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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Help A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might stand out, if a woman has been with a man for a little while, is that he is overly focused on his mother. She can find it strange that he is so caught up with her and unable to live his own life. However, she can believe that she has what it takes to gradually pull him out of his ...
Views: 201 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do. During these moments, they will need to make this clear. If this wasn’t the case, there would be no reason for them to say no to another person. ...
Views: 204 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Masculinity Been Knocked Out Of Him? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother and he neglects himself, it will be clear that he needs to start implementing boundaries. This is the only way that he will be able to reclaim himself. Until this takes place, he will continue to turn his back on himself and ...
Views: 199 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is unable to live his own life, due to how focused he is on his mother, it can appear as though she is the main problem. It might even seem as though the only way that he will be free is if his mother passes on. This is something that a woman could say as a result of how caught up ...
Views: 187 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Selfish For Putting Himself First? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should be normal is for a man to be there for himself and take care of his own needs. By being this way, he will be able to live a life that is worth living. However, while putting himself first should be normal, this could be something that rarely takes place. Instead, he can typically ...
Views: 222 - People Pleasing: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be A People Pleaser? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might stand out is that they have the tendency to put other people’s needs first. They may see that this takes place without them even thinking about it. Naturally, the outcome of this is that they will also have the tendency ...
Views: 191 - Yellowstone: Does Jimmy Go Through An Initiation On Yellowstone? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the previous articles that I have written about Yellowstone, I haven’t mentioned Jimmy. However, in the beginning, Jimmy works on the ranch and lives in the bunkhouse, but, as time passes, he ends up going to the 6666 ranch to learn how to be a cowboy. Now, moving from one ranch to another ...
Views: 243 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man And His Mother Have In Common? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on and doing things for his mother, his own life is going to be neglected. What this comes down to is that he only has so much time and energy. It would be different if he could be fully focused on himself and his mother but ...
Views: 179 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Believe That They Are Worthless If they Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing. Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it ...
Views: 199 - Child Abuse: Did A Highly Critical Parent Externalise Their Inner Critic? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing. Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it ...
Views: 238 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman’s Unmet Development Needs Stop Her From Being Able To See A Man Clearly? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman meets a man who she is attracted to and takes things further with him, she is likely to have a positive view of him. For example, she can see him as a man who is loving, kind, and protective. Due to this, when she thinks about him and is with him, she can feel loved, valued, ...
Views: 223 - Self-Rejection: Can Someone Reject Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has turned their back on themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if another person were to observe how they behave for a little while, they might soon realise what is going on. At this point, it can seem strange as to how another person ...
Views: 193 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Earn The Right To Exist If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend most of their time doing things. Therefore, they will rarely if ever take the time to relax and recharge. But, if this was pointed out to them, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to accept this. For example, they could say that life is too short ...
Views: 343 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman See A Mother-Enmeshed Man As The Problem? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is out of reach emotionally, she is likely to wonder why she is even with him. Ultimately, he won’t have much time for her and even when he is around, he is unlikely to be very present. Based on how he behaves, it will be clear ...
Views: 248 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Disconnected From Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man can be out of touch with how he feels and a number of his needs. He is then going to look like a whole human being, but he typically won’t operate like one. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for him to ignore how he feels and overlook a number of his needs. But, ...
Views: 216 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For A Father Figure If His Father Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man’s childhood will be behind him, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be anchored to this stage of his life. The reason for this is that this might have been a time when he missed out on what he needed from his father ...
Views: 223 - Emotional Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, is that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. They could find that, in general, they are not aware of how they feel. This is likely to show that they spend most of their life living in ...
Views: 175 - Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to ignore a number of their needs and to focus on others. But, if this is just what is normal, it might not be something that they are consciously aware of. Consequently, they will be neglecting themselves but this is not going to be something that will stand ...
Views: 189 - Early Deprivation: Does Someone Need To See Their Depriving Parents Clearly If They Feel Worthless And Unlovable? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone feels worthless and unlovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, if this is not something that they are aware of, what is going on for them is still going to have an impact on their life. It is likely to influence how they perceive reality, how ...
Views: 346 - Early Deprivation: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations. One of the reasons that is put forward is that, by having them, they are likely to end up being let down. However, even if someone is able to arrive at a place where they no longer expect anything, it doesn’t mean that they won’t ...
Views: 333 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Waiting For His Fathers Support? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother’s life and is ignoring his own, it will be clear, at least to some people, that something is not right. Of course, he is not here to be an extension of his mother; he is here to express himself and live a fulfilling life. This is not to say that he can’t be ...
Views: 198 - Heart-Centred: Does Someone Need To Open Their Heart If It Is Closed? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living a fulfilling life, one thing that is often mentioned is having an open heart. Or, perhaps to be more accurate, this is what is often mentioned in the world of self-development and spirituality. What this typically relates to is someone being connected to how they feel ...
Views: 217 - Relationships: Can Someone Get Over Their Ex By Sleeping With Other People? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just broken up with their partner, they can be in a bad way. They might have been with them for a number of months or years but, no matter how long it was, they won’t just be able to carry on with their life. Yet, as this person will have been a big part of their life and now ...
Views: 184 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man’s Unmet Development Needs Stop Him From Being Able To See A Woman Clearly? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man not only meets a woman who he is attracted to but starts dating her, he can believe that his view of her is accurate. However, as time passes, he can find that she is nothing like how he thought she was in the beginning. Due to this, he can come to the conclusion that he was ...
Views: 182 - Mindset: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A ‘Negative' Mindset? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they don’t have a very ‘positive’ view of themselves. So, they can believe that no one likes them, are worthless, are a burden, are unlovable and are incapable, for instance. What could enter their mind ...
Views: 191 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Being Selfish If She Leaves A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a woman may have been with a man who is unable to be there for her. This can be because he is too focused on taking care of his mother’s needs and doesn’t have much time or energy left for anyone else. As a result, this is not going to be a relationship that is having ...
Views: 222 - Critical Thinking: What Causes The Us Vs Them Mentality? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone is watching the news or browsing a social media site, they can hear about how a certain country is a problem. Alternatively, they could hear about how people who belong to a certain group are a problem. Then again, they could hear about both of these things. Either way, this ...
Views: 178 - Emotional Eating: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Engage In Emotional Eating? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to eat when they are emotionally unsettled. This can be something that takes place every now and then. Alternatively, this could take place a few times a week or it might be more often. ...
Views: 206 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Struggle To Make A Mother-Enmeshed Man Available? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, he is not going to have much time for her. And, when she is with him, he could generally be mentally somewhere else and emotionally out of reach. She is then not going to feel seen and heard, valued and loved, and that she is with ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Different If He Dates A Woman Who Belongs To A Different Racial Group? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, someone left a comment on a video that I had made about a mother-enmeshed man. They essentially asked me if a man in this position would be different if he dated a woman who was from a different racial group. This was not something that I had been asked before and I thought ...
Views: 205 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Wasn’t Seen During Their Formative Years? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone didn’t have at least one parent who was able to see them as a separate individual who had their own needs and feelings, and generally attuned to them and met their needs, they might not be aware of this. Now that they are an adult, they might not be able to remember a great deal about ...
Views: 195 - Self-Knowledge: Does The Past Only Exist In Someone’s Mind? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the self-development world, it is often said that the past only exists in someone’s mind. Therefore, if they often think about what they have been through and this is causing them to suffer, they just need to change what is taking place in this part of them. Now, what can’t be denied is ...
Views: 172 - Critical Thinking: Has Humanity Been Deceived Into Believing That They Are Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperMost likely, someone will live in a society that is built on the view that they, along with their fellow citizens, are passive observers of what takes place externally. What is going on inside them, then, won’t influence what is going on outside them. Thus, unlike the few that have power, ...
Views: 193 - Self-knowledge: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To The Darkness That Is ‘Out There’? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time looking into what the elites are doing. In their eyes, these can be seen as the people who are creating most if not all of the problems in the world. If so, this is likely to mean that they will watch a lot of videos and read a lot of ...
Views: 217 - Self-Punishment: Is Kayce From Yellowstone Punishing Himself? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the article that I wrote about Yellowstone titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I briefly spoke about John’s youngest son, Kayce. I said that he was a loose cannon, and, in addition to the drama in his life, he was inches away from being killed or ending up ...
Views: 234 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Depriving Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of how many years have passed since a man was a boy, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. This might not be something that he is aware of, though. If someone who understood the impact that early deprivation can have on someone was to take a ...
Views: 189 - Past Life: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Caught Up In Their Past Lives? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, someone may have been looking into the different past lives that they have had. They might resonate with one life more than the others or they could feel equally connected to all of them. Furthermore, in each life that they have been able to remember, they might have ...
Views: 226 - Emasculation: Has Jamie From Yellowstone Been Emasculated? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSo, shortly after I had written the previous article about Yellowstone, titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I thought about how I had more to say. In this article, I spoke about how Jamie, John’s second youngest son, is very sensible and reserved and how ...
Views: 231 - Enmeshment: Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was on a plane at the end of last year, I started watching a few episodes of a series called Yellowstone. I think I may have heard about it before or I might have just been curious about it after I saw the cover and read the description. Anyway, I was soon engrossed in the series and I ...
Views: 209 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause A Woman To Sexualise Herself? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a woman to wear very revealing clothes, and it might not matter where she is. Now, she could have a figure that not only makes her desirable to a lot of men but a lot of women could both appreciate and want to have the same figure. This might be a figure that she was ...
Views: 197 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Realise That She Lives In A Mirror If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a woman to have been with one man who was caught up in his mother’s world would have been tough, but, to have been with a number of men who were like this will have been even worse. Assuming that she has been in this position more than once, she might have decided to turn her back on this ...
Views: 395 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Live In Hope? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that, when it comes to the areas of their life that are not going well, they hope that things will change. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are not ...
Views: 193 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Some Women As Sexual Objects If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man sees a woman to who he is attracted, it might not typically occur to him that she is a human being who has her own needs, feelings, hopes, fears and insecurities, for instance. Instead, she can purely be seen as an object that can satisfy his sexual needs. There is the chance that, ...
Views: 195 - Meaning: Can Someone’s Life Lack Meaning If They Are Out Of Touch With How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could simply go through the motions in life and perhaps often wonder why they are even alive. During the week, then, they could wake up, get ready for work and then head to work. Once they are there, they could perform one or a number of tasks, with it being as though they ...
Views: 331 - Embodied Awareness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose The Ability To Experience Embodied Awareness? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has a mental, emotional and physical self, they might typically only be aware of the thoughts that are in their head. In fact, they might even see themselves as a being that is purely mental. This is going to mean that they won’t have a good connection with their body. By ...
Views: 223 - Father Wounds: Why Would A Man Believe That He Is Being Controlled By The Matrix? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man believes that both he and others are being controlled by something ‘out there’, he is unlikely to be short of support. In his eyes, then, there could be a group of people who operate behind the scenes who are controlling most of humanity. This could just be something that he shares ...
Views: 205 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Trying To Earn Love Is She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman could feel very frustrated and angry, and be deeply deprived. This could show that she is in a relationship with a man who is rarely physically available, and, when he is, he is typically somewhere else emotionally. The reason for this is that he can generally be focused on ...
Views: 195 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Don’t Matter If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. But, if this is so, they might not believe that they deserve to experience life differently. They could believe that it doesn’t matter what their needs are or ...
Views: 202 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Look Into The Law Of Resonance If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother’s needs and were not available, a woman could believe that she is unlucky. This can partly be because of how different she is likely to be from these men. Unlike these men, she is unlikely to be focused on one of ...
Views: 208 - Early Deprivation: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was deprived during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. However, while what took place will be in the past, the impact that it had on them is likely to ...
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