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- Relationships: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attach To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might soon stand out, if someone were to step back and reflect, is that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. This could be something that has happened so often that they question if they want to be with another person. But, as fed up as they can be, ...
Views: 215 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Be Unable To Accept That Their Partner Is Unavailable? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could be in a relationship with someone who is not available. So, they might not be able to emotionally connect with them and they might not spend much time with them either. Assuming that this is the case, they will be emotionally out of reach, and at times, ...
Views: 204 - Needs: Why Would A Parent Cause Their Child To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this. If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care ...
Views: 211 - Mother Wounds: Can A Mothers Depriving Childhood Cause Her To Reject Her Child? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be here and deserves to exist, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. They can have this sense that they don’t have the right to be here and to exist. Along with this, they can feel deeply worthless and unlovable. If this is so, they are not going to ...
Views: 210 - Mother Wounds: Did An Abusive Mothers Childhood Cause Her To See Her Child As A Burden? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to look back at their early years, what might stand out is that this wasn’t a time when they were generally loved and cherished. Instead, they could see that this was a time when they were typically treated like they were nothing. This can be how their mother and perhaps ...
Views: 244 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Be Attracted To Men Who Are Unavailable If She Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may find, if she was to take a step back and reflect on her life, is that she continually attracts men who are not available. This could be something that has taken place for as long as she can remember. At this point in time, she could have had enough of experiencing life in ...
Views: 204 - Sleep Problems: Why Would Someone Have Trouble Sleeping? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have difficulty falling asleep. Furthermore, they could know at least one person who has the same challenge. And, even if there isn’t anyone in their life who has spoken about this, it doesn’t mean that there is not someone in their life who is in ...
Views: 216 - True Self: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need To Express Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how someone typically behaves, it can be as though they are wearing a straight jacket and don’t have a voice. The reason for this is that it can be normal for them to go along with what others want and not to speak up when they need to. They are then going to be an individual, who ...
Views: 236 - Mother Wounds: Did An Abusive Mothers Childhood Stop Her From Being Able To Love? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, they may have had a mother who wasn’t very warm and was often very cruel. She would then have been their mother but based on how she often behaved, it would have been as though she was their enemy. Thanks to what they went through throughout this key stage of ...
Views: 208 - Empty: Can Someone Feel Empty If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on the feelings that they experience, what could soon stand out is that they often have moments when they feel as though something is missing. They will then look whole and complete but they will seldom feel whole and complete. By having this ...
Views: 196 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Desire To Love If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to only have the desire to share his body with a woman, nothing more nothing less. Then again, he might have the need to share his mind with her, but that could be about it. Either way, this is likely to mean that he will only have casual encounters and will, ...
Views: 178 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Have Had A Mother Who Wasn’t Nurturing? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may have come to realise, as the years have passed, is that his mother wasn’t very warm when he was growing up. She would then have been his mother but she wouldn’t have been very motherly. However, he could wonder why it has taken him so long to see his mother clearly. For most of ...
Views: 212 - Stability: Can Someone Have A Strong Need For Stability If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can live a life that seldom if ever changes. So, they might have lived in the same area, had the same job, and had the same friends for most of their life. Therefore, their life will be very stable and very predictable. However, although this will be so, this is likely to ...
Views: 195 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Drawn To Women Who Are Unavailable If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can have the desire to be with a woman who is available, he might not believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he may have been with a number of women who were not available. In fact, he might have only been with women who were not available. Thanks to the ...
Views: 187 - Repressed Pain: Can Someone Feel Like They Have Regressed When They Reconnect To Their Repressed Pain? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was greatly deprived during their formative years, they are likely to be carrying a lot of pain and a number of unmet developmental needs. This is, of course, assuming that they haven’t started to work through any of this pain. The reason for this is that missing out on the love ...
Views: 236 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Addicted To Porn? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where practically his whole life revolves around his mother, it is likely to show that he doesn’t feel comfortable with his own needs. Along with this, he is unlikely to even be in touch with his own needs. Therefore, he will be out of balance but he won’t realise ...
Views: 202 - Therapy: Can Someone Be Looking For A Mother/Father Figure When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter not being in a good way for however long, someone could come to the conclusion that they need help. Due to this, they could end up looking for a therapist locally or online. They might not care about whether they work with a man or a woman, or they could have a preference. Assuming ...
Views: 201 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Put Women On A Pedestal If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though women are imperfect human beings, not gods, it doesn’t mean that a man will realise this. In general, he could have the tendency to treat women as though they are from another realm. Or to be more accurate, this can be how he often treats the women that he is attracted to and ...
Views: 195 - Child Abuse: Why Wouldn’t An Abusive Parent Be Able To Acknowledge The Hurt That They Caused? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone is going to carry, if they were mistreated during their early years, is a lot of hurt. To handle what was going on, this hurt would have had to be pushed out of their conscious awareness and stored deep in their brain and body. If this hadn’t taken place, they might ...
Views: 207 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Have A Strong Need To Be Protected If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were abusive. However, although she would have felt deeply unsafe around them as time passed, she probably felt radically different around them at the beginning. If this is the case, she would have felt safe when she was first ...
Views: 195 - Mother Wounds: Can A Woman Reject Her Feminine Side If She Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a man won’t just have a masculine element, a woman also won’t just have a feminine element. Just as with a man then, her appearance will be an expression of one element but when it comes to her inner world, she will contain both elements. Nonetheless, although this will ...
Views: 218 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Be Enmeshed To Her Father If She Attracts Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been with a number of men who were focused on their mother and, thus, were unavailable, she is likely to question if this area of her life will ever change. But, if she has been in this position on more than one occasion, this is to be expected. What could make this even harder ...
Views: 190 - Father Wounds: Can A Mother Use Her Sons Father To Emasculate Him? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in touch with his power, he will be able to be assertive, take action, and to stand up for himself. This will show that he has a strong connection with his body as this is where his power will be found. Of course, his mind will provide him with a certain level of power but the ...
Views: 243 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Hate Men If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman hates men, this can be something that is very much part of her personality or it might not be. When it comes to the former, she could spend a lot of time thinking about how bad men are and having numerous conversations with other women about it. This could go even further, though, ...
Views: 210 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That Women Are A Threat To His Survival If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man wants to develop a loving and harmonious relationship with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to make much progress. He could be in a position where he hasn’t been able to find a woman who is suitable. Alternatively, he might have dated at least one woman but for ...
Views: 221 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Their Head If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can live in a building that has many levels and spend most of their time on the top floor, they can also inhabit a body and spend most of their time up top. As a result of this, they will generally be unaware of what is taking place in their body. The outcome of ...
Views: 242 - Mother Wounds: Can A Mother Emasculate Her Son If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about how his mother treated him during his formative years, he could be filled with gratitude. The reason for this is that this is likely to have been a time when he was loved and cherished by her. However, if another man was to think about how his mother treated him ...
Views: 220 - Emotional Regulation: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Regulate Their Emotions If They Are Out Of Control? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could see, if they were to reflect on their life, is that their inability to handle their emotions is having a negative on their life. They could also see that this is nothing new as they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might not need to ...
Views: 207 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Blame Their Child For What Their Abusive Parent Did To Them? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could struggle to get their head around, if they were abused as a child, is why their parent treated them in this way. The person who was supposed to love and cherish them wouldn’t have done so. If they had been harmed by someone at school or a stranger, for instance, it would ...
Views: 238 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Use Him To Meet Some Her Unmet Developmental Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is overly focused on his mother and is not there for himself, it will be clear that something is not right. This is based on the fact that he is not on this earth to be an extension of anyone else – he is here to live his own life. So, as this is not taking ...
Views: 220 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Man Still Be Enmeshed With His Mother If He Doesn’t Speak To Her? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about a mother-enmeshed man, what is likely to come to mind is a man who is overly focused on his mother. This will make complete sense as if he is entangled with her, his life is surely going to revolve around her. Based on this, if a man doesn’t speak to his mother ...
Views: 194 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved Causing Her To End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman is likely to be aware of, if she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is not available, is that a number of her needs are not being met. In fact, she could struggle to think of one need that is being met. But, as he will rarely be around and when he is around he ...
Views: 212 - Child Abuse: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When A Parent Abuses Their Child? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could find it hard to get their head around what happened. But, as their own parent or parents will have been the ones who didn’t treat them well, this is not going to be much of a surprise. This person ...
Views: 215 - Self-Love: Can Someone Love Themselves Conditionally If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they are often hard on themselves. They are then only going to be kind and loving to themselves from time to time. What this is likely to show is that they only feel comfortable being nurturing towards ...
Views: 199 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can Repression Stop A Woman From Being Able To See Why She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is not available, and she has been in this position before, she could be well and truly fed up. But, as this won’t be the first time that she has been in this position, it is to be expected. There will be the type of man that ...
Views: 206 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To See Mother-Enmeshed Men As Symbolic Representations Of What She Needs To Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman can be with a man who is anything but available. Yet, even though he is this way now, he might not have been this way at the beginning and may have created the impression that he was available. Due to how much time he spends doing things for his mother, he may have very ...
Views: 178 - Needs: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Needs If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being who has needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are completely independent and don’t have any needs. However, this doesn’t mean that they will be consciously denying their true nature. ...
Views: 210 - Emotional Collapse: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be In An Emotionally Collapsed State? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to reflect on how they typically feel, they could find that they often feel helpless and hopeless. By being this way, they are likely to spend a lot of time feeling down and even depressed. After this, they could think about why they are this way and what could enter their ...
Views: 196 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel ignored and even invisible. This can be how they feel when they are with family friends and at work. Instead of being a human being that can be seen and heard, then, it will often be as ...
Views: 205 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Facing Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother and he is neglecting himself but he is unable to accept this, it is not going to be possible for him to change his life. His life will continue to go in the same direction and he will suffer as a result. Now, while he could ...
Views: 193 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Explore Her Unconscious Mind If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were too focused on their mothers. There is even the chance that she is currently with a man who is like this. Assuming that she is currently single and not with a man who is like this, she could be well and truly fed up when it ...
Views: 225 - Imagination: Why Would Someone Have The Tendency To Imagine ‘Negative’ Scenarios? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to observe their thoughts for a little while, they can find that they often think about bad things happening in the future. Consequently, they are likely to experience a fair amount of fear and anxiety. And, if they were to talk to a friend about what is going on for them, they ...
Views: 213 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Try To Make Cold Women Warm If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who lacked warmth. Thanks to the experiences that he has had, he could believe that all women are the same. What this is likely to show is that his brain has taken the experiences that he had with however many women and attributed ...
Views: 204 - Mother Wounds: Can Women Take On A Symbolic Meaning If A Man Had A Mother Who Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man can be in a position where he more or less goes from one woman to another. When it comes to how long he spends with each woman, it can depend on a number of factors. His time with a woman can then last a number of weeks or months. But, no matter how long it lasts, ...
Views: 212 - Vulnerability: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable If They Had A High Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not a superhero who is unable to be affected by life, they can come across as though this is the case. As a result of this, it can be as though they are unaffected by life. They are then not going to have moments when they come across as hurt, sad or down, for instance. ...
Views: 210 - Early Attachment: What Can Happen If Someone Was Unable To Attach To Their Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone was born, it simply wasn’t possible for them to break away from their mother after a number of weeks had passed and to live their own life. Unlike a rabbit, for instance, they needed to be able to attach to their mother, receive the right attunement and love and gradually develop a ...
Views: 228 - Disconnected: Can Someone Only Listen To Their Needs When They Are Ill If They Are In A Disconnected State? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has needs that they need to pay attention to in order to live a fulfilling life, they can overlook a number of their needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of a number of their needs. Therefore, they won’t be consciously choosing to be this way; it will just be what is ...
Views: 220 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attempt Suicide? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be doing fine or at the very least, not in a bad way mentally and emotionally. But, beyond the impression that they typically create around others, can be someone who is not in a good way. Consequently, it won’t be possible for them to receive the ...
Views: 217 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Emotionally Insecure To Take Responsibility For How They Behaved? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to speak to the parent or parents who harmed them. But, if they have this need and take the next step, it doesn’t mean that they will get very far. Assuming it was one parent who ...
Views: 226 - Relationships: Can Relationships Take On A Symbolic Meaning If Someone Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on the relationships that they have been in, they could experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. As opposed to this being a time when they will feel good, then, it will be a time when they feel bad. Then again, they might be able to remember some good ...
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