to the shortest period of time. This NEW description of grief is created to cause the possibility of change, in the shortest time, perhaps within 30 days. Grief is: An Initial Sensitizing Event (the death event or a prior death event) The continuance of Ruminating ...
Views: 2301 - ***Emerging From a Cocoon - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2011 from Karen Mehringer, MADiscouraged, I thought, “I wish I could afford to go to therapy.” The grief over my last miscarriage and my pet’s illnesses weighed heavy on me. Further, for the past nine years, I had experienced one early pregnancy loss after another. Tired of leaning on my husband and friends for support, I ...
Views: 2291(1 vote) - Should We Grieve? - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from James EinertShould we grieve? The Bible says we should cry at birth and rejoice at death. So should we grieve? Webster’s Dictionary gives grief the following definition, “Deep and poignant distress caused by or as by bereavement.” It also calls it suffering. So should we grieve? First, let me say I ...
Views: 2286 - Is My Child Too Young for Counseling? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2010 from Peggy Ann Serena Hemmer"Is My Child Too Young for Counseling"? Children, like any of us, have troubles and worries. Sometimes their troubles and worries are bigger than they know how to express or manage. A child may have experienced separation or divorce of their parents, the loss of a loved one or even ...
Views: 2283(1 vote) - A Hypnotherapist's Casebook. - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Brian GreenThese articles were published as a column in “L. A. Health” under the title, “A Hypnotherapist’s Casebook.” No. 1. Hypnotherapy for healing. A little over six years ago I was between jobs. I had ...
Views: 2266(3 votes) - Taken Too Soon - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2010 from Kristen BakerTaken Too Soon Kristen L. Baker, M.L.C.,M.S.L.C.,Wellness Coach Monday morning, the sun is glistening and the smell in the air is one that you would bottle up. The crisp brief smell of spring just seems to make everything better. As we drive to Boston Children’s Hospital for yet another ...
Views: 2251(1 vote) - Grief - by First let me take this opportunity to thank you all for taking an interest in learning about grief, a topic I believe more people need to understand as it is a fact that all of us will experience grief sometime in our lives.
I would like to tell you how I came to learn about grief first hand, ...
Views: 2246 - Anticipating grief - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2007 from Cheryline LawsonAnticipating grief is never an easy thing. The thought that our loved one is going to die is not a consoling fact. Anticipatory grief is period during which a patient or family member expects to die. Anticipatory grief is quite similar to the after effects of losing a loved one. The emotions are ...
Views: 2245 - Be Prepared for Tragedy With Appropriate Sympathy Words - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Karen E GrishamSympathy words, comforting and personalized, make your expressions of support to the bereaved meaningful and supportive. In a situation of bereavement, it is important to have more to say than worn out clichés. Now you can choose from a variety of sympathy quotes, phrases and other ideas to ...
Views: 2243 - 7 Steps For Coping With Loss - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Kimberley CohenIn one way or another we have all experienced some form of loss in our lives. It could be the passing away of a person or pet, losing a job and/or material possessions, a relationship or friendship ending, the loss of a body part, hair, eye sight or hearing etc,. No matter what type of ...
Views: 2240 - ***The Heart Rock Story - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Karen Mehringer, MACruising on I-90 form Washington back to Colorado, John and I are ready for rest after eight hours of driving. We stop at a campground with easy access to the freeway, just outside of Missoula, Montana. Fortunately, the campground is practically empty. We set up camp among tall ponderosa pines ...
Views: 2228(1 vote) - The Grieving of America - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2012 from Sherry O'BrianThe Grieving of America We plan our lives according to a dream that came to us in childhood, and we find that life alters our plans. —Ben Oki We have seen and heard of job losses within our economy. As a result, individuals have lost their homes, status/lifestyle, dreams, and ...
Views: 2226 - ***Navigating Grief - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Karen Mehringer, MAGrief is a mysterious creature. It lurks unnoticed in the dark corners of our hearts only to be un-leashed by the simplest of provocations…listening to a song, looking at a picture, watching a movie, a brief thought or memory flashes through our minds reminding us of our loss. All of a sudden, a ...
Views: 2218(3 votes) - The Pain of Letting Go - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2009 from Jo-Anne CutlerEvery month, when I go to write my newsletter, I don’t have a plan necessarily…I just see what transpires in my life around that time and, without fail; there is an event or theme that presents itself. As my daughter lay sleeping this morning in my bed, having curled up there for the second ...
Views: 2218(2 votes) - Chaos Theory demonstrates a larger pattern in life - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Tamara ThomasI don’t believe in coincidences. Whether part of some “divine plan” or a science deeper than we currently understand, I think everything happens for a reason. I see it as a philosophical version of Chaos Theory (http://www.imho.com/grae/chaos/chaos.htm); in my thinking, there is a pattern, a ...
Views: 2215(3 votes) - Isolation: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one will want to spend time by themselves and there will be times when they want to be around others. This is not to say that one will spend the same amount of time with others as they will by themselves; as it is not black and white. How one spends their time will ...
Views: 2208 - ***Grief as Transformation - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2008 from Robin KThe life cycle of the butterfly speaks volumes about the process of grief. The life of the butterfly begins inside a cocoon, hanging inconspicuously from the limb of a tree. Silently, but deliberately the transformation begins. Anyone looking from below would have no idea what is going on ...
Views: 2207(1 vote) - Memorial Stories and Poems - "A Sister's Farewell" - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2014 from Ken MatthiesA SISTER’S FAREWELL (When Last We Said Goodbye) “You hugged and held me close, and then looked deeply into my face. I remember that look in your eyes, Sis…” I finally fell asleep last night With that image before my face, The depth of the look you gave me then Eclipsed all of Man as a ...
Views: 2205 - Let Go, Move On, Be Happy - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2012 from Debbie LaChusaI’ve lost many things in my life. Jobs. Grandparents. Pets. Money. A house. A business. Even my identity at one point. I’ve watched my parents lose their parents, my husband lose his father, my daughter lose teenage friends. I’ve seen that in the moment these losses feel insurmountable. ...
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