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- Becoming a Black Belt in Business - Salesmanship and the Tenants of Tae Kwon Do - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2010 from Michael GarzaWhat can a sales person, marketer or business person learn from the martial arts? The answer: A lot! There are five tenants that make up the core of Tae Kwon Do. These tenants are: -Courtesy -Integrity -Perseverance -Self Control -Indomitable Spirit This article is the first in a ...
Views: 1284(3 votes) - Are you Living la Vida Loca? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2010 from Joan Marie WhelanRicky Martin is famous for singing about it; but how many of you are living it? The “crazy life,” that is. Do you wake up every morning with a sense of direction and focus? Do you know what you want today so that you can have it tomorrow and in the future? Are you ...
Views: 2573(2 votes) - Fear does not have to be frightening! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from David ThompsonThere are as many fears as there are people in the world. Fear of flying, fear of driving, fear of dogs, fear of cats and even a fear of styrofoam! Fear is an emotion which discourages, hinders or stops us from living victorious lives! That is it's only purpose. Every fear wears a mask. It does ...
Views: 2053(7 votes) - How to Refuse A Loan Request from a Friend - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2009 from Bette Lawrence-WaterHave you have ever loaned money to a friend or family member when you really didn’t want to because you felt you had to? Then, here is some timely advice for you: Never feel that you must surrender when it comes to making a decision about whether or not to loan your money. There are ways for ...
Views: 7554(5 votes) - Get Your Views Across Confidently and Clearly - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Bette Lawrence-WaterThis article provides tips on effectively expressing your views. Doing so will vitally improve your ability to enjoy satisfying relationships with others. These simple strategies will help you to express your ideas confidently and purposefully. You will also gain the respect of others ...
Views: 2644(3 votes) - Ask Questions - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2009 from Steve TothAs a radio show host on my shows, I’ve learned to ask questions and discover the magnificence of whom my guests are. When creating a radio show that provides a platform for my niche and to help those who are interested in what I have to offer. I’ve also discovered two ways to accomplish ...
Views: 1603(5 votes) - Women Supervising Men - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2009 from Holly True VerretIf you are in a supervisory role at work and you have men in your department it is important to learn how to communicate with them. It is widely known that men and women communicate differently and a woman supervisor who understands this and works towards communicating more effectively will get ...
Views: 4913(4 votes) - Confidence is not found in the Coffee Pot at Work - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2009 from Holly True VerretHave you ever drunk a strong cup of coffee and felt energized and ready to tackle any project? The feeling is exhilarating! I remember the first time I had a triple latte from Starbucks. Though I didn’t like the heart palpitations I did enjoy feeling alert and invigorated! I had a meeting to ...
Views: 1474(4 votes) - Self-Confidence is the Key to Performing in Difficult Times - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2009 from Eric StoneContext and Premise: Self-confidence has long been thought of as an important determinant of performance, aliveness, and fulfillment. Self-confidence for the most part is viewed as a feeling. Inner strength comes to mind or a person's belief that he or she can succeed. This generates feelings of ...
Views: 1516(5 votes) - Lessons for Life - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2010 from Lisa PhillipsI thought I would share with you some insights and life lessons which have been useful for me on my own journey. I hope you enjoy them and find them useful. 1) Handle your ‘ due diligence’ Have you noticed that in life, there will always be people who lie, cheat, abuse, manipulate and ...
Views: 1815(4 votes) - Setting Boundaries - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsHave you ever walked away from a person, event or situation and felt resentful or violated? If some of your experiences are making you uncomfortable, then it may be time to set some boundaries. Setting good boundaries is healthy. It is not rude, bad or wrong. It is not bad or rude or wrong! ...
Views: 2860(6 votes) - Battling the Bully - Standing Up for Yourself with Confidence and Assertiveness - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Sharon MikrutWhen I was young, there was a girl who was a year younger and a foot taller than me. She bullied me for approximately two years. One day something inside of me snapped; I decided I wasn’t going to take her abuse any longer and stood up to her. Unfortunately, our confrontation ended in a fight, ...
Views: 3809(3 votes) - ***Actress Emily Blunt - A Power of Intention Master - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteActress Emily Blunt walked into her audition and firmly announced "I'm here to play Queen Victoria and I'm not leaving until you give me the job". She then focused and commanded every scrap of energy and talent within her to deliver her best performance possible and did not leave that audition ...
Views: 1705(4 votes) - Your Own Personal Bill of Rights - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsWhat do you think you are worth? Do you think you deserve to be treated fairly? Do you believe that other people deserve to be treated better than you do? Actually…………….We all possess the same basic rights! Many people seem to have forgotten or may have never been told that these basic ...
Views: 13790(6 votes) - Has Anger Become an Issue or Have We Lost the Concept of Respect for Others? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Carl Nielson“Does Serena Williams, Kenye West and Rep. Wilson demonstrate the need for anger management or is it something else?” America is exploding with public displays of person-directed anger in sports, entertainment and politics. While anger is a normal human emotion, the displays of verbal ...
Views: 2000(4 votes) - Dare To Ask - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2009 from Frank AginIt’s a common daydream. You, alone, against incredible odds, land a key client. Or perhaps your idea helps your employer become substantially more profitable. Or perhaps you and your business are profiled in Inc., Fortune or The Wall Street Journal. But it is not wishful thinking that these ...
Views: 1432(2 votes) - Who needs more action? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Frank O'TooleTake action in your sales Wouldn’t we all love a bit more action! If you are working in sales, sales requires movement, sales requires action. You need to get commitment and get action from your prospective clients and act yourself too. You need to do this in a planned time frame. Recently on ...
Views: 1309(3 votes) - Intuition -- Survival Signals - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2009 from Sherry McGregorIntuition -- Survival Signals Intuition: direct perception of truth, fact, independent of any reasoning process; or immediate apprehension, a keen quick insight. In our western society intuition has many times gotten a bad rap. Talked about in a negative way mainly referring to "women's ...
Views: 2386(3 votes) - What is an Advocacy Coach - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Davida ShenskyAdvocacy Coach is a term that we have not heard much, but this is a very important role that someone plays in the life of the disability community. Before the laws few people acknowledged that there is a disability community. Today, we're still on the outskirts looking in. People with ...
Views: 1829(3 votes) - Stop Apologizing - Start Living - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsStop Apologizing and Start Living. That's right. I have recently become aware of an interesting phenomenon - many of us apologize all the time. It might be an apology where you actually say "I'm Sorry", but it might be much more subtle. It is a way that we silently apologize for who we are, as ...
Views: 5117(5 votes) - The Art of Asking Questions - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Karen ReismanOne of my beloved uncles just passed away. I asked my cousin-in-law, “How’s Beth coping with the loss of her dad?” He replied, “She’s doing fine. She’s already gone through the grieving process.” Later I asked Beth directly, “How are you coping with your loss?” She sighed, “I haven’t ...
Views: 1400(5 votes) - How to Become More Assertive - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from Ashley AylingBeing assertive does not mean you are learning to become aggressive, loud or a bully. It is all about helping you to stand up to people who are like this. It's not a matter of trying to dominate others. It is a matter of resisting those who are out to dominate and manipulate you. It is all about ...
Views: 3879(1 vote) - The Actor Metaphor: The Confidence of Knowing Who You Are by Eric Stone - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2009 from Eric StoneHuman beings organize their behavior as a function of the milieu they are in or think they are in. Seldom, do we realize that it is the milieu that controls our behavior patterns, not the behavior itself. Our overall demeanor at a bar is different than at work, at home with our children or while ...
Views: 4154(2 votes) - Continuing Professional Development (CPD) - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from Michael LemonCPD as it is called or “continuing professional development” to give the full title is an ‘option’ whereby professionals from many walks of life carry out a range of additional learning to maintain and develop their careers. Knowledge expands over time and there may be better ways of doing ...
Views: 2309 - "NO!" is a Complete Sentence - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Elizabeth ManuelDuring my years of coaching, I find that most women are afraid to say NO! This stems from a deep belief of not “enoughness”. I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy enough, I don’t do enough, I’m not important enough, I’m not… you get the idea. All of this leads to increased stress, over ...
Views: 2888(1 vote) - Sticky Situations with Clients - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Joan CurtisA customer breaks his word, chews out someone on your staff or keeps calling you in the middle of the night. What do you do? Do you shrug it off, remembering the customer is always right? When looking at sticky situations with clients, we sometimes decide to put our heads in the sand. Maybe ...
Views: 1902(4 votes) - Oh, I Know That Ain’t Mine! - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Layne SchmidtHave you ever wanted someone to be different so that you could feel better? When a boss is impatient, a lover unkind or a salesperson is rude – do you find yourself retreating into a bad mood as a result of their words or attitude or can you navigate those situations and stay happy? Most of ...
Views: 1560(2 votes) - Assertive Supervisors Get the Job Done - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2009 from Holly True VerretMany employees complain about the way their supervisors communicate. There are two extremes I hear about constantly. One extreme is a supervisor who is overbearing and makes unrealistic demands of their staff and the other extreme is a supervisor who is inactive and doesn’t know how to take ...
Views: 5120(4 votes) - Go Ahead, Be Assertive! - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraI have a friend who is a Life Coach by profession and he found out that many people are willing and ready to accept the cost of their being unhappy and dissatisfied rather than to stand up and speak for themselves. One way of saying this is, “I know I am not happy with something and I know I’ve ...
Views: 1736(1 vote) - Family Dynamics of Addiction and Recovery: 14 Enabling Behaviors to Quit Now - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Peggy FergusonFamily members, in their attempts to solve the problem of a loved one's addiction, try every thing they can think of, to turn the addict's life back around. They usually identify the problem incorrectly for a long time before it becomes obvious to them that addiction is the real problem. ...
Views: 4394(2 votes) - ***How the Soft-Spoken Are Judged - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Nancy DanielsIf you are soft-spoken, how do you think others judge you? Do you think they regard you as being confident, assertive, and self-assured? If you are concerned about the image you project, then your soft-spoken voice is definitely not projecting those qualities. Instead, your lack of volume is ...
Views: 23172(2 votes) - “Water Cooler” Conversations That Promote Success - by Submitted on May 06, 2009 from Holly True VerretHave you ever walked away from a conversation with a co-worker that left you feeling anxious or upset? Do you ever find yourself in a conversation with co-workers where everyone is complaining, but you don’t know how to exit the conversation or how to turn it into a positive one? Do you find ...
Views: 3037(1 vote) - Assertive Communication and How to Use It - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from GARTH DELIKANOver the ensuing months we are going to cover in detail all the nuances of what I call “Assertive Communication” or being able to communicate in a much more positive and effective manner with the people In your life, whether it be work colleagues, including management, your friends, or just ...
Views: 2253(3 votes) - TRAPPED BETWEEN AN ANXIETY ROCK WHEN YOU SAY “YES” AND A GUILTY HARD PLACE WHEN YOU SAY “NO”? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Dr. Jane BoltonA few months ago, I received an email with a quotation from The Invitation, by visionary author, Oriah Mountain Dreamer: “It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. . . .I want to know if you can ...
Views: 2249 - When We Need to Say "No" - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Uzi WeingartenThere are times we find ourselves in the unpleasant situation of needing to refuse a request. We explain the reasons for why we can’t do it, and still the person making the request is angry and upset with us. The least effective thing to do in such a situation is to get into an argument. Such ...
Views: 1307(2 votes) - Managing Anger by Understanding the Different Ways People Express Anger - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Mike PowersAnger is a normal part of life. However, if it gets out of control, it can really damage your family, your work, the people around you, and your lifestyle. If you are easily irritated and get angry over minor problems, it is important to learn how to curb the excessive energy that this emotion ...
Views: 6536 - If Being Assertive is So Good, Why Do I Feel So Bad Asserting Myself? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2009 from Lorna BlakeOne of my family members recently emailed me to ask me this question. It's a question I've been asked many times over the years. It's usually asked by people who are just beginning to assert themselves. My family member provided the details of her particular dilemma. She is having a ...
Views: 9927(2 votes) - Train Yourself to Be Assertive - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2009 from Eric GarnerAssertiveness training is a way to re-programme the Adult persona that in our childhood and perhaps for much of our lives gives us a false idea of who we are and can become. In particular, it re-programmes our tendency to seek blame - of others or ourselves - when things don't quite go the way ...
Views: 4412(2 votes) - Managing Anger Using Assertiveness Skills - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2009 from Mike PowersAnger is a natural emotion, but often times, people don't express anger. Anger has a way of expressing itself on its own. Letting anger express itself like this is unhealthy and can have negative consequences. A person who lets his anger express out of control will tell you how draining it is ...
Views: 5929 - Using Assertiveness Skills to Get the Promotion You Deserve - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2009 from Mike PowersThere will be times in your life when you will work really hard and give all there is to give on a job or project, yet still be overlooked for that promotion. There are many instances wherein people are appropriate for a promotion, but fail to get recognized by their boss, superior, or ...
Views: 3498 - Small Email Etiquette Leads to Success - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2009 from Helen AvaientToday I have a request for everyone reading this. It is about something that truly irritates me. So, in the keeping of “ask for what you want”, I am asking my request today. I do feel that etiquette is missing from a lot of areas in our lives today. It may seem old fashioned to some ...
Views: 1761(1 vote) - Learn To Say No and Build Your Inner Strength - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2009 from Mercedes Oestermann van EssenMuch has been talked about the power of saying yes and your ability to be open to new thinking. This is all well and good, but the universe acts like a bourse of exchange. In order to receive you must also be able to let go. Letting go is a challenge and very few of us rise to it. Particularly ...
Views: 3146 - Personal Success Tips - Wu-Wei Techniques (Verbal Kung-Fu) - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonThe Wu Wei principle is to yield to an oncoming force in such a way as to render it harmless and at the same time, change its direction by pushing it from behind instead of resisting it from the front. When there is a conflict between two or more people, conditioned response is to cope by ...
Views: 4503 - Why Do Bullies Bully? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2008 from William CottringerWhy Do Bullies Bully? by Bill Cottringer “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” ~Benjamin Disraeli. I am beginning to think that a very widespread problem today, especially with youth, is the problem of perceiving you are being bullied (by life, parents, teachers, peers, employers, ...
Views: 10654(1 vote) - How To Become More Assertive And Confident - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2017 from Rick SaldanOne of the biggest confusions which rest in most peoples’ minds is that they can not understand the fine line of difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness. According to my experience, assertiveness comes from supreme self-confidence, knowledge about the subject and overall ...One of ...
Views: 14435(6 votes) - The Myth Of What We Manage - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2008 from Bryan HeathmanPerhaps it is merely semantics, but an underlying problem I find that people have as it relates to the success in their life lies in a proper understanding of what exactly it is that we manage. Think about it. We have time management (In fact I have a seminar on this very topic, some of which is ...
Views: 1466 - Dare To Dream - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Bryan Heathman"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat." Teddy Roosevelt Do you remember when ...
Views: 1467(1 vote) - Attitude Adjustments - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Ian GlickmanAttitude might not exactly be everything when dealing with conflict management, but it sure plays a big part. The most productive attitude in addressing disputes, especially in the initial stages, is one of letting go of resentment toward the other party. Regardless of what events have ...
Views: 1086 - Set Healthy Boundaries - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2008 from Helene RothschildDo you allow others to do and say things to you that do not feel good? Would you like to establish new patterns to deal with the problem? Everyone needs to set healthy boundaries. This is a gift to others and you. By allowing people to act in ways that are not appropriate, you actually hurt ...
Views: 3183 - Search Frontier Give Us New Web Analytics Service - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2008 from derek ruanRecently, I¡¯m finding a Internet marketing company,because I want my company¡¯s website doing some search engine marketing solutions.When I search on the internet I found out a company --Search Frontier. Search Frontier not only provides search engine marketing services but also can provides ...
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