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Painful experiences range from subtle discomfort to extreme anguish - and there is a place for them. Sorrow can open the heart, anger can highlight injustices, fear can alert you to real threats, and remorse can help you take the high road next time.
But is there really any shortage of ... Views: 1139
For the most part we have been looking forward to the coming of Spring.
We enjoy the warmer, longer days and watching the plants blossom and grow with new life.
The longer days bring about a sense of joy, a renewal of our vision and inspiration to review our goals: maybe set new ones and ... Views: 1089
“Every moment of light and dark is a miracle. I believe a leaf of grass is no less than the journey-work of the stars. I do not ask any more delight–I swim in it, as in a sea. Oh while I live, to be the ruler of life, not a slave, to meet life as a powerful conqueror, and nothing exterior to ... Views: 1378
It's one thing to stick up for yourself and others. But it's a different matter to get caught up in wrangles, contentiousness, squabbles . . . in a word: quarrels.
Similarly, it's one thing to disagree with someone, even to the point of arguing - but it's a different matter to get so caught ... Views: 931
Dear friend, here is the best kept secret to happiness. This is a proven formula that will work for you at any stage of your life. It is a formula that took me many years to put together and I want you to consider it like precious gold and never lose sight of it. You will find it will always ... Views: 1297
Are you tired of continuously trying but never succeeding? Do you sometimes feel that the harder you try the further you get from your perceived destination? It's not because you don't have enough willpower or because you are lacking something. It's because your subconscious beliefs, thought ... Views: 1579
1. They lack a strong purpose in life
What is your purpose? I don’t mean, why are you here? But, what drives you? What inspires you? If you could be and do anything for the rest of your life, what would it be? Having a purpose in life can be the difference between having or losing motivation. ... Views: 1133
I have learned that in order to redirect your thoughts, you have to consciously and subconsciously want the same thing. If your conscious mind and subconscious mind are thinking alike, you are able to achieve any goal. In other words, if subconsciously you do not really believe you will complete ... Views: 1395
It's been said that the most powerful tool for physical health is a fork (or spoon), since the choices you make with it determine the good or bad things you put into your body.
In the same way, perhaps the most powerful tool for your mental health - and certainly for the health of your ... Views: 937
THE ART OF OPENING THE INNER EYE
Hello spiritual warriors! I am grateful to be part of this wonderful community of sharing and inspiration.
I was in Canada for 3 weeks visiting family and friends. It was nice to go back and get new perspectives on self, life and others. Stepping out of my ... Views: 936
We evolved to be afraid.
The ancient ancestors that were casual and blithely hopeful, underestimating the risks around them - predators, loss of food, aggression from others of their kind - did not pass on their genes. But the ones that were nervous were very successful - and we are their ... Views: 958
Many interactions these days have a kind of bumper-car quality to them. At work, at home, on the telephone, via email: we sort of bounce off of each other while we exchange information, smile or frown, and move on. How often do we actually take the extra few seconds to get a sense of what's ... Views: 957
"In contrast with happiness, misery has clearly defined rules. Rapture is a somewhat unbounded state in which clear-cut definitions have no function. In comparison with sadness, joy is far more intangible and unpredictable. We all know the rules and regulations of melancholy but the perceptual ... Views: 1297
Feelings of low self-esteem can come from a lot of different sources, many of which are beyond a person's control. For people who can resolve these feelings, the change can provide tremendous improvement in quality of life and happiness. But first, it's important to know where these feeling ... Views: 894
FOREWORD – ABOUT THE MIND BRAIN BALANCE TEAM
“The Center for Mind Brain Balance” was established to bridge the gap between a person’s psychological and emotional needs versus their brain-based or physical imbalances that are so often overlooked.
Founded in 2004 in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin, ... Views: 2922
FOREWORD – ABOUT THE MIND BRAIN BALANCE TEAM
“The Center for Mind Brain Balance” was established to bridge the gap between a person’s psychological and emotional needs versus their brain-based or physical imbalances that are so often overlooked.
Founded in 2004 in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin, ... Views: 1607
FOREWORD – ABOUT THE MIND BRAIN BALANCE TEAM
“The Center for Mind Brain Balance” was established to bridge the gap between a person’s psychological and emotional needs versus their brain-based or physical imbalances that are so often overlooked.
Founded in 2004 in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin, ... Views: 1670
As I leave my teens behind and await turning 20 in a few months, I thought I'd pay a tribute to the world and give a little insight into what I've learned so far. Here are some of my personal life hacks or lessons learned that I'd like to share in the hope that they can benefit others ... Views: 970
What if we have more control over peace and conflict than we realise? I believe that we, as a species, have a very good knack for "talking the talk" but not so much "walking the walk". We can affect the world's dynamic and rhythm so easily through our words and actions. You'd think we'd be more ... Views: 1512
We all know what it's like to have that internal dialogue going on inside our minds. For some of us it's there so often that we forget it's even happening. And it's worth noting that for most of the time this dialogue is focussed on something related to the past or the future.
This ability ... Views: 1175
I usually describe a practice as something to do: get on your own side, see the being behind the eyes, take in the good, etc. This practice is different: it's something to recognize. From this recognition, appropriate action will follow. Let me explain.
Some years ago I was invited to give a ... Views: 955
On the path of life, most of us are hauling way too much weight.
What's in your own backpack? If you're like most of us, you've got too many items on each day's To Do list and too much stuff in the closet. Too many entanglements with other people. And too many "shoulds," worries, guilts, and ... Views: 1038
A Quick Preamble:
I don’t care what anybody says or thinks…our world, our life, IS a beautiful thing, a GIFT that we should not/must not/ waste, squander or destroy because of all the negativity that’s either in our lives in some way or surrounding us – in abundance it would seem..!
There ... Views: 1285
I love a good game of “Truth or Dare.” It’s scary and yet thrilling. Daring my clients to do something they want, but are scared to do is a common practice. Sometimes, all you need is someone to ask you to step up to the plate, and you will. You need a little nudge … somebody to care enough ... Views: 1312
Dr. Michael Mantell is fond of saying, "what you feed, you grow." When it comes to health, longevity, successful social connections and long-term loving relationships, personal and communal wellbeing, even physical fitness and finances, leading-edge transformational coaches know that optimistic, ... Views: 1294
There are always things that are getting worse. For example, over the past year, you probably know someone who has become unemployed or ill or both, and there's more carbon in the atmosphere inexorably heating up the planet.
But if you don't recognize what's improving in your own life, then ... Views: 1177
One Christmas I hiked down into the Grand Canyon, whose bottom lay a vertical mile below the rim. Its walls were layered like a cake, and a foot-high stripe of red or gray rock indicated a million-plus years of erosion by the Colorado river. Think of water - so soft and gentle - gradually ... Views: 962
Let's say you've had an interesting idea or moment of inspiration, or thought of a new project, or felt some enthusiasm bubbling up inside you. Your notions are not fully formed and you're not really committed to them yet, but they have promise and you like them and are trying them on for size. ... Views: 1030
Problem vs. Stuff
What is the difference between a problem and stuff?
Do you remember when the bumper sticker “Shit Happens” was popular? Do you remember how you reacted to that statement? Or how do you suppose you might have reacted to that statement?
Would you be part of the majority ... Views: 906
On a previous blog at the Huffington Post, I used the example of Stephen Colbert's satirical "March to Keep Fear Alive" as a timely illustration of a larger point: humans evolved to be fearful - since that helped keep our ancestors alive - so we are very vulnerable to being frightened and even ... Views: 1098
Have you heard this saying?
The most important thing is to remember the most important thing.
What are the most important things to you? In your life as a whole? During a particular interaction with someone? Right this minute?
The most important things often get pushed to the sidelines. ... Views: 1058
First, it has two distinct meanings:
* To give up resentment or anger
* To pardon an offense; to stop seeking punishment or recompense
Here, I am going to focus on the first meaning, which is broad enough to include situations where you have not let someone off the hook morally or ... Views: 1194
We all know people who are, ah, . . . challenging. It could be a critical parent, a bossy supervisor, a relative who has you walking on eggshells, a nice but flaky friend, a co-worker who just doesn't like you, a partner who won't keep his or her agreements, or a politician you dislike. Right ... Views: 979
Sure, you may be thinking that word might be “hate,” “poverty,” “illness,” or “death.” No, these words are mild compared to the life-sucking, contentment-robbing, depression-boosting, anxiety-causing and anger-building word I’m thinking of.
That word is “should.” In the wonderful words of my ... Views: 1355
Our mind is always processing information at some level within us. The mind gathers information, sorts and stores experiences. We use our library of experiences to filter information, structure how we will think about and approach future experiences, and make decisions. Our mind is fascinating ... Views: 1147
When our kids were little, I'd come home from work wanting some peace after the daily roller-coaster and often walk into a living room full of stuff - toy trucks, tennis shoes, bags of chips, etc. Irritated, the first words out of my mouth to my wife would be: "How come there's all this mess?" ... Views: 1020
Fighting a legal battle is challenging. Often, it can be very difficult to stay strong and positive both in and out of court. To arm yourself for the conflict, prepare mentally in advance to mount an effective defense for the best chance of success.
Organize the facts
Sometimes a criminal ... Views: 1192
Friendliness is a down-to-earth approach to others that is welcoming and positive.
Think about a time when someone was friendly to you - maybe drawing you into a gathering, saying hello on the sidewalk, or smiling from across the room. How did that make you feel? Probably more included, ... Views: 1071
My dad grew up on a ranch in North Dakota. He has a saying from his childhood - you may have heard it elsewhere - that's: "You learn more by listening than by talking."
Sure, we often gain by thinking out loud, including discovering our truth by speaking it. But on the whole, listening brings ... Views: 997
You don't need to turn back the clock to be happy. These tips will help you navigate mid-life.
Every time I wish my 96-year-old Uncle to have a fabulous day, he answers enthusiastically with, "every day is a great day." Attitude is a major factor in one's outlook on life, but economic and ... Views: 6186
The link between emotional and physical well being has been established for quite some time. However, many people believe that this correlation is merely spiritual or somehow not quantifiable. They might be surprised to learn that confidence affects one's health in several objective ... Views: 912
Learning how to not take things personally is something we can all benefit from. I mean, who doesn’t want to be more centered & resistant to all the meaningless criticism (constructive ones are good). Here we will look at the general attitude & behavior of your critics and ways to deal with ... Views: 1090
Recently I went through a period of intense physical pain which lasted several weeks and caused some interesting effects. It reminded me of these words by the poet Emily Dickinson:
Pain has an Element of Blank –
It cannot recollect
When it begun – of if there was
A time when it was ... Views: 1335
A client recently asked me what the difference was, between healing and loving yourself and being selfish. To that person, they appeared to be the same thing.
Learning to love ourselves is an important step on our journey to grow in our emotional intelligence. Yet, fear of being selfish is ... Views: 3112
The past few weeks, we have been examining the benefits of decluttering and simple living. The studies make it clear that living a less cluttered life is beneficial not only for your mental health, but also for your family.
The problem is that so many of us have so much clutter. Where can ... Views: 1067
Dr. Michael Mantell coaches people to stir their healing power in the medicine of laughter and play. Living with stress, feeling uptight, being worried, not sleeping, and thinking limiting thoughts, kill the joy in your life—as well as your health and wellbeing.
One of the best anti-stress ... Views: 1472
Everyone knows what it's like to care about someone. Remember being with a friend, a mate, a pet: you feel warmly connected, and want him or her not to suffer and to be happy.
On the other hand, you've probably had the sense, one time or another, of not being cared about. That you didn't ... Views: 1027
Your health is one of the most important things that you truly need to maintain well into old age. When you are young, it seems difficult to imagine that you will not always retain optimal health. In fact, most young people imagine that they are virtually invincible. When your health starts to ... Views: 1020
Imagine a world in which people interacted with each other like ants or fish. Imagine a day at work like this, or in your family, aware of the surface behavior of the people around you but oblivious to their inner life while they remain unmoved by your own.
That's a world without empathy. To ... Views: 976
23-year-old Poppy Smart of Worcester UK, grew so tired of being the recipient of wolf-whistling builders as she made her way to work each day that she saw no option but to report this to the police. Describing their behaviour as disrespectful and sexist she simply refused to tolerate it any ... Views: 1119