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- Living fully - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2023 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.We are born into this world with one thing—ourselves. So how do we make the most of this thing called our life? We can start by asking good questions, like: Who am I? What are my gifts? What do I love doing? What do I want to do and who do I want to be? How do I want to be with myself, my ...
Views: 377 - Healing Strife in Society - by Submitted on May 03, 2021 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there. Rumi Black and white thinking occurs when we believe there is a right or a wrong view or a good or a bad way of behaving and we split by taking sides. We are closed to learning and to others who do not ...
Views: 626 - Feelings and Violence - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2018 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.I believe that most of the violence in society comes from our aversion to our emotions. We fight the reality of what we feel because we don’t like the feeling. We try to make it go away by resisting what is. We battle with our feelings by drinking, running, eating, refusing to feel. When we have ...
Views: 1103 - Shifting Patterns of Learned Helplessness - by Submitted on May 20, 2018 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Growing up with developmental trauma* can cause patterns of learned helplessness where we shut down, get small, space out, disassociate and eventually get depressed. Another response would be to go into the big one where we puff up and present ourselves as bigger than we are (see “Being the Big ...
Views: 1449 - Being a Witness to Our Suffering - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Repetition compulsion* is a pattern we get stuck in where we are trying to ease the pain that manifests because our needs as a child were not met. The pain occurs when we are younger and because our feelings weren’t acknowledged, the emotions (of fear, anger and grief) are not resolved and we ...
Views: 1592(2 votes) - Bringing the feminine forward - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.What does it mean to bring more of the feminine into our culture and why should we do that? Is there evidence that it helps? In a study in Leadership: Women Do It Better Than Men, Harvard Business Review (https://hbr.org/2012/03/a-study-in-leadership-women-do), Dr. Jack Zenger and Dr. Joe ...
Views: 1568(1 vote) - Listening to our needs strengthens us - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.If you do for others and neglect your own needs, you are not nurturing yourself and you are not aligned with your true self. Often people are told they are selfish if they think of themselves and and put their needs before others, but really we strengthen ourselves when we listen to our own ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - Creating Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.When you expect to get the love you didn’t get as a child from your partner, you are stuck in the pattern of hope and struggle that you cannot win. This is a pattern that is created in childhood that seeps into our relationships (as most patterns do). The pattern comes about because the love we ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - Accepting Feelings Leads to Inner Peace - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Many of us were raised to resist our feelings (don’t be angry, don’t cry, don’t be so wild, etc). We do most anything to not feel: we eat, do drugs, drink, exercise, work, text, play computer games, and in doing all of this doing, we fight reality. When we resist feeling, we block reality, and ...
Views: 1841(2 votes) - Being the Big One - by Submitted on May 20, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Sometimes when we are little and things go wrong, we think we have to take charge and fix things. We feel it’s up to us to make it better. We think we have to be the big one and we’ll show the adults how to do it. Or we feel like no one else is seeing what a mess things are, or how unsafe things ...
Views: 1739(1 vote) - Achieving Personal Power - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.This article discusses effective and ineffective ways of gaining personal power and how that search impacts those around us. Note: I suggest you read “The Victim Tyrant Cycle” as it includes important concepts used in this article ...
Views: 1392(1 vote) - Healthy Fear Versus Unhealthy Fear about the Ebola Outbreak - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.How do we know when we have healthy fear versus unhealthy fear about the latest pandemic? Healthy fear stimulates our awareness and drives us to appropriate action. Unhealthy fear is not as effective because we are over stimulated. We are hypervigilant, stressed, and our body is tense, all of ...
Views: 1992(1 vote) - The Victim Tyrant Cycle - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The Victim Tyrant Cycle By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. This paper is about adults and not children. Children don’t have a choice when they are victims (they can’t leave their situation and if they do speak, often they aren’t heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps ...
Views: 2118(1 vote) - How to find Love - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2014 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The world is filled with people who are unhappy and even angry because they can’t get the love that they want. Most of us think that we need to do something different or be with someone different in order to get what we think we need—love from someone else. We have to be better, do more, achieve ...
Views: 1466(2 votes) - How to Heal Ourselves and the World - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2013 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Generally, society works against us discovering and being ourselves. We are taught to be what society and our parents want us to be. There is little faith in the brilliance and miracle of who we are. Instead, there is typically a fear that we are not enough and we have to push to be the best we ...
Views: 1849(1 vote) - The Seven Steps to Healthy Parent/Child Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2014 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The world in which we live is violent in large part due to how we raise our children. We assume that children are small and undeveloped and without the need for freedom and personal choice. However, we traumatize them by making demands, creating unnecessary limits, not listening to them and not ...
Views: 1776(2 votes) - What Kids Need - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.What do Kids need? Children need to be seen and appreciated for who they are. Our job as an adult is to look at a child and ask, “Who can you be?” This means we create an atmosphere of curiosity and attention, which nurtures a child to find the essence of who they are. We support their way of ...
Views: 2416(4 votes) - How Can I be Happy - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.I recently turned 55 and at my birthday celebration, a friend told me that I had changed more than anyone he knew. When I told this to another friend (with whom I have recently reconnected after 30 years) he said yes, that was true for him too, “you aren't the same person in so many ways, and ...
Views: 1730(1 vote) - Energy Psychology Heals Addiction - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Addiction results from using a substance repeatedly to cope with emotional and/or physical pain. Family history of addiction is a factor in the severity of the problem and one’s ability and willingness to stop, but using substances to deal with emotional pain prevents us from learning effective ...
Views: 4702(5 votes) - Clear Your Limiting Beliefs About Money - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Many of us have limiting beliefs that impact our relationship with money. During these difficult times when we are tightening our belts, it would be helpful to rid ourselves of any negative beliefs that impact our ability to manifest money. These beliefs originate from our interactions, cultural ...
Views: 4835(2 votes) - How To Clear Unwanted Blocks From Your System So You Can Achieve Your Goals - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2009 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.If you want to alleviate stress, reduce negative emotions, eliminate obsessive thinking, or help actualize your potential, you can use the following simplified steps of CLEAR. This method combines a number of energy psychology methods (EFT, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing) and is simple and ...
Views: 2259(5 votes) - Using Clear™ Energy Psychology To Help Victims Of War - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Overview The development of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and other psychological problems by war survivors has been well documented1. Despite substantial efforts to provide these individuals with Mental Health services, the reality is that that the services are not usually available, or are ...
Views: 2087(2 votes) - Change Works with CLEAR - by Submitted on May 15, 2007 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Book review of Change Works with CLEAR, Clearing Limitations with Acupressure Release By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. Ready for distribution; printed 4/07 by Change Works ISBN #: 978-0-9796033-0-3 Paper back; 150 pages Cost: $15 (+ shipping) available at: www.changeworksinc.com Book Summary Change ...
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