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- Hold On to Love: Healthy Realtionships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from odette worrellLOVE. We all want it, work hard to find it, and somehow, struggle with it once we do. I attribute this to the societal “happily ever after” rather than the “happy right now” mindset. When we build expectations into our relationships with family members, partners, or friends, we define ...
Views: 2020(1 vote) - Hot Buttons: 90/10 Principle - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Joyce Dolberg RoweYour partner has said or done something that really makes you furious. You are outraged. You are hurt to the core. You cannot believe it! If your partner cared for you, they would never have behaved in such a way. The person you have just started to date does not return your call in a ...
Views: 1362(1 vote) - Hot Summer Sex: Touch, Touch And More Touch - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHot Summer Sex: Touch, Touch and More Touch By Al Link and Pala Copeland - 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra It’s summer, glorious summer and the heat in the air cranks up the heat in your groin. It seems that everywhere you look there’s bared flesh – luscious flesh, firm ...
Views: 6931(1 vote) - How Differences Can Make a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Shela DeanHalloween. Every year it's a challenge to be creative and accommodating to my I'm-not-wearing-that sweetie at the same time. I love creative costumes. My ex was cooperative. He once allowed me to dress him as a topless dancer. The boobs I made for him out of balloons, cut up pantyhose, and ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - How Engagement Counseling Can Affair-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Sheryl PaulMy clients call me with a variety of anxiety-based questions (many of which I’ve discussed in previous articles): Does my anxiety mean that I don’t love my fiancé enough? How do I know that I’m making the right decision? Is there someone out there who’s better for me? Does the fact that I’m not ...
Views: 2719(1 vote) - How sexy are your eyes? To an Oculophilia, they are like diamonds. - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Madeline FosterIf you are turned on by eyes, you may have a form of partialism, or in other words, a fetish for one particular part of the body. Many people have heard about people with a foot fetish, but not that much is known about other weird attractions to bits and pieces of the body, not including ...
Views: 2673(1 vote) - How to Achieve the Big ‘O’ and More! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Allura JoyWhen it comes to getting ‘turned-on’, men are mostly driven by visual and physical stimulation. For women, sex is much more of a mental and emotional experience. Stress is the most common obstruction in being able to feel optimum sexual pleasure. If your mind is full of distracting thoughts or ...
Views: 4036(2 votes) - How to Achieve the Big ‘O’ and More! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Allura JoyWhen it comes to getting ‘turned-on’, men are mostly driven by visual and physical stimulation. For women, sex is much more of a mental and emotional experience. Stress is the most common obstruction in being able to feel optimum sexual pleasure. If your mind is full of distracting thoughts or ...
Views: 4036(2 votes) - How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game! - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownRemember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes time in pain and sorrow. ...
Views: 793(1 vote) - How To Do Kegel Exercises - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Mark JoelIntroduction Kegel exercise got it’s named after Dr. Arnold Kegel (Arnold H. Kegel M.D., F.A.C.S. (1894–1981), he was a gynecologist who invented the Kegel exercises as non-surgical treatment of genital relaxation. Kegel exercise consists of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part ...
Views: 2072(1 vote) - How To Find What You Really Are - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2012 from David SamuelIf you observe yourself, you will discover that all you are is an emotional feeling. It could be positive or negative, love, anger or hatred, it changes frequently, but ultimately we are nothing more than emotional feelings. Are not all your thoughts and actions an expression of your ...
Views: 1330(2 votes) - How to Get Your Groove Back - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2010 from Allura JoyWhen you are “in the groove”, you feel confident, sexy, healthy and strong! Being in the groove is all about attitude, and is really quite noticeable to others. People can sense your energy if you feel secure, positive and optimistic – all incredibly attractive qualities. But what happens when ...
Views: 3421(4 votes) - How to Have Your Cake and Eat It Too: 5 Keys to a Fabulous Marriage (and a Great Wedding)! - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Cathy Hartman"I am going to have the most amazing wedding ever! We are having over 300 friends and family, an amazing band, incredible food, a beautiful location...we pulled out all the stops!" Does this sound like a commitment to a great wedding or what! What does it mean to be committed? What does it ...
Views: 778(1 vote) - How to Raise Your Self-Esteem - What Is Codependency? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2016 from Darlene LancerSelf-esteem is key to success in work, and enjoyment of life and relationships. It affects our thoughts, feelings, and behavior, and how we handle life's challenges. Low self-esteem underlies addiction, anxiety, depression, abuse, intimacy problems, and codependency. Our self-esteem is usually ...
Views: 2067(2 votes) - How to Resolve your Relationship Conflicts through Communication - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Susan LiddyRelating with others is a delicate balancing act between having our own wants and needs fulfilled, and making sacrifices on behalf of the other person. In other words: relationships are about give and take. The line where things grow blurry is in the everyday exchanges we have with those we care ...
Views: 1289(1 vote) - How to Write a Kissing Scene in a Romance Novel? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2012 from Amy DyslexI’ve heard & read various people say that learning how to write a kissing scene in a romance novel can be a real test and prove to be a challenge. I beg to differ from those authors; writing a kissing scene can be the easiest things to do if you have the ability to visualize and imagine & blend ...
Views: 1924(1 vote) - HSDD - Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder in women - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Darren ReidMany women today find themselves suffering from a marked decrease in sexual desire to the point where sex occurs seldom or sometimes never. This problem occurs in many women who previously enjoyed sex, and possessed a strong sex drive and high levels of sexual pleasure. HSDD is the ...
Views: 3553(1 vote) - I Still Love My Ex Girlfriend But She's Moved On - Advice For Men Who Want Her Back - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2016 from Michael UadialeIf you and the woman you love aren't together anymore you are either feeling one of two things. You may be feeling as though the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders because the relationship was incredibly difficult and tense. On the other hand you may be saying to yourself I ...
Views: 10348(1 vote) - Improving Your Marriage May Begin With You - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachMy approach to working with couples has always started with the following: Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues. They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the ...
Views: 2256(2 votes) - Inner Child Healing - How to begin - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Robert Burney"Recovery involves bringing to consciousness those beliefs and attitudes in our subconscious that are causing our dysfunctional reactions so that we can reprogram our ego defenses to allow us to live a healthy, fulfilling life instead of just surviving. So that we can own our power to make ...
Views: 3296(1 vote) - Intimacy - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Chandi DeviLove seeketh not itself to please, nor for itself hath any care, but for another gives its ease, and builds a Heaven in Hell’s despair. …William Blake Most of us “love” on a shallow level and yet we expect great rewards from our relationships. We are ...
Views: 1789(1 vote) - Intimacy and Safety - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Daniela RoherAll intimate relationships are supported by two pillars: Intimacy andSafety. Intimacy implies both closeness and communication (Holmes, J.Attachment, Intimacy, Autonomy, J. Aronson, 1996.) The more we communicate with one another, the closer we get. The closer we get, the easier and deeper our ...
Views: 1666(1 vote) - Is Sex Sinful? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Janelle AlexHundreds of thousands, more than likely millions, of people have grown up being taught that sex is a sin. It is considered dirty and should only be done to produce new life, and even then it should be done quickly and with extreme secrecy. In some ancient societies, if a woman was raped within ...
Views: 1580(1 vote) - Is Your Ex-Girlfriend Is Dating Again? Don’t Make This Mistake If You Want Her Back! - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Mika MaddelaIt’s not easy to move on from a painful breakup… especially if your ex-girlfriend is dating again. Even if you have already accepted the breakup, it can be devastating to find out that your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else. If you want to get her back, make sure you apply these things down ...
Views: 6888(1 vote) - Is Your Heart Committed? Is His? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2010 from Darlene LancerWomen, in particular, are looking for commitment. Hollywood, the media, and dating websites all focus on getting a marriage proposal. The art of seduction pre-dates expert Cleopatra. Dozens of books have been written about getting an unavailable man to say, “I do.” For six years, Carrie Bradshaw ...
Views: 1536(1 vote) - Juicy Relationship For Couples: Rules For Creating And Keeping It - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownI could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything ...
Views: 1380(1 vote) - Kindness and Discomfort, A How-to - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Jeff SandersMy stepfather Dick (not a pseudonym) is incredibly kind. He is so kind it often makes others around him uncomfortable. His kindness enervates a room and can trigger others to tease or to create an opposing position. He is regularly, persistently and unceasingly complimentary. He sees the ...
Views: 1457(1 vote) - Learning to Last Longer: Relax. The Journey is its Own Reward. - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2012 from Benny GilbetPremature ejaculation affects not only you but your partner as well. Feelings of anger and resentment can arise from continued unsatisfying sexual encounters. The good news is that this does not have to be a permanent problem. Read on and learn what you (and your partner) can do to improve your ...
Views: 1752(1 vote) - Leaving the nest - Are you ready to let go and live? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneHave you been living a safe and secure, but unexciting life? Are you ready to leave the nest? Have you been settling into a life of less than satisfying comfort and less than optimal emotional, relational, financial and spiritual success? What is a nest? The online Thesaurus offers these ...
Views: 5486(1 vote) - Listening to our needs strengthens us - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.If you do for others and neglect your own needs, you are not nurturing yourself and you are not aligned with your true self. Often people are told they are selfish if they think of themselves and and put their needs before others, but really we strengthen ourselves when we listen to our own ...
Views: 1352(1 vote) - Love and the Best Sex Ever - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Mary HorsmanGo to the grocery check out. What do you see? Sex is all over the covers of the magazines. It seems we’ve gotten pretty comfortable talking openly about it in our society. Obviously, it’s a common need and desire for people to experience this physical activity. In fact, on Maslow’s ...
Views: 634(1 vote) - Love and the Four Noble Truths - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneThe Four Noble Truths are concepts derived from Buddhist philosophy - simploe yet profound principles to live by. Once we truly understand these principles, we can truly live in the moment, each moment. We can more readily accept whatever life is offering us, find the joy wherever we can, ...
Views: 2577(1 vote) - Love as you would like to be loved - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneAre you ready for love? Are you willing to take responsibility for co-creating the love relationship you desire? One of the ten Biblical commandments is "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." I would like to expand that notion. Have you ever done for a friend or a loved one ...
Views: 1837(2 votes) - LOVE BOMBING AND NARCISSISTIC ATTACHMENT - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Darlene LancerGetting hit by a love bomb feels glorious! The lavish attention and affection seems to answer our prayers. We’ve found Mr. or Ms. Right―our soul mate; unsuspecting that we’ve been targeted by a narcissist. The bomber abruptly changes colors and loses interest, and our dream comes crashing down. ...
Views: 1156(2 votes) - LOVE IS ALL AROUND: ARE YOU OPEN TO RECEIVING IT? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Cari MurphyLove is ALL Around: Are YOU Open to Receiving It? We all have a yearning to connect! So many of my readers, radio show listeners, and clients are wondering “How can I find my soul mate? When will I experience true love? Why does my relationship feel so empty? Is there something wrong with ...
Views: 1610(1 vote) - Love Letters For Him That Will Work - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2013 from David BrittoLove letters are a special part of any relationship. They're considered to be the keenest tool to speak out to your love , to inform him how special he's for you and how much you love and like him. Occasionally we seem to run right out of words when we are discoursing on the phone, or while ...
Views: 4209(1 vote) - Love or Lust at First Sight - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2011 from Stella SinglesIntimacy and Dating Advice 101: In our modern society there is a great disconnect in the dating world. What is it? Its how men and women view love, and lust. This is important for many reasons, but none more important than communication. It is plain and simple, communicate better and your ...
Views: 2154(1 vote) - Lying Vs Telling The Truth In Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Brian KrallNow I know what your probably thinking…what an obvious answer to this question it is that “Honesty is the best policy”…Right? But if the answer was that obvious why would I write a whole blog on it? Obviously this is still a necessary topic, as so many people in relationships still lie to ...
Views: 4442(1 vote) - Maintaining Peace & Happiness in Your Relationship During the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2010 from Allura JoyIt all seems so cliché… Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukah, Happy New Year… blah, blah, blah. For the majority of Americans, the holidays have become more about consumerism and expectations of material reward rather than realizing the true spirit of what the holidays may ...
Views: 2683(1 vote) - Make Love, Not War - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Amy TorresMaking love starts in the mind. It is what we're thinking that turns us on or off. Making love can be using the body sexually to express love, tenderness, and pleasure. Making love can be purely sensual-e.g., giving your partner a massage or a bath-fragrant with essential oils. Making love can ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - Marriage Help: How Your Relationship Expectations Shape Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Richard NicastroWe are all embedded in a continuous stream of experience—an endless current that is too expansive to for us to take in all the information at once. One function of the mind is to help you deal with this vastness: To select, order and ultimately, create meaning out of all the life that surrounds ...
Views: 1541(1 vote) - Marriage Intimacy – Discover How to Achieve it and Maintain it - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonAsk anyone who is in a long term relationship, whether married or not, and they will tell you that these intense relationships can be hard to manage! They tell us that “it’s hard work” to keep a marriage going well and that it’s also about “give and take” and ...
Views: 2332(1 vote) - Married or Not You Should Read This.. - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Asyraf AzizWhen I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I ...
Views: 2428(1 vote) - Masturbation is self-love - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2012 from Martha Tara LeeMention the word “Masturbation” and what do you think of? While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it. Masturbation may ...
Views: 6747(1 vote) - Meeting The True Friend - by Submitted on May 28, 2019 from Brenda ShoshannaSummer arrives, a time for travel, enjoyment, being with friends and family. A time for romance and love. Of course we all want friends, companions, company, love. We need to feel close and connected. We can enjoy a friendship for many years, but then often, we drift apart or the friendship ...
Views: 4950(1 vote) - More Than Skin Deep: Touch Of Love- We Can’t Get Enough Of It - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraTouch of love we can’t get enough of it. It’s a need. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs- men have five basic needs. One of these need are the physical needs like food, water, clothing and shelter, the safety needs like security and protection, the social needs which is the need of the ...
Views: 1261(1 vote) - Mulabhanda-Tantra Yoga Exercises For The Muladhara - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Chandi DeviIn our article on the Muladhar, we talked about the first chakra and how people get stuck there. The good news is there is help. To relieve some of the blockages of the oral, anal and genital functions of the muladhar, Tantra utilizes mulabhanda or contractions of the muscles of the first ...
Views: 6640(1 vote) - Muladhara, The Root Chakra - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Chandi DeviThe Muladhar © Chandi Devi 2007 All Rights Reserved The premise in Tantra is that there are seven energy chakras, along the spine in the subtle body. These are often described as petals of a lotus, with each chakra owning from four petals at the first chakra to one thousand petals in ...
Views: 6544(1 vote) - Music & Dancing is Like Sex & Romancing - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Allura JoyIf you’ve ever danced the night away, then you know how truly liberating, invigorating and therapeutic it can be to just let it loose on the dance floor. Music has a way of touching the soul in an extraordinary and profound way. Whether fueled by a DJ or a live band, dancing is quite similar ...
Views: 6473(2 votes) - My Heart Is Closed - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2012 from David SamuelWe all suffer from a heart that is closed, either a little or a lot, and we spend our life trying to avoid being aware of this, but it is always there in the back of our mind. This article will take the article; “How To Find What You Really Are” a little further. Our activities and desires ...
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