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“Calm down” have you ever heard someone tell someone to “Calm down”. We need to calm ourselves down when we are in a stressful situation and we are feeling helpless, out of control, and our mind is hitting us with a preponderance of negative thoughts. What if this happens? or What if that ... Views: 1344
It happened without your noticing. “Yes!” slipped out of your mouth, even though you felt your shoulders rise, your stomach clench and your heart start beating a little faster. You feel resentment creeping into you as you leave the conversation.
“Dammit! I caved again.”
It’s a double ... Views: 1344
There is much written about the importance of being positive. The idea that if you view life through an optimistic lens, not only are things more likely to turn out well, but you will feel better anyway. The 'glass half full' mentality does serve people well. In contrast, it is equally clear ... Views: 1344
What Do You Have Faith In?
Self confidence can be a transient experience that can depend on the balance between successes and failures or even our core beliefs about ourselves. For example; we may not believe that we deserve success, or that we are destined to be failures. But is there such a ... Views: 1344
I hope you’re sitting down while you read this – because I have some really mind-blowing information to cover today!
Did you know that every person in the world has the ability to become psychic? It’s true! You may not think it’s within your power, but trust me it truly ... Views: 1344
Everyone wants to become more confident but for some reason most people waste their efforts in incorrect directions and as a result they never manage to increase their self confidence levels.
The main difference between those who manage to build self confidence and those who waste their time ... Views: 1344
There are lots of advantages to a child having a healthy level of self-esteem, not only now in the moment but also as they grow up.
They are generally happier and more confident in themselves. And several studies have shown that they are less dependent on continual approval from others and ... Views: 1343
The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those people, events and experiences that match your state of being. If you focus on having gratitude for the love, companionship and joy you have in your life right NOW, you will attract more of that into your life. If you focus on what ... Views: 1343
It is not uncommon for people to have emotional problems in today’s world, and if someone doesn’t have them, then there is the chance that they have had them in the past. Therefore, if one doesn’t have them and they haven’t had them in the past, they could be seen as the exception.
But ... Views: 1342
Have you ever worked in a corporate setting where you just did not fit in at the office? Did you feel that when ever you contributed to the conversation in meetings that your co-workers believed that you did not add any value? These are some negative environmental factors at the office that can ... Views: 1342
While there are going to be managers out there who employ the people who are the best candidates; there are going to be others who have a different approach. As a result of this, there is a strong chance that they will be employing people for the wrong reasons.
An Analogy
Let’s say that ... Views: 1342
There seems to be a myth amongst women in particular, that caring for yourself, by which I mean consistently taking time to attend to your own needs so that you stay energised and feeling good most of the time, is somehow selfish. But let’s just take a moment to examine the implications of ... Views: 1342
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am writing because I am surrounded by negative people and thoughts, including my family. I have no support structure. I hide from neighbors so people won't ask questions. During the day I am on the computer being as proactive as I can.
My question is I ... Views: 1341
If someone is going through a challenging time in their life, they may hope that that this will soon change. What this could show is that one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go, or there might be a number of areas that are like this.
Another Factor
In addition ... Views: 1341
Working on building a positive self esteem is a life long task, no-one has a completely positive self esteem, nor negative. as long as our relationship with ourself lasts, so our self-esteem it will evolve and change. It changes in relationship to life events and hormones as well as an ongoing ... Views: 1341
I knew I had to change my lesson plan aggressively when one of my students came screaming into the room, frantically stating that he would kill the person who had raped his mother the night before. Other young boys quickly chimed in, also exclaiming that they would kill the drug dealer who had ... Views: 1341
Marianne Williamson’s “Our Greatest Fear” provides this powerful reminder:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, ... Views: 1340
When it comes to being there for others, there are some people who can’t help but extend themselves. It might not matter what is taking place in their life, as they can be happy to put it to one side.
What someone else is going thorough is going to be seen as something that is far more ... Views: 1340
It's a new morning. The alarm goes off and we lurch into consciousness. Outside our window the birds are chirping, proudly announcing their presence to the world. What do you do? Do you hit the snooze and pull the covers over your head secretly dreading the day stretching ahead, anxiously ... Views: 1339
When one comes across as having a caring manner, they can be seen as someone who is good to be around. The people who spend time around them are likely to appreciate how they respond to their worries and concerns.
There can also be how they respond in their chosen career, and this could mean ... Views: 1339
Actively participate in your healing. Below is an exercise for you to recite aloud and/or record on audio in your own voice. Listen to it daily as you also read along with the recording. This will help clear you of self-limiting beliefs and replace them with thoughts that support growth and ... Views: 1338
We all have people in our lives that have a tendency to drain our emotional energy. It may be a family member, a child, our boss or a friend.
What I have come to understand is that everyone wants to be loved. People do not come into our lives purposefully to drain us emotionally. We allow ... Views: 1337
EFT is a very powerful technique. It takes people from a place of Small or Medium self-love to a Large self-love, or as it is usually measured, from a 2-6 on a scale of 0-10 to a 9 or a 10. So it often seems such a shame when I meet someone new to tapping that only loves themselves maybe a 1 or ... Views: 1336
What makes people different? Some people can get straight up in the morning and are ready to take on the world. Others have to force themselves to get up as they barely can stomach the thought of having to do anything with their day.
The difference is self-esteem. Its those who took the time ... Views: 1336
My recently turned 18 year old son passed his driving test on his first attempt back in July this year, 2015. Let me tell you the responsibilities for me in the year leading up to this event were not my favourite. Now as the mother and sole parent, I know I have many roles to play and many ... Views: 1335
It has been said that one of our greatest needs is to be seen who we really are, and what this shows is that we are not here to hide. Therefore, when it is not possible for someone to fulfil this need, it is going to cause them to suffer.
Part of Life
There are going to be people who are ... Views: 1334
Pack up those limiting beliefs and move into your comfort zone
What a great feeling it is to toss that last moving box into the driveway, walk back into your new place, and realize that you have created “Home.” This is where you come after a long day, where your routines are established, ... Views: 1334
“You know what you gotta do when life gets you down? Just keep swimming”
-Dory, Finding Nemo
In life, it is inevitable that we encounter bumps in the road. Most of the crowning achievements known to man came to fruition through persistence and determination. It is always those who ... Views: 1333
As a psychologist who is also a professional speaker I am often asked by people how to gain in confidence so they can get up on stage and easily share their gifts and passions. What I have always found is that the way you talk reflects your personality and displays the amount of confidence you ... Views: 1333
A controversy has developed about what is known as "feel-good" self-esteem. At the heart of the controversy is the assertion that making oneself or someone else feel "special" by using methods such as looking in the mirror and saying "I am somebody," doesn't do any good, and may do harm. One ... Views: 1333
There was a moment in the beginning of 2013, when I didn’t know why something was taking place. I had been in relationship for a few months and I didn’t completely understand why the woman I was with was behaving in a certain way.
I had the need to find out about what might be going on, ... Views: 1331
I was a bit emotional today. My son was scheduled for his 15-month check up tomorrow. His pediatrician calls, and I miss it. I return the call, and luckily I do, because she tells me my son is no longer covered by his insurance. What? I am shocked. As I dial the number to his insurance, I can ... Views: 1331
The worst thing in the world is to compare yourself to someone else. Why? Simple. You cannot compare how you are feeling on the inside to how you perceive another person to look on the outside. It is just not a like for like comparison.
The moment you compare yourself to another you are going ... Views: 1330
Confidence and self belief allow you to do more of what you want to do. Are you content with every aspect of your life? Is there a part of your life which you would like to change over or to improve upon? Many people suffer from negative effects carried forwards from past experiences which ... Views: 1329
A Critical Piece Of The Puzzle
I normally don't recommend taking the fast and easy way to any achievement, especially in the area of self change and personal development. But skills like meditation and visualization and affirmations can take awhile to develop and perfect, and when it comes to ... Views: 1329
The moment people see you, they begin to make decisions or judgments about you. Those decisions or judgments are reinforced or questioned the moment you open your mouth to speak.
You may have invested a lot on personal effectiveness training, management training, and leadership training. You ... Views: 1329
Many athletes I work with on a daily basis hold themselves back with a comfort zone. A comfort zone is a mental barrier that limits what you think you are capable of accomplishing and is really hard to shake.
A comfort zone is a problem whenever an athlete is playing better than expected or is ... Views: 1329
What is the one thing you can never have too much of? Yes, you guessed it. Confidence.
As a child, most of us learn confidence from our parents or sports heroes. Unfortunately, not all of us receive the kind of encouragement and support we need from our parents while growing up. In such a ... Views: 1328
Eye Contact is one of the ruling factors of any speech or presentation. This is because more than 50% of the information we all assimilate is Visual, it is absolutely critical that one acquires and develops the skill to use Eye Contact as one of the major tools in our presentation or speech, ... Views: 1328
A study on luck in the 1990s by Richard Wiseman, a psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire, who later published a book on the topic, discovered that lucky people practised four basic principles.
He said lucky people are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities; make lucky ... Views: 1327
When it comes to how one sees themselves, it could be said that the ideal will be for them to have a positive self-image. If this is in place, it is naturally going to be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves.
Another Experience
Yet, although this is going to be the ideal, ... Views: 1327
I am going to be pretty straight with you about this one.
I am all about those happy, positive vibes! I repel negativity and personally consider it a sin. Who has time for the sad, lost and the unhappy, when there is a life full of amazing possibilities and exciting opportunities waiting to ... Views: 1327
What comes into your head when you hear the word "beauty"? Hold your thoughts, feelings and images and let me try something. From here on in, do me a favour and FORGET EVERYTHING that you currently know or have been taught about beauty. FORGET that you should be a certain size. Forget that you ... Views: 1326
A few years ago, I had a dream about someone I haven’t met yet. In the dream, he and I shared a look that required no words to convey the depth of our love for each other and our acceptance of the other. We shared a soulful connection that took my breath away, a connection that was so powerful ... Views: 1326
On one hand, there is what one says and, on the other, there is what they actually do. Now, while it is easy for one to say something, it is not as easy for them to actually do what they say.
It is for this reason that it is often said that actions speak louder than words, and this is then ... Views: 1326
Check out the 5 methods - which might improve your self-esteem
Self-esteem consists of numerous different aspects: one person's feel of self-esteem is based on what he is able to do and think, while the other person is certain of his social skills and the ability to get along with all kinds ... Views: 1326
Where do you place your trust when you take a leap of faith?
I was driving today and a song came on the radio about a boy who could fly because he didn’t know he couldn’t. It went something like this:
Spread your arms
Hold your breath
And remember to trust your cape.
What is it you ... Views: 1326
Do you know your desires (impulse of thoughts) can determine your destiny? Before you continue reading this article - think about it. What is it that you desire? What goals or dreams do you wish to achieve in life? Well, do you talk about your desire; have you visualized yourself with it? ... Views: 1325
It seems a minority of people feel genuinely at home in their skin, know who they are and how to go after what they want, and live as their authentic selves. Why is this?
Let’s look at where things go off track for the others. We have a perplexing set-up as human beings: We come into our ... Views: 1325
The last few hours have been so much fun! Two girlfriends have been out for the afternoon; it has been filled with shopping and laughter. Now, sitting across a table from her best friend at their favorite restaurant, June makes an unconscious gesture that sabotages her friend’s goal. Her friend ... Views: 1325