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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Life Plan For Love: Three Romantic Meals for Busy Couples - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Katherin ScottSimply put, romance is pretense. It is pretending that everything is not only alright, but that it is absolutely perfect – if only for a little while. Romance is not food. Romance is attitude. Romance is atmosphere. Romance is using details to create a mirage. A spaghetti and ...
Views: 651 - Celebrate the Inauguration of Hope in Your Personal Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from hadley finchLet's celebrate the inauguration of hope in our country by adding the magic of hope to our pursuit of happiness and love in our personal relationships. Let's set aside past disappointments that drain our well of hope. Let's rise above fear, negativity, and apathy that block our hope of ...
Views: 1225 - Are Rebound Relationships for Real? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAah, love. Can’t live without it, can’t get enough of it. Every day, a lot of relationships are formed: people get married, move in together, start a long distance relationship, or an office romance. Love seems to sprout like mushrooms overnight but it seems that love can fade and go ...
Views: 4876 - The Withdrawal Syndrome: Why Your Man Pulls Away - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Editha RodriguezIt’s confusing, isn’t it? One moment you think you’ve found your soul mate, the next moment he’s stopped calling. You rack your brain for any clue that would explain his behavior. Nothing. Zero. You got along well, he worshipped the ground you walked on. He was smitten by you as much as you ...
Views: 58205(2 votes) - Getting to Know a Toxic Friend - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhen we hear the word “friend”, we think of love, trust, laughter, a feeling of security, comfort and happiness. It reminds us of bike rides on summer afternoons, camp-outs in the backyard and toasted marshmallows, of pillow fights and slumber parties. Life’s precious moments ...
Views: 591 - Is Fear of Failing Sabotaging Your Relationship Dreams? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2009 from Dawn AllenDoes it feel like your dream of having a wonderful relationship is beyond your grasp? Is the fear of having another failed relationship holding you back from even trying? When I’m having a difficult time moving forward, it’s usually because underneath all my excuses, I’m ...
Views: 5331 - Top 20 Relationship Deal Breakers - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from CS LewisIf you’re a single woman looking to marry and start a family, here’s a fact that may startle you: The average amount time from single status to motherhood is approximately five to seven years. For a woman now 30, that means waiting until her late 30s or early 40s to have a child. A second one ...
Views: 7371 - How to Tell if She Has Commitment Phobia - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraCommitment phobia is the fear of commitment, especially in a marriage or a long-term relationship. For a long time, it was believed that only men had this fear. In the recent years, however, the population of women who actively choose to be single are increasing rapidly. A classic example of a ...
Views: 1074 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (13): Seeing in the Dark - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland SEEING IN THE DARK The lights went out. Only then could we see withour our eyes. Al Link Time for Exercise: all day and night (short variation: one hour or more) Properties Required: blindfold Steps: One lover ...
Views: 1172 - Moving on After a Break Up - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraIt’s been days since you looked at yourself in the mirror- and your eyes look like a couple of dehydrated prunes. You can smell yourself but you have no plans of taking a bath soon. What’s the point? You feel like dying a little each day, sometimes from the break up, and sometimes ...
Views: 625 - Madly in Love… - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2009 from Rajiv VijThey say marriages are made in heaven. At the time of marriage, all couples seem ecstatic about their relationship and sound crazy about each other. They all express that relationship to be the best thing that ever happened to them and they are willing to walk on water to please each other. ...
Views: 825 - Forget Your Ex? When He's Back and Asking For a Second Chance - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2009 from Chris RobertsHave you ever had situation crop up where the love your life ran off? You were heartbroken and after some time decided it was time to move forward with your life. You wanted to forget your ex but suddenly your ex is back, asking for a second chance. Do you take that chance? If you are someone ...
Views: 743 - Success In The Tit For Tat Relationship Game - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from William CottringerSuccess In The Tit For Tat Relationship Game By Bill Cottringer Success in relationships is based on accurate information used in the basic cooperation vs. antagonism tit for tat game we all play. The tit for tat game typically goes like this. If I choose to do this then I expect you to do ...
Views: 6824 - Relationship Compatibility - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from Dr Philip AgriosWe need to look at human behavior and why we do the things that we do. All of us are made up of atoms. Atoms behave in a certain way and their behavior is a good model to use to understand human behavior. There are 3 atomic bonds: Ionic bonds, Covalent bonds and Metallic bonds. The Ionic ...
Views: 3893 - Seven Great Dates - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from Sally ConnollyWith Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it is time to begin thinking about how to celebrate. Even if it were not the season for romance, couples must continue dating throughout marriage. It is important for connection, nurturing and romance. It reminds people not to take each other ...
Views: 1260 - 5 Ways to Rediscover Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2009 from Jenn KayeHave you ever noticed that when you are in a relationship for awhile you can forget how to create that ‘spark?’ Or you think you’re doing all the right things to light the other person’s fire but they seem to be missing your delivery? You feel like you’re shooting ...
Views: 4199 - 9 Ways to Improve Your Relationship (and Your Health!) - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2009 from Jenn KayeHow many times have you found yourself frustrated in conversation with your mate trying to explain something important and walked away shaking your head in frustration saying to yourself, “He just doesn’t get it!” Your shoulders tense, your brows come together in that little ...
Views: 1515 - The Housemate Syndrome - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2011 from Dr. Mike GoslingDo you feel like housemates rather than lovers? Are you disconnected and feeling unloved? Deepest intimacy - When your relationship started and you were so 'in love', do you remember what it was like? Can you remember that you used to talk about everything? You spent every moment with each ...
Views: 1606 - Family Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Marie BarrettOf all relationships we build in the course of our life, perhaps the most fundamental is that of family. The family relationship is like no other in that often the boundaries are blurred. Whatever family may mean for you, it is precious and serves your growth. Family embraces multiple-aspect ...
Views: 1401 - Love-Hate Relationships Are Fertile Ground For Learning & Growing - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2009 from William CottringerLove-Hate Relationships Are Fertile Ground For Learning & Growing By Bill Cottringer “You know you are in deep trouble when you learn to either love to hate a person or hate to love them.” ~The author. In looking back over the many relationships I have had at work and domestic ...
Views: 1041 - Who Else is Feeling Anxious? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2011 from Dr. Mike GoslingA person with an anxious personality experiences an overreaction to threatening stimuli in his or her environment, resulting in the body having a greater stress response than another person might have to the same event. The anxious person is less able to tolerate the normal uncertainties about ...
Views: 1665 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (12): Sounds of Silence - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland SOUNDS OF SILENCE Time for Exercise: full day Properties Required: none Steps: Designate one day as a “Day of Silence.” Shut off the phone, and don’t answer the door. You might post a note ...
Views: 1138 - A Closer Look at Online Infidelity - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraInfidelity has always existed, even before the Internet. It’s an age-old problem, but online communication has afforded an easier way for married people to have deeply-involved, real-time relationships with people they have never actually met. As the number of households with internet ...
Views: 808 - Perception, Mood and Connection - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2009 from Emma ViglucciOur mood is impacted by many variables in our lives if we let it. Our hectic lifestyles, poor self care, habits, emotional problems, the weight of our history, etc. can all have a huge impact on how we feel and therefore how available we are in our relationship(s). But how we feel can also be ...
Views: 1031 - Relationships Happiness - Say Yes, Only When You Mean Yes - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonAre honesty and building trust important to you, and yet sometimes--even though you just don't feel like it--when your friends and family ask you to do something or go somewhere, you agree to their request anyway? It's not uncommon or "wrong" to want to do what feels good to you. Even if the ...
Views: 2857 - ***Being in Love: Realistic love can last forever - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2009 from Randy WysongAs children we are weaned on Cinderella and acculturated by an endless parade of romantic fantasies in novels, television and movies. It would be easy to assume that if we are not madly in love there is something wrong with us. The euphoria of being in love is like an hourglass, with the heart ...
Views: 4653 - 7 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2009 from JD DeanOne of the biggest killers of any relationship is a lack of trust. When it's broken it's hard to get back and infidelity is one of the main culprits. Even when couples stay together the suspicion that exists can be hard to deal with leading to further issues down the road. But sometimes to ...
Views: 1027 - ***Relationships: Why Do You Attack and Blame? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2009 from Margaret Paul"A woman who I was dating and who I really liked ended our relationship and is dating someone else. I see her all the time at the market and I feel like yelling at her." "I keep vowing not to, but I keep getting really angry at my husband when he is distant." "I lost my temper with my ...
Views: 2281 - How to Be the Ultimate Bridezilla - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraThe wedding month of June is fast approaching, and with it scores of bridezillas who manage to turn the whole process of planning a wedding into a horrible nightmare. A bridezilla is a sweet, lovely “bride-to-be” who can easily turn into a spoiled, rotten, overbearing perfectionist ...
Views: 924 - Breaking Up with Dignity - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraIt’s never easy to break up. When it’s your decision, you hurt the other person. If it’s the other’s decision, you get hurt. What comes around goes around for sure. Nobody enjoys breaking up, whatever the reason. You’ve tried everything: from reading self-help ...
Views: 2095 - How to Rekindle Your Relationship When the Fireworks Have Fizzled - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2009 from Kristina von RosenvingeRemember when your heart simply soared at the sight of your lover? What has happened to those wonderful feelings? Have the fireworks fizzled? The stresses of building careers, raising families, paying bills, meeting commitments leave little time for relationships. Each person in a commited ...
Views: 2138 - 4 Relationship Tips When Your Partner is Stressed Out - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsWe all go through times of stress in our lives. When you're in the midst of difficulties, it can seem like the difficulty is all you can see. It can be equally challenging when the one you love is going through a tough time. Your partner may withdraw from you, lash out at you, or vacillate ...
Views: 19948 - Avoid Alienating Others with These Principles - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2009 from Shellee HaleAlienating your friends and partners directly or indirectly can ruin your friendships and career opportunities in the future. Here are five principles to think about utilizing to decrease your chances of self-inflicting alienation. 1. Do not withhold favors or being helpful when possible, a ...
Views: 953 - ***Conflict: Why Do You Argue, Why Do You Fight in Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2009 from Margaret PaulThink about the last time you had a conflict with someone and you argued - with your partner, your friend, your parent, your child, or someone else in your life. What did you argue about, and why did you spend your energy arguing or fighting? Reasons for Arguing and Fighting Here are some of ...
Views: 3143 - Am I a Controlling Person? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2009 from Lyn McDonaldBeing asked if you are a controlling person is a confronting realization as most controlling people are unaware of their traits, what we aim to do in this short review is to help you identify controlling patterns and the effect it has on others. One of the first behavioral patterns is the way ...
Views: 10575 - Signs of an Abusive Relationship - Difficult to Describe - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2009 from Leo RyanThere are many signs of an abusive relationship I will be highlighting here. Before I go into the signs of an abusive relationship I want to make a point I think is very important. Often these days we hear that abuse in relationships is just as likely to be perpetrated by women as much as men. ...
Views: 1053 - Best Friends Forever - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2013 from Robin RobertsSo many people struggle with life challenges because they do not know how to be their own best friend. We are all good at being there for others with encouraging words of support and love but rarely are we capable of extending these things to ourselves. In fact we are often our own worst enemy, ...
Views: 2036 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (7): Looking Back - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland LOOKING BACK Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: 1. Write out what different loved ones and friends might say at your funeral. Write out what you would ...
Views: 1136 - ***Marry The Right Person In The First Place! - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Did you ever wonder why some people find the perfect person to marry, do so, and enjoy a love affair that lasts a lifetime? On the other hand, some marry a person that is wrong for them now, wrong for them tomorrow, and wrong for them for a ...
Views: 5463(36 votes) - Three Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2008 from Mercedes Oestermann van EssenSo, your partner or spouse is difficult, and you are more aware than ever that your love life is lacking, you feel unappreciated and are getting desperate for those loving touches that make all the difference. You crave nurturing, a little romance and emotional security with a partner who is ...
Views: 993 - Effects of Divorce on Children -- And What You Can Do About It - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraAn increasing number of marriages ended up in divorce over the past few years. A couple’s inability to communicate which leads to relationship breakdown most often causes divorce. Having a lasting relationship or avoiding separation is never easy, but once the decision to separate is ...
Views: 515 - Why is it So Hard to Ask for What We Want in Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2008 from Kristin MarquetI know that I have been guilty of falling into the trap of not asking for what I want in previous relationships. I always thought my partner would believe that I was too demanding, needy, or I just thought I could handle it myself. However, I was as wrong as ever. Asking for help and accepting ...
Views: 1231 - Conflict: Key to a Healthy Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraHaving a conflict in any relationship is as normal as breathing. It is a reality that every couple has to face every single day. Although the term has gained quite a negative connotation, having disagreements now and then is not actually bad. No matter what the cause, conflicts have positive ...
Views: 671 - When is a Friend a True Friend? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraWhat is a friend? It's somebody who accepts you for what you are and stands by your side through thick and thin. A person can have as many as he wants, but only a few will be your best friend. Out of those few, fewer still are really true friends which are hard to come by these days. Although ...
Views: 746 - I Want Perfect! - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraEvery man dreams of finding the perfect woman. Every woman hopes of finding Mr. Right. Nobody wants to end up with the wrong kind, so every other relationship becomes a trial-and-error test. For some it is a process of elimination: collect as many as you want, then pick them off one by one. For ...
Views: 720 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (2): What's Good - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland WHAT’S GOOD? Be careful what you pay attention to because you are going to get more of it. You can help people focus on what they do want by asking them the simple question, “What’s ...
Views: 1067 - The Mindful Couple: Quirks - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2008 from New Harbinger PublicationsThe difficulty with quirks in a partner is that, by definition, they are peculiar and idiosyncratic and not commonly shared. This means you are dealing with a behavior, belief, or other trait you may not understand or relate to in any way, which tends to make acceptance of your partner all the ...
Views: 4797 - He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not - Is He Falling In Love With You? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraDon’t you wish that you could just crack his head sometimes and read his thoughts? It would be easier than constantly plucking petals off a daisy, chanting an endless “he-loves-me, he-loves-me-not’s”. Looking for Mr. Right is never easy, but one doesnt really need special ...
Views: 1613 - Aphrodisiacs: A Mouthful A Day Keeps Your Worries Away - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraAphrodisiacs, named for Aphrodite, the Greek Goddess of love are substances (including food and drink) that are said to arouse or increase sexual desire. Throughout the centuries, the pursuit for aphrodisiacs have driven royalties and everyday folks alike to ingest, imbibe, sprinkle, or apply ...
Views: 640 - Where Is My Relationship Heading? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Marie BarrettHave you ever asked yourself, “Where is this relationship heading?” It's a good practice to assess where you are in your life from time to time. Where you are, that is, in relation to what is going on in all the various aspects of what makes up your life experience. Today let's ...
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