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- Sexting is Now Out in the Open, Now What? Part Seven - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Daniela RoherIn this seventh and last blog on sexting, we discuss what happens after one partner has acknowledged sexting with a third person outside of the primary relationship. How can the two partners rebuild their relationship, or is this impossible to do? First of all, it is important to say that ...
Views: 1874 - The Elephant in the Bedroom: Talking About Sex - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeFor most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about. I have come across a man who, after 15 years of marriage, admitted that he and his wife have never talked about sex. Don’t get me wrong. They do have sex. They just don’t talk about it. In other words, they never ...
Views: 2319 - Don’t Lie Back and Think of England - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeI am surprised that, in this day and age, I still am asked: “What can women do in bed besides lying back and thinking of England?” In case you are not familiar with this expression, it is an English saying with roughly the same meaning as “to grit one’s teeth”, i.e. to put up with what is ...
Views: 4352 - Sex Is Not The Same As Sitting For The ’10-year Series’ - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeI tell my clients that sex is not the same as sitting for the ‘10-year series‘. For those who don’t know, the 10-year series is a colloquial term unique to Singapore where students refer to official compilation books of examination papers for the past years for the GCE N-levels, O-levels and ...
Views: 1359 - Sex – Learning to Ride a Bicycle - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWhy is sex like learning to ride a bicycle? Well, do you know how to ride a bicycle? Not the four-wheeled type. The two-wheel ones (one front, one back) upon which the rider needs to be balanced. If yes, how long did it take you to learn to ride one? While you were learning how to ride the ...
Views: 2258 - Primal Sex for Cameron Diaz - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeI adore the American actress Cameron Diaz. She dares to be ridiculously funny in ‘The Mask’, has men swooning over her in ‘There’s Something About Mary’, gets to kick butt in ‘Charlie’s Angels’, and is not shy in admitting that she can’t sing in ‘My Best Friend’s Wedding’. She smiles readily, ...
Views: 1925 - Getting Feedback After Sex (Part 2) - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeIn a previous piece, I talked about the role of open- and closed-ended questions to get feedback from our partner after a sexual experience. You might begin asking for sexual feedback by using a few open-ended questions. If your partner is not forthcoming, or you wish to get clearer answers, ...
Views: 2712 - Getting Feedback After Sex (Part 1 of 2) - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeIn previous pieces*, I have covered how sex is not a one-way experience (in ‘Don’t Lie Back and Think of England’), as well as how sex can be like an elephant in the bedroom when it comes to communicating any problems that might be occurring. This week, I would like to suggest ways in which we ...
Views: 2570(1 vote) - Toys for Adults - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHave you heard of the expression, “Men don’t grow up; their toys just get bigger and more expensive.”? True, since adult men don’t talk of Matchbox cars, but full-sized motorized ones. What of their electronic devices and gadgets from the iPhone, Wii, mp3 players, to laptops? While we have ...
Views: 1494 - Slow Down, Cowboy! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHow can one overcome premature ejaculation? When is faster not necessarily better? That’s right – when we are talking about premature ejaculation or ‘PE’. PE is also known as ‘early ejaculation’ or ‘eager ejaculation’. This occurs when a man ejaculates quicker or earlier than desired. It is ...
Views: 1410 - Five Tips for Sex Dates - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeSex does not magically happen. You are stymied by a lack of time and energy and having kids have only caused sex from being erratic to the point of non-existent. You love your spouse and want to keep an intimate connection. However life gets in the way. Sex has turned into a dull routine and you ...
Views: 1338 - What is Slow Sex? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeAs the name suggests, it refers to the reverse of fast sex, think fine dining or a 12-course meal as opposed fast food. Slow sex does not necessarily infer to the amount of the time needed for sex, but the way it was being done – slow. It would be good to set aside 30minutes to practice slow ...
Views: 1591 - How Does One Stop Multi-tasking During Sex? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeePossible reasons of multi-tasking during sex can vary considerably: from boredom due to predictability of sexual routine; stress and anxiety stemming from work; habitual need to overachieve; to genuine lack of time in juggling work and household chores. Sexual inhibition from any kind of trauma, ...
Views: 1649 - What is Considered a Low Sex Drive? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWhat is considered a low sex drive for females? There is often a sexual desire discrepancy between the male and female. I like to first emphasize that just because you have a lower sex drive than your partner does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with you. What this means is that ...
Views: 1847 - Can Food Boost Sexual Desire and Performance? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeAphrodisiacs are substances that supposedly enhance erotic perceptions and sexual performance. In virtually all societies, people have sought such agents and have attributed magical or powerful properties to unusual substances, like ground rhinoceros horn. It is controversial whether any single ...
Views: 1222 - Too Tired for Sex - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWhat to say when you are too tired for sex. There are three things to say when you are too tired for sex. 1. Say something polite, nice or caring. Thanks for asking, but… (can state reason) I’m glad you asked, but… (can state reason) 2. State your alternative. I’d rather… I ...
Views: 1186 - Do’s and Don’ts for Your Sex Dates - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeDo's Discuss what makes a good date in your opinion so your partner knows Take turns planning the date and making it happen the way you like it to Talking about what is going on in your relationship right now, or resolve old issues End the evening with a high note or with a fun ...
Views: 1349 - Spice Up Your Sex Life - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWhat factors should a couple take into consideration when wanting to spice up their sex life? Consider if your partner is a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic (touch) person. Does irritating sounds bother him to no end? Is he particular about textiles, fabrics and the way they feel next to his ...
Views: 1270 - Best Positions to Have Sex - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara Lee1. For a quickie You have a few minutes and you want it hot, quick and sexy! Try Wall Standing Sex where both partners are standing doing penetration. The female uses a wall to support herself while being penetrated. Tip: Bend your knees to change the angle of penetration. The guy may wish ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - Setting Sex Goals For 2011 - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWe set resolutions, goals and targets for all manner of things, from our career and our finances to our love life; so why not for our sexual lives? Your face might be wearing a bemused expression after seeing the above title. But, let’s pause and think about it. We set resolutions, goals and ...
Views: 2035 - Faking Orgasm – Good or Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWhen you fake an orgasm, you are essentially putting on a show for the benefit of your partner. Your reasons could vary from “getting it over with”, “sparing his feelings”, misleading yourself with “what he doesn’t know won’t hurt”, to the inner satisfaction of “pulling it off” and “getting away ...
Views: 1693 - How Will The First Sex Session be Like? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHow will the first sex session be like? Be aware of your feelings and know it is normal to feel excited and awkward at the same time. Talk to each other: ask what’s working and what isn’t, don’t assume that what feels good for you feels good for her. During lovemaking, the penis is ...
Views: 1859 - How Do I Get Her to Orgasm with Me? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeDuring intercourse, it is the outer third of the vagina that is most stimulated. Some women are able to orgasm through this vaginal penetration. That is, vaginal orgasm — without clitoral stimulation. However research has shown that (Shere Hite’s 1976 survey of 3,000 women) only 30% of women ...
Views: 1239 - What Can I Do About Premature Ejaculation? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeePremature ejaculation happens when a man ejaculates earlier than he would like to. It is also known as rapid ejaculation, rapid climax, premature climax, or early ejaculation. The average male takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he ejaculates. To gain greater orgasmic ...
Views: 1158 - How Do I Start Using Sex Toys? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeFor starters, you can use a vibrating ring which looks like a hair band except it has an external battery with an on-off switch. Have your husband stretch the vibrating ring over his penis and rest it at the base of his erect or non erect penis, and watch the penis come to live as you turn the ...
Views: 1684 - Five Ways to Maximise Sex - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWork out suitable times in the week both of you can make sex happen. It might sound unromantic to plan time for sex but we all know how to make time for what is important to us – and sex deserves us making time. The anticipation, lead-up and preparation for the date will make it ...
Views: 1520 - Does Male Circumcision Make Sex More Pleasurable? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeDoes male circumcision make sex more pleasurable for both the guy and the girl? The extra lubricating functions a foreskin provides are not present in men without a foreskin. However this can be remedied with the addition of a lubricant. If anything, the men I have encountered who underwent ...
Views: 2064 - Does Frequent Masturbation Cause Premature Ejaculation? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeFor most men, their earliest sexual experiences are with masturbation done secretly and quickly, for fear of being found out. Hence it is often believed that such early experience actually condition some men’s sexual response to a pattern of rapid ejaculation. In reality, masturbation is one of ...
Views: 2195 - How Can I Make My Penis Thicker, Naturally? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeThe length or girth of a penis is not the measure of a man. Penis pumps, pills, and patches can only make your penis bigger temporarily. They all work on the same principle of increasing blood flow in order to get a thicker penis. I would be wary of any body alternating devices and invariably ...
Views: 5475 - Do Guys Need to Take Protein Supplement After Making Love? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeDo guys need to take protein supplement after making love to replenish the loss of protein? There are many ingredients composing semen. A few of the constituent elements: vitamin C, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, citric acid, creatine, fructose, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, ...
Views: 1867 - How Can I Make My Orgams Stronger, Naturally? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeThe idea of having better orgasms isn’t meant to make you feel like there is anything wrong with the orgasms you’re currently having. Here are some basics: 1) Breathe so your orgasm becomes more of a full body experience; 2) Instead of tensing up and holding still during orgasm, move your body ...
Views: 1810 - How is “Oversexed” and Sexual Addiction Different? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeThe definitive DSM-IV-TR, which is the latest version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders published by the American Psychiatric Association, does not recognize sexual addiction as a diagnosis. Conventional wisdom among therapists has long been that there is no such thing ...
Views: 2147 - Oral Action - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHow can a man best use his tongue to bring a woman to orgasm? What are some techniques he can try? Our fingers are hard, dry, and possibly chafing. On the other hand, your tongue is warm and moist, hence probably superior to the penis in giving her an orgasm. Also it is easier for most women ...
Views: 1299 - How Do I Help Her Overcome Her Bedroom Insecurities? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara Lee1. Do not make fun of or dismiss her anxieties/ insecurities as irrelevant, nonsensical and the like. 2. Find out where her comfort level is i.e. she doesn’t like/ want to do A, B, or C. What can she do or is willing to do? Start from there. 3. Gently stretch her comfort ...
Views: 1279 - My Wife is Not Interested in Sex. What Should I Do? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeIt is normal for couples to have differences in their sexual desire. It is important for couples to begin by having a honest discussion with how often they need to have sex versus how often they would ideally like to have sex. There needs to be a conversation about the role sex plays in a ...
Views: 1650 - Bible Verses About Love - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Amy DyslexMeaning of Love in Bible The English word "love" has many different meanings and implications. It is commonly interpreted in the terms of affection, benevolence, passion, strong liking, romance, intimacy and sexual or physical attraction. Biblical implication of the true meaning of love is ...
Views: 1323 - Is It Safe to Use Flavoured Condoms? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeSome sexually transmitted infections can be passed on orally, so it’s a good idea to put on a condom for oral sex. Flavoured condoms would be the same strength as well as gone through the same rigorous testing as the normal condoms so you shouldn’t worry about it at all. There is a chance of the ...
Views: 2973 - How Can I Tell If She’s Faking an Orgasm? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeAn orgasm is not just a physical experience, it happens in your body, mind, possibly even spirit. And there is no single definition of orgasm. Some tell tale signs of an orgasmic response might include increased heart rate and blood pressure, increased muscle tension, a flush of her skin, as ...
Views: 1123 - Common Mistakes Men Make Sexually - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeIt is easy to point the finger elsewhere and say it is the men’s fault. For every man who we say is making a mistake, there are three fingers pointing back at you. Really, since men are not mind readers (though we would like them to be), we have to communicate. Men won’t be making ‘mistakes’ if ...
Views: 1272 - Putting Sex Life Back on Track - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHow do you know your sex life back on track? It depends on what aspect of her sexuality she is not happy with. If she is not receiving sexual pleasure the way she would prefer, she needs to be first looking at what are some possible reasons she is not asking for what she likes. Does she know ...
Views: 1085 - Am I Doing Alright in Bed? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeAm I doing alright in bed? How can I tell? We get turned on through our senses – seeing, feeling, touching, smelling, tasting, hearing – and through thought or fantasy. When we begin active sexual movements, we feel the flow of pleasurable feelings centering in the genitals and abdomen. The ...
Views: 1173 - Back on The Dating Scene - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWhat’s the best way a guy who has been out of the dating scene for some time can get back in the game? Before venturing out into the dating world, take time to figure out who you are and what you are about such as listing a personal inventory of goals, lifestyle priorities, what works and ...
Views: 1021 - The Perfect Valentine’s Day Dinner - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeWhat are some tips on the ways a guy can impress a girl with the perfect Valentine’s Day dinner date? Generally, women’s sexual fantasies tend to be filled with more romantic interludes. The whole works would mean: the perfect venue for that perfect date – a 5-star hotel, an elite restaurant, ...
Views: 975 - How Do I Tease Her Ear? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeThe ear is one of the erogenous centres of a woman’s body. Since ears are very sensitive, touching, kissing, sucking and even gently biting her earlobes, can send her into a sexual tizzy. Turn up the temperature by touching her ear with your fingers and tongue, followed by small, slow ...
Views: 4346 - Should I Tell Him My Sex History? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHow much you reveal to your partner has a lot to do with what kind of a relationship you want. If you want an honest and open relationship, then it is important you are as honest and open as you possibly can. Your past is a part of where you have been, and may not be representative of who you ...
Views: 979 - Review of ‘Cowboys in Paradise’ - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeThis article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine. If you have been following my blog here, you may recall a previous post where I mentioned looking forward to watching an 83-minute feature film/documentary called Cowboys in Paradise. This is a controversial work because this is the ...
Views: 3452 - Tantra as a Key to Finding Love - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2011 from Meghan GehanIn this new age of psychobabble, open sexual expression, and deeply rooted need for healing the Earth and ourselves, Tantra is a perfect practice for finding love. Unfortunately, it is so misunderstood. Contrary to popular belief, Tantra is not sex and sex is not necessarily Tantric- yet sex is ...
Views: 1832 - Spending Time, Not Money: Turn your bedroom into a romantic getaway! - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Ande LyonsIn a perfect world, my husband and I are alone at a romantic resort, where we get couples massages, candlelight dinners al fresco, breakfast in bed, dancing under the stars, and lots of undisturbed nookie time. Here’s the reality – two busy careers, two busy kids, too busy and broke for ...
Views: 2449 - Skinny Dipping is Better Than Double Dipping - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Arthur LevinePlease feel free to use this article as long as credit is given to the resource box. (C) Copyright, Arthur Levine 2011. Works: Keywords: Skinny Dipping, Double Dipping, Johnny Oops What has sex got to do with economics? I’ve come to the conclusion that swimming naked in the pool is a ...
Views: 1857(1 vote) - Seduction: From the Avenue to the Altar - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Jonathon AslayHas seduction become a lost art? In a society of strong women with powerful careers and tight schedules it may have lost it's place of importance. Being aggressive is not necessarily considered sexy by the man on the other end of the couch. Alluring him with hints of desire can whet his ...
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