Are You Ready For A Relationship?

Spring: Everything seems alive and vibrant-- flowers are definitely more colourful, the air has a heady smell, the weather is story-book perfect and there is an unmistakable increase in libido in the singles crowd. Everyone seems to want to date more in the spring, and this is often the time when people find new love. Whether it’s the warm weather or the new smells, a lot of people can’t help but dance through puddles and sing in the rain in utter bliss. Some would even start to contemplate whether they are ready for a relationship or not. In matters of dating and relationships, there are a lot of different levels that a single person may be on.

This would often affect a single’s readiness for a relationship. For instance, some people who have been serial daters for years may refuse to enter a real relationship because they fear rejection, or maybe because they just love being single and avoid the drama and pain. On the other hand, those who have been searching for a partner a little too hard end up driving away prospective mates because of the instant cling action that can be a major turn off. Some singles have recently survived a breakup and are on a rebound. Others still are just plain contented in singlehood but will happily test new waters if only their dream partner would show up one day soon.

And then of course there are those who’ve had their fill of parties, clubbing and flings for the past few years. they realize that their skin is getting more wrinkly and the youthful looks are starting to fade, so they might as well start a next chapter of their life, try to get married and have kids before their biological clock stops ticking. A person who is ready for a relationship must without doubt be in the right frame of mind and in the right part of life. Although there are no strict rules about age, one must at least be old enough and mature enough for a relationship.

One should also have a high self-esteem, and should not make the relationship as a reason to feel better about one’s self. The ability to take care of oneself emotionally and financially is also vital—an individual must at least be able to take care of his/her needs instead of depending on the partner to take care of it. One must likewise let go of past traumas and hurt first, and should only commit if truly in love. Did you meet all of the requirements mentioned? If not, do a little work in enhancing yourself before paying attention to someone else and trying to be ready for a relationship.

And if you already have what it takes for a committed relationship, don’t get too excited because there are even more things that you must think about. For example, is it worth entering one right now?Does he feel the same way as you do? Are you willing to work on nurturing the relationship? These are all very important factors to consider and take a while to get used to. If neither of you are willing to sacrifice nor compromise for the sake of the relationship, then it will never work out no matter how perfectly ready you both are.