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- The Seven Stages of a Romantic Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoThere are seven stages in a romantic relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages vary in length and intensity. At each stage, there are thoughts and feelings telling you what to do and when to do ...
Views: 9475(4 votes) - What is Stress? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoStress is an interpretation of an event or circumstance which is understood to be a threat. It can be any force or pressure put on a system (living or nonliving) which may result in a need for the system to adapt or change. Stress on human beings is like a rubber band. You also stretch to ...
Views: 2152(4 votes) - The Art of Giving Advice: 3 Steps to Doing It Well - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2003 from Uzi WeingartenGiving good advice is a great gift. Yet, we sometimes run into trouble because of the way we offer it. The ability to give advice in a positive, constructive way is an art. Here are three points to help us offer advice with effectiveness and compassion. 1. Listen first. While this rule is true ...
Views: 15486(3 votes) - Talking About the War - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2003 from Susan DunnMatthew is not ambivalent about the war. He’s for it, 100%. This is his “first” war, being 30 years old. He’s watching the news avidly on t.v., is glad we’re over there, and sends me emails to that affect. My client in Australia has strain in her voice when we talk. She assumes I’m “against ...
Views: 1277(2 votes) - Emotional Intelligence: The Shot Felt 'Round the World? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2003 from Susan DunnI just hung up the phone with Li-Yan, who wants me to come to Malaysia and present a workshop with her on emotional intelligence for businesses. She quit her corporate job there, because she found the work environment stifling, unethical and demoralizing. Now she wants to help businesses in ...
Views: 1360(1 vote) - Father and Sons - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2003 from Phil WalmsleyA father had two sons and he loved each of them equally. The sons loved their father too. In front of their father, the two sons took to arguing amongst themselves. The bickering continued. Their voices became louder and louder. Finally one announced to the other that he was going to finish ...
Views: 1572(1 vote) - THE TOP 10 EASY, PRACTICAL WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR DIET, YOUR HEALTH AND YOUR LIFE - by Because I believe diet and exercise are so important, I'm often frustrated with the recommendations I receive. Nutrition and natural health ideas are often so negative (don't eat this, watch out for that) or so rigorous (be sure to eat some raw, natural, organically grown vegetable I've never ...
Views: 3043(1 vote) - The Top 10 Very Useful or Necessary Things For Anyone Over Age 30 To Have Or To Know - by After age 25-30, depending on marital status and other things, it becomes more and more helpful to have and to know certain things. Some are practical and some make sense from a life planning standpoint. The following are suggested for anyone over age 30, single or married, male or female, ...
Views: 1272(1 vote) - WINNING: DEFINING IT. ACHIEVING IT - by If you ask most people whether they would like to be considered a winner or a loser in life, they would most assuredly reply that they would like to be a winner. But this begs the question, "What does it mean to win at life?" In some things it's easy to define a clear winner. In a basketball ...
Views: 2408(1 vote) - RESOLVING CONFLICT - by I've done a lot of research on the topic of conflict resolution in recent months, and here are a few tips I've come up with for resolving conflict in your workplace and professional life:
Don't be afraid of conflict. Too many of us become agitated when we encounter conflict or disagreement out ...
Views: 1264(2 votes) - THE QUALITIES OF SKILLFUL LEADERSHIP - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2003 from Jim RohnIf you want to be a leader who attracts quality people, the key is to become a person of quality yourself. Leadership is the ability to attract someone to the gifts, skills, and opportunities you offer as an owner, as a manger, as a parent. I call leadership the great challenge of life. ...
Views: 1571(47 votes) - CHARISMA: WHAT IS IT? WHAT WILL IT DO FOR YOU? - by You're squirming in your seat, wondering if the next speaker can possibly be less inspiring than the preceding one, when, suddenly, the room falls silent. Looking poised and confident, the next presenter smiles, then begins.
Instantly, it's clear that he's good:
His strong, measured voice, ...
Views: 3506(2 votes) - Leading From Within - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2003 from Greg GiesenMuch like the lighthouse that provides guidance and direction for sea-bearing vessels, leaders must become the beacon of light in their own lives before they can effectively lead others. As we have come to learn, true leadership is not about a title or a position in an organization. Nor is it ...
Views: 1293(6 votes) - Your Greatest Resources - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2003 from Chris WidenerWhen people think about pursuing something, they usually first take a look at their resources to determine whether or not they can do it. That is a wise thing to do. But where most people fail in this process is when they look at their resources to determine whether or not they can do it, they ...
Views: 1113(1 vote) - AYURVEDIC PULSE TECHNIQUE - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2003 from Shekhar AnnambhotlaAncient Indian Art of Ayurvedic Pulse Technique Ayurveda is an ancient medical science of the world. Ayurveda means “science of life”, i.e. the science that imparts the knowledge of life. Life is defined as a constant combination and union of mind, body, self (Atma), sensory and motor ...
Views: 2787(1 vote) - Heating Up Cold Calls: 21 Tools for Tremendous Telephone Techniques - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2003 from Stephen LibmanOK, let's heat up the cold-calling debate. Is everyone a salesman? Yes! Do most people have to make cold calls at some point? Yes! Do most people hate to make cold calls? Yes! So, you have two choices; either hire someone (a professional telemarketer) or do it yourself. If you have the budget ...
Views: 4179(2 votes) - Predictions for the Gulf War - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2003 from Julie HargreavesThis message was channeled from Spirit - 24th March 2003 Saddam Hussein is alive and well and bunkered down under a hospital - one of the safest places to be during the bombing as it would not be a target of the coalition. The safest mode of transport for him is in an ambulance. The staff of ...
Views: 1237(1 vote) - Using Feng Shui to Harness the Power of Your Intention - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2003 from Vicky WhiteMaster Lin Yun, founder of Black Hat Tibetan Feng Shui, has stated that making Feng Shui enhancements without intention, is only 10% effective. However, add intention and you'll get a 120% improvement! If you listen to successful people talk about what makes them successful, one of the ...
Views: 2739(1 vote) - Going Solo? Choose a coach who won't kill your business - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2003 from Cathy GoodwinEntrepreneurs tend to be strong, independent people with little experience in getting help. Therefore, they often end up with the coach from hell. They grab the first resource that comes along and follow instructions brilliantly. Too late, they realize they're following a lost leader. Cathy, ...
Views: 1377(1 vote) - Why Your Loved-Ones Trample On Your Dreams - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2003 from Art GueliI repeatedly get the following question from my readers: “How do I deal with close friends and family members who don't share my aspirations for success (and many times shoot me down)?” This is a very common problem. Many times those closest to us trample all over our dreams. They say things ...
Views: 1485(2 votes) - Answers to Your Questions About Executive Coaching - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2003 from Susan DunnWhat is executive coaching? Coaches help executives increase their productivity, work relationships and work satisfaction, and the quality of their lives and that of the organization by increasing their emotional intelligence. They also help the executive define authenticity and values. ...
Views: 1436(1 vote) - A Perfect Match - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2003 from Alan CohenChris Chrysler was a skilled and devoted violinist who had a lifelong dream to own a Stradivarius. For many years Chris worked hard to earn enough money to buy the coveted instrument. Finally he took his life savings to New York City’s music district and searched many stores. After numerous ...
Views: 1334(2 votes) - Whose Pictures Are You Taking Home? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2003 from Alan CohenWhile walking through Costco, I noticed the large bin of photographs that had been processed and were waiting for customers to pick up. There were probably a couple of hundred packets listed alphabetically according to customers’ names. I was struck by the fact that all of these personal bags of ...
Views: 1231(1 vote) - Creating a Peaceful Home in Turbulent Times - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2003 from Kathryn WeberIn times of stress and difficulty, home becomes more important to our sense of well-being. We look to our home to provide a sensory reprieve that allows us to unplug from the stresses of the outside world. In turbulent times, we especially yearn for a serene space. However, creating a calming ...
Views: 4635(1 vote) - For All Of Us Who Like Food - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2003 from Vienna MillerWhile watching a special with Dr. Andrew Weil the other night (you know the guy with the beautiful white beard!)he said something quite intriguing. He was talking about how to design a weight loss program that works. (Of course I’m listening!) He mentioned something extremely interesting that I ...
Views: 1292(3 votes) - Stop Complaining! - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2003 from Jeff KellerHow do you feel when someone unloads all of their problems and complaints on you? Not very uplifting and energizing, is it? The truth is, nobody likes to be around a complainer -- except, perhaps, other complainers. Of course, all of us complain at one time or another. The important question ...
Views: 10860(4 votes) - Corporate Ethics, Your Ethics, Intentionality & Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2003 from Susan DunnMy granddaughter is 5. Last time she smacked her little brother and I had words with her, she said, “I didn’t mean to hit him.” A preposterous statement since I’d seen her walk over, pick up a book and whack him with it. But then she’s only 5. It continued, as I comforted both the offended ...
Views: 1503(1 vote) - Are You an Entrepreneur Who’s Not Afraid to Think Outside the Box and Make Some Money? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2003 from Susan Dunn“It’s called Companion Air,” my client Sarita bubbled. She wants to take a trip and doesn’t want to leave Rudy, her dog, at home. So there she is, with lots of money and time, staying home. I LOVE MY DOG AND I WANT TO TRAVEL What is Companion Air? ( http://www.companionair.com ) ...
Views: 1482(1 vote) - The Top 10 Keys to Crafting a Compelling Mission Statement - by Most individual or corporate mission statements contain industry buzzwords, are so complex that no one can recite them, and do nothing to inspire. The more elaborate it is, the less likely it is understood and remembered. Having a clear and concise mission statement for yourself and your Company ...
Views: 2189(1 vote) - Excerpts from Ken Wilber, Speaking of Everything - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2003 from Jordan Gruber"For the ultimate or non-dual paths, the primary reorientation is take up a spiritual practice. And learn to cultivate that awareness which is not a change of state. Which is ever-present noticing, through all changes of state, waking, dreaming, and deep sleep. There is that timeless, ...
Views: 1401(1 vote) - Test Your Own Marriage Satisfaction - by Marital relationships are complex institutions! In order to improve the quality of a marriage, it helps to take a systematic look at how it is functioning.
Here is a questionnaire you can use as a general guide for evaluating your marital satisfaction.
After each question below write down ...
Views: 4674(1 vote) - FIVE SURE WAYS TO FAIL IN BUSINESS AND IN LIFE! - by As I've worked with people at all levels of organizations and in a wide variety of settings, I've observed five common causes of failure in personal relationships, whether in business or at home. They are:
Preoccupation with self.
Hasty assumptions.
Negative attitudes.
An all-consuming ...
Views: 1439(1 vote) - THE 10 BIGGEST TRAPS TO AVOID WHEN YOU SPEAK: DULL TO DYNAMIC - by Whenever you open your mouth, whether your audience is one person or a thousand, you usually want to get a specific message across. Maybe you want your opinions heard at meetings, or you're giving a formal talk. Or perhaps you're in a position to advise your sales team or CEO on an important ...
Views: 2511(2 votes) - PERSISTENCE - by I believe there are three kinds of people. There are winners, who know what they want and understand their potential and the possibilities. They take life on. Next are losers, who don't have a clue as to who they are. They allow circumstances to shape their lives and their self-image.
I ...
Views: 1376 - CREATING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TO ACHIEVE POSITIVE RESULTS - by Your attitude determines the state of world you live in. It is the foundation for every success and every failure you have had and will have. Your attitude will make you or break you.
Attitude creates the way you feel about people and situations. Your actions are a result of your attitude, ...
Views: 8553(3 votes) - LOSE WEIGHT NOW! There is NO DAY BUT TODAY! - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Amy AgarHave you ever gone on a weight-loss plan and the only thing that got smaller was your wallet? Are you constantly depriving yourself of your favorite foods because you're on a diet? Or have you given up fighting the battle of the bulge because nothing seems to work? If you answered yes to any of ...
Views: 1395(2 votes) - Ease The Stress With Aromatherapy Massage - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan StewartStress is the response that your body has to all the demands made upon it daily. Everyone has felt the effects of a stressful day in the muscles of the neck or back. Whether you have sore or tense muscles, tension headaches or anxiety, getting a massage can really help relieve all that stress. ...
Views: 1574(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence & Your Toddler - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnI was in the grocery, knew I was approaching the toy aisle, and braced myself. Adam was sitting happily in the grocery cart, but I knew what was coming: a tantrum! I knew he was tired and hungry – this was an emergency run to the grocery. I knew I was tired and hungry, too. Adam and I were ...
Views: 2751(1 vote) - Olivia is 5, and Learning Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnOlivia and I returned from going to the rodeo, and we’d been talking about going swimming. “That would be fun,” I said. “We’re hot and sticky. Let’s ask your Dad if you can.” When we got to the house, Olivia ran ahead of me. While I was talking to her Dad, she came running out in her ...
Views: 1443(1 vote) - How Do You Help Your Child Develop Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnIn her book, “Taking Charge: Your Life Patterns and Their Meaning,” Gudrun Burkhard writes: “It is important that the child’s feeling life should find fertile ground on which to grow. Such fertile soil can be provided by art or religion, but above all by loving authority which comes from ...
Views: 1690(1 vote) - How to Choose the Right Coach for YOU, Using Your Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnMore people are hiring a coach every day. Choosing a coach is an important decision. To choose wisely, use your emotional intelligence - all parts of your brain, emotional as well as cognitive. HOW TO START YOUR SEARCH Start by doing the research. · Enter "EQ coach" on a search engine, ...
Views: 1284(1 vote) - How to Become Change-Proficient - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnIn today's fast-changing world, there's hardly a more important emotional intelligence competency to have than resilience. Resilience means being able to bounce back after setbacks, failures, disappointments and losses. It means not giving up, and continuing to face the future with optimism ...
Views: 1304(1 vote) - Teaching Emotional Intelligence to Your Kindergartner - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnCasey’s 5 years old and reminds me of Edith-Ann. She sometimes even stomps her foot and tosses her head. And that’s the truth! Casey’s what you’d call “high-maintenance.” She likes things to be just so, reacts strongly to what’s going on, and tends to get wound-up. We’ve been working on ...
Views: 1755(1 vote) - How Do You Get Them to Buy-in to Your Idea? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan Dunn“How can I get them to buy-in to this idea?” Anna, a bank manager, asked me. She had an idea for restructuring the department. She knew it would work, but only if everyone would agree to it. She talked about different department members: Bob, who disagreed with anything anyone proposed. ...
Views: 1850(2 votes) - Nutrition as an Attention Deficit Disorder Alternative Treatment: Help is as Close as the Kitchen - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueThe quality of food we eat (or lack thereof) has a profound affect on Attention Deficit Disorder and ADHD. For many people, nutrition alone can effectively work as an ADHD alternative treatment. A growing body of research points to nutritional deficiencies - especially with essential fatty ...
Views: 2395(2 votes) - Thoughts Are Things - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Jim DonovanYou've probably heard this idea at one time or another. You've probably nodded your head in agreement understanding that thoughts are in fact, things. You probably believe this and accept that your thoughts, being things, do in fact have power. Have you really thought about this? Do you apply ...
Views: 1608(2 votes) - About Formal Nights on Cruises - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Susan DunnMuch excitement and mystery surrounds the “formal nights” on cruises. It’s customary to have one formal night on a 5-day cruise, more in proportion on longer cruises. On my first cruise, I wondered what it would be like, how dressed-up people got, and what I would feel comfortable in. Let ...
Views: 3969(1 vote) - Free Ancient Alchemical Formula For Healing - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Gary SmithThe increasing likelihood of biological and chemical warfare being used against civilians worldwide indicates the time is now for us to offer our group's ancient alchemical formula for "Healing Waters" to all those who are already helping and healing others. This 2,000 year old formula is a 8 ...
Views: 2901(1 vote) - How Immune Are You? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Susan DunnCurrently, the leading causes of death for women in the US are: 1. Heart Disease, 29.9% 2. Cancer, 21.8% 3. Stroke, 8.4% 4. Chronic lower respiratory diseases, 5.1% 5. Diabetes, 3.1% 6. Influenza and pneumonia, 3.0% 7. Alzheimer’s disease, 2.9% 8. Unintentional injuries, 2.8% 9. Kidney disease, ...
Views: 1261(1 vote) - Communication With The Most Important Person - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Mark ThompsonHe was a student in the 6th grade. He was great in all subjects except Math. His step-father was sent to his room to help him with his Math homework. After a few minutes of silence, a loud yell of anger reverberated throughout the house. His mother came in to after her son was slapped in the ...
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