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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Emotional Needs: Do Our Unmet Emotional Needs Control Our Lives? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that one has needs and these cover a wide range of different areas. For instance, one has: physical, mental and emotional needs. And although each of these are important when it comes to experiencing a level of wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment, it doesn’t mean that one will ...
Views: 5069 - *** Diversions and Distractions: Are you TAPPED Out? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Reldan NadlerWe are all on automatic and consequently overwhelmed. How can we tune back in? Daniel Goleman states in his newest book Focus, “our attention and focus are under siege.” We are kidnapped and diverted from being our best in the moment. How are we captured and detained from being our best ...
Views: 5042 - Don’t Just Think Who You Are, Know Who You Are: How To Become Emotionally Independent - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from David SamuelThe goal of personal development is personal freedom. Freedom from your emotions, moods, reactions to success or failure and most importantly, freedom from being dependant on other people or your environment. Emotional independence is not about suppressing or stifling your emotions, rather it ...
Views: 5018(6 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Become Obsessed With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end some people come to conclude that it was no longer working and that its time had come. And then there are others who experience an end to a relationship and find it extremely difficult to let go and move on. This could have been a relationship that was ...
Views: 5013 - Religion: Why Are People Attracted To Religion? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous religions in the world today; some of these have been around for thousands of years and some could be described as new in comparison. And as well as the religions that are clearly definable as religions, there are also other figures and establishments that are serving a very ...
Views: 5011 - Your EQ, not Your IQ, is Your Key to Success and Happiness - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Lisa SmithFor a long time, one's IQ (Intelligence Quotient) was considered the leading determinant of success (financial and personal). However, as more studies looked into the lifestyles and success factors of those with high IQ's, it became clear that this theory did not bear itself out. Many with high ...
Views: 4991(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Do Everything By Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go for a walk in nature, they would soon see that everything relies on something else in order to survive. One is not going to come across anything that is independent of its environment; what they will see is interdependence. When it comes to a tree for example, it could be ...
Views: 4981 - Mafioso Does Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2006 from Susan DunnI love Mr. Mafioso on AskMen. “Look, college boy,” he writes, “there are certain lessons that all the books in the world couldn’t teach you.” Strikes a chord with me. I came out of college quite the college girl. It was a college in rural Minnesota, very ...
Views: 4865 - Bleeding Gums: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bleeding Gums? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn todays world, ones image has become incredibly important. And there are all kinds of options for one to choose from when it comes to enhancing their image or even completely transforming it. The style of clothes that one wears can be changed, as can the style and colour of their hair. ...
Views: 4849 - Men who cannot Commit - by Submitted on May 10, 2012 from Rosemary PriceMen who cannot commit can make difficult partners and for the woman who is keen on or needs a totally serious one to one relationship can be described as a waste of time. In my thirty odd years of working as a relationship expert, life coach and agony aunt most of my clients have been women ...
Views: 4792 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Other People's Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone only focused on themselves and didn’t take the time to see how other people are, there is a strong chance that they will be seen as self-absorbed. Not only that, they might not have many friends either. This is going to cause them to feel isolated from others, and their existence ...
Views: 4773 - How to Avoid Being Hustled - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomHow to avoid being hustled. Not one day goes by without someone telling me that they have been conned out of their hard earned money. But when you analyse everything they tell you you can see how it happened. Take this example. A guy I know - who lives alone in a rented room in the worst ...
Views: 4730(1 vote) - Judgemental: Why Are Some People So Judgemental? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperTo be judgmental is part of life and it is something that everyone does to some degree or another. There will be some instances where this is seen as good thing and other times when this will be seen as bad or inappropriate. If one was to see an athlete or sports star cheat or break certain ...
Views: 4700 - Communication: Is It Important To Respect Other People's Personal Space? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperDuring those moments when one is in a crowded place, it is not going to be possible for them to maintain their personal space. The space that they need in order to feel comfortable is not going to exist. This could be something that one experiences everyday or it could be something that ...
Views: 4692 - Social Media: Can Social Media Stop Us From Living In The Moment? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one’s attention can be in the moment, it can also go into the past and focus on the future. This is something that is likely to take place for most people on the planet and it could also be described as normal. At times, one will want to reflect on the past to remind them of something ...
Views: 4558 - The Path of Forgiveness: Sympathy, Empathy & Generosity - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Ana HolubOn our forgiveness path, we examine many aspects of our emotional life. For instance, what is the difference between sympathy and empathy, and how do they fit into a life dedicated to generosity and healing? We are often taught that sympathy is the same thing as love. "Oh, you poor thing!" ...
Views: 4470(3 votes) - Neediness: Is Your Neediness Pushing People Away? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having needs is part of being human, there is a big difference between having needs and being ‘needy’. When it comes to ones needs, one is going to be aware of what they are and then go about getting them met. And at times they will be met and at times they won’t be. So in this case, ...
Views: 4469 - The Life Of Pi: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first saw the trailer to this film I thought it looked like the kind of film that is rarely made. Ang Lee came up as the director, and it appeared to be the ultimate adventure. After seeing the trailer I soon forgot about the film until I decided to go the cinema and it was showing. My ...
Views: 4458 - Disturbances of Human Energy Fields - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Ian StoneTo correctly restore Human Energy Field disturbances; it is important to understand when and why this interference started. This information allows for a Systematic Approach developed by the Metaphysical Institute to restore these disturbed Human Energy fields. This process is done in a quick ...
Views: 4421(5 votes) - Emotionally Undeveloped: Why Are Some People Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNot every part of a human being develops at the same rate, and this is to be expected. If one was to look at nature and see how a tree grows, they will soon see that the branches are not all the same length. Some are longer than others and at the same time, it hasn’t affected the tree. It is ...
Views: 4398 - Emotions Drive Behavior - Emotional Intelligence Training - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from Bill BenjaminRecently, we were designing a training program at the Institute for Health and Human Potential, and we began our meeting as we always do - by asking ourselves the question: “What do we want people to be able to do differently after the program?” It’s interesting that no matter ...
Views: 4392 - Who is an Empath? Add to the Empath Life List. - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Rose RosetreeWhew, empaths around the world are finally beginning to know they are empaths. When I published the first book for empaths in English, even I didn't use that word consistently. The title was Empowered by Empathy! Today, many people are wondering if they are empaths. That makes sense because ...
Views: 4359 - ***Experiencing the Power of Diamond Joy in the Body - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2010 from Jacqueline JoyJoy...the alchemical emotion. One drop of Joy transforms oceans of doubt and fear into Trust and Love." - Kevin Ryerson Joy is the ecstatic feeling in the body that uplifts you and radiates good feeling into the world around you when your Authentic Self, the Diamond Self Within, is fully ...
Views: 4320(5 votes) - Emotional Intelligence and Toddlers - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellThis week, I received a couple of questions about toddlers who hit and bite from parents wondering how to teach their youngsters about emotional intelligence. I also received similar questions about teens which I will cover in next week’s blog. I was drawn to the toddler questions when my ...
Views: 4302(1 vote) - Deceit: Why Are Some People Easily Deceived? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe just about everything that another person says. And then there are others who go to the other extreme, who question and doubt everything they hear. With other people having a balance between the two; so they don’t believe everything that comes out of other ...
Views: 4291 - Relationships: Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that ‘Actions speak louder than words’ and while this saying has been around for a very long time, it doesn’t mean that this advice is always followed. At times, it can be difficult to pay attention to anything but the words that are being spoken. When this happens, what ...
Views: 4277 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Be Happy? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhat makes one person happy is not necessarily going to be the same as what makes another person happy, but while their requirements may be different, they both have the need to be happy. This is something that most people on the planet want to experience; with their being many ways in which one ...
Views: 4256 - Presence and Healing the Pain Body - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2010 from Michael CasteelThe past is only the past when we become present to it. A new client arrived for her Core Wound Release session last week. She'd recently heard how powerfully healing and liberating the process was. I recall how excited and eager she was to schedule her session just a few weeks earlier. Yet, ...
Views: 4249 - Toxic Shame: What Is Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is said to be two types of shame. One is described as normal and healthy and the other is said to be abnormal and dysfunctional. Healthy Shame This shame is part of having a healthy conscience; with certain behaviours and actions being kept in check by this feeling. And when ones ...
Views: 4228(2 votes) - Character Education is Personal Growth for Kids - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2009 from Patrick McMillanSocial and Emotional learning builds character traits that provide kids with benefits that last a lifetime and lessons from Personal Growth and Positive Psychology can change the future and our kid’s lives. From Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill and Samuel Clement Stone to Zig Zigler, Tony ...
Views: 4196(2 votes) - Blame: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor change to take place and progress to be made, there needs to an element of responsibility. And this applies to all areas of one’s life; without it, something might stay as it is or simply get a lot worse. But while this is evident, it doesn’t mean that someone will take responsibility ...
Views: 4110 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Change Others? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life and cannot be avoided and yet that doesn’t mean that it’s an easy thing to embrace. There are many others ways that can be sought as a way to avoid change. One of those ways is to try and change other people. This is something that probably comes under the umbrella of ...
Views: 4071 - Asking Quality Questions - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2010 from Ty Bennettwe strive to build our influence and rapport with people, we all need to know more of what other people are feeling and thinking, wanting and planning. To do this, we need to use questions that “open” people up instead of “closing” them off. Our usual "yes/no" questions actually tend to shut ...
Views: 4060(7 votes) - Attention Seeking Behaviour: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen and recognised is something that most human beings want to experience. And while this is part of being human and nothing to feel ashamed of, these needs are going to vary from person to person. For some people, receiving a moderate amount of attention will be enough to enhance ...
Views: 4056 - Defense Mechanism: Dissociation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDissociation is the result of trauma we have experienced in our life. And by dissociating from the intensity of the trauma, we can minimize the suffering caused. With these experiences being subjective in nature and usually extremely overwhelming for the individual, they may however seem ...
Views: 4043 - *** Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - by Emotional Intelligence has been found to be the critical success factor for leaders when compared with their Intelligence (IQ) and technical expertise. The further a leader goes up in an organization the more they need Emotional Intelligence. Emotionally Intelligent leaders know and manage ...
Views: 4041(7 votes) - Forgiveness Can Set You Free: Unshackle the Chains of Resentment - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Donna Marie Thompson“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive peace and happiness.” Robert Muller Often when we are wronged we hold on to the hurt. We own it – it is our hurt and we do everything we can to keep it. In the early stages, we use this as a coping mechanism ...
Views: 3993(3 votes) - Emotional Expression: Why Don't Some People Express How They Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who express how they feel, there are other people who don’t. And when one is not only in touch with how they feel but expresses how they feel, they’re going to experience life differently to someone who doesn’t. This is because emotions are important and not ...
Views: 3988 - Obsession: Is Obsession A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe words addiction and obsession can appear to describe the same thing. And yet there is a clear distinction between the two. An obsession is something that is usually in the mind and can relate to people, things and ideas; so all that is abstract and all that is concrete. On the other hand, ...
Views: 3987 - Being Exposed: Why Do Some People Have A Fear Of Being Exposed? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people feel comfortable with themselves, there are others who experience life differently. And it could be said that one will achieve more when they feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak. Based on this, if one doesn’t feel comfortable with themselves, it will then ...
Views: 3980(1 vote) - Emotional Support: Is Emotional Support Important? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are either independent or dependent and while it can look this way, ultimately we are all interdependent. No one is their own island and each one of us is reliant on others in some way. This is not to say that everyone has this outlook: Some people can ...
Views: 3970 - Wisdom and principle are more important than money alone - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Robert ComraddChapter 9 Why Money is not the Total Answer to Success and Happiness I’m sure you have heard the proverb: “If you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day, but if you teach a man to fish, he’ll eat for life.” I feel this is very true. A friend told me about a story that aired on TV. He ...
Views: 3942 - DISCERNING THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN INTUITION AND IMPULSE - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Cari MurphyDiscerning the Difference Between Intuition and Impulse So,how do we know if the inner voice we’re listening to is actually our intuition and not something else, like a sudden impulse? It is a fascinating and important question to address on our journey through life. I personally feel that ...
Views: 3939(2 votes) - Anger: Why Do Some People Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges in the world today and some of these challenges are to do with emotions; from depression, to suicide and a whole myriad of other things. And emotions cannot simply be ignored or dismissed. They deserve and need as much attention as ones diet or physical health. ...
Views: 3853 - Emotional Intelligence, A Critical Factor in Anger Management Intervention - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2004 from George Anderson© George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CEAP CEO, Anderson & Anderson Emotional intelligence is the capacity to create positive incomes in relationship to others and ourselves. It is the practice of being aware, understanding, appropriately expressing and handling emotional states in ourselves and ...
Views: 3839(2 votes) - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Fear Setting Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to protect ones personal space and what they own, it will be important for them to set boundaries. Other people are not always going to know what ones boundaries are; if people could reads minds, it would be different. At times, other people will know what is appropriate and what is ...
Views: 3818 - 3 Simple Ways to Meet Amazing People & Create Outstanding Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Danish AhmedHey there everyone!! The people that are part of my community love coming out to my parties, shows, and events. The experience people have is extraordinary, and they rave about it. Why? What’s so special about the people I know? I’ve been distinguishing what attributes of people’s being ...
Views: 3774(5 votes) - Abused Children: Why Do Abused Children Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the title refers to abused children, this article will primarily look at why some adults, who were abused as children, grow up to deny what happened to them. Individuals that were abused in their childhood by their parents or caregivers often find it hard to look at and admit to what ...
Views: 3754 - ***Your Own Inner Work Affects the Whole World! - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Margaret Paul"Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean." - Johann Wolfgang von GoetheWhat would happen if we each learned to take 100% responsibility for our own feelings and needs - learning to attend to our feelings with compassion for ourselves, and ...
Views: 3731(1 vote) - Speed Programming Competition Enhance Your Skills - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2012 from Alex BrownSpeed Programming, most of the members might have not even heard this term particularly people not belonging to Computer Science. I listen it a lot when my brother got admission in Computer Science, indicating he was really fond of programming. At the time of my admission in university, he ...
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