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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationship Tips - How to Manage Love with a Narcissistic Individual - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Sophie RinaldiI am sure you think as overrated the cliche that 'love is blind' - but neuroscience, this prodigy child of science, unveils with an almost cruel satisfaction that some areas of our brains shut down when love comes upon us, blinding the ration from the smart choices we should make. Brain scans ...
Views: 1360 - After the Wedding: What to Expect During the First Year of Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Lauri Allison LaBadieBy this time, most of us have probably attended at least one wedding this summer. I went to one last weekend, and my dear friends Lauri and Jeff, the co-owners of TherapyLinx.com, will be tying the knot in just a few weeks. That got me to thinking how these happy, glowing effervescent brides’ ...
Views: 10779(2 votes) - Signs of a Troubled Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Lauri Allison LaBadieAnyone who’s been in a long term relationship will tell you there are rough periods, and most people, when they’re honest, will admit to doubts along the way. But sometimes we don’t know how to assess, “Just how bad is it?” Here’s a list of symptoms that suggest a relationship is in trouble. The ...
Views: 2556 - *** It's All About Love! - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is life REALLY all about? It's all about love! But what does this mean? Most people, when thinking about love, think about BEING LOVED. But, as an adult, the deeper soul's journey is not about being loved - it is about BEING LOVING. For small children, the main focus is on being loved, ...
Views: 3773(3 votes) - Minefields and Mirrors of Relationships - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Lisa RaphaelThe realization that relationships are basically mirrors is the key to healing any and every relationship?with ourselves, with others, with nature and with the universe. We are all inter- connected. What we think, feel and do affects everything around us. We are one. Our entire environment is a ...
Views: 1707 - He Likes Me -- Doesn't He? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsTimes have changed. The days of Rhett Butler telling Scarlett O'Hara he didn't give a damn are long gone. That's a shame in some ways. At least it made dating simple. Nowadays, guys try to be considerate in an attempt to not hurt your feelings. His miscues make it hard to know whether he's ...
Views: 862 - ***What to Say to the One You Love? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have learned lots of interesting and important lessons from the thousands of successfully married couples we have interviewed over the years – of that you can be sure. There is no question – the wisdom of these wonderful marriages humbles us when ...
Views: 5585(39 votes) - Think Thoughts Are Inconsequential? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Jan DeniseIt's tough enough to assume responsibility for our actions and words. Should we, can we, also be responsible for our thoughts and intentions? Those are private, right? Yours alone? Apparently not. According to Marilyn Schlitz, president of the Institute of Noetic Sciences, we're ...
Views: 1242 - Watch Out for Internet Dating Dangers - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Judith ShervenMost people who sign up at dating websites are usually clueless about Internet dating dangers — whether they pay to join an Internet dating service or it’s a totally free Internet dating site — it doesn’t make the experience any safer if you don’t know what to watch out for. So, be on the look ...
Views: 1308 - *** Relationships: The Art of Listening - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Margaret PaulIn 1974, Dr. Virginia Satir presented the concept of mirroring in her groundbreaking book, "Conjoint Family Therapy." In 1975 Dr. Thomas Gordon wrote a best-selling book called "Parent Effectiveness Training." In the book he taught parents to "active listen," which ...
Views: 4293(5 votes) - The Dating Dance: Games vs Boundaries - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2010 from Barrett Clemmensen PowellDespite the movies and television we see, there is no need to play games when dating. However we do need to set boundaries or limitations. Game-playing (unhealthy) and boundary-setting (healthy) are two different things. Because the Law of Attraction says we get what we focus on (what we put our ...
Views: 3873 - Can an Affair Save your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Dana HunterMany people who have had an affair see their marriage collapse and end in divorce. However, there are undoubtedly a very significant number of people that have had one or more affairs and also remained happily married throughout this time. The difficulty is in compiling statistics because those ...
Views: 1557 - Anger Management To Deal With Emotional Blackmail - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondYou Mean I can Have What I Want? Fabienne drooled over that gorgeous pair of shoes in the store window. Just for once she wanted to indulge herself by splurging on something personal that wasn’t an absolute necessity. She had spoken to Larry about it and he gave her the go ahead. This weekend ...
Views: 3393 - Marketing Yourself: 5 Tips to Get Out of a dating Rut - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Brandi HamrickStuck in a dating rut? Tired of attracting the wrong kind of people? Change your approach to finding the right person. If a business isn’t attracting enough customers, they don’t just complain without taking action. A successful business will change their marketing strategies and do what it ...
Views: 4426 - Differing Paths in Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I'm trying as much as I can to think by myself about my deep questions but this one I thought, I really need to ask you, because I feel stuck: a year and a half ago, I fell deeply in love with a man. It was 'love at first sight' and felt so completely obvious that "he was the one", ...
Views: 652 - Spiritual, Love Relationship Guide - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA simple guide of agreeable ideals and intentions as a foundation and touch stone for spiritual love relationship. We believe that our relationship has a spiritual basis and serves the Divine and our own evolution. We experience this, manifest, as a deep and powerful desire to know ...
Views: 1002 - Pain on the Path - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: When one begins the path to Enlightenment, I've read it can be from either what we would call a painful or a wonderful experience. My enlightenment began when I fell in love with a man whom I left my husband for. I thought he was the love of my life. After leaving my marriage of 13 ...
Views: 806 - How to Get Over the Post Break-Up Guilts - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have just recently ended a three year relationship, yet I am receiving a lot of guilt from my ex-boyfriend and his family. How do I avoid taking on this guilt and how do I feel confident about who I am again? Sherri's Answer: In order to regain your self-confidence, you need to ...
Views: 1736 - Deadly Relationship Habits - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Kim OlverHow many of you have ever been involved with a significant other who wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do? I doubt that I’m the only one. By virtue of a significant other relationship, there will be times when our partners will want us to do things we don’t necessarily want to do and ...
Views: 1630 - Father’s Day without Fathers - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2009 from Daryl GreenIntroduction A young child questioned his mother about the character of his father: “Hey Momma! Is it true what they say that Papa never worked a day, in his life? And Momma, some bad talk goin' round town sayin' that Papa had three outside children….” This narrative from “Papa Was A Rolling ...
Views: 1114(1 vote) - How to Identify Problems in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2009 from Tanay Kumar DasBefore you can choose the proper persuasion techniques in your relationship, you will need to consider what you want to change and what is causing the problem in the first place. Sometimes it’s not as simple as wanting something to change, you need to know what you’re up against. What’s ...
Views: 1633 - "We Need to Talk" - How to Start a Difficult Conversation with a Partner, Colleague or Neighbor - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettRelationships are like shoes. Sometimes they fit, and sometimes they cause annoying, painful blisters. For example, your partner doesn't call when running late; your colleague at work taps his pencil incessantly; and a neighbor trashes your yard. Sometimes you need to confront the offender and ...
Views: 6516(3 votes) - ***Should You Try To Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships can be saved, but not all!” And our corollary has always been – “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, ...
Views: 3725(30 votes) - Do Relationship Advice and Life Coaches Help Have a Chance to Transform You?... and Me… and Us? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamWhat Do We Know (so far) about Human Behavior? What Does it Tell Us About Potential Impact To Transform and Better Uorselves? Here are some basic facts and agreed upon assumptions that have a valuable impact regarding counseling and therapy: 1. Human beings are biological creatures – our ...
Views: 1268 - When Family and Friends Hate Your Significant Other - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhen friends and loved hate your significant other, it can be a major disappointment. There’s no doubt that this can be a painful issue, since conflicts are always waiting to happen. The situation can make you feel as if the people who matters most in your life are disrespecting you by ...
Views: 2153 - Beyond the Edwards Affair – What Elizabeth's Book Teaches Us - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Dr. Bonnie Eaker WeilIt's been almost a year since John Edwards revealed to the public that he had had an affair with the woman that produced his videos in preparation for his campaign launch, and now his wife has written a book about the whole thing. He came clean to his family before the scandal broke publicly and ...
Views: 1368 - *** Relationships: The Dance of Victims and Perpetrators - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Margaret Paul"He is always blaming me for the bad things that happen in his life, and then he tells me it's my controlling him that is making him so angry. He yells at me and puts me down rather than deal with his own feelings. How can I get him to see that he is the one trying to control me? How can I ...
Views: 4127(6 votes) - Four Symptoms of Wonderful Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThis week, I met with a wonderful young man who wanted to talk about falling in love one day. It was a tough subject for him. He was brought up in very typical circumstances and had therefore developed a belief that relationships are difficult, imperfect, full of compromises and require a bit of ...
Views: 650 - Relationship Ebb and Flow - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Marie BarrettRelationships are supposed to be peaceful, rewarding, and fun! They're not supposed to be boring, difficult, or distant. If your relationship with your lover has turned a little chilly, lost its excitement or is now just plain boring, when did it begin to lose its spunk? Maybe your ...
Views: 3442 - Relationships and Sustainability - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere is an old saying that says: “Make new friends, and keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.” Life is all about relationships. We have a relationship with the environment, with our work, with our home, and especially with the people in our lives. Earth Month gives us an ...
Views: 587 - Relationships Don't Have to Be Hard - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoDo you ever feel like relationships are 2 parts game, 1 part luck? Or maybe you are at the point where it feels like ALL game to you…and you’re all gamed out? Maybe you just wish it could be like in the movies, a little: boy meets girl, some witty banter, your souls become one, you get married ...
Views: 1080 - Great Relationships Begin Within - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI heard a great story years ago about a kid whose mom asked him to make her some eggs. She instructed him to scramble one and fry the other. He, being a “good egg” and of course wanting to please his mother, did just that. He stood and beamed proudly before his mother, presenting her with what ...
Views: 1091 - Narcissists Feel No Love in Any Relationship - by Submitted on May 31, 2009 from Lisa ScottThe easiest way to think about it is this : Narcissists are stuck at age five. One of the most well-known theories in pyschology is Sigmund Freud's theory that as children, we pass through different psychosexual stages. According to Freud, if a child is deprived or over-indulged in any of these ...
Views: 3092 - Relationships and Sustainability - by Submitted on May 31, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere is an old saying that says: “Make new friends, and keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.” Life is all about relationships. We have a relationship with the environment, with our work, with our home, and especially with the people in our lives. Earth Month gives us an ...
Views: 485 - 100 Questions Before Marriage - Will it Be I Do or I Dont? - by Submitted on May 31, 2009 from Roy MaloneyYou may have 100 questions before marriage that you want to ask your fiancé, or maybe you have no idea how to go about getting to comprehend him better. If the latter applies to you then it is time that you learn what you need to ask your partner before you take that big jump. It is crucial ...
Views: 865 - 5 Steps to Building a Strong Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Renee ShupeHave you ever invested your time and emotions to build a relationship, only to see that relationship destroyed in a matter of minutes? When it was all over, and the dust settled, did you find yourself wondering, "What happened?" Whether the relationship is in your business or personal life, ...
Views: 8457 - Signs He Does Not Like You in a Romantic Way - by Submitted on May 29, 2009 from Michael LeeAs much as you might want to marry the guy of your dreams, have a lovely house and family with him, you have to make sure he likes you first. And figuring this out is easier when you know the signs he does not like you. These signs are easier to spot because you’re not exactly conjuring up ...
Views: 1532(2 votes) - How to Get Over a Break Up: 3 Ways to Ease the Break Up Pain - by Submitted on May 29, 2009 from Michael LeeThey say time heals all wounds. True. But that doesn’t mean locking yourself in your house for weeks, sulking and waiting for time to tell you you’re ready to face the world again! There are positive ways on how to get over a break up. Of course, moving on is easier said than done. But ...
Views: 961 - A Question of Balance: One-Sided Relationships - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOne of the most beautiful qualities of an intimate relationship is the give and take of energy that occurs between two people. In the best-case scenario, both people share the talking and listening, and the giving and receiving of support, equally. Occasionally, within any relationship, the ...
Views: 2647 - Life Coach Relationship Advice to Infidelity Victim: Fix Your Self Esteem Before Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamCan a Marriage Counselor help a couple get through and overcome such an upsetting event as Infidelity? In most cases yes, but there are two ‘but’: first, the underlying causes and the unhealthy aspects of the relationship need to be addressed. Second, in the course of working through the ...
Views: 3135 - The Flashing Red Flags of Fatally Crashing Relationships - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from William CottringerThe Flashing Red Flags of Fatally Crashing Relationships By Bill Cottringer You may wonder why anyone in their right mind would miss these blatant red flags before they found themselves stuck in a fatal relationship; but the real problem becomes more of how to get out of such a ...
Views: 1838 - Relationships and Money: What Promises Do You Make (and Break) About Spending? - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI used to work with a couple, the wife of whom habitually overspent. Considering their lines of work—an attorney and a CEO—they had plenty of money. However, they had an agreement that she would not overspend, and each month, she did. With some observation, it came to light that the wife liked ...
Views: 640 - Start Now to Change Your Bad Relationship Habits - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsHabits. We've all got them. Some of our habitual ways are beneficial and others can limit or even harm us. Couples can also fall into habits or tendencies in their relationship. It might be the assumptions you each tend to make about one another. It could be the habitual ways you two usually ...
Views: 5897 - Keeping the Romance through Serious Illness - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Sharon Wells-AckermansHow do you preserve the romance of your relationship through serious illness? That is a question we hope never to answer, and it presents a huge challenge to a relationship. My husband, Skip, had a very serious stroke in 2006 – we had only been married for two years. Luckily, Skip got a place ...
Views: 1718 - Energy Therapy Healing: Does It Work On Relationships? - by Submitted on May 26, 2009 from Donna BurickRelationships are a part of life that never seem to go smoothly. Dealing with other people can be difficult, no matter how much you care about them. Energy therapy healing offers you a way to help you deal with relationships and even improve upon them. This type of therapy is often combined with ...
Views: 2237 - What is Non-Love and How Does it Impact on Your Life? - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Sue PlumtreeThe first time I heard the term non-love was about five years ago. The context, at the time, was limited to a particular person and to a particular situation. The situation was simple. I had been calling my Mum every single day for over ten years. It was an expectation I had put on myself after ...
Views: 4896 - 6 Tips That Give "Staying Power" to Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Khem GreenHere are 6 tips that help keep couples together long after they tie the knot, (and after many of their friends and acquaintances have decided to divorce). TIP#1 -- CONTINUE DATING Over the years, people often drift apart. Relationships and marriages become stale because couples fail to do new ...
Views: 1544 - Getting Past Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAll of us have been emotionally hurt at one time or another—it doesn’t matter who and what you are, really. However, there are also people who seem so totally unreceptive to emotional pain. These are the type who doesn’t give a smack when someone tries to get close to them with a bit of an ...
Views: 4619(3 votes) - 17 Best Ways to Nurture and Grow Your Relationships - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe following 17 tips offer guidance on how to nurture and grow your personal relationships and how to be your best self so that loving, healthy relationships are possible. Arm yourself with the tools that can help you avoid making self-destructive choices. Write down the following in your ...
Views: 1216 - Wife, Mother, Goddess: A Message to Men for Mother’s Day - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsShe’s the mother of your children, whether they’re still in diapers or already driving themselves to work. She might even be a grandmother. She’s your wife and your partner in the day-to-day management of your life, your family, your home, and maybe your business. Mother’s Day is an opportunity ...
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