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- How Differences Can Make a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Shela DeanHalloween. Every year it's a challenge to be creative and accommodating to my I'm-not-wearing-that sweetie at the same time. I love creative costumes. My ex was cooperative. He once allowed me to dress him as a topless dancer. The boobs I made for him out of balloons, cut up pantyhose, and ...
Views: 1374(1 vote) - Self Esteem and Marriage - Would You Marry You? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Shela DeanWould you marry you? If you were/are single, are you the kind of person you'd be looking for and want to hook up with? Sure, we all want a partner who is our version of the Perfect 10. But truth be told, we cross our fingers that said Perfect 10 will settle for a Strong 7 and overlook a few ...
Views: 1800(4 votes) - Relationship Arguments - How to Avoid Misguided Conflicts in Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Shela DeanIt was in grade school math that I first learned about reducing fractions to their lowest common denominator. I hated math. Still do. But, I've learned that "reducing to the lowest common denominator" is a great term for describing how, in human interaction, we "sink" to the most basic, least ...
Views: 1576 - Relationship Differences - What We Can Learn From Each Other - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Shela DeanOne of the coolest things about being in a committed relationship is having someone to grow old with, someone with whom you share so many memories that sitting in the rockers on the porch won't be boring at all, you'll have so much to talk about. Equally as cool is how, if you open your mind ...
Views: 1887 - Prenup Agreement - Legal & Financial Issues - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Shela DeanThe laws and regulations that govern our life are staggeringly complex. No one, not even an attorney, can know them all. But, like it or not, your marriage is subject to a myriad of rules and restrictions imposed upon it by the jurisdiction(s) in which you live, beginning with whether you ...
Views: 1353 - Three Ways to Bring Playfulness (Back) Into Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Shela DeanRemember when you and your sweetheart first met? You counted the minutes until you saw him again. You called just to hear her sweet voice. The air was alive with the snap, crackle & pop of sexual energy. You couldn't get enough of each other and you were always on your best behavior. It was easy ...
Views: 1487(4 votes) - 3 Reasons Why Keeping Score is Good for Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Shela DeanYou’ve been told it’s death to your relationship but I’m going to give you three reasons why, when done right, keeping score is good for your relationship. 1. It’s a human nature “lemon” so you might as well make lemonade. Mother Teresa and Gandhi aside, we all keep score. It’s human nature ...
Views: 1712(1 vote) - Relationship Advice That Starts With You - by Submitted on May 04, 2010 from Shela DeanDo an Amazon search on "self-improvement" or "self-help" and you'll get a long list of books to choose from (including my book Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy). There are books on how to have better communication, better sex, more intimacy, fair fights, more fun, less ...
Views: 1343(4 votes) - Better Emotional Intimacy - 50 Ways to Love Your Lover - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Shela DeanIn 1975 Paul Simon released his hit song "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover." I recently looked up the lyrics and discovered something I'd failed to notice in 1975 when I was hummin' along. The song is about a woman giving a man advice on how to extricate himself from his current relationship. The ...
Views: 1583(2 votes) - Emotional Intimacy Starts With Touching - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Shela DeanTouch is essential to intimacy. Okay, I know you think I've just stated the obvious but I'm not talking about that kind of intimacy. I'm talking about emotional intimacy and the hand holding, arms around the waist, bear hugging, back rubbing, cheek kissing, fist bumping, high fiving, shoulder ...
Views: 3516(3 votes) - Togetherness in Marriage: What Is It? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Shela DeanWaxing poetic on the subject of love and marriage, Kahlil Gibran in The Prophet said, "Let there be spaces in your togetherness." Gibran is not suggesting that couples take an occasional breather from each other (although that might be a good idea, too). In beautiful, lyrical language Gibran ...
Views: 2023 - Greater Emotional Intimacy - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Shela DeanIntimacy means being connected. Sexual intimacy is physical; emotional intimacy is connection of mind, heart and spirit. Great sex is a blast. If you've got it, count your lucky stars but it's not enough to sustain a relationship. For that, you need emotional intimacy and it's the ...
Views: 1984 - Marriage Is NOT Hard Work - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from Shela DeanMarriage. It's hard work. Bologna. If my beloved had said, "You know, honey, being married to me is going to require hard work," I would have cut and run. My idea of a great marriage is not tantamount to labor camp. Yet we hear over and again, "Marriage is hard work." It's not. What's hard ...
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