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- Women Complain, Men Leave - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou’re rolling your cart down the supermarket aisle, when you bump into (literally), your friend whom you haven’t seen in – well, awhile. She asks “Where’s your husband?” and you say “Oh, I dunno – probably doing something around the house.” Your friend laughs and says “Well, I knew it couldn’t ...
Views: 1529(1 vote) - I Should Have Married A Mind Reader! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou barely make it through the door after a particularly “challenging” (oh how you hate that word) day at work, when your spouse thrusts the baby into your arms, aims the three year old in your general direction and cries on his or her way out the door, “Hon, you take them, I gotta go chill.” ...
Views: 1355 - Collateral Benefits: Be Good to Your Mate; It’s Good for Your Health! - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou’re in the middle of a screaming yelling fight with your mate. You can feel your heart racing, your blood pressure rising, and after the fight, even though you smoothed things out, your stomach is still a mess. You think “I can’t do this anymore. This is just not good for me!” Or it’s that ...
Views: 923 - Stake Your Love Claim on Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou stand in the doorway, hands on hips, staring at your husband excitedly playing some stupid game involving shooting up a bunch of aliens or colored balls or who knows what this time. “Honey!” you say, straining to be heard above the over-indulged sound effects blaring out of his computer. ...
Views: 896 - Waste Not, Want Not - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou look ahead to the New Year, and you’re scared. There, you’ve said it. It’s out in the open, you’re scared. Your situation has never looked this bleak. Sure, you still have your job, but in this economy, for how long? Raises and promotions are out of the question (forget about a bonus) and ...
Views: 829 - Peace On Earth - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2008 from Noelle NelsonPeace on Earth, goodwill toward men (well, everybody). It doesn’t matter what faith or denomination you espouse, Peace on Earth is the dominant theme of the season. Peace is a state of harmony among people, freedom from strife, a feeling of serenity and tranquility. Peace. How ...
Views: 862 - Poor Befellows - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2008 from Noelle NelsonThe kids are in their rooms, asleep or getting ready for bed, the house is quiet but for the drone of the TV in the den, you’re enjoying the calm at the end of the day as you finish the dinner dishes. Your husband walks in, clearly aggravated: “How are we supposed to pay for all this?” he asks, ...
Views: 1078 - “I Gotta” Or “I Wanna”? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Noelle NelsonYou’re up at 6:00 a.m. to feed the dog, water the plants, get the kids up, fed and out, yourself showered, prepped and ready, zooming out the door for another day of hassle, deadlines, demanding bosses/clients/customers, too much to do in too little time, and the refrain that reverberates ...
Views: 897 - The Joy (?!) Of Family Life - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2008 from Noelle NelsonYour house is a zoo – literally. It’s not just the dog, the cat, the three hamsters and the goldfish, heck, they’re downright neat compared to the human animals inhabiting your humble abode – three kids and a mate. You come home at night and all you see is mess, mess, mess. Everywhere clothes ...
Views: 958 - The Drama Of Change - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2008 from Noelle NelsonYou just got used to the upgraded software your company insisted all departments use even though there was absolutely nothing wrong with the old software when--ding! New email, new directive--time to jettison the upgraded software in favor of a completely new system you have to learn from ...
Views: 833 - It's My Way Or I'm Out Of The Sleigh! - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2007 from Noelle NelsonAh, the holidays! Such a wonderful time of good cheer, peace among men, women, children and relatives--you wish! You planned ahead this year--none of that last second holiday rush for you. You requested Friday afternoon off months ago so you could attend your eight-year-old’s stellar debut as a ...
Views: 798 - Selling Yourself Short - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2007 from Noelle NelsonYou gaze at the pair of ridiculously expensive shoes you long after with unmitigated lust. . . . which will never be satisfied you sigh, for nowhere in your paycheck is there room for such luxuries. Payless will just have to do. You look at happy couples walking down the street, hand in hand. ...
Views: 4671 - Appreciate Me! - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2007 from Noelle NelsonYou scrimp, you save. You wash dishes, mop floors, endlessly pick up dropped sweaters, backpacks, skateboards, CDs, dirty dishes. You help with homework, chauffeur regardless of how tired you are or how early/late/inconvenient it is. That’s on top of your 40-stretching-to-50 hour work week. Does ...
Views: 915 - Drama! - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2007 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve had a rough day at work. You’re beat, all you want to do is go home and chill. You get to your car--only to see one of those horrible orange devices clamped to your rear wheel. You’re horrified! What’s this? Then you read the ticket neatly tucked under your windshield wiper. Your ...
Views: 880 - Those Promotion Blues - by Submitted on May 05, 2007 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve had your eye on that promotion for some time now. You’re bound and determined to get out of your office worker status into a supervisory position you’re certain you’re well suited for-- but apparently no one else is convinced. You watch others from your work group move on, out and up, and ...
Views: 778 - What's Your Body Saying? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2007 from Noelle NelsonYou're sitting in a meeting at work--things have been going well, the team adopted a number of your ideas, the boss nodded your way and said, "Good work!" But then, when it was time to put the team together to present the project to the client, guess who was left out of the mix? You! Again. You ...
Views: 1819 - If You Really Loved Me - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2007 from Noelle NelsonYour new love is such a delight! What passion, what wonderful desire to be with you, only you, day and night, night and day! What a refreshing change from the last few men you’ve dated whose idea of commitment was dinner and a movie on Saturday night, maybe. Since that first blissful day you ...
Views: 897 - The Party's Not Over - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2006 from Noelle NelsonYou had a great time over the holidays. Your favorite relatives came to town, your holiday dinner was a resounding success (even the roast was Rachael Ray perfect!), your boss gave you a really nice bonus and a couple of extra days off, you didn’t spill eggnog on your party outfit, not once, and ...
Views: 805 - Family Dinners--Blessing or Curse? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2006 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve read the articles in the various “Home and Family” magazines about how important it is to have family dinners together at least 3 to 4 times a week, about how your children will feel more secure, know they have a “place” in the world (having one at the table), will be less prone to taking ...
Views: 1347 - Work from a Different Point of View - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2006 from Noelle NelsonAs you sit there in traffic, along with the gazillion other commuters all jammed together in motorized steel boxes grinding their way to work, you daydream. Wouldn’t it be nice, you think, if weekends were 5 days long and the work week was 2 days long. I mean, whoever came up with this ...
Views: 789 - Dishwasher Versus Golf Clubs - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2006 from Noelle NelsonThe lines are drawn. The savings account passbook lies between you, mute witness to the debate. Arms crossed, you stare at your (usually beloved) husband across the table. "A new dishwasher," you announce. "A new set of golf clubs" he retorts. "Huh!" you exclaim, "How can you be so selfish! At ...
Views: 915 - A Drug Called Romance - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2006 from Noelle NelsonOvernight you went from being a single rather cranky woman dateless for lo these many months to Miss Adored Sunshine of His Life in THE most amazing relationship you've every had. You've never felt so beautiful, so wanted, so loved. This is a fairy tale come true. He was wonderfully passionate, ...
Views: 878 - Know Yourself - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2006 from Noelle NelsonYou went on another job interview today. It went OK, you guess. Nothing really dramatic happened. Your qualifications were right for the job, you'd brushed up on the latest "What to say when they ask you what your greatest strength/weakness is" and you felt you answered appropriately. But you ...
Views: 820 - Don't Complain - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2006 from Noelle NelsonThere are you are, going along OK in your life, no big dramas, no crises, but frankly, not a lot of joy, either. Oh, you can’t complain, as a matter of fact that’s what you hear yourself say most of the time. When friends say “How’s it going?” you say “Can’t complain.” So why are you bored and ...
Views: 948 - Worry, Be Gone! - by Submitted on May 04, 2006 from Noelle NelsonYour manager has announced that everyone will have to take a pay cut . . . or join the unemployment line. Aargh! You're barely keeping up with your bills as is. Or you're self-employed, and your competition is undercutting your prices in a way you can't compete with and still feed your family. ...
Views: 918 - Our Furry/Feathered/Scaled Friends - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2006 from Noelle NelsonIt's been a miserable day. Nothing went right. You slept through your alarm because the neighbors kept you up half the night having either a wild argument or wild sex (hard to tell which), you were late to work on the one day when the client was showing up in person, your car sprang an oil leak, ...
Views: 873 - The Fullness of Love - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2006 from Noelle NelsonYou're going along in your relationship for 7 years now, it's a little on the hum-drum side, but hey! No major fights, no major hassles, and yes, you're way past the honeymoon stage, but what can you expect? You're both busy with work and the kids, church or community activities, what with one ...
Views: 892 - Holiday Family Get Togethers--Yikes! - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2005 from Noelle NelsonThe family is getting together for the Holidays – at your house. For the first time. Lucky you! All these years you’ve managed to plead one reason or another why you couldn’t host the “do,” but you’re out of excuses, nowhere to go, so it’s time to grin and bear it. And we’re not just talking ...
Views: 1263 - Appreciation Works! - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2005 from Noelle NelsonThings just have not been going well at work lately. A new co-worker is kissing up to the boss and the boss is eating it up. You can see your shot at a promotion going swiftly down the drain. Your "task list" (who comes up with these PC cover-ups for more work, anyway?) is ever increasing, and ...
Views: 1131(1 vote) - My Way Or Our Way - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2005 from Noelle NelsonYou know that old saw about the constant husband-wife battle over who puts the toothpaste cap back on and who leaves it off? What's with that? Why is it so true?! And how can something so simple be so hurtful? Your husband knows perfectly well you don't like to sleep with the windows open, yet ...
Views: 904 - THE SNEEZY-COUGHING-ACHY BLUES - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2005 from Noelle NelsonIt’s a bright sunny day. Well, it’s a sunny day. It started out bright, but now as you sneeze, cough and ache your way increasingly through the hours, the day is getting duller and duller. You make it through your work and drag yourself home. “How ya feeling, Hon?” your devoted Significant Other ...
Views: 1281 - Your Diet Didn't Work--Again - by Submitted on May 03, 2005 from Noelle NelsonYou're rooting through your closet for that perfect thing to wear. Maybe this, maybe that - no, not THAT! Your eye lights on a brand new pair of jeans - that you'd completely forgotten about. Perfect! Then you remember why they were bought and then forgotten. You purchased them when you were on ...
Views: 858 - Love Thy Enemy - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2005 from Noelle NelsonLOVE THINE ENEMY (%^&*$?!!!) You hate your supervisor. There – you finally said it. You’ve been pussy-footing around it (and her) for long enough now. That’s it, you’ve had it! Let the truth be told – you hate your supervisor. Your reflection in the mirror scowls back at you. You sigh, ...
Views: 852 - GET THINGS OFF YOUR WORRY PLATE! - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2005 from Noelle NelsonYou’re running behind at work – which worries you, understandably. You’re having to bring work home, which is interfering with your family life – and that worries you, of course. Your kids, who are teenagers now, are behaving like teenagers – and that really worries you. Plus your plumbing is ...
Views: 1347 - THAT SWEET FEELING OF FALLING IN LOVE - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2005 from Noelle NelsonOh, that sweet feeling of falling in love! That dizzying magical enchanted feeling – that all is right with the world, and certainly with you, swept off your feet as you are. Then of course, reality sets in. He snores, leaves his clothes on the floor of the closet, and wet towels – well, that ...
Views: 7568(2 votes) - FALLING INTO JOY! - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2004 from Noelle NelsonFALLING INTO JOY! Things just have not been going well at work lately. That new employee is kissing up to the boss something fierce, and the boss eating it up. You can see your shot at the next promotion going swiftly down the drain. Your “task list” (who comes up with these PC cover-ups for ...
Views: 1288 - Be an Age Rebel! - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYou look in the mirror, expecting to see that same not-perfect-but-familiar face - and freak! That’s not you, that couldn’t be you! That face staring back at you has a wrinkle, right there, at the corner of your eye. You’ve never had a wrinkle. You can’t have a wrinkle, already! Here you are, ...
Views: 927 - Oh, The Power of Words! - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYou step up to the ticket counter at the movie theater and say “One, please,” take your single ticket and sit your single self down in the darkened theater. You munch from your single-sized bucket of popcorn, sighing as you can’t help but notice all the loving couples all around you, cooing, ...
Views: 1104(1 vote) - GET YOUR NOSE OFF THE GRINDSTONE - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYour alarm goes off – too early, much too early. As you struggle your way out of your warm comfy nest, you say to yourself: “Another day, another grind,” and off you go, to the land of work. It doesn’t matter what kind of work, whether in an office, a factory, a home or on a space ship, you’d ...
Views: 1254 - LOVE IS NOT A POWER STRUGGLE - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYour husband grips the remote with a mighty hand, surfing the channels relentlessly for something to pique his interest. You say “Oh, that looks interesting;” he says “Boring.” After half a dozen (failed) polite attempts you snap at him: “Well I’m getting dizzy from all the channel-surfing, ...
Views: 1160 - Who Me, Stressed? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYou love your family dearly, but right now, they are driving you positively buggy. You’re waging the battle of the belly-button/nose/tongue piercings with your teenage daughter, your husband is jammed with deadlines at work and can’t help out with chores; your five-year-old has a persistent case ...
Views: 851 - MISERY LOVES COMPANY - by Submitted on May 04, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYou were terminated from your job. Oh, how you hate that word – terminated! Why don’t they call it like it is: you were fired! Unjustly, for no good reason (other than the boss wanted a job for his new love interest), with virtually no warning. You--who gave 10 good years to the company. You of ...
Views: 701(1 vote) - MISERY LOVES COMPANY - by Submitted on May 04, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYou were terminated from your job. Oh, how you hate that word – terminated! Why don’t they call it like it is: you were fired! Unjustly, for no good reason (other than the boss wanted a job for his new love interest), with virtually no warning. You--who gave 10 good years to the company. You of ...
Views: 924(1 vote) - MISERY LOVES COMPANY - by Submitted on May 04, 2004 from Noelle NelsonYou were terminated from your job. Oh, how you hate that word – terminated! Why don’t they call it like it is: you were fired! Unjustly, for no good reason (other than the boss wanted a job for his new love interest), with virtually no warning. You--who gave 10 good years to the company. You of ...
Views: 861(2 votes) - Bills, Bills & More Bills! - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2004 from Noelle NelsonBills, bills, bills! That’s all you see. And here it is tax-season, which for some lucky people might mean a refund, but for you all it means is worry. You’re a perfect bear at home, all you do is stomp around and grumble. Or that’s what you’re doing when you’re not completely depressed ...
Views: 930 - "Why is Everyone Picking on Me?" - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2004 from Noelle NelsonThings are going along OK at work, you're doing what needs to be done, you think everything is hunky-dory, and then your supervisor says: "Haven't you finished that project yet? You should have started on the next one by now," and you're instantly plunged into a horrible upset. You're so ...
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