I adore the American actress Cameron Diaz.

She dares to be ridiculously funny in ‘The Mask’, has men swooning over her in ‘There’s Something About Mary’, gets to kick butt in ‘Charlie’s Angels’, and is not shy in admitting that she can’t sing in ‘My Best Friend’s Wedding’. She smiles readily, laughs infectiously, and is ‘on’ about life. What’s there not to like about her?

Recently she upped the antenna with her quotes (in reverse order of my favourites):

On staying young:

“The fountain of youth? Let’s see – I guess it’s exercise, healthy diet, lots of water, lots of laughter, lots of sex – yes, sex, we need that as human beings. It’s healthy, it’s natural.”

A positive attitude about sex is the first thing to having a great sex life. We all need reminding from time to time.

On traveling for love:

“Oh gosh, I can’t even count how many times I’ve gotten on a plane for love. It’s not unusual in this business; my lifestyle demands it. [......] You’ve got to go where it is.”

Rather than sit around and bemoan her guy not being around, Diaz is ready to travel to him. She takes responsibility to get what she wants. Do you?

On whether or not she is dating Alex Rodriguez:

“No, no, no. I’ve been in relationships since I was 16 years old. In the past three years I’ve made a conscious decision not to be in a relationship for as long as I want. I’ve stayed away from all the traps out there for me to just fall into something that will potentially lead me down the same road…I want to have a relationship with myself right now.”

Rather than obsess about dating, marriage or babies, Diaz knows the most important relationship she needs to have is the one with herself. When you are happy and are at peace with yourself, it shows inside and then out.

On her famous ‘booty’:

“My booty has been on hiatus from film but certainly not from everyday life, where it doesn’t stop moving. It’s in constant sway and has a mind of its own. On camera, though, there just hasn’t been an opportunity for it to assert itself lately.”

This lady is feeding our minds (or at least my mind) with mental images of her shaking her booty and enjoying herself, much like her movies. She certainly knows how to stay on the ‘radar’ of the most notable and noticeable celebrities. When was the last time you tried to seduce your partner with some fantasy?

On primal sex:

“I’m primal on an animalistic level, kind of like, ‘Bonk me over the head, throw me over your shoulder. You man, me woman.’ Not everybody has the right kind of primal thing for me…I love physical contact. I have to be touching my lover, like, always. It’s not optional.”

Diaz sounds like a kinesthetic person, where touch nurtures her. She knows what type of sexual contact she likes and is not going to be shy about asking for it. The clearer we are about what we want and like, the more likely we are to get it.

On potential partners:

Diaz says she’s open to all possibilities. “Sexuality and love can be different things,” she says. “I can be attracted to a woman sexually, but it doesn’t mean I want to be in love with a woman. If I’m going to be with a woman sexually, it doesn’t mean I’m a lesbian. We put these restraints and definitions on people, but it’s hard to define.”

Diaz knows that romantic love and sexual attraction are different. She also has enough understanding about human sexuality to recognise that sexual orientation and sexual behaviour are not mutually exclusive. She is not going to let others (or herself) define and compartmentalise her into a neat box which restricts sexual expression.

I appreciate how Diaz is able to so clearly articulate what most people do not get. Diaz appears to have a good head on her shoulders and probably has far greater understanding of the diversity and complexity of human sexuality than we might think. So keep your eyes and ears on the lookout for what else this quotable lady has to say next. At age 38, I still think she is a sweetheart.


Cameron Diaz


On staying young


On travelling for love


On potential partners


Author's Bio: 

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.