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- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Abandoned If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a man may have been in a relationship that seemed to be going well and then, out of nowhere, it came to an end. As a result of this, he could be in a pretty bad way and find it hard to function. When he is not feeling low and flat, he could be filled with a deep sense of sadness and ...
Views: 254 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Feel Emotionally Empty If He Is Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to experience a breakup, he might end up feeling very low and as though he is missing something. Due to this, it might not be long until he is having casual encounters with one or a number of women. Then again, and even if he was to have casual encounters with one woman, he might ...
Views: 224 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That His Needs Are A Burden If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with all of his needs. So, when it comes to his basic needs, such as his need to eat and sleep, he could be fine. But, when it comes to his emotional needs, such as his need to be seen and ...
Views: 226 - Inner Critic: Can Someone Have A Critical Inner Voice If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to record how they talk to themselves and then play it back through speakers, they could find that they are typically not very kind to themselves. By having externalised what is going on for them internally, it will have been easier for them to see what is going ...
Views: 229 - Shadow Side: Does Someone Incarnate With A Shadow Side? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those who had a childhood that was very nurturing and then there are those that didn’t. Along with this, there are those that had a childhood that was in the middle; neither very nurturing nor overly depriving. When it comes to someone who had a very loving childhood, it can seem as ...
Views: 240 - False Self: Why Would A Man Have The Need To Come Across As Extremely Masculine? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man comes across, he might appear to have more in common with a superhero than a human being. The reason for this is that he might not just be somewhat masculine, he could be exceptionally masculine. Due to this, it might not matter where he is or who he is with, as he could ...
Views: 207 - Disconnected: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their True Self? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they are going to be an embodied human being. That is, of course, unless their time in their mother’s womb and their birth was not traumatic. By receiving the right attunement and care throughout this time, their connection to themselves will be supported and ...
Views: 248 - Grieving: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Being Able To Embrace Life? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperExperiencing loss is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will grieve after they have experienced a loss. As a result of this, they can do their best to carry on as normal. Still, this is not to say that they will consciously avoid how they feel as this can be ...
Views: 206 - Happiness: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Being Happy If They Grew Up With A Depressed Parent? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels happy, they could soon feel uncomfortable and their inner state could change thereafter. This could be something that is the rule as opposed to the exception. But, if this is something that is normal, it might not be something that stands out. As a result of this, they are ...
Views: 238 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at a distance. He could find that this is something that typically just happens, without him consciously choosing to be this way. This can mean he has been single for most of his life and has ...
Views: 198 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Oppressive Environment? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may see that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. As a result, they are going to spend a lot of time in a disconnected state. Not being in tune with this part of them is going to undermine them. This is ...
Views: 225 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carrying Underdeveloped Parts Inside His Consciousness? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is unable to see that he is out of balance by putting his mother’s needs first, there might be people in his life that are able to see clearly. So, he could have at least one friend and/or perhaps a family member who is aware of what is going on. This person could struggle to ...
Views: 207 - Boundaries: Can Someone Lack Boundaries If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual, with their own needs and feelings, it is not going to be possible for them to always say yes and to do what another person wants or suggests. If they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. However, while they will need to say no at ...
Views: 212 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Focus On A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Avoid Herself? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could have spent a fair amount of time trying to understand why he is the way that he is. This could be something that has been going on for a number of weeks, months or even years. Throughout this ...
Views: 224 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Understand The Law Of Resonance If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been in a number of relationships where the man was overly focused on his mother’s needs, she could be ready to turn her back on this area of her life. She might believe that it is better for her to stay single. She is simply not going to want to be with another man who is like ...
Views: 210 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Meet Their ‘Shadow?’ - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has met another person who they are attracted to and is getting to know them, they can have only good things to say about them. Not only this, but they can want to spend a lot of time with them. If they take the next step and end up in a relationship with them, they can end up ...
Views: 213 - Inner Darkness: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Darkness If They Have The Need To Be Positive All The Time? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to self-development, a lot is often said about the importance of being positive. The impact that this will have on how someone feels, their relationships and their ability to attain what they desire is typically mentioned. With this in mind, if someone is into self-development, ...
Views: 216 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As A Threat To His Survival If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man has the desire to connect with and develop a deeper connection with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to achieve this aim. So, if he has been able to connect with at least one woman, he might not have been able to take things further. Then again, he might not have ...
Views: 227 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Woman Be Able To Accept That She Doesn’t Randomly End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperTo have been with one man who was overly focused on his mother would have been a lot to deal with, and, therefore, if a woman has been with a number of men who were like this, it is not going to be a surprise if she is well and truly fed up. For however long, she will have wanted to be with a ...
Views: 234 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause A Man To Be Addicted To Porn? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be in a position where practically his whole life revolves around viewing porn. Therefore, if he is not working or spending time with friends, for instance, he could be viewing it. Then again, there could be moments when he views it when he is at work. If ...
Views: 253 - OnlyFans: Why Would A Man Be Drawn To OnlyFans? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to a platform that offers a ‘virtual girlfriend experience’, a man can receive far more than he did in the past. Before this platform was available, he would have been able to view pictures and videos of a woman but that would have been about it. Now, by paying a certain fee to a ...
Views: 416 - Critical Thinking: Are Some Men’s Lives Being Ruined By OnlyFans? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years now, it has been relatively easy for a man to access adult content. The only thing that he has needed is a device and an internet connection, with this giving him the ability to view an endless amount of pictures and videos. In recent years, however, a man can not only ...
Views: 206 - Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Falling Apart If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how someone typically comes across, they can appear to be a together human being. However, beyond the impression that they create can be someone who doesn’t have firm foundations. Thanks to how they live their life, though this could be something that they are not fully aware of. ...
Views: 226 - Relationships: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Bond With Others If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it means that they are not their own island. As a result of this, they are not on this earth to do everything by themselves and to always be in their company. Likewise, they are also not here to look towards others to do everything for them and to ...
Views: 249 - Personal Power: Can A Man Reject His Power If He Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be walked over by others and to do what other people want. He is then not going to stand up for himself and he will act as though he is an extension of others. As a result of this, he is likely to often be in a very low place and experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 226 - Learned Helplessness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Helpless? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. So, just about every area of it might not be going how they would like it to go. Now, this might be something that has been at the back of their mind for quite ...
Views: 218 - Mother Wounds: Can A Fear Of Abandonment Cause A Man To Be A ‘Nice Guy’ Around Women? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is around a woman, he could typically lose himself. In other words, he won’t be in touch with and express his true self; no, he will end up putting on an act. As a result of this, he can be easy-going, needless and have a strong need to please. By being this way, it is likely to be ...
Views: 217 - Mother Wounds: Can A Fear Of Abandonment Cause A Man To Be A ‘Nice Guy’? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could be easy-going, needless and do his best to please others. He is then rarely if ever going to assert himself, express his needs or disagree with what another person says. But, although how he comes across won’t be a reflection of who he really is; he could believe that ...
Views: 238 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have Sex To Try To Be Loved If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperA man could be in a position where he is only interested in having sex with women. What this then means is that he won’t be interested in having a relationship with a woman. And, if he ever dates a woman, most of the time that he spends with her could involve him having sex. When this doesn’t ...
Views: 223 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear Being Abandoned If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is in a good position financially, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel settled. They can often feel anxious and as though something bad is about to happen. Now, irrespective if they are in a good position financially, if they were to take a closer look at why they ...
Views: 376 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Is Betraying His Ex If He Moves On? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a man is no longer in a relationship, he will be free to meet other women and take things further. However, although this will be so, it doesn’t mean that he will allow himself to do this. In general, he could keep his distance from women and not go anywhere where he is likely to ...
Views: 433 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Alone? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to spend time by themselves, is that they feel deeply alone. This is then not going to be a time when they are able to enjoy their own company; it will be a time when they have a strong need to be around another or others. However, while this is something ...
Views: 235 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lose The Ability To Maintain An Erection When He Is In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a relationship, a man might not have any issues when it comes to having sex. But, as time passes, this might not be the case. Then again, before he gets to the point where he is in a relationship with a woman and has just started seeing her, this could be something that is ...
Views: 223 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes that they are unlovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, it is still going to have a big impact on their life. So, a lot of their time and energy could be spent doing things to make ...
Views: 231 - Early Deprivation: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Realise That They Were Deprived If Their Parents Were Physically Available? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone was deprived of the emotional nutrients that they needed during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this now that they are an adult. If they were to think about their early years, they could believe that this stage of their life was fine. For ...
Views: 268 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Attract Mother-Enmeshed Men If She Has An Underdeveloped Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could be pretty fed up and feel drained. There can be a number of reasons as to why she is this way. First, there will be the fact she is sharing him with his mother, and, second, she is likely to be the one ...
Views: 261 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Become Who His Mother Wanted Him To Be? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is going to be like her servant. As opposed to being a separate being who has his own needs and feelings, he will be nothing more than an extension of her. This is likely to mean that he will typically come across as ...
Views: 392 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Guilty For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he might soon see that he is overly focused on his mother. This could be something that he has been forced to do after having experienced a breakup. As a result of being in a relationship, then, what had not stood out before would have ended ...
Views: 376 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Invisible If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will exist and, thus, will be able to be seen and heard by others, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel seen and heard. If they were to think about how they generally experience life, it could be as if they are not real. When they are around others, then, it could ...
Views: 237 - Critical Thinking: Is Focusing On The Darkness ‘Out There’ Distracting Humanity From Their Own Inner Darkness? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of whether someone pays attention to the mainstream media or the alternative media, they are going to be aware of things that are taking place in the world that are bad. Perhaps the main difference, if they pay attention to the latter, is that they can be aware of things that are ...
Views: 245 - Depression: Why Would Someone Be Depressed Even Though They Have A Good Life? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could find it hard to understand why they are experiencing life in a certain way. Based on the life that they lead, they can believe that they shouldn’t be the way that they are. The reason for this is that their life could be good in so many ways and yet they ...
Views: 258 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Narcissistic If They Grew Up With A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could do their best to not stand out, to not need much and to be there for others. This can mean that they will often monitor themselves to make sure that they are behaving in the right way. Due to being this way, it is likely to mean that they won’t receive a great deal ...
Views: 262 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Have A Narcissistic Defence? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, after taking a closer look at their early years, is that they were not treated very well by one of their parents. After coming to see this, they could have the need to talk to them about what happened. This might then be a time when this parent is able to truly be there ...
Views: 268 - Existence: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Guilty For Existing? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Instead, they can feel as though they don’t deserve to be here. If this is so, it won’t be seen as something that they merely believe; it will be seen as the truth. It ...
Views: 207 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Try To Rescue A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may see that he is being used by his mother. This is because he could spend a lot of time doing things for her and she could act as though he is responsible for her. To make matters worse, he might not realise that he is overly focused on his ...
Views: 245 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Hide His Feelings If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he typically behaves, he could see that he has the tendency to hide how he feels. As a result of this, most if not all of the people in his life are not going to know what is really going on for him. This is going to mean that he will keep a ...
Views: 261 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Unconsciously Tying To Be Loved By Her Parent If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, what might soon come to mind is that this is not the first time that she has been in this position. She might see that her previous partner was the same. That might be as far as it will go, or she could see that this is something ...
Views: 275 - Self-Expression: Can Someone Have A Fear Expressing Themselves If They Were Abandoned As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of acting like an individual, it can be normal for someone to typically act like they are an extension of others. Therefore, when it comes to how they behave, it can all depend on who they are with. Consequently, they are rarely going to freely express themselves and this is likely to ...
Views: 211 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unsafe Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may find it hard to feel at ease when he is around women. Due to this, he could often act in a very submissive and easy-going manner when he is around them. What this will mean is that who he is will rarely if ever show up when he is in the company of a woman. Instead, a ...
Views: 256 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Someone Be Unaffected By Experiences If They Are Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they will have had many different experiences since they were a child. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will feel a lot different. However, if they are not in tune with how they feel, this is not going to be something that will stand ...
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