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- "Tantra" Sowing the Seeds of Love, Truth and Beauty - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2013 from Goddess GenieTantra is a manifestation art. It is a place where we can move from mediocrity to the full extent of our joy. Tantra is a joyous art, one that will take us to great places if we allow it. The word Tantra is a Sanskrit word that has more than one English translation. The one that I feel expresses ...
Views: 2015(1 vote) - ****The Subtle Devaluation in a Narcissistic Relationship - When Jekyll Meets Hyde - Laney Zukerman, Relationship & Empowerment Coach, author, Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachA romantic relationship with a Narcissist can be an exciting, whirlwind experience. They are often charming and the life of the party. If they are interested in you, nothing will stop them from winning you over. They will flirt, entice, persuade and pursue until you give them a chance. ...
Views: 3134(1 vote) - ***INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE: POLITENESS IS THE KEY - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Bisi AdewaleMany couples lack some basic courtesies needed to build intimacy in marriage. Rudeness, careless words, disrespect for one's spouse, criticisms, public embarrassment do not portray politeness. Before the wedding, most singles ensure they are courteous as they put their partner ahead of ...
Views: 2374(1 vote) - ***Intimacy is Scary – Are YOU Ready? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneMost of us believe that we want to have a loving and intimate relationship with a significant other. But we may not realize what that actually means. We may not be ready to deal with and reveal our own inner demons, those parts of our self that cause us to feel hurt, insecure, ashamed and ...
Views: 4916(5 votes) - ***What Does Having Sex Mean to You? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2012 from Margaret PaulI’ve been counseling individuals and couples for many years. More than half the time, when couples are having problems or the relationship is dissolving, sex is one of the major issues. There are a number of common scenarios:After a long marriage with regular sex, he comes home to discover that ...
Views: 3700(1 vote) - 10 Creative Valentine’s Gift Ideas - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Allura JoyThe Valentine’s Day gift you choose for your loved one and how you decide to spend the day says a lot about the quality of your relationship, so give something that has real meaning to you. Gifts from the heart don’t have to be expensive and will tend to have more significance when you put some ...
Views: 2594(3 votes) - 3 Steps To Ensure You Learn How To Talk Dirty To A Man - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2011 from Natasha NaomiLearning how to talk dirty can be a fulfilling and rewarding journey that the two of you (you and your man) can share together. However, it'll only work if the two of you have a solid foundation by learning how to talk dirty the right way. Many times, when a woman tries to learn how to talk ...
Views: 1486(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Cope with Your Partner’s Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2019 from Dr. Shonda LackeyDoes it seem like every time you start to get close to your partner, she or he finds a way to prevent you from connecting on a deeper level? If so, your partner may be struggling with fear of intimacy. WHAT IS INTIMACY? In order to understand fear of intimacy, it is necessary to understand ...
Views: 3365(1 vote) - 3 Ways To Live Without Regret - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2015 from Nurturing MarriageOriginally published here: http://www.nurturingmarriage.org/the-little-things/3-ways-to-live-without-regret Time never stops marching on. I remember watching TV every New Year's Eve, and seeing the ball in Times Square drop - all while inevitably hearing my parents say, "Every year seems to ...
Views: 1080(1 vote) - 3 Ways To Repair A Relationship That Will Surely Work - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Mika MaddelaIf your relationship is teetering on the edge of disaster then it this might be the best time for you to find ways to repair a relationship and get it back on track again. Leave it Alone Although it seems unlikely, this is actually one of the top ways to repair a relationship. If both of ...
Views: 1422(1 vote) - 5 Different Types of Flirting – Which One Describes You? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Madeline FosterIs Your Flirting Technique Up To Par? How we flirt says a lot about who we are and what our chances of finding love or starting a relationship. Take a look at the top five flirting styles and see which one best portrays you. 1. The Traditional Flirt. In traditional ...
Views: 2166(1 vote) - 5 Reasons giving a massage can be a great gift this Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2021 from Wendy MackayLooking for a gift to show that special someone how much you care? Something different to the usual flowers or chocolates? Why not consider offering to give them a massage? There are great benefits for giving a massage (or receiving one!). Here are just a few - Massage can be adapted ...
Views: 1676(1 vote) - 5 Secrets to giving the best licky-licky oral service ever! - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2019 from Gaia MorrissetteWell boys, it’s your turn to discover and develop some magical oral skills that will excite and stimulate the woman (or women) in your life. These tips are also great for all the ladies who love the ladies! If you want to help her become a wet, screaming, moaning mess, here are 5 easy steps to ...
Views: 3487(1 vote) - 7 Great Tips for Improving Your Sex Life - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2011 from Allura JoyFirst of all, the term “great sex” is totally subjective. What I considered great sex or a fantastic lover to me many years ago does not even come close in measuring up to subsequent sexual experiences. I didn’t know what I was missing as I had nothing better to compare it to at the time. ...
Views: 3073(1 vote) - 7 Keys to Self-Love and Positive Inner Calm - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2013 from Solvita BennettDear Friend, … We are generally conditioned through our life experiences that we must deserve love, not only from others, but also from ourselves. This influence comes from our very early childhood. We can all remember the situations in our childhood, when we as little children were punished ...
Views: 1607(1 vote) - 8 Ways to Develop Great Listening Skills - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Amy TorresHave you ever been talking to someone who is looking around the room while you speak? Or who interrupts you to say something on a completely different subject? Maybe you were confiding in a friend who seemed distracted and when you accused her of not listening, she said indignantly, "I was ...
Views: 3333(1 vote) - 9 ways to transform your relationship byraising your self-worth - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Clement McGrathThere are nine important benefits of high self-worth and when we apply these we will truly create more fulfilling relationships. Here is a brief overview of all nine. There is much more that can be said but this will give you an idea of how you can transform any relationship from stress and ...
Views: 1138(1 vote) - A Better Way to Say "I Miss You" - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Amy TorresThere was a time in my life when I was separated from someone I loved because he had to do military duty in Iraq. We were able to text and send letters and occasionally we even spoke on the phone. Inevitably we said, "I miss you." I began to notice that "I miss you" left me feeling lonely and ...
Views: 5128(1 vote) - A Weekend of Instantaneous Transformation with Ariel & Shya Kane - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneFeatured in the September / October 2009 issue of Kindred Spirit Magazine, the UK's leading mind, body and spirit publication. In spring of 2009 I was sitting in a room with about a hundred other people from across the world who had come to Hamburg, Germany to immerse themselves in ...
Views: 2098(8 votes) - A Word about Soul Mates - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2016 from T. Renee RichardsonAloha! Speaking briefly on this, because although the subject of soul mates is not central to the services I provide, it occasionally arises within my work with individuals who are expanding their businesses. Women seem more susceptible to it than men, so since I work primarily with men, I’m ...
Views: 1369(1 vote) - Achieving Personal Power - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.This article discusses effective and ineffective ways of gaining personal power and how that search impacts those around us. Note: I suggest you read “The Victim Tyrant Cycle” as it includes important concepts used in this article ...
Views: 1486(1 vote) - ARE YOU CRAVING SOUL-FULL CONNECTIONS? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Cari MurphyARE YOU CRAVING SOUL- FULL CONNECTIONS? For many of us there is a rising passion and very sincere craving for true soul connection. This basic yearning propels us toward deeper connections that go far beyond sex, family obligations or external success. The sincere yearning to unite with ...
Views: 2107(1 vote) - Avoiding the Rut of Boring Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Allura JoyA standard routine is often a good thing, as a familiar schedule regulates activities, tasks and responsibilities, as well as instills discipline and organization. However the same old routine in your relationships and especially with intimacy may become a bit boring after a while. It is ...
Views: 3341(2 votes) - Balancing Healthy Relationships with Various Men in Our Life - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2010 from Allura JoyWomen enjoy a variety of qualities from many different men in their lives. We can still enjoy and honor a monogamous relationship; however one man is sometimes not enough to fulfill a woman’s many needs. We are extremely social creatures and experience unique connections with most everyone we ...
Views: 2288(1 vote) - Being Friends AND Lovers: Is it Possible? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2012 from Daniela RoherSome people feel very strongly that a person cannot be both a friend and a lover, as one will undermine the other. It’s one or the other, these people say, and cite the importance of mystery and the excitement of the new and the exotic as powerful forces that fuel sexual passion and physical ...
Views: 1944(1 vote) - Book Review: The Joy of Sex - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeThe Joy of Sex: A Gourmet Guide to Love Making by Alex Comfort This original The Joy of Sex, first published in 1972, has often been credited with inventing the modern sex manual and enjoyed unprecedented success world-wide gracing 8 million homes. Illustrated with line-drawings and ...
Views: 2515(1 vote) - Can a Narcissist Benefit from Psychotherapy? - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Darlene LancerMany people ask whether narcissists can change or benefit from therapy. Because narcissists see the cause of their problems as external due to their defenses of denial, distortion, and projection, their ability to look at themselves introspectively is limited. Thus, they don’t often come to ...
Views: 1066(3 votes) - Can rejection actually be a good thing? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltNone of us are immune to rejection. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, and whether it’s ending a marriage or breaking up with a partner. Even the strongest of us can’t help but feel like we did something wrong when the person we loved and cared about and spent our lives with as a ...
Views: 1237(1 vote) - Codependency: Effect of Self-Esteem on Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Darlene LancerResearch has well-established the link between good self-esteem and relationship satisfaction. Self-esteem not only affects how we think about ourselves, but also how much love we’re able to receive and how we treat others, especially in intimate relationships. A person’s initial level of ...
Views: 2113(2 votes) - Codependent Problems in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerEveryone laughs when I tell them that I wrote Codependency for Dummies. But codependency is no laughing matter. It causes serious pain and affects the majority of Americans, both in and out of relationships. I know. I spent decades recovering. There are all types of codependents, including ...
Views: 2797(2 votes) - Cold Empathy and Warm Empathy - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Sam VakninEmpathy is comprised of two components: I. Cold Empathy: an intersubjective agreement as to the mental content (especially emotions) of two or more human subjects; II. Warm Empathy: the emotional response to Cold Empathy. Cold Empathy is an act of taxonomy and an attempt to overcome the ...
Views: 4721(1 vote) - COMBAT NARCISSISTS’ AND ABUSERS’ PRIMARY WEAPON: PROJECTION - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2019 from Darlene LancerProjection is a defense mechanism commonly used by abusers, including people with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder and addicts. Basically, they say, “It’s not me, it’s you!” When we project, we are defending ourselves against unconscious impulses or traits, either positive or ...
Views: 1085(3 votes) - Commitment: The Essential Ingredient In Your Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2007 from Richard NicastroAnyone who has run a marathon knows about commitment. To compete, the athlete relies on extensive training and physical fitness. But when the initial enthusiasm wanes and the painful, long-distance realities grip the runner's body, it is sheer dedication--commitment to completing what she ...
Views: 15607(2 votes) - Communicating with Your Lover - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Allura JoyWhether you’ve been with your partner for years, or are with someone new for the first time, it’s important to express what you want. There are many ways to communicate your desires. We do this through our behaviors, through our actions and reactions, through our body language, or by simply ...
Views: 3788(2 votes) - Communication Skills to Improve Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2011 from Allura JoyIf part of your New Year’s resolution is to improve your relationship and enjoy better sex, then listen up! Intention is certainly the first step; however it will also take thoughtfulness, preparedness and action to make any drastic improvements. In the previous article, there are 7 Great Tips ...
Views: 1917(1 vote) - Communication Skills: the Secret to Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2012 from John and Elaine LeademCan you read your partner’s mind? Of course not! Neither can your partner read your mind. But this is what you may have come to expect of each other if you grew up in a movie-script, hearing phrases like: “Love is never having to say you are sorry.” Or perhaps you learned as a child that: “You ...
Views: 1942(1 vote) - Communication Through the Body - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Susan Schwartz, Ph.D.Surprisingly communication is not words alone. It is comprised of a confluence of ways of being oneself and of being together, physically and emotionally. It speaks volumes the way we approach our partner, the air we exude and whether we say anything or not, the totality of the atmosphere we ...
Views: 1418(1 vote) - Could He Be Going Through MANopause? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Allura JoyWomen may not be the only ones who experience a “life change” in their bodies and emotions as they become older. Some doctors claim that many of their male patients report similar symptoms that women endure in perimenopause and menopause. Some men experience decreased energy and muscle tone, ...
Views: 2698(1 vote) - Creating Intimacy and Love: A Review - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental WeaverWhen the word Tantra comes to mind, one may think of ancient Eastern practices, intricate sex or images of naked gods and goddesses bursting with light and twisted into most difficult Kama Sutra positions. When you break it down, however, the word Tantra means “weaving” in Sanskrit. Tantra is a ...
Views: 1866(1 vote) - Cultivating Intimacy In Our Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Debra RebleAbsolute trust is the cornerstone for cultivating intimacy in our relationships. True intimacy is based on mutual absolute trust and requires that both people are willing to be open, vulnerable and uninhibited with each other. Moreover, we find that the more we open ourselves, the more we ...
Views: 1701(1 vote) - Dating a Love Rat by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomDating a love rat by Rosemary Price psychic. In my decades of working as an agony aunt most of my clients have been women who have been upset because of the broken promises of a man. Very often it has seemed to them that their whole World has come to an end because they trusted him so much and ...
Views: 2317(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1593(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Although I had to let go, I still care a lot. - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your articles are very helpful to me. Can you tell me what book of yours can help me heal from my last relatioship. The pain is still there and although I am sure I had to let go, I still care a lot. Dear Reader: I'm sorry you're hurting. I know how difficult it ...
Views: 792(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "No Strings Attached Sex" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situation I am facing currently. I am a young male and I cannot handle having sex for a while with a person ...
Views: 1380(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Viagra give him Insomnia? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 39 & my boyfriend is 51. He takes Viagra & Cialis (on an as needed basis). We have a terrific relationship. We seem to have no problem lying there & falling asleep for a short time after making love. I have a really comfortable bed, ...
Views: 1718(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I help her to turn around? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read your article "Fair Fight Guidlines" and it is impressive. I like to ask your advise for the following situation: I have married for 20 years and three beautifull children. My wife whom I love the most, uses power struggle tactics: guilt and ...
Views: 1345(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I resume my initial romance with my wife? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of ...
Views: 1143(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Sleep with my Ex-girlfriend's Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Maybe you can give me some advice. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. ...
Views: 3126(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I flirt to grab a guy's attention? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'd like to learn something flirty and funny that will grab a guys attention!? I am going bowling with my crush and a group of friends (I never talk to my crush so this is huge!) and I am trying to think of some cute flirty things to say! Any suggestions? Examples please ...
Views: 918(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
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