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- EMOTIONAL ABUSE : What it is and why it is so important to recognize - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossSticks and stones may break my bones but … bullying and name-calling can emotionally scar me forever. Not the original ending to the classic verse, but probably the more accurate one. It seems that broken bones will heal far more quickly than a battered soul. Does this sound overly ...
Views: 2171 - Fight Night - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten October 17, 1988 I was out in the back yard shooting baskets with some of the boys from the neighborhood. It was a crisp, sunny fall afternoon, sweatshirt weather, and I was feeling great about life. I had finally gotten the knack of the jump shot, and was really proud of ...
Views: 2169(4 votes) - Why Understanding Child's Play Can Help You If You're an Abuse Survivor Struggling in Relationships - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Adam ApplesonHave you ever watched a group of children playing together? There's so much energy and so much smiling. There's lots of running around, and then inevitably, somebody starts crying. Someone gets mad. There's a bit of emotional chaos. Sometimes a grown-up has to step in and sometimes the kids ...
Views: 2163 - Extra, Extra, Read All About It! Ten Million Children on Drugs! - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Regina MurphyAlthough this headline will not appear in The New York Times or The Wall Street Journal maybe it should. The chances of a child being addicted to drugs to alter their moods in adulthood increase exponentially if they are prescribed medication by a psychiatrist or doctor at an early age. Parents ...
Views: 2162(2 votes) - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 1) - by Many textbooks (and many patients ...) claim that the psychodynamic therapies when applied to personality disorders are ineffective. Functional (cognitive, behavioral) treatments should be preferred in certain cases and regarding certain aspects of the disorder.
To a Narcissist, I would ...
Views: 2159 - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 2156(1 vote) - A Phenomenon - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2012 from Teresa JoyceI sit here once more at my computer, with a jumble of thoughts that have been dancing around in my head for some days now. It has taken me until now to find the inspiration, and to really think about the concept surrounding this Phenomenon. We have all been in a position where we have felt ...
Views: 2153(1 vote) - Narcissism, Trump-isms, and Realism: The Narcissist's Illusion of Grandiosity - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2015 from Darlene LancerDonald Trump has grown an empire of wealth and power, but is it enough? He admits that it isn’t the money that motivates him. (The Art of the Deal, 1987) What drives narcissists are their fears of feeling weak, vulnerable, or inferior. Consequently, for male narcissists in particular, achieving ...
Views: 2150(1 vote) - TIPS: How to Cope with Financial Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Sam VakninQ. Would narcissists often try to restrict their partner's independence by reducing their access to shared family finances? Why? A. Narcissists are control freaks, paranoid, jealous, possessive, and envious. They are the sad products of early childhood abandonment by parents, caregivers, role ...
Views: 2150(1 vote) - Abusive Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Create A Tolerance For Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences some kind of abuse in their adult relationships, there is often the chance that they will identify with one of two outlooks. They can either see that this abuse is a reflection of what took place during their childhood or they can come to the conclusion that their ...
Views: 2142 - Exploring Step 2 of the 12 Steps: Hope is the place to be! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2010 from Ned WickerWe all want and need to have hope. Hope gets us up in the morning and drives us to achieve what we otherwise would just dream about. Hope allows us to keep going when circumstances are dire and there doesn’t appear to be any opportunity of turning the tide. Hope is the expectation of something ...
Views: 2141 - Regression - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2012 from Teresa JoyceThis subject was something that I really had trouble getting my head around, why would anyone revisit a point in their life where it spelt nothing but pain and suffering. Why the hell would I ? A place you would think that your own consciousness would crawl over hot coals to keep you from ...
Views: 2139(1 vote) - Exam & Parental Stress Drives Students to Drink & Self Harm - Discover How to Banish Exam Stress - by Submitted on May 21, 2011 from Marilyn DevonishExam Fears & Parental Pressure Drives Students to Drink – Discover simple ways to banish exam stress According to an article in The Metro this week, exam stress and parental pressure are driving many school children to alcohol and self-harming. The ChildLine counselling service says that 1 ...
Views: 2135(1 vote) - Attachments, Stress and Mobbing - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Gail ElliottPeople targeted by a mobbing process have been thrown from what they believed was an orderly world into a state of chaos in which many former points of reference are no longer valid. This confusion may prompt them to question all points of reference, including the ones deep inside of them. ...
Views: 2128(1 vote) - The Truth About How A DUI Offense Might Effect Your Life - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Ari NovickPerhaps you or someone you know thinks they can drive just fine under the influence of alcohol. Often times, people feel that they can handle a drink or two without any repercussions. They rationalize that they are a large person, or have had a meal, or are just able to control the affects of ...
Views: 2126(1 vote) - Breaking Boards and Breaking the Silence - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2009 from Lisa ChristiansenGi-Dee-Thlo-Ah-EE, This is the name given to me by my mother Sosti (Mary Ann Groundhog) at the time of my birth, My Name is Lisa, I am from the Blue People Clan and I will Break the Silence! As you come to know me better my hope is that you will feel the pride that I have lived with in my ...
Views: 2119(3 votes) - Are You Enabling Addiction In The One You Love? The Role of Enabler - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Bill UrellUnfortunately, many times, a loved one actually is enabling addiction through their well intentioned desire to help the addict or alcoholic. How does this occur? Consider the role of the addict; their intention is to continue the using behavior at all costs. What better way to continue that ...
Views: 2110 - Child Abuse: Can Validation Allow Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has experienced some kind of abuse or has had to endure some other kind of pain, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to move on from it. Because although one could be innocent and have nothing to do with what happened, as in the case of child abuse, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 2108 - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 2099(1 vote) - The Narcissistic Mothers Accomplice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhen Children Don’t Stand a Chance Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ...
Views: 2089 - The Peaceful Warrior And Recovery - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Harry HenshawThe work of Dan Millman is very powerful for assisting a person in transforming his or her life. In my work as a psychotherapist at the Holistic Addiction Treatment Program I introduce all of the clients to “The Way of the Peaceful Warrior” both as a book and as the movie. The ...
Views: 2086 - “WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS” - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoLONELY CREATURES We’re all social animals, even when we sometimes need our privacy Many people in the mental health field, spiritual practices & new-age wisdom say we shouldn’t worry about what others think of us. Yes, OK, but it’s not that simple! What they don’t tell you is that there’s 2 ...
Views: 2084(2 votes) - How to Diffuse Hostile or Aggressive Behavior - by The hands of the clock (tha pages of the calendar) are going faster than we would like. How in the world am I going to finish this -- in time? How am I going to get through all this traffic -- in time? How am I going to be able to pay my bills -- in time?
I'm dreading class tomorrow. I have to ...
Views: 2081 - Blue Cross Blue Shield Takes a Stab at Reducing Prescription Pain Pill Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2012 from Cheryl HinneburgBlue Cross Blue Shield of Massachusetts wants to do their part in reducing prescription drug abuse so they are planning to limit physicians’ power to write new prescriptions for more than a 30 day supply. This plan will begin on July 1, 2012 and doctors will no longer be able to write ...
Views: 2079 - Fear of Commitment - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Karen KleinwortAre You Commitment-Phobic? Many people don’t experience committed, steady relationships, and they often assert this is so not because they are afraid of commitment but rather because they enjoy their freedom and flirtatious nature. And while this may be true for some who embrace their “forever ...
Views: 2077(2 votes) - How Does Drug Rehabilitation Centers Work? - by Submitted on May 16, 2016 from Amy RothermelYou hear a different story from every recovering addict who has been through drug rehabilitation, because there is no one-size-fits-all solution to addition. Every person's path is different. However, there is a structured system for rehab that can provide anyone with valuable guidance. These ...
Views: 2076 - More Newborns are Born Addicted - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Cheryl HinneburgNo one will argue that there is an unfortunate increase in prescription pill abuse and especially prescription pain killers, otherwise known as opioids. Some say that doctors are too quick to write the prescriptions and others will say that more people need to become educated on the proper ...
Views: 2075(1 vote) - Lidija Rangelovska’s View of Shame - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2015 from Sam VakninLidija Rangelovska advanced the idea that some children subjected to abuse in dysfunctional families – objectified, dehumanized, their boundaries breached, and their growth stunted – develop intense feelings of shame. They turn out to be codependents or narcissists owing to their genetic makeup ...
Views: 2073 - Nothing Personal - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi Fine“Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I know is your problem and not my problem. It is the way you see the world. It is nothing personal, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements. Why do most of us find it so difficult in the face of an ...
Views: 2071(1 vote) - Survivors of Neglect or Abuse in Childhood - Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2014 from Suzanne ZachariaIf you have been abused as a child in any way and this affects your confidence, first of all recognize that the love has to come from you. This is hard, if you have been trained by parents/guardians/people in authority that you were not lovable. Of course, this is to justify their abusive ...
Views: 2070 - Time for Healing! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Joseph GhabiTime for Healing We have to go through some unfortunate experiences sometimes in our life. When you speak with other people you will always find out how easy your experience is in comparison to what they have suffered. The impact that experience has brought on your life cannot be identified in ...
Views: 2069(1 vote) - Power and Sexual Arousal in the Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossWhen we think of children who have been sexually abused, we think of fear, anger and violence. Most sexual abuse survivors talk of the terror and disassociation surrounding the abuse. Many still feel that way as adults and don’t enjoy sex now, even in a loving relationship. But there are ...
Views: 2068 - How Your Past Can Lead to Obesity - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Karen KleinwortObesity is blamed on many things related to our physical health: food cravings, metabolism rate, thyroid issues, lack of exercise, binge eating, etc. Yet examining obesity from a psychological perspective reveals that there’s far more to obesity than just the physical causes and effects. A ...
Views: 2065(1 vote) - Sexual Addiction: Are You a Sex Addict? Part 2 - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Peggy FergusonSexual addiction is a dysfunctional pattern of compulsive sexual behavior that continues even after the addict knows that it is causing major problems in their life. The sex addicts has a compulsion to engage in the problem behavior despite the fact that it has become emotionally dissatisfying ...
Views: 2062(1 vote) - Healing from Sex Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2011 from John Davis“It's important to talk about it. You raise awareness. But you can also prevent it (child abuse) by not letting it be a secret.”~Chris Witty I am always amazed at the number of victims of sexual abuse that I encounter in my private sessions. Not one day of sessions goes by that does not ...
Views: 2059(1 vote) - Tips to Help You Reduce Alcohol in Social Situations - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from GARTH DELIKANTalk to a partner or friend – they could help you highlight some self-help ideas. Try to stop drinking alcohol on weekdays and make some minor lifestyle changes like increasing your physical activity. When you are drinking, try to substitute every second drink with water, non-alcoholic beer, ...
Views: 2059(1 vote) - Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2009 from James LeGrandThe news that R&B singer Chris Brown physically abused songstress Rihanna placed domestic violence in the spotlight once again. The drama that is playing out in front of millions of people between these two young celebrities is lived by millions of people around the world. This is not just a ...
Views: 2055 - Verbal Abuse - How To Stay Out Of The Line Of Fire When It Comes To Verbal Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.The moment the verbal assault springs off his/her tongue, the natural reflex is “ouch.” Correct? But lucky for you, it doesn’t have to be. Let’s face it, you cannot control what’s up with another person, much less what they dish out, but you certainly can control ...
Views: 2049(1 vote) - On Treetops - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Michael ClearmanWhile jogging recently along my usual path I was touched deeply by some treetops. Part of my route involves traversing a bridge that elevates to treetop level. On this particular day, the changing leaves, combined with the unusual vantage point, pried open thoughts of good endings. Good ...
Views: 2048(1 vote) - The Betrayal - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysMy next several blog posts are all related to the same topic. They deal with something that happened to me in July of 1988. My Dad had died the previous Thanksgiving, and I was still in the grief process over that loss. As well, I was still involved with a 12 step program for people who had ...
Views: 2048(2 votes) - Abuse Survivor's Series: Using Overreactions to Begin Healing Our Childhood Wounds - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2007 from Stephanie GagosAbuse Survivor's Series: Using Overreactions To Begin Healing Our Childhood Wounds By: Stephanie Gagos As an abused child I frequently detached as a way of coping with what was happening to me and even though most of my memories were devoid of emotion, it did not mean I was not experiencing ...
Views: 2046 - Group Therapy for Adults Abused As Children - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossGroup therapy can be the most nurturing and also the most challenging form of therapy. It is highly effective. While it doesn’t replace individual therapy, it can be a great adjunct and a final step in the healing process. Group therapy is very relevant for survivors of childhood abuse and ...
Views: 2045(1 vote) - Learn How To Stop Binge Eating With Challenges - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2012 from Kristin GerstleyLife can be tough, and as we all know, it's even more complicated when trying to stop binge eating disorder. We are thrown obstacles and our drive can sometimes seem obscured. Even in these struggles, your goal needs to stay at the forefront of your mind, so that you learn how to stop binge ...
Views: 2041 - Mental Abuse - The Seven Most Important Things To Know - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2005 from Annie Kaszina1. Sticks and stones won’t break my bones” – and words won’t leave any measurable physical damage, but they will cause progressive, long-term harm. Never underestimate the power of words: words are used to brainwash. Being told you are “stupid”, “ugly”, “lazy” or “worthless” is never ...
Views: 2041 - Somatization: The Secrets Our Bodies Hold - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossOur bodies cry out in two ways - either through emotion or illness. When we understand our body's pain we articulate it. When we can't understand it, we are overwhelmed by emotional and/or physical sensations. And we feel powerless. While we need to understand what is happening to us, we may ...
Views: 2041(1 vote) - Alcohol Test to Control Drunk Driving - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from Anne HamiltonThe holiday season is considered to be one of the most hectic times for police and traffic departments due to the significant increase in impaired or drunk driving. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), there are more than 1000 people in America who are killed ...
Views: 2040(2 votes) - Abuse: Have You Gone From Being A Victim To Being A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that abuse is passed down from one generation to another and it can be hard for people to understand why this happens. However, the next generation are not the only ones who can end up being abused; it is also something that can affect the people who the abuser comes into ...
Views: 2039 - Hostages of Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeSexual abuse is a life altering experience that impacts on many aspects of your life daily. I liken it to being held hostage with a gun to your head. You spend your days trying to prevent the gun from going off. This may be a graphic description for some; however, if you have experienced ...
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